|
Author
|
Topic: Gemini slow about having sex
|
ChildofVenus
Knowflake Posts: 4165
From: Customer Service Rep.
Registered: Apr 2015
|
posted September 24, 2018 02:48 PM
  
I don't get it he said he was interested in having sex with me. And he keeps asking me when I'm free. Yet we haven't done it yet could it be his Mars and Mercury in Cancer? He's busy a lot with work though. I feel like maybe I shouldn't have mentioned sex to him when he asked me to hangout. He and I have things in common. And I wish I would have known that before asking about sex. I told him that I care more about being friends with him and not just sex. I don't know what to think I know sex isn't everything. But I didn't really want to hangout because I just wanted to hookup. I guess he actually wanted to be friends.IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees
Knowflake Posts: 7159
From: South Africa
Registered: Dec 2012
|
posted September 24, 2018 03:00 PM
Some guys pretend to want sex when in actual fact, sex intimidates them.One hot guy I met with Mars in Cancer was a dancer. He kept on talking real sexual to me and I was uncomfortable. So I decided to turn the tables on him and said "there is an open room just down the hall. Lets cut all this dirty talk and just go" to which he looked stunned. Quite nervous really. I knew he wasn't really wanting sex. But he was anxious to APPEAR like a hot blooded male to me. So he said what was expected of him. Mars in Cancer can be into defining themselves in "masculine" things i.e. sexual ability,strength,endurance, bravado, peacocking(more a Cancer Mars thing than a Leo thing ime) etc. I think in your case, his feelings are getting in the way of him coming to you. It could be that he is second guessing himself but feels embarrassed to back track. My next move would be to play down the sex thing as much as possible. Even make it light and emphasize other things. It could be that he was expecting you to be resistant to it . And so for you to be open to it, can feel like you are taking the "lead"(which Cancer energy mostly doesn't like) He may have unwittingly set the bar in a place that he knows he ain't ready to go to.  IP: Logged |
hypatia238
Moderator Posts: 11463
From: Mercury novile and parallel Pluto, Pluto septile Southnode
Registered: Sep 2014
|
posted September 24, 2018 08:04 PM
Yes my prom date was a Gemini with Venus in Gemini and I almost raped him at the beach on prom night, I was almost 18 and he was 7 years older, he wouldn't have sex with me. He was a gentleman I guess but I think he was just scared of intimacy/sex. He needed to stay focused for this big important exam connected to his career to be a doctor. He did do excellent on the exam, top 99 percentile.IP: Logged |
hypatia238
Moderator Posts: 11463
From: Mercury novile and parallel Pluto, Pluto septile Southnode
Registered: Sep 2014
|
posted September 24, 2018 08:10 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
He may have unwittingly set the bar in a place that he knows he ain't ready to go to.
Haha IP: Logged |
Starry~*
Knowflake Posts: 654
From: New York, USA
Registered: Nov 2011
|
posted September 24, 2018 08:26 PM
With the amount of stuff that goes on inside a Gemini man's mind, I would not be surprised if he is just nervous.  IP: Logged |
DualGemV2
Knowflake Posts: 672
From: Toronto, Ontario
Registered: Aug 2016
|
posted September 24, 2018 08:27 PM
Mars in Cancer is very sensitivity and needs to be sure and not to get hurt.Give him some time..Once he feels comfortable and ready to take a chance everything will play out. My Planets
=========================================
☉‘ ♊, ☽ ♈, ASC ♑, ☿ ♊, ˇ÷ ♉, ˇö ♋ , ♃ ♒, ♄ ♏, ♅ ♐, ♆ ♑ IP: Logged |
hypatia238
Moderator Posts: 11463
From: Mercury novile and parallel Pluto, Pluto septile Southnode
Registered: Sep 2014
|
posted September 24, 2018 09:06 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Starry~*:
With the amount of stuff that goes on inside a Gemini man's mind, I would not be surprised if he is just nervous.
IP: Logged |
Melinn
Knowflake Posts: 1327
From:
Registered: Jul 2017
|
posted September 25, 2018 02:33 AM
I have big respect for you guys here, I just have to say, did you just assume just because a guy wants to take it slow, and I don’t know, maybe have real ”feelings” and real emotional connection before sleeping with a girl, he is un-normal or shy? I may have misunderstood you, thats why I’m asking  . But it seems that way. Men are not sex crazed beings who will wanna have sex without emotions on demand. Some are, but some are looking for real connection before going down there. I thought we had came further then this, regarding mens sexuality and sexual behaviour and needs year 2019 IP: Logged |
Melinn
Knowflake Posts: 1327
From:
Registered: Jul 2017
|
posted September 25, 2018 02:38 AM
..IP: Logged |
hypatia238
Moderator Posts: 11463
From: Mercury novile and parallel Pluto, Pluto septile Southnode
Registered: Sep 2014
|
posted September 25, 2018 07:25 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Melinn:
I have big respect for you guys here, I just have to say, did you just assume just because a guy wants to take it slow, and I don’t know, maybe have real ”feelings” and real emotional connection before sleeping with a girl, he is un-normal or shy? I may have misunderstood you, thats why I’m asking . But it seems that way. Men are not sex crazed beings who will wanna have sex without emotions on demand. Some are, but some are looking for real connection before going down there. I thought we had came further then this, regarding mens sexuality and sexual behaviour and needs year 2019
Yes some guys need that and I respect that but most don't lets not be naive either. My Gemini prom guy is one those but he is definitely also scared of intimacy and commitment without a trace of a doubt!!!! And we had a connection, I wanted to marry him for a while there...we had a great synastry and Davison. IP: Logged |
LunaIscariot
Knowflake Posts: 3230
From:
Registered: Aug 2014
|
posted September 25, 2018 07:43 AM
Post the his natal and your synastry and composite with him IP: Logged |
Melinn
Knowflake Posts: 1327
From:
Registered: Jul 2017
|
posted September 25, 2018 08:14 AM
quote:
Originally posted by hypatia238:
Yes some guys need that and I respect that but most don't lets not be naive either.My Gemini prom guy is one those but he is definitely also scared of intimacy and commitment without a trace of a doubt!!!! And we had a connection, I wanted to marry him for a while there...we had a great synastry and Davison.
yes you are right, men in general often can and will close off emotions from sex, I mean, they don't have to feel, like "safe" as women generally often wanna do. They can have sex and be done with it I know :/ However there is sensetive more feeling guys aswell, just wanted them to not be marginalized I'm sorry it did not work out with thay guy, when you felt like that about him.. IP: Logged |
DualGemV2
Knowflake Posts: 672
From: Toronto, Ontario
Registered: Aug 2016
|
posted September 25, 2018 08:20 AM
quote:
Originally posted by hypatia238:
Yes some guys need that and I respect that but most don't lets not be naive either.My Gemini prom guy is one those but he is definitely also scared of intimacy and commitment without a trace of a doubt!!!!
Interesting..I'd be running to the hills if the topic of marriage came up. I think its good sign. He's interested but he isn't quite sure yet. It shows he actually might want things to work out. Otherwise he whould have slept with you get what he wanted and left. If he gets a sign that there is a good chance of things working out he'll "go full speed ahead". He's playing things carefully. My Planets
=========================================
☉‘ ♊, ☽ ♈, ASC ♑, ☿ ♊, ˇ÷ ♉, ˇö ♋ , ♃ ♒, ♄ ♏, ♅ ♐, ♆ ♑ IP: Logged |
Starry~*
Knowflake Posts: 654
From: New York, USA
Registered: Nov 2011
|
posted September 25, 2018 09:22 AM
My BF is a Gemini, the first few dates we've been on he was not so forth coming about having sex. Instead, he wanted to spend time - loads of time - with me. I think we spent 4 consecutive days seeing each other after the first date. He was very well behaved, we talked a lot which is kinda like talking with a best friend. It was I that initiated sex. I asked him about this later when we were in a relationship, he said he didn't want to come off as another dude who just wants to have sex (although he admitted he did want to have sex) IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus
Knowflake Posts: 4165
From: Customer Service Rep.
Registered: Apr 2015
|
posted September 25, 2018 10:36 AM
It's just that I expected him to be like other men. I mean most men aren't slow when it comes to sex. I tell them what I want and we hookup. But I guess it's different this time. My Mercury in Aries and Mars in Gemini doesn't like the slowness I need action lol. But maybe it's a learning experience for me. That I shouldn't be so quick about rushing into sex. It's what I'm use to because it works for me. But I can see that it's not working too well this time around lol. Honestly I wish I knew we had things in common before I mentioned anything about sex. I guess I didn't care about that at first. But we have hard Mercury aspects. So I assumed a quickie type thing would be fine.
IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus
Knowflake Posts: 4165
From: Customer Service Rep.
Registered: Apr 2015
|
posted September 25, 2018 10:50 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Melinn:
I have big respect for you guys here, I just have to say, did you just assume just because a guy wants to take it slow, and I don’t know, maybe have real ”feelings” and real emotional connection before sleeping with a girl, he is un-normal or shy? I may have misunderstood you, thats why I’m asking . But it seems that way. Men are not sex crazed beings who will wanna have sex without emotions on demand. Some are, but some are looking for real connection before going down there. I thought we had came further then this, regarding mens sexuality and sexual behaviour and needs year 2019
I know some guys like to have that emotional connection and take things slow. But we aren't dating I mean that's when two people are actually dating. IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus
Knowflake Posts: 4165
From: Customer Service Rep.
Registered: Apr 2015
|
posted September 25, 2018 10:52 AM
quote:
Originally posted by DualGemV2:
Mars in Cancer is very sensitivity and needs to be sure and not to get hurt.Give him some time..Once he feels comfortable and ready to take a chance everything will play out. My Planets
=========================================
☉‘ ♊, ☽ ♈, ASC ♑, ☿ ♊, ˇ÷ ♉, ˇö ♋ , ♃ ♒, ♄ ♏, ♅ ♐, ♆ ♑
Needs to be sure about what? Why would there be a concerned about getting hurt when it's no strings attached sex? Sensitive yeah I don't think I do well with the sensitive emotional type. But in some ways I do like that about him. I mean I feel that he's someone I could talk to when I'm going through something or just need some emotional support. IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus
Knowflake Posts: 4165
From: Customer Service Rep.
Registered: Apr 2015
|
posted September 25, 2018 11:00 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Melinn:
And childofvenus, I say this with love I really do. You sound confusing. Again, I say it with love because I know I can be just like that  You tell him you want casual sex. Then you tell him friendship is important, you dont need sex. Then you write here, that you want casual sex not caring about friendship. You see? Confusing . <3 <3
Because initially when I asked him about casual sex I didn't know we actually had some things in common. I wasn't that concerned about the friendship aspect of it. But then when I realized that we like the same things it kind of changed how I felt. Now I do care about having a real friendship but I don't really want the emotional attachment. But we have Mercury square Mercury and Mars square Mercury so really I don't know if it's even possible to have a friendship. IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus
Knowflake Posts: 4165
From: Customer Service Rep.
Registered: Apr 2015
|
posted September 25, 2018 11:15 AM
But I think it's funny that people say that Taurus are slow and that Geminis would get bored or tired of us. Yet it seems to be the other way around lol. Can't always go by the Sun sign. IP: Logged |
capricorncheriscty
Knowflake Posts: 925
From:
Registered: Nov 2017
|
posted September 25, 2018 12:21 PM
quote:
Originally posted by hypatia238:
Yes my prom date was a Gemini with Venus in Gemini and I almost raped him at the beach on prom night, I was almost 18 and he was 7 years older, he wouldn't have sex with me. He was a gentleman I guess but I think he was just scared of intimacy/sex. He needed to stay focused for this big important exam connected to his career to be a doctor. He did do excellent on the exam, top 99 percentile.
So we're just going to ignore the fact that one of you almost raped the other?! What?! IP: Logged |
Nine
Moderator Posts: 3694
From: The Cusp of Love
Registered: May 2009
|
posted September 25, 2018 01:15 PM
I have always suspected this about Gemini. They're more mental than sexual.IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus
Knowflake Posts: 4165
From: Customer Service Rep.
Registered: Apr 2015
|
posted September 25, 2018 01:25 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Nine:
I have always suspected this about Gemini. They're more mental than sexual.
Well I told him to forget I mentioned it. And that I don't want to be a bother to him. He says I'm not a bother but it seems to be that way. So I think I'm just going to leave it at that and just don't reply. IP: Logged |
Nine
Moderator Posts: 3694
From: The Cusp of Love
Registered: May 2009
|
posted September 25, 2018 01:31 PM
Yeah. However if you're looking for a friend to talk to about things, no emotional things, he can be a great friend. IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus
Knowflake Posts: 4165
From: Customer Service Rep.
Registered: Apr 2015
|
posted September 25, 2018 01:35 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Nine:
Yeah. However if you're looking for a friend to talk to about things, no emotional things, he can be a great friend.
People who have Cancer in their chart tend to be emotional. IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus
Knowflake Posts: 4165
From: Customer Service Rep.
Registered: Apr 2015
|
posted September 25, 2018 02:04 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Some guys pretend to want sex when in actual fact, sex intimidates them.One hot guy I met with Mars in Cancer was a dancer. He kept on talking real sexual to me and I was uncomfortable. So I decided to turn the tables on him and said "there is an open room just down the hall. Lets cut all this dirty talk and just go" to which he looked stunned. Quite nervous really. I knew he wasn't really wanting sex. But he was anxious to APPEAR like a hot blooded male to me. So he said what was expected of him. Mars in Cancer can be into defining themselves in "masculine" things i.e. sexual ability,strength,endurance, bravado, peacocking(more a Cancer Mars thing than a Leo thing ime) etc. I think in your case, his feelings are getting in the way of him coming to you. It could be that he is second guessing himself but feels embarrassed to back track. My next move would be to play down the sex thing as much as possible. Even make it light and emphasize other things. It could be that he was expecting you to be resistant to it . And so for you to be open to it, can feel like you are taking the "lead"(which Cancer energy mostly doesn't like) He may have unwittingly set the bar in a place that he knows he ain't ready to go to.
Lol what feelings? I was really direct about the sex thing. He was asking me to go out with him. But instead I mentioned sex. He's a Gemini so I figured he would be down for it. He even said yes when I asked him and that he's interested. But I guess he lied or just put on an act. I'm not going to mention sex to him anymore. I know one thing for sure a relationship would never work having Mercury square Mercury and Mars square Mercury. IP: Logged |
Lindaland
UBBFriend: Email This Page to Someone! 
