posted August 30, 2019 07:25 AM            

I and my SO have been together for 2 years and it was a very intense relationship. Emotionally she was very distant and there were moments when I felt like I needed to question her interest in being with me.

We moved in with each other quickly after dating for about 8 months.

Heres a few aspects in my synastry with my current partner-

I'm a Taurus sun, Libra moon, Virgo rising
Shes Sag sun, Gemini moon, aries rising

Her planet - My house
sun in 4th Sag
moon in 9th Gemini
mercury in 3rd sag
venus in 2nd Scorpio
mars in 3rd sag
Jupiter in 12 Virgo
Saturn in 5th Aquarius
Uranus in 4th Cap
Neptune in 4th Cap
pluto in 3rd Scorpio
NN in 4th Cap
Asc in 7th aries
Juno in 5th Aquarius

Her planets- My planets
Sun Sextile moon
Moon Sqaure Mars
Moon Trine North node
Venus opposition sun
Venus sextile Neptune
Venus conjunct Pluto
Venus conjunct Juno
Jupiter trine Sun
Saturn sextile venus
Juno conjunct North node
Venus trine mars
Neptune Sextile Juno
Juno Sqaure Mercury

Unfortunately, with all those somewhat positive placements, this person moved across the country and I am unsure if we will ever truly be together again.

Do you all think this relationship has potential?

posted August 31, 2019 08:32 AM            

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Originally posted by IV4Four:
Seems like every time I post in a forum no one wants to reply or help me out with my chart.. but some of the most repetitive topics have the most hits.. weird

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posted August 31, 2019 10:26 AM            

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Originally posted by Chaitaly:
You should post the charts, this list isn't really helpful. That's why you don't get answers, it is impossible to answer with this.
Go to Astro.com and select extended chart selection; fill in with the data of your partner and you and select synastry and web style. And repeat for the composite.
Then you can stick them up here.

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For some reason i cant post the charts.. Ive tried using [img][/img] but that doesnt seem to work..

posted August 31, 2019 11:55 AM            

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Originally posted by IV4Four:
For some reason i cant post the charts.. Ive tried using [img][/img] but that doesnt seem to work..

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Hi IV4Four, and Welcome to LL!

Read through the following link on How to Post Images, from our Knowflake "Introductions" Forum. (It's where you can post a Hello to the Community at Large-- even leave a copy of your natal chart there so that others can refer back to it).

- http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum23/HTML/000016-2.html

Basically, you will need to take your astro com charts and post them to an Image Hosting website. From there, when you use IMG codes with that address, then it should appear. Even leaving the address without posting the image is okay too. People can just 'click' to it from whatever post you make.

Some people create a "signature" at LL where they leave the activated link TO your natal chart.

REMEMBER-- When you post anything at LL, you need to remove the 's' from http in order to energize the link.
.. Do that 'before' you Submit Reply.
If you forget, you can go back INTO the post with 'Edit' feature and correct the url.

At LL you probably want to remember to refresh your browser after you post, or, in some threads, refresh the browser because Replies are there and you might not be seeing it until Browser is refreshed.

If it seems like chunks or words from posts are "missing", refresh Browser and it will re-appear.
{Something new that's been going on here for around a month.}

Explore that URL I gave. There are other handy suggestions there too.

posted August 31, 2019 12:58 PM            

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Originally posted by mirage29:
Hi IV4Four, and Welcome to LL!

Read through the following link on [b]How to Post Images, from our Knowflake "Introductions" Forum. (It's where you can post a Hello to the Community at Large-- even leave a copy of your natal chart there so that others can refer back to it).

- http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum23/HTML/000016-2.html

Basically, you will need to take your astro com charts and post them to an Image Hosting website. From there, when you use IMG codes with that address, then it should appear. Even leaving the address without posting the image is okay too. People can just 'click' to it from whatever post you make.

Some people create a "signature" at LL where they leave the activated link TO your natal chart.

REMEMBER-- When you post anything at LL, you need to remove the 's' from http in order to energize the link.
.. Do that 'before' you Submit Reply.
If you forget, you can go back INTO the post with 'Edit' feature and correct the url.

At LL you probably want to remember to refresh your browser after you post, or, in some threads, refresh the browser because Replies are there and you might not be seeing it until Browser is refreshed.

If it seems like chunks or words from posts are "missing", refresh Browser and it will re-appear.
{Something new that's been going on here for around a month.}

Explore that URL I gave. There are other handy suggestions there too.

Vesta is pretty important in a relationship chart too. [/B]

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Yay, I figured it out!

Juno to me signals more of a long term partnership more to me than marriage. All though I feel like if the rest of the chart is strong and Juno is strongly aspected, then, of course, the two may get married. I just believe that life and other factors have to be considered.

I and my SO have been together for 2 years and it was a very intense relationship. Emotionally she was very distant and there were moments when I felt like I needed to question her interest in being with me.

We moved in with each other quickly after dating for about 8 months.

Heres a few aspects in my synastry with my current partner-

I'm a Taurus sun, Libra moon, Virgo rising
Shes Sag sun, Gemini moon, aries rising

Her planet - My house
sun in 4th Sag
moon in 9th Gemini
mercury in 3rd sag
venus in 2nd Scorpio
mars in 3rd sag
Jupiter in 12 Virgo
Saturn in 5th Aquarius
Uranus in 4th Cap
Neptune in 4th Cap
pluto in 3rd Scorpio
NN in 4th Cap
Asc in 7th aries
Juno in 5th Aquarius

Her planets- My planets
Sun Sextile moon
Moon Sqaure Mars
Moon Trine North node
Venus opposition sun
Venus sextile Neptune
Venus conjunct Pluto
Venus conjunct Juno
Jupiter trine Sun
Saturn sextile venus
Juno conjunct North node
Venus trine mars
Neptune Sextile Juno
Juno Sqaure Mercury

Unfortunately, with all those somewhat positive placements, this person moved across the country and I am unsure if we will ever truly be together again.

Do you all think this relationship has potential?

posted August 31, 2019 01:27 PM            

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Originally posted by Chaitaly:
I don't understand if you lived together with this one or if it's 2 different people you're talking about? And this is your current mate or it's the same SO?

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Yeah, we lived together for about 8 months and then she moved to CALI from New york. This is the same person/current mate.

posted August 31, 2019 01:46 PM            

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Originally posted by IV4Four:
Yeah, we lived together for about 8 months and then she moved to CALI from New york. This is the same person/current mate.

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posted August 31, 2019 01:56 PM            

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Originally posted by Chaitaly:
In the synastry there are very nice aspects for attraction (Pluto-Venus conjunction, Mars-Venus soft aspect, Moon-Mars -though it's a square), compatibility (Sun-Moon soft aspect, Mercury-Venus etc.), and commitment (Saturn-Venus), her Pluto-Venus opposition to your Sun-Mercury is challenging and intense, but with that natal Uranus conj nn in 10th house I guess she moved abroad for work? Uranus opp Jupiter is often seen in long-distance and can bring separation, there will be always this kind of erratic energy she brings forth. Uranus-jup and uranus-moon can also relate to the emotional distance you felt. Is her work eclectic artistic unusual or humanitarian in nature? With your Uranus in 4th house you are probably erratic too or you changed "roots" or moved often in your life? Very interestingly your nn is in aquarius as well (aqua is ruled by uranus) and your nn ruler Uranus is conjunct her nn and uranus so you could "learn" something from each other. An uranian theme here.
Her Saturn in our 5th house could have felt like a dampener on your romantic side, in any case with capricorn-aqua in 5th house you tend to attract those seemingly detached mates.

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Yeah, this is all pretty accurate.

She did move to California for work and also be able to be closer to her family for a bit. She works as a visual merchandiser for a big retail store called Macy's and she's also working on her own women's brand so yes i would say her work is eclectic. She does also want to do things humanitarian involved in the future.

Yea I've strongly felt that I was learning some aspect of my self-worth, and also what i need to be stable in life. Finances were a big topic in our relationship and things financially have definitely got to a better place, but i just feel like maybe i should see this as the ending of our relationship.

posted August 31, 2019 02:09 PM            

My question would be are the Juno placement within all this making me feel like this is someone i would want to marry or be with, but in actuality, the aspects just make me more open to the "lessons" I'm supposed to learn?

Also posting Composite chart. Interestingly most of our planets are in 7th house.

posted August 31, 2019 04:26 PM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Hi IV4Four,

I agree with everything Cha told you, pretty spot on about the Uranus aspects I think !
On the Composite, Mercury in 8th house Aquarius opposite Jupiter/Moon in second house looks selfish, someone is not willing to share their lifepath and is emotioanlly detached, Saturn on 7th house Capricorn suggests there are obstacles for longterm committment, but the Venus conjunct Saturn/Mars/NN in the same house suggests that a common future is potentially possible, even though someone might have to sacrifice their own life direction or accept the long distance, since Uranus is conjunct DSC. The same Composite Sun in Piesces 9 house looks like "learning to make sacrifices" and since this is sextile to Uranus, it suggests that such distance, or sacrifice is necessary, or that one might have to be willing to give up their own goals/projects/stability in order to follow the other otherwise Uranus opposite ASC might become a destoyer. But I dont see Juno in Composite though.

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That is really interesting because during one conversation she basically told me that she is completely focused on her career and her goals and that she can't fully focus on a relationship until she feels stable in her own life. She also mentions that she really wants companionship >relationship because her views of a relationship are completely different.

I, on the other hand, have an intense feeling of wanting/needing to be with her. But with all the signs pointing in the favor of possible letting the relationship go, I fear that the very thing I wanted from our relationship would come in the future so I'm left conflicted.

After doing my own research i felt like we had some really strong aspects for us to have a good relationship but maybe i was wrong?

posted August 31, 2019 05:20 PM            

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Originally posted by Chaitaly:
Your Pluto falling in her 8th is huge and is conjunct Venus, I believe you feel this need to be with her coming from a very deep part of yourself. With this 2nd-8th house contact I see that financial/security issues were central in your rel as you said. I wonder how you experienced this overlay because it's deep.

She partially corresponds to what you're seeking in a mate, your Venus is in 7th house (in Aries) so no wonder you think about marriage, and she has Aries Asc so she fulfills what you seek, even though just on a superficial level (the Asc, how she looks and behaves).
Just having a look at the chart you may very well love her and want her but your Pisces Dsc and Pisces Mars crave for something more than long-distance rel, you need a deep merge with a mate, someone you bond physically and spiritually with.
Your Moon in Libra also is not that fulfilled, in fact you experienced her disconnection; your Moon again falls in her 7th house, and it's supported by a trine from her Sun; but emotionally you could want something more.
Having Mars opposite Jupiter in synastry, moreover, I think you can get the impression that your energy "dissipates" somewhat and you may not be on the same wavelenght. I think the Pisces energy in the compo resonates more with you, eventually; your Mars being the dispositor of Venus in 6th house Pisces may be willing to sacrifice for love... for an higher ideal of love (dissolving the ego, Mars). Her Mars clashes with yours; being in Sag 9th house, she seems to look
for adventurous experiences, wanting to go abroad, exploring new philosophies, etc. And it's curious enough that her 9th house dispositor (Jupiter) is opposite your Mars, her ideas and the new insights she gains in 9th house could expand your own ego or again clash with you. With her Sun in 9th in Sagi, I think it would be difficult for you to convince her to sacrifice her core need for expansion, travel, exploration, and let go of the need for intellectual stimuli.

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Yeah I have to agree!

I definitely idealize her as someone I would want to be in a committed relationship with but, I do want something more spiritually, and emotionally bonding, something a lot deeper.. I guess I can stop fighting the feeling I’m having and make the choice I need to make!

posted August 31, 2019 05:26 PM            

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Originally posted by IV4Four:
That is really interesting because during one conversation she basically told me that she is completely focused on her career and her goals and that she can't fully focus on a relationship until she feels stable in her own life. She also mentions that she really wants companionship >relationship because her views of a relationship are completely different.

I, on the other hand, have an intense feeling of wanting/needing to be with her. But with all the signs pointing in the favor of possible letting the relationship go, I fear that the very thing I wanted from our relationship would come in the future so I'm left conflicted.

After doing my own research i felt like we had some really strong aspects for us to have a good relationship but maybe i was wrong?

In your honest opinion, do you feel like this synastry and composite could work? and if she isn't willing to sacrifice her career and goals to create a lasting relationship and bond, does that mean that I should consider sacrificing mines?

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posted August 31, 2019 05:29 PM            

@Stoika amazing reading with the compo, as always!

posted August 31, 2019 05:31 PM            

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Originally posted by Chaitaly:

Wish you good luck
My Mars in Pisces greets your Mars in PIsces

@Stoika amazing reading, as always!

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Oh you too darling, you always see things I haven't noticed and that I absolutely agree with!! ❤️

posted August 31, 2019 05:34 PM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Oh you too darling, you always see things I haven't noticed and that I absolutely agree with!! ❤️

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posted August 31, 2019 05:49 PM            

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Originally posted by Chaitaly:
*edit*I've just read the one about synastry it' nice to see that our visions match lol

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It seems we're officially "synchronized" on different planes, LOL
I have read your last take on IV4Four synastry just as soon as I had posted mine, so we were likely posting at the same time 😜

(forgive our digression IV4Four !! 🙏 )

posted August 31, 2019 06:22 PM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
It seems we're officially "synchronized" on different planes, LOL
I have read your last take on IV4Four synastry just as soon as I had posted mine, so we were likely posting at the same time 😜

(forgive our digression IV4Four !! 🙏 )

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Lol! No worries it’s entertaining.. I’m actually on the phone with the person in question and we are talking about our views on relationships and I am seeing everything you two are saying being communicated to me from her.

posted August 31, 2019 07:16 PM            

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Originally posted by Chaitali:
Your Pluto falling in her 8th is huge and is conjunct Venus, I believe you feel this need to be with her coming from a very deep part of yourself. With this 2nd-8th house contact, I see that financial/security issues were central in your rel as you said. I wonder how you experienced this overlay because it's deep.

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When we first started dating I had recently separated from my EX wife and I was doing great financially. After a few months and some unforeseen changes, my income reduced significantly and she was helping me out quite a bit.

Eventually, she moved in with me(was living with my mother at the time) so we didn't have to pay rent but she would buy groceries. She would complain that she felt like she was spending too much of her money when in fact all she was doing was buying groceries and things for the house(about $300-400a month) ultimately she decided to move to Las Vegas to live with her sister so she could "get her self together"

posted August 31, 2019 07:49 PM            

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Originally posted by IV4Four:
When we first started dating I had recently separated from my EX wife and I was doing great financially. After a few months and some unforeseen changes, my income reduced significantly and she was helping me out quite a bit.

Eventually, she moved in with me(was living with my mother at the time) so we didn't have to pay rent but she would buy groceries. She would complain that she felt like she was spending too much of her money when in fact all she was doing was buying groceries and things for the house(about 300-4004 a month) ultimately she decided to move to Las Vegas to live with her sister so she could "get her self together"

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posted August 31, 2019 08:06 PM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
The Composite Jupiter/Moon in 2nd house square to Pluto/opposite Mercury might point exactly to some financial discomfort/disagreement and some selfish attitude between the two about some earthly matter.
Checking current transits on Composite, it seems that such issue might arise again in your communication, and since you will have a tr Mercury square Mars and tr Jupiter square Mars in few days, I suggest you to control such negative influence in talking to her... it seems there's an upheaval going on in the relationship with tr Uranus square Comp Jupiter/Moon and tr SN/Saturn conjunct Uranus in the Comp. 7th house opposite ASC. You are having tr. Saturn conjunct natal Neptune in 4th house, tr NN conjunct Chiron in 10 house and tr Chiron conjunct Venus in 7th house... so you might be very insecure about the situation until October, but already in mid September you might actually experience a turning point... your MC will be also conjunct to Saturn at the beginning of October, while tr Saturn is still conjunct Neptune in 10th house, and so you might actually have taken your decision by then when tr Chiron conjunct Venus has gone, but before this you might actually have to face a choice or a definite change...

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Yeah I definitely feel that energy this weekend going into next week. She recently asked me for money which I've been holding back from her, only for her to turn around and tell me that she was planning on getting a tattoo and that bothered me a bit.

Is it possible for you to give me the exact dates of these transits?

*Also* I was really planning on breaking up with her today, and after seeing everyone validate my feelings, and also seeing the synastry validate the same things, I definitely feel like even tho she may seemingly "look my type"(venus in Aries) I do strongly believe that I want to be with someone who not only looks my type, but is also emotionally, and spiritually available(mars in PIS). Right now I can not get that from her, and i feel like it would be years in waiting before she is able to be that way with me(if she even can). I just think that this is the lesson I needed to learn within this particular relationship. It's just not for me, and I need to(pluto-conjunct venus) let go of her and stop trying to control the outcome of the relationship, it is what it is, and it isnt for me.