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Topic: Anyway to tell whats going on?
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Lucia23
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posted September 13, 2016 05:24 PM
  
His Uranus on your Moon is challenging.....it's like he blows things up sometimes right where/when you feel them most deeply. And the tight Mars/outer planet connections on both sides are rough. But ultimately, there are some things that look really nice and beautiful in your synastry. I love his Jupiter on your IC, your Jupiter on his NN.I'm bad at reading charts without degrees and I don't know when transiting Saturn in Sag squared/will square his Pisces Moon, or conjuncted/will conjunct his Mars and Neptune....but he's probably having a very hard time with transits. I think he does love you, and I wonder if he's cheating---either actually, or in his heart/mind, or some kind of emotional or virtual affair. A lot of cheaters will try to compartmentalize and relieve the guilt by pretending/deciding that they no longer love their partner. I think he'd probably having a bit of a crisis with his manhood//sense of his own masculinity right now. In the synastry, it looks like there are heavy challenges but also lots of love between you. Is there a chance he is cheating (or did cheat)---physically or "just" emotionally? IP: Logged |
Lucia23
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posted September 13, 2016 05:27 PM
Re communication, you two have very different communication styles!!! Yours is exuberant (5h Gemini, you probably LIKE to talk), his is more practical (6h Capricorn), possibly even uptight.IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted September 13, 2016 10:14 PM
His chart is really similar to mine. He's a year younger, though. But I'm a Cap sun, Pisces moon, Leo ASC (conjunct his). "What does he need?" you ask. Probably needs to be left alone for a long time, to recover from arguments. If you cannot grant that because it drives you nuts, you two are bound to keep having intense friction. It takes Pisces moons a long time to get over things. My husband has learned that if he demands resolution before I'm ready, I'll just become a fire-breathing dragon, but if he gives me time and space, I'll come back like nothing happened and will be nice again, all sins forgiven and forgotten. Please don't quote (It's just our secret that I'm a fire-breathing dragon, when pushed to the wall.  Meaning, I will erase this later.) IP: Logged |
Jounia
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posted September 14, 2016 01:35 AM
Everyone, thanks so much for your responses.
Lucia, I'm paranoid about him cheating to the point I drive myself crazy. I doubt he is cheating, he really doesn't have the time to do it physically and I work with him too so I know there's nothing happening there. Im also an excellent detective and think I would have a feeling. I do understand your reasoning though. I think personally what you said about manhood and masculinity hit home for me - I reckon that's a problem for him.Faith, thanks for the insight - that does feel like a good idea. Whether I like it or not, I need to catch a break from these intense arguments and if leaving him alone for a very long time Is the anwser then so be it.
Just one question in that - we live together; what in your opinion constitutes as leaving him alone? Say in the evenings for example? Ps - I've experienced the fire-breathing dragon ... It ain't pretty  IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted September 14, 2016 07:32 AM
Just feel it out as you go along? So if you sit next to him and he doesn't look at you, you just get up and go in another room or physically move away. Then, only say things that have to be said: "Your mother stopped by while you were out." Friendly tone.When he finally comes around and starts talking to you, treat it like a full-blown reunion, act excited that it's finally over, and don't bring up the fight. That might work. Or maybe not. :-/ That is just how I've lasted a long time in marriage. People really need breaks from each other. Good luck  IP: Logged |
Jounia
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posted September 14, 2016 10:43 AM
Thank you Faith, I'll try that. I'm starting to see he needs a lot of 'me' time, you know, like on his own. It's just something I've never felt the need for in my relationships. Guess I'm in the minority. Clingy Cancer IP: Logged |
Lucia23
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posted September 14, 2016 03:11 PM
I don't know why, but I have a feeling that this one can survive. I bet it's his transits. IP: Logged |
Jounia
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posted September 15, 2016 01:02 AM
<3 Lucia! 😍 Should i post the chat with transits? Would You be able to read it? IP: Logged |
Jounia
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posted September 15, 2016 06:57 AM
 If anyone can interpret these transits for me I'd be most grateful! IP: Logged |
Jounia
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posted September 16, 2016 04:36 AM
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Lucia23
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posted September 16, 2016 02:24 PM
I can't tell what the problem is, Jounia. That Saturn-Neptune square hitting his Moon probably hasn't been easy----but it doesn't "feel" to me like the exact problem. Non-astrologically, it sounds like some battle around what he wants in life overall and his idea of what it means to be a MAN---but I'm not sure how exactly it's playing out or what it really means for your future or why he's turning so much against you.Any issues with his family? His dad or father figure? I hope a real astrologer might take a look at his transits? And Faith's advice seems great, looking at his natal. If he's dealing with some internal thing, and NOT cheating, and you love him, that space and patience might be really healing for him. The 9/1 eclipse in Virgo did loosely oppose his moon, probably setting off that Saturn-Neptune t-square in his chart. He may be feeling his own version of anxiety and not know how to express it, even to himself. IP: Logged |
Jounia
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posted September 17, 2016 06:39 AM
Thanks Lucia. He doesn't have father issues but does seem to wondering what he wants in life.
Anyway now I've discovered that his exact birth time is unknown and only the hour is known (between 20:00-21:00). In the original chart, he has Saturn on his asc which never suited him. He always had Venus in 7th which also didn't really suit. Now I've been playing around with the times during that hour and I think a 6th house Venus and 7th house moon is more fitting for him. Also Saturn has now moved to 12th which makes more sense. My question is - does this change the synastry? I will post it and would love someone to tell me if it still looks good. Thank you!IP: Logged |
Jounia
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posted September 17, 2016 06:43 AM
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Jounia
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posted September 18, 2016 02:11 AM
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