posted November 30, 2020 10:02 AM            

My current impression is that this indeed tends to dissolve the Martian energy. For me as the house person, I’m crazy about them, they turn me on a lot and it’s very mutual in our case, yet I still get the impression that their sexual drive gets drowned out while we’re together. I suddenly become the more active part in our encounters, can’t help it, it just happens. I’m usually not that active and she’s usually not as passive, yet our roles get switched after a while. And it’s fun and we enjoy it, but it still feels awkward at times. It’s something that she has to deal with, because it’s not something that corresponds very well with her ‘self-image’. Mars is their chart ruler after all.
So yeah this is currently an issue we’re working on.

Another thing is the heightened need to satisfy the other person. Sometimes it’s quite unclear what they actually want. The sex is very satisfying nonetheless (we have other sexy aspects, also no harsh aspects to that Mars). So we end up having a pleasurable experience, despite not quite knowing how we actually got there! Over-thinking gets in the way at times. Also merging so much into each other that it’s hard to distinguish what we separately want.

Don’t know if I chose my words right. But yeah this is how it feels in our case.

posted November 30, 2020 10:49 AM            

In our case, his Mars (ruler of his 8H) conjuncts my 12H Mars (ruler of my 7H), Saturn (1H), Pluto (1H) and AC.

These conjunctions square my Venus (my chart ruler, falls in his 5H) and trine my Sun (ruler of 11H), and trine his Jupiter (ruler of his 4H and co-ruler of his 7H, and falls in my 8H).

posted November 30, 2020 11:14 AM            

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Originally posted by Voix_de_la_Mer:
I have this with my partner. And it's weird, I have also been focused on figuring this out recently.

In our case, his Mars (ruler of his 8H) conjuncts my 12H Mars (ruler of my 7H), Saturn (1H), Pluto (1H) and AC.

These conjunctions square my Venus (my chart ruler, falls in his 5H) and trine my Sun (ruler of 11H), and trine his Jupiter (ruler of his 4H and co-ruler of his 7H, and falls in my 8H).

To say we have both been transformed from our activities in the boudoir would be an understatement. It's been two years and shows no signs of letting up Longest 'honeymoon period' ever.

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So their Mars falls in your 12th house or the other way around?

Your honeymoon phase sounds inspiring

‘Transformative’ is also something that we’re both experiencing.

posted November 30, 2020 11:21 AM            

I don't think we have major trust issues between us as such. We brought some personal trust issues with us as a result of past experiences, and this is something we talk about and try to work through together.

posted November 30, 2020 11:50 AM            

Very brief summary:

If a Planet is conjuncting the ASC point (i.e. powerfully merging/resonating with), it's really not in the 12th anymore, but more so part of the energy of self and/or body (i.e. the ASC).

posted November 30, 2020 12:06 PM            

What you are describing sounds like a very unconscious attraction to men that are not healthy for you nor loving, and basically want to use you for sex to get their rocks off, and not only are you ok with that, but seem to be especially attracted to that and those kind of men, which strongly indicates some real self love and worth issues.

You deserve better, much better, but you won't realize this or change this pattern until you start to fully love, accept, and find yourself worthwhile. As you raise your vibration more, open your heart up, you will start to attract healither, more loving, and faster vibratory people outside of you. People that will love the real you and treat you better. Not just f*cuk buddy brah dudes interested in objectifying you for your body and using same for their own pleasure.

I'm speaking from experience--I've been through the same exact thing (though with a different tone since women tend to have different focuses). And things didn't change for the better until I took some real time off from relationships/romance to just work on myself. And yes, believe it or not, but this can happen to men as well. It especially happens to men that are high in empathy and strongly in touch with their Yin/Feminine side.

posted November 30, 2020 12:58 PM            

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Originally posted by GalacticCoreExplosion:
(@ C.o.V) Maybe you should focus on being by yourself for a while and really learning to love and appreciate yourself?

What you are describing sounds like a very unconscious attraction to men that are not healthy for you nor loving, and basically want to use you for sex to get their rocks off, and not only are you ok with that, but seem to be especially attracted to that and those kind of men, which strongly indicates some real self love and worth issues.

You deserve better, much better, but you won't realize this or change this pattern until you start to fully love, accept, and find yourself worthwhile. As you raise your vibration more, open your heart up, you will start to attract healither, more loving, and faster vibratory people outside of you. People that will love the real you and treat you better. Not just f*cuk buddy brah dudes interested in objectifying you for your body and using same for their own pleasure.

I'm speaking from experience--I've been through the same exact thing (though with a different tone since women tend to have different focuses). And things didn't change for the better until I took some real time off from relationships/romance to just work on myself. And yes, believe it or not, but this can happen to men as well. It especially happens to men that are high in empathy and strongly in touch with their Yin/Feminine side.

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You took what I said completely out of context I’m saying that he didn’t last long. Which some men don’t and I believe it maybe because he has Mars in the first house. I’ve read that men with this placement tend to finish quickly. Or they don’t last long during sex.

posted November 30, 2020 01:17 PM            

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Or maybe I don’t want to be with one guy because I don’t want to be hurt.

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And here we come to the crux of the situation, FEAR. Love has no true opposite, but only relative degrees of lack of Love, but the closest opposite that Love has, is fear.

I understand that fear, have had it as well. It was the unconscious basis and cause of all the toxic relationships I had had (deep down, I feared that I was unlovable and that no one would ever truly love me for me. That I would always get hurt or be disappointed).

It's almost like you believe and assume that you will be hurt if you allow yourself to get close to someone and be vulnerable. Well yeah, if you believe and focus on that, that's what you will attract.

But it doesn't have to be that way. Try to spend some time completely alone, work on yourself, try to fully love and accept yourself and believe that you are lovable and worthy of positive and vulnerable attention, and then when you find a faster vibratory and more loving person (use your discernment), allow yourself to become vulnerable with them.

That is what your Venus/heart center inside of you really, truly deeply wants. To share, give, and receive real love. But first you need to find that within and for yourself, before you can really share it in a healthy and balanced way with another and without fear distorting it all.

Nobody else can do this for you, you have to do this for yourself. The Source Itself, could immerse you in the purest, most unconditionally accepting Love and tell you, "You are worthy of joy, Love, and all that is positive. You don't need to be hurt. You don't need to hold onto fear.", but until you really start to feel and believe that more deeply, things won't change.

posted November 30, 2020 01:34 PM            

All relationships are ultimately about either balance (via energetic exchange) or lessons. Maybe part of your balance/lesson here is getting more in touch with and comfortable with your own inner Yang/masculine side? This is easier to do with a female partner in some ways, since they tend to be more open of/accepting of that.

posted November 30, 2020 02:46 PM            

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Originally posted by GalacticCoreExplosion:
I was intuitively reading between the lines and responding to the deeper energy of the post and not just the words/surface of same.

And here we come to the crux of the situation, FEAR. Love has no true opposite, but only relative degrees of lack of Love, but the closest opposite that Love has, is fear.

I understand that fear, have had it as well. It was the unconscious basis and cause of all the toxic relationships I had had (deep down, I feared that I was unlovable and that no one would ever truly love me for me. That I would always get hurt or be disappointed).

It's almost like you believe and assume that you will be hurt if you allow yourself to get close to someone and be vulnerable. Well yeah, if you believe and focus on that, that's what you will attract.

But it doesn't have to be that way. Try to spend some time completely alone, work on yourself, try to fully love and accept yourself and believe that you are lovable and worthy of positive and vulnerable attention, and then when you find a faster vibratory and more loving person (use your discernment), allow yourself to become vulnerable with them.

That is what your Venus/heart center inside of you really, truly deeply wants. To share, give, and receive real love. But first you need to find that within and for yourself, before you can really share it in a healthy and balanced way with another and without fear distorting it all.

Nobody else can do this for you, you have to do this for yourself. The Source Itself, could immerse you in the purest, most unconditionally accepting Love and tell you, "You are worthy of joy, Love, and all that is positive. You don't need to be hurt. You don't need to hold onto fear.", but until you really start to feel and believe that more deeply, things won't change.

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posted November 30, 2020 03:38 PM            

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Sorry for the derailment Ana_Bee. What you described does make some sense as a possible expression of one partner's Mars being in the other's 12th. As to how to deal with it, not sure, but open, clear, direct communication seems like a good start.

All relationships are ultimately about either balance (via energetic exchange) or lessons. Maybe part of your balance/lesson here is getting more in touch with and comfortable with your own inner Yang/masculine side? This is easier to do with a female partner in some ways, since they tend to be more open of/accepting of that.

You seem to view it as a "problem", but maybe it is just what it is. Maybe her lesson is being more passive/Yin and getting better in touch with that? Maybe male partners tend to be too much for her in that sense (i.e. over Yang, too aggressive or controlling), and so she is learning it from/being helped by you?

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This is a great take on this, thank you! It certainly makes sense in our case. I’ll try not to view it as a problem, because it actually shouldn’t be.

posted November 30, 2020 03:42 PM            

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[B] maybe because he has Mars in the first house. I’ve read that men with this placement tend to finish quickly. Or they don’t last long during sex.

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
It didn't last long but I think it's because he has Mars in the first house.

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posted November 30, 2020 03:54 PM            

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[QUOTE]Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
[B] maybe because he has Mars in the first house. I’ve read that men with this placement tend to finish quickly. Or they don’t last long during sex.

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https://addictedastrology.tumblr.com/post/174763026929/kinks-of-the-mars-signs

posted November 30, 2020 04:13 PM            

Tbh, I think these kinds of major life decisions and life choices are usually best figured out within self, especially with the help of one's own internal guidance. I'm a big fan of combining a combo of meditation and prayer with certain techniques to learn how to communicate consciously with guidance levels. It's been my repeat experience, and the experience of others that I have known, that one can get very real and very helpful information, advice, etc from guidance. And personally speaking, I think direct communication with internal guidance trumps astrology and outer communication with fellow humans (who invariably have some distortions in their perception, as I know I certainly do).

If you would like any help/advice with that, I'd be willing to help.

posted November 30, 2020 04:50 PM            

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I'm glad that you understand that I mean well. I'm not necessarily against friends with benefits except that I know, when it comes to especially women, it's rarely what a woman truly wants and is often more of a compromise or self defense mechanism (that links back to those fear aspects within self). I mean, my partner and I have an open option--so it's not like I'm closed minded or a prude (I have Aqua Venus and Mars Jupiter conjunction). I like/enjoy sex, but ime, sex with someone that you don't truly love and who doesn't truly love you i.e. just based on body lust and/or insecurity/ego, leaves one kind of empty, hollow, and unfulfilled. Sex with someone you love and connect deeply with and vice versa--nothing better. Especially cuddling after.

Ultimately, I don't know what you should or shouldn't do. I just know what worked for me and what my previous relationship issues were coming from. I sensed a similarity in some ways despite that I'm connected to a male body and you to a female.

I just want to see you happy, whole, and at peace.

It seems like you may have some looping patterns, and if things haven't been working out so far doing the same old, same old, maybe time to try something different? Consciously choosing to be alone to focus on self work, is a like a signal, and message to your Higher/Expanded self and your guidance that "hey, I'm serious and sincere about working on some of these issues I seem to have". When you make efforts in these areas, it/they take notice and start trying to help you more. It's a combo of the whole, "ask and you shall receive" and "the Creator helps those who help themselves".

Pay attention to your dreams, synchronicity, etc, as you try to make positive changes, as often these are ways that our Higher self and guidance will try to communicate with us, give us clues, answers, etc.

But be patient with self, transformation doesn't happen over night. We improve a jot here and a jot there, become more aware a jot there, a jot there.

Btw, the men that tend to be good lovers, are often those that are more intuitive and in touch with their feminine/Yin side. But if you have the right and love based connection with someone, you can eventually help each other to learn how to have mutually satisfying sex (most of the time).

But a lot of Martian men, unless they have powerful counter balancing patterns, tend to be selfish and kind of immature, which generally leads to not being particularly adept lovers. Strong Venus, Neptune, Jupiter, Pisces, Capricorn, sometimes Scorpio, sometimes Libra, etc in a man's chart often helps.

posted November 30, 2020 05:03 PM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
https://addictedastrology.tumblr.com/post/174763026929/kinks-of-the-mars-signs

This post mentions quick and dirty sex. But I'm in an Astrology group on Facebook. And someone made a comment about men and this Mars placement. And about how they might finish faster than their partner.

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*shrugs* doesn't resonate with me at all. Unless 20-30 minutes, sometimes longer, is quick but seems like the perfect time for me.

posted December 01, 2020 03:33 PM            

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Originally posted by GalacticCoreExplosion:
Hi Ana_Bee,

Tbh, I think these kinds of major life decisions and life choices are usually best figured out within self, especially with the help of one's own internal guidance. I'm a big fan of combining a combo of meditation and prayer with certain techniques to learn how to communicate consciously with guidance levels. It's been my repeat experience, and the experience of others that I have known, that one can get very real and very helpful information, advice, etc from guidance. And personally speaking, I think direct communication with internal guidance trumps astrology and outer communication with fellow humans (who invariably have some distortions in their perception, as I know I certainly do).

If you would like any help/advice with that, I'd be willing to help.

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Yes I know what you mean. I‘m always going by my gut feeling in the end of the day, but I’m still interested whether there’s long term potential for us based on the charts. You‘ve done interpretations before for other people and I really like your style. You tend to see things that aren’t so obvious.

posted December 03, 2020 12:39 PM            

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Originally posted by GalacticCoreExplosion:

I'm glad that you understand that I mean well. I'm not necessarily against friends with benefits except that I know, when it comes to especially women, it's rarely what a woman truly wants and is often more of a compromise or self defense mechanism (that links back to those fear aspects within self). I mean, my partner and I have an open option--so it's not like I'm closed minded or a prude (I have Aqua Venus and Mars Jupiter conjunction). I like/enjoy sex, but ime, sex with someone that you don't truly love and who doesn't truly love you i.e. just based on body lust and/or insecurity/ego, leaves one kind of empty, hollow, and unfulfilled. Sex with someone you love and connect deeply with and vice versa--nothing better. Especially cuddling after.

Ultimately, I don't know what you should or shouldn't do. I just know what worked for me and what my previous relationship issues were coming from. I sensed a similarity in some ways despite that I'm connected to a male body and you to a female.

I just want to see you happy, whole, and at peace.

It seems like you may have some looping patterns, and if things haven't been working out so far doing the same old, same old, maybe time to try something different? Consciously choosing to be alone to focus on self work, is a like a signal, and message to your Higher/Expanded self and your guidance that "hey, I'm serious and sincere about working on some of these issues I seem to have". When you make efforts in these areas, it/they take notice and start trying to help you more. It's a combo of the whole, "ask and you shall receive" and "the Creator helps those who help themselves".

Pay attention to your dreams, synchronicity, etc, as you try to make positive changes, as often these are ways that our Higher self and guidance will try to communicate with us, give us clues, answers, etc.

But be patient with self, transformation doesn't happen over night. We improve a jot here and a jot there, become more aware a jot there, a jot there.

Btw, the men that tend to be good lovers, are often those that are more intuitive and in touch with their feminine/Yin side. But if you have the right and love based connection with someone, you can eventually help each other to learn how to have mutually satisfying sex (most of the time).

But a lot of Martian men, unless they have powerful counter balancing patterns, tend to be selfish and kind of immature, which generally leads to not being particularly adept lovers. Strong Venus, Neptune, Jupiter, Pisces, Capricorn, sometimes Scorpio, sometimes Libra, etc in a man's chart often helps.

My partner has had sex with a variety of guys of different types of personality, body types, pen!s size, etc, but she often sincerely says that I'm the best lover of the bunch. I'm certainly not hung, super physically attractive, or anything like that, but I'm sensitive, intuitive, attentive, I care about her pleasure just as much if not more than my own, [b]and we have a powerful emotional, mental, and spiritual connection based mostly on love, mutual respect, and trust. That last part is probably one of the most important ingredients. [/B]

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posted December 03, 2020 01:37 PM            

Sorry, wasn't clear earlier. I have Aqua Venus, and Mars Jupiter conjunction in Virgo (where Jupiter rules my 5th and co rules the Pisces 8th).

posted December 03, 2020 02:03 PM            

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Hi ChildofVenus, I very much understand liking and connecting with different people for different reasons. I also believe that we can be in love with more than one person at a time. That's why my partner and I have the open option. We both believe that.

Sorry, wasn't clear earlier. I have Aqua Venus, and Mars Jupiter conjunction in Virgo (where Jupiter rules my 5th and co rules the Pisces 8th).

Earlier, I was more responding to the comment of we had sex before, wasn't satisfying for me, but I think I might have sex with him again because he likes my boobs. That seemed to be speaking to some maybe self worth/value issues. Like I said, I've been there, done that.

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posted December 10, 2020 05:37 PM            

I feel I'm the perfect person to answer this question! I had my mars fall in my ex's 12th house. Although conjunct his ascendant, attraction was there but there was definitely drowning out. I wouldn't neccessarily say it was a satisfying experience. I have Uranus in my 8th house of solar return this year so I was pretty detached with our sexual experiences (including sexual assault) so that could add to it.

I would highly highly HIGHLY recommend open and honest discussions. Really talk it out. My drowning of sexuality came in more about my ties to him sexually. He wanted a lot, he had his mars in my first house but I was much more reserved yet at the same time I was intrigued by him. My mars is in my 10th house natally so him not being concerned with his reputation and image was a turn-off. We were defo an opposite attracts kinda match but that was a prominent thing.

We also had harsh aspects though, his mars squared my mercury and pluto. Honestly such annoying aspects but his moon aspected a lot of my planets harmoniously so there was some evening but only when we talked genuinely.