posted October 24, 2016 03:37 PM            

Do you think our relationship will continue in the future? Will it evolve from this or remain stagnant? I don't think I could allow him back in my life after this time.I'd love to hear some more interpretations of the relationship you guys see so I can come to a better understanding of it all.

posted October 24, 2016 03:58 PM            

I have Mars square Uranus (tight) in composite with Mr Gemini too, as I am an Aquarius. Our relationship has been on-off hundred times that I can not remember how many times in more than 3 years. The longest time we can spend our time together without a break up is only a month, that's the first month of our relationship.

I have found it's not really a committed and a stable relationship.

I too didn't want the relationship when he asked me, my inner voice told me that he was better off as a friend and I made a mistake by not listening to it because I was so touched by how he tried to convince me like he brought me into his home and met his Mom. Second time my inner voice also told me to "RUN" when he aggressively forced me sexually, I made another mistake because I was swayed by how he already talked about marriage. Ugh, I was so naive. lol.

I think you need to really listen and aware to "what bothers me". Open your eyes. I have the same aspect in composite, Mars square Uranus (tight) and Saturn. I have felt like wasting my time in pain, hurt, and sadness in more than 3 years. I should not be too forgiving. lol.

posted October 24, 2016 04:43 PM            

I was of the belief that challenging Aspects of instability and friction could be overcome if the two parties are mature enough?

posted October 24, 2016 04:59 PM            

He has venus, sun, merc, chiron and juno all in Gemini in 5th house of creativity, fun, romance but it's squaring your jupiter and opposing your own venus/saturn in 10th which is more career/goal driven. Yours is a more authoritarian tone since it is the house of Saturn. You yourself have a venus conjunct saturn too on top of that. I suspect that it can be a damper to him, especially since he has DC in Leo, with his moon there, and he has a huge cluster of personal planets in his 5th house (very Leo-themed). His is a playful and sunny disposition. Maybe try to keep things a bit light-hearted, not everything has to be exact/precise/perfect. You value good communication in relationships because you have Virgo on your DSC. The ruler is Mercury, which you have in your 11th house and it's squaring his pluto. This brings about struggles when it comes to your ideal relationship which involves constant and good communication.

My cousin and her husband (together for 14 years and ongoing) has composite Mars Square Saturn (5'). However, they have it in 8th and 5th house. I see the husband constantly trying to manage their resources together (8th house) while it's conflicting with my cousin's need to go out and have fun (5th house). He's always complaining about how my cousin is always going out and they need to cut down due to finances.

I will check back with more later. I'm not a pro astrologer but I am just basing this on real relationships with other people that I see fitting in relations to your chart.

posted October 24, 2016 05:44 PM            

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Originally posted by cultstatus:
So are we of the consensus that Mars square Uranus is never going to work?

I was of the belief that challenging Aspects of instability and friction could be overcome if the two parties are mature enough?

Are there any cases of successful committed relationships with this aspect or is it a lost cause?

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I have questioned it before awhile ago in another thread because I have the same struggle and still hoping lol.

The only truth I can tell you, as in my composite has tight aspect, is you will not have a stable relationship with those Mars square Uranus in composite. On-off is so common that lead to uncommitted relationship, until both mature I guess too? And it needs a long time to wait a Gemini boy realize being mature because they are the peter pan who doesn't want to be an adult.

I am too lazy to see my composite with someone I have relationship with. I check my composite after years in ****** relationship. lol. Todd said it's the classic Mars square Uranus (tight)/saturn in composite.

If I could turn back the time, I would listen to my guts, but I couldn't, so I have learned in a painful way.

posted October 24, 2016 09:51 PM            

Usually if we perceive a huge problem, and they perceive a problem too, and it can't be resolved, and things are going in circles, then the less aware party will continue to drain and drag the other party through the mud because the dragger isn't getting the help they need... or the relationship itself is protecting them from learning the most needful lessons (so often to be learned alone!).

posted October 25, 2016 06:05 AM            

I am wondering, other than this aspect, or if we didn't have this aspect - how does the rest of our composite look?

posted October 25, 2016 11:01 AM            

I am very understanding of your situation. yung also laid out some very good points too. Don't be too hard on yourself for feeling like you should have listened to your gut. What's done is already done, you made a choice at that time which you thought was right and it turns out it wasn't. It's ok. We all make wrong choices/bad choices. What you should focus on now is accepting. Accepting the fact that it's ok to make the wrong choice, but atleast you took the risk and now finally realized. What have you learned from this, about yourself?

These are the workings of life. You want them/they don't want you. They want you / you may not want them. It's a series of trials and errors for us to evolve. But remember that at the end of the day you make the choices that you think is most suitable for you.

For now, accept the reality of the situation, being that you both have different values and needs and they are not complementing. It's ok to be different but it needs to be complementary in some ways. In this case, it doesn't sound like it is.

No exception for half-assed people coming in and out of your life. You know what you want. If you don't then take time to find out, but put your foot down and take action. Believe it or not, I am going through similar so I understand your position.

posted October 25, 2016 11:50 AM            

The Sun/Moon midpoint is aligned with the nodes, which is an indicator of fatedness. The relationship has been an important one for learning.

The Saturn Chiron opposition is difficult.. an absolute necessity for the greatest maturity and dedication to purity of motive and wisdom of long suffering and deep understanding. In this case, again, the maturity and dedication required for a sensitive and constructive use of these energies is simply not evident, astrologically (in the rest of the composite), or from your accounts.

The Moon.Sun quincunx also denotes a very essential difference in your approaches to the relationship and your understanding of it. His approach has likely always been more cerebral, yours more romantic, and you don't necessarily appreciate or underrated fully what the other is experiencing.

Also on an internal level, the entire relationship is on uneven footing as the quincunx between Sun and Moon is really one of the most fundamentally difficult aspects in astrology... the benefits of harmony of Sun and Moon can't be overstated, especially in romantic astrology. Of course tension and incomprehension can force change and learning and creativity and inspiration... I wouldn't say difficult is BAD but it's certainly difficult...

Anyway along with the Mars Uranus square I definitely wouldn't say this is a "good" composite, either, if pressed. I wouldn't choose to enter into a relationship with a person with whom I shared it. (My doubts exist whether we can do this or not, but I would try to sidestep if I could...).

The thing that has held it together is the Jupiter Saturn trine--Jupiter and Saturn are masters of longevity and sustainability... knowing when to apply pressure, when to let loose and enjoy, how to time things, how to work together... that's there to a decent extent... and the Moon Venus conjunction, obviously also a very strong aspect for love and affection.

posted October 25, 2016 06:02 PM            

Transits:

- Pluto 15 Capricorn has been and is re-applying to exact square to your Moon.

- Uranus 22 Aries has been and is re-applying to exact opposition to your Moon.

- Mars now 19 Cap transits square your Moon.

- Saturn has been and is re-applying conjunct your natal Venus, just before your Saturn return.

There are some periods in our lives in which it is unrealistic to expect a relationship to gain footing and grow in a healthy manner. You picked a helluva time. If these transits were happening to someone in a committed relationship that is stable, they'd be trying enough, but doable. (I've been through similar transit clusters the last couple years myself, and my marriage is still good and growing through the challenges.)

What bothers you most is that your 'no' was on target, and you gave in to a man's pressure. How about you tell him 'no' now and get your power back? Or how about just withdrawing all expectations and let him go his own way. I think he eventually will even if you don't break it off.

When Neptune transits fully into mid-Pisces it will square your Venus in mid-Sagittarius. Things will dissolve well enough then if things don't first become intolerable for you with the tightening Uranus/Pluto transits to your Moon. However, I suggest you not fool yourself with a blame game that it was all him. If you are disaffected it doesn't matter if he was uncommunicative or drifts.

posted October 26, 2016 04:56 PM            

Any idea when I can expect a shift As far as transits go?

posted October 26, 2016 10:41 PM            

Whoopsydaisy (this is synastry and natal though, his Juno on my north node, my Juno conjunct my own South Node...).

posted October 27, 2016 12:27 AM            

One of the best investments anyone can make with astrology is to get a copy of Robert Hand's Planets in Transit and track your own transits, at least the slower moving ones (Jupiter and beyond). With your Moon at around 19 Libra, you've just started the transit of Pluto square it this last year or so. You'll have about 4 more years of it.

With the Uranus transit opposite your Moon, that will be done by April. You'll probably feel it letting up in March. That is also when Jupiter transits back close to your Moon again, this time without Uranus making things as unpredictable or unstable.

Those transits do show a lot of major change and suggest having to deal with it without the support or social relief you'd like. You'll probably see it as one of the toughest periods of your life looking back on it. Everyone has similarly tough periods with clusters of tough astrological transits. One good, trustworthy friend can go a long way to feeling better about the changes.

posted October 27, 2016 04:37 AM            

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Gemini Sun
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Cancer Venus
Virgo Mars
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