posted September 25, 2018 03:29 PM            

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Originally posted by capricorncheriscty:
So we're just going to ignore the fact that one of you almost raped the other?! What?!

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I didn't almost rape him lol, we just made out and he enjoyed it and I respected he didn't want to go further....a year later he did reach out and did want to have sex but it was too late, I was in love with my ex and dealing with heart break. He let me drive his car though which was nice of him..

posted September 25, 2018 03:32 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
I didn't almost rape him lol, we just made out and he enjoyed it and I respected he didn't want to go further....a year later he did reach out and did want to have sex but it was too late, I was in love with my ex and dealing with heart break.

I say things all the time either joking around or for shock value...

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posted September 25, 2018 03:33 PM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
A year later? Crazy....

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posted September 25, 2018 04:06 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
They are runners those double Gemini creatures lol

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posted September 25, 2018 04:17 PM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
Yeah that's why I'm not going to deal with the games.

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posted September 25, 2018 04:36 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
They are runners those double Gemini creatures lol

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posted September 25, 2018 05:19 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:

I feel you girl, I got tired of it too. Next!!!

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posted September 25, 2018 06:13 PM            

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Originally posted by Starry~*:
Should I be nervous?

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posted September 25, 2018 06:54 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
In your case is his Mars in Cancer and in my case it was probably his Venus conjunct Sun in the 4th house even though he was 7 years older than me he wanted to wait till he got married and had only had sex once with a girl I later found out, I can't remember but I think it was after our Prom date, a girl he was doing his residency with I believe...or perhaps it was before we went out...I can't remember but he had only been in one serious relationship before we met and they did not go all the way. I met him at church.

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What is the issue with Mars in Cancer? Why are they like this? It's frustrating for me because I was just looking for a hook up. And he said he was interested so it's like what is the problem? We could have hooked up by now. I'm just going to tell him that it's ok and that he shouldn't waste his time on me.

posted September 25, 2018 10:19 PM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
What is the issue with Mars in Cancer? Why are they like this? It's frustrating for me because I was just looking for a hook up. And he said he was interested so it's like what is the problem? We could have hooked up by now. I'm just going to tell him that it's ok and that he shouldn't waste his time on me.

The guy you were talking to wanted to wait until he got married to have sex? Really? That's odd most men aren't like that at all.

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There is always the chance he is in the closet gay but it sounds like he was in love with his ex but who knows..

posted September 28, 2018 07:04 AM            

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Originally posted by LunaIscariot:
Post the his natal and your synastry and composite with him

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This is the synastry chart his lust is on my DSC so I don't get it.

This the composite chart

posted September 28, 2018 10:28 AM            

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Originally posted by Melinn:
Just one thougt. His Mars merc in cancer is Square your Jupiter.

Jupiter, I have came to learn often expands the energies it touches. So your Jupiter may expand his Mars cancer energies, amplifying that energies both good and bad sides. In your caze, maybe the bads only because its a square.

I have a friends Mars-moon conjunct my jupiter (venus-node). In our case, even though he has an aries Mars in Retrograde and is not typical aries mars meaning he is a super calm guy and would never get angry openly etc (neptune square his mars), all the energies he keeps inside will be pulled out. Meaning, he teases me to no end, quite aggressively sometimes, for a period he went so far, until I had to be very sharp and pointed it out clearly. Also I have pluto and mars as strongest planets, so he senses I'm not a "princess" and that I often can "take it".

He will act like this just with me. I know that energy, since my brother too has his mars aries on my jupiter, he too shows love and care, by teasing me. He can never be "loveable" and sweet, he has to tease, often going overboard by hurting me though.

Same with this friend. He was having one of his teasing moments with me again some weeks ago, and I laughed and said "you really do enjoy this! Teasing me like this". He thought for a few sec, and said "yes, I do enjoy it! and I said "yeah I can see that", laughed it away and he calmed down again haha

He says he does not know why he likes teasing me this much.

Can be the same with your guy (if he is not gay as hypatia suggested he may be)

He pulls backinto his shell like a cancer, because of your Juopiter expanding that. There may be more aspects to it, I just saw that one for now.

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posted September 28, 2018 10:53 AM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
Do you mean teasing in a sexual way? The thought of him being gay has crossed my mind. But if that were true then why would he sau he's interested in having sex with me? I mean do gay guys like breasts? He likes women with large breasts and he said he likes mine when I showed him a picture lol.

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No in my case, its not sexual per say, its like siblings teasing each other.He pushes my buttons, and enjoys the reaction he gets. Thats how Aries Mars shows "Affection" generally, teasing in a brotherly/sisterly way.

He can use sexual innoendo though sometimes.
And he is attracted to me. But there is no confusing where we stand. I see him as an annoying little brother. (btw he has Venus in Cancer)

I had a thread about him and my crush. One said it maybe they both fight for my attention, uncounciously, since both have Moon in aries and Moon-mars aspects.

And this guy really can see how I favour my crush and we touching etc, he cant have missed that.

So by teasing he gets my attention and, since I show reactions, in his subcountions it means a like him, because one does not show reaction if one does not feel for the person.
Again it does not mean its sexual, its just a way to get affection and ask a person indirectly "we like each other right?"

While its diffrenet with my crush, he will be extra caring and touch, in order for me to touch, that way he knows I like him etc. everyone have their own behaviour patterns (synastry).

Ok it was just an example of how "aries mars conjunct Aries Jupiter" can play out as.

In your case, well its different.. I can just give the tool, as I'm not sure how this plays out in your case I can't analyze more then that

posted September 28, 2018 11:53 AM            

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Do you mean teasing in a sexual way? The thought of him being gay has crossed my mind. But if that were true then why would he say he's interested in having sex with me? I mean do gay guys like breasts? He likes women with large breasts and he said he likes mine when I showed him a picture lol.

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The classic advice for seducing a Gemini has always been to stimulate his mind, first.

The tMoon is currently in Taurus. In two weeks tMoon will be in sex obsessed Scorpio. Try scheduling your hangout then to see what happens. October 10th & 11th. Talk up his fantasies. Attack him between the ears, let him fill in the blanks...and those pants will fall right off.

posted September 28, 2018 11:57 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
I think Mars square Jupiter and Moon square Pluto is the reason she wants to f*ck him though but he is a gemini, I could see how her Moon falling in his 8th house squaring his Pluto in the 5th intimidates him perhaps, Like it could feel too intense and maybe paralizing him. Specially with mars in cancer that moon on his 8th square his pluto would not feel like just a hook up type of relationship, he feels vulnerable around her.

Can you post the Davison?. As for the composite both of your charts conjunct things in the composite like your sun conjuncts composite Venus and his moon opposes composite Mars, his Venus conjuncts composite mercury. Actually his sun conjuncts composite Chiron! Perhaps again the relationship makes him feel vulnerable like he will end up getting hurt so he follows his instincts and retreats, keeps his distance.

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The first one is the composite chart and the second one is the davison chart.

posted September 28, 2018 12:05 PM            

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Originally posted by Nine:
The classic advice for seducing a Gemini has always been to stimulate his mind, first.

The tMoon is currently in Taurus. In two weeks tMoon will be in sex obsessed Scorpio. Try scheduling your handout then to see what happens. October 10th & 11th.

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posted September 28, 2018 12:18 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
I think Mars square Jupiter and Moon square Pluto is the reason she wants to f*ck him though but he is a gemini, I could see how her Moon falling in his 8th house squaring his Pluto in the 5th intimidates him perhaps, Like it could feel too intense and maybe paralizing him. Specially with mars in cancer that moon on his 8th square his pluto would not feel like just a hook up type of relationship, he feels vulnerable around her.

Can you post the Davison?. As for the composite both of your charts conjunct things in the composite like your sun conjuncts composite Venus and his moon opposes composite Mars, his Venus conjuncts composite mercury. Actually his sun conjuncts composite Chiron! Perhaps again the relationship makes him feel vulnerable like he will end up getting hurt so he follows his instincts and retreats, keeps his distance.

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posted September 28, 2018 12:32 PM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
I really don't want to push him into having sex if he's not comfortable. I just think it's odd that he would feel vulnerable around me. Hurt him? These are all things people worry about when they are wanting to be in a serious committed relationship. Not when they are just having a hookup.

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posted September 28, 2018 12:44 PM            

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Originally posted by Melinn:
But, its all unconscious! I suspect anyway... He may not be analyzing or thinking “I feel vulnerable”. Its just the energy he reacts to maybe. Oh well, this is more psychology I think. Astrologically we may see the patretns energies though

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posted September 28, 2018 02:02 PM            

I wanted to start a thread about this, I feel plutonic relationships (hard aspects) provoke a lot of anxiety and long term you can develop an anxiety disorder or pathological jealousy in some cases. Usually the person who is less detached and plutonic when looking at each natal carries the burden of having to consistently manage their anxiety and fears as they don't feel in control in the relationship.

Yes plutonic relationships generate a strong attraction and pull towards each other but I am not sure if the cost is worth it bc is like that person is constantly activating your fears and bringing them to surface and I am realizing is not as simple as you work through your fears and then the anxiety goes away, every time you come in contact with them the fight or flight mechanism gets activated and fears resurface all over again and again due to the heavy intense nature of pluto and sense of urgency that pluto brings to the surface.

posted September 28, 2018 02:13 PM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Melinn:
[b] But, its all unconscious! I suspect anyway... He may not be analyzing or thinking “I feel vulnerable”. Its just the energy he reacts to maybe. Oh well, this is more psychology I think. Astrologically we may see the patretns energies though

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I feel the composite is an extension of the synastry and only relevant if the each natal or if transits activate the composite chart as the composite chart are just points generated from the synastry so I think your composite is good bc is been activated by both natals so the energy of the relationship aligns with who you each are and your needs.