posted August 01, 2016 11:28 AM            

Mentalities are more fixable than some astrologers allow for.

Suffice it to say, please recognize how your belief systems might exacerbate, or be the sum total of, your problems. Consider, please, that you cannot afford any negativity...and dwelling on the negative meaning of a 6H composite stellium is like an emotional luxury you can't afford right now.

Monitor your thoughts and try to keep them positive...it takes practice but can be done...and that is like steadying your rudder so your life moves on course.

With respect to the 6H stellium, maybe you can just say, "We'll end up caring for people together, she and I...we'll do charity work! Hospice! Or maybe clean houses togehter!" and squirrel it away in your mind like that?

I have a 6H sun and Mercury, and service is critical to my happiness. That is only "bad" for people who take a negative view of service, for whatever reason.

Even illness is better than fear. In the absolute worst 6H manifestations we have illness. Okay, but so what? The real suffering comes from fear about it.

Nothing to fear but fear itself.

And there are so many resources available to re-train your mind out of its holding patterns of fear. I beat the tom-toms about Eckhart Tolle because I take his principles as core values...looking on that core like a magnet on which I attach other tools for personal growth.

True I have a loooonnnngggg way to go but life is easier because I can live in the moment, often. The hard day is punctuated by many moments of total self-compassion. I wish that for everyone. The ability to drop that inner negative charge like a robe, and take on every moment like it's a brand new time, disconnected from the past.

posted August 01, 2016 11:56 AM            

Getting distance from him is challenging, since we are both very actively involved in our daughter's daily life---but also, I really don't WANT to lose my daughter half the time, split up her holidays, and have her separated part of the time from each parent.

posted August 01, 2016 12:18 PM            

The prescription of "magical thinking" is sometimes the only one I know, and I believe in it, but I can see how it strikes people as dismissive or not respecting their difficulties enough.

But we do get locked into perceiving things as impossible, and the locks are sometimes the problem.

Then again we also can get locked into thinking we have the solutions when we don't.

posted August 01, 2016 04:21 PM            

I feel like on my own, with my own mojo, I'm so amazingly great at manifesting a life/world that line up with my values and loves. And then with this broken family, just like with my childhood broken family years ago, I'm so bad at it and so POWERLESS.

Today I got so upset with my ex, and we argued in front of my daughter--not raised voices, but I cried--and when I get upset in front of her, she gets a lot more difficult for the next, like, month or two. Which in turn makes me more sad and tired and defeated and stressed out. I have all these brilliant and beautiful ideas for how our lives could work out better, which with any of my other exes would have been no-brainers. Detaching from him just isn't in me---that cancer 7h just wants to hold on.