posted September 06, 2019 09:46 PM            

I started with Venus in 7th house Aries, and I understand that I'm attracted to Aries or "fire signs" but I'm not sure if it the sun moon or rising sign that attracts me. Also, I've read that venus in the 7th house of Aries makes it difficult to be in a committed relationship.. but venus is in 7th house! am I missing an aspect that can shed more light on this?

posted September 07, 2019 02:03 PM            

Are you a heterosexual male?

I think the root of the problem might be your Moon opp Venus (yes it's somewhat out of orb but I think it's still significant). Guys usually go after their Venus/Moon (or so they say) and here you have a duality going on. So what you're attracted to (Aries) may not necessarily be in harmony with what gives you peace, emotional satisfaction, etc (Moon).

Your Moon in Libra is in an Aries house (H1)
Your Venus in Aries is in a Libra house (H7)
Your NN in Aqua is in a Leo house (H5)

So your entire life is going to be something of a contradiction. You're never going to fit into stereotypical niches, you're going to have to carve one out for yourself in life and other people may never understand, but what matters is that you find peace and fulfillment in these dichotomies.

I'm thinking you should really stay away from the Cancer/Capricorn axis when it comes to partners and their personal planets, because they're going to be forming a grand cross with your generational Cancer/Capricorn planets. They may bring a lot of stress into your life.

You're going to want people that ping your double grand trine.. Scorpio, Pisces, Taurus..

5th house ruler is Capricorn, which is square Libra, so older partners might really be something you enjoy.

You're going to want a partner that's very Neptunian, someone you're psychically linked with, someone who always vibes peace and harmony because you're going to be soaking up their energy like a sponge. You're 7th house ruler is Neptune, which is also the apex of your grand water trine. Plus you have a Pisces Mars so someone with Neptunian energy will also really be in tune with your specific style of masculinity which may not be everyone's cup of tea.

I have usually met my partners at work (h6 Mars/ H10 Jupiter), so that could also be a suggestion for you. My Sun is in the 9th house though, so university is another setting I meet partners in, not sure if that's also something that could be up your alley.

I usually try to avoid people whose planets fall into my 12th/11th house. We have a H5 NN so too many Leo placements don't necessarily align with our destiny and can incidentally throw us off our path.

You are meant to enjoy love.. it's kinda the bread and butter of our chart's existence. H7 Venus, H2 Moon in romantic Libra, H5 NN so I'm sure you must have fun, successful dates?

Let me see if I can post your chart for others

posted September 07, 2019 06:23 PM            

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Originally posted by athenaia:
[B]Oh wow. I stared at your chart and got whiplash. I was born 9 days after you and also have a Virgo rising!!! How weird. Also I've always considered myself very lucky in love so let's really unpack what's going on here.

Are you a heterosexual male?

I think the root of the problem might be your Moon opp Venus (yes it's somewhat out of orb but I think it's still significant). Guys usually go after their Venus/Moon (or so they say) and here you have a duality going on. So what you're attracted to (Aries) may not necessarily be in harmony with what gives you peace, emotional satisfaction, etc (Moon).

Your Moon in Libra is in an Aries house (H1)
Your Venus in Aries is in a Libra house (H7)
Your NN in Aqua is in a Leo house (H5)

So your entire life is going to be something of a contradiction. You're never going to fit into stereotypical niches, you're going to have to carve one out for yourself in life and other people may never understand, but what matters is that you find peace and fulfillment in these dichotomies.

I'm thinking you should really stay away from the Cancer/Capricorn axis when it comes to partners and their personal planets, because they're going to be forming a grand cross with your generational Cancer/Capricorn planets. They may bring a lot of stress into your life.

You're going to want people that ping your double grand trine.. Scorpio, Pisces, Taurus..

5th house ruler is Capricorn, which is square Libra, so older partners might really be something you enjoy.

You're going to want a partner that's very Neptunian, someone you're psychically linked with, someone who always vibes peace and harmony because you're going to be soaking up their energy like a sponge. You're 7th house ruler is Neptune, which is also the apex of your grand water trine. Plus you have a Pisces Mars so someone with Neptunian energy will also really be in tune with your specific style of masculinity which may not be everyone's cup of tea.

I have usually met my partners at work (h6 Mars/ H10 Jupiter), so that could also be a suggestion for you. My Sun is in the 9th house though, so university is another setting I meet partners in, not sure if that's also something that could be up your alley.

I usually try to avoid people whose planets fall into my 12th/11th house. We have a H5 NN so too many Leo placements don't necessarily align with our destiny and can incidentally throw us off our path.

You are meant to enjoy love.. it's kinda the bread and butter of our chart's existence. H7 Venus, H2 Moon in romantic Libra, H5 NN so I'm sure you must have fun, successful dates?

Let me see if I can post your chart for others

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Yes I am a heterosexual male.

Yes, I get heart-eyed over curly-haired, fair-skinned women then I find out they are Aries or fire signs and I'm like oh yes! lol But we never really click. Then the women who are attracted to me I'm not attracted to them.

I was married to a Pisces and boy... I was a very traumatising relationship. Scorpio I think I'm more interested in, just because I have a lot of 8th house energy, and my Juno is in Scorpio.

I have met 1 person I've dated from work, she was a co-worker and we had mostly an intense sexual relationship. She is a Scorpio, Aries moon, Aquarius rising. The interesting thing is she will not let me go for some reason... A lot of my relationships have been short term except for my marriage which was a 6 year relationship and we only were married for 1 year.

I'm trying to see what needs to happen, or what I need to work on in order for me to attract the right partner for me, or even if that is something I'm destined to do!

posted September 07, 2019 06:23 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
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posted September 08, 2019 06:32 AM            

Venus there however does suggest a willingness on your side to compromise. And thus also the ability to attract agreeable partners(we get what we give and the 7th house is the house a reflective house).

But looking at your 2nd house with Moon and Pluto there, you certainly have some inner demons to quell or manage.And this could largely impact on the type of people you attract(7th).

My guess is that you compromise too much or give of yourself too easily? Being that you want things to run smoothly, people may walk all over you. Or you may have some difficulties in standing up for yourself.

You change your mind about what you need a lot(Moon in 2nd).So this could lead to emotional states that wax and wane. And your inner monologue is prone to extremes and obsessive energy(Pluto)that can at times help or hinder your self esteem(2nd).

With Moon in 2nd, there is a lot of thoughts centering around safety and security. This especially when we consider Libra Moon, the safety and security you want is within partnerships. I wonder if you feel uneasy going at things alone?Or perhaps hang on for far too long to relationships that don't serve your needs?

Mercury/Sun conjunct oppose Pluto in 2nd. Your chronic thought patterns and inner dialogue (Sun/Mercury) tend to be extreme and can transform your self-esteem for the better or worse

You may internalize what people say about you or think in terms of self -evaluation that borders on self-criticism(Virgo Asc). Be mindful of this. Add to this, you may also not be too generous in complementing yourself.

If you love life is a disaster, what exactly do you mean? Which parts are not working or is ALL lost?

If you are the "fire starter"and argumentative/fault finding, it could be that you have anger that you are projecting on others too much. Your dissatisfaction with yourself or lack of self acceptance is projected to others and seeing as "faulty".

The above can be changed by being honest enough to say that you do overreact and are too hard on others and yourself. Perhaps learning to address the issue holistically and not picking the person apart would be more fitting?

If partners argue with you and cause you distress, it could be that you are giving your power away to others too much and they take advantage. In that they ar now your worst critic and find fault with you(when in actuality the fault is likely within their own self perception).

So you may need to break off with those who seek to disempower you so that you can get your own self back. Love is only possible with others when it starts within you. We don't treat others differently to how we treat ourselves internally.

Look at your 2nd house. Pluto there suggests trust issues and Moon there suggests insecurities fueled by Pluto. Maybe even suggesting a tendency to be a people "hoarder" i.e possessive and territorial.

I have spoken many times of how the 2nd house ane Ic are often the basis upon which we come to understand our sense of physical and emotional security(for good or ill).

If Pluto is in the 2nd, the likelihood that physical security is tied into self protection or defense against loss etc. is high. Perhaps there was a difficult early environment that resulted in harsh lessons about trust or security?

posted September 08, 2019 11:38 AM            

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Having Venus in 7th will not automatically mean that your love life will be easy.

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"Should an afflicted Venus in the 7th be the 9th house ruler ... look for distinct differences in social values between oneself and one's partners."

"When the ruler of the 2nd is in the 7th, the individual is highly reliant upon his/her relationship for self-valuation. Should there be an affliction to that ruler, such validation may not be easily forthcoming."

(From Rulers of the Horoscope, by Alan Oken).

Venus is afflicted in this chart - because it is in Aries, the sign of its detriment ... and is at one corner of a Grand Square in the 17th Harmonic Chart.*

[*"When two or more planets come together in the 17th harmonic, their relationship will have the quality of rebelliousness and subversiveness." ... Harmonic Astrology In Practice, by David Hamblin.]

posted September 08, 2019 11:56 AM            

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Originally posted by Graham:

"Should an [b]afflicted Venus in the 7th be the 9th house ruler ... look for distinct differences in social values between oneself and one's partners."

"When the ruler of the 2nd is in the 7th, the individual is highly reliant upon his/her relationship for self-valuation. Should there be an affliction to that ruler, such validation may not be easily forthcoming."

(From Rulers of the Horoscope, by Alan Oken).

Venus is afflicted in this chart - because it is in Aries, the sign of its detriment.

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posted September 08, 2019 12:07 PM            

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Originally posted by IV4Four:
Okay so this is partly true as I feel more confident and my self-esteem is higher when I'm in a relationship with someone. My last partner made me feel really great when we were together, byt my biggest issue was that i did get a emotional connection from her.

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Have a look at your 17th Harmonic Chart, Jermaine. ... Do you think a discussion of it on the personal readings board might be helpful?

posted September 08, 2019 12:19 PM            

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Originally posted by Graham:
Have a look at your 17th Harmonic Chart, Jermaine. ... Do you think a discussion of it on the personal readings board might be helpful?

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Yeah I do think so.

posted September 08, 2019 12:45 PM            

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Originally posted by IV4Four:
Yeah I do think so.

I am really trying to align myself so I can attract the best things for myself and right now a partner is the only thing that keeps waking me up at night lol Im not sure who or when i should be with some, and the type of person they are or will be.

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I shall watch for your post on the personal readings board.

posted September 08, 2019 03:09 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
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If you love life is a disaster, what exactly do you mean? Which parts are not working or is ALL lost?

If you are the "fire starter"and argumentative/fault finding, it could be that you have anger that you are projecting on others too much. Your dissatisfaction with yourself or lack of self acceptance is projected to others and seeing as "faulty".

The above can be changed by being honest enough to say that you do overreact and are too hard on others and yourself. Perhaps learning to address the issue holistically and not picking the person apart would be more fitting?

If partners argue with you and cause you distress, it could be that you are giving your power away to others too much and they take advantage. In that they ar now your worst critic and find fault with you(when in actuality the fault is likely within their own self perception).

So you may need to break off with those who seek to disempower you so that you can get your own self back. Love is only possible with others when it starts within you. We don't treat others differently to how we treat ourselves internally.

Look at your 2nd house. Pluto there suggests trust issues and Moon there suggests insecurities fueled by Pluto. Maybe even suggesting a tendency to be a people "hoarder" i.e possessive and territorial.

I have spoken many times of how the 2nd house ane Ic are often the basis upon which we come to understand our sense of physical and emotional security(for good or ill).

If Pluto is in the 2nd, the likelihood that physical security is tied into self-protection or defense against loss etc. is high. Perhaps there was a difficult early environment that resulted in harsh lessons about trust or security?

So take that into consideration when you are viewing the types of partners you attract i.e do they also have trust issues? Are they controlling? etc.[/B]

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posted September 08, 2019 04:07 PM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
I know a Venus in Aries, who is happily married.

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posted September 08, 2019 05:55 PM            

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Originally posted by Graham:
I shall watch for your post on the personal readings board.

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posted September 08, 2019 07:10 PM            

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Originally posted by IV4Four:
Well we know that's possible, but obviously, there have to be other factors.

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posted September 08, 2019 07:52 PM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
I don't see why there would be. Venus in Aries doesn't guarantee that a love life will be bad.

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posted September 08, 2019 09:07 PM            

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Originally posted by IV4Four:
Right, I never said that it was bad, hence if you read the title of the post I wanted to know what other factors am I missing. you seem to have some knowledge on this, I'm sure you can post more than just stating the very obvious.

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