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posted April 30, 2021 08:09 PM            

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Originally posted by LunaIscariot:
Dump your long term guy. The composite is terrible!
Plus he already cheated AND he’s an alcoholic!? Screw him. How is there even a question? Your guy sounds like a total loser, come on cheating on Valentine’s Day!? Kick him to the curb already. This is your sign. If you were ever wondering what to do, I’m here to tell you do it already. There’s not actually any love in your relationship with him. It’s clear to see in the charts. This was clearly a comfort/convenience relationship and that’s probably the only reason you haven’t let go yet. Just break up with him already, the pain doesn’t last forever. Don’t be afraid.

The second guy (new guy) you have a much better composite. It’s not great, but it’s okay. The Pluto/mars hard aspects are gonna be a bit difficult, but they are in a closed pattern which helps. Lots of passion between you guys. Just be careful about power struggles, manipulation and conflicts.
The Synastry is much better too. This new guy actually really likes you if not loves you. I guarantee he is probably going to fall in love with you if he hasn’t already, really good activation going on here.
He’s more your type too, he’s very loyal and stable. Doesn’t look like the cheating type at all.

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posted May 03, 2021 09:15 AM            

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Originally posted by LunaIscariot:
Dump your long term guy. The composite is terrible!
Plus he already cheated AND he’s an alcoholic!? Screw him. How is there even a question? Your guy sounds like a total loser, come on cheating on Valentine’s Day!? Kick him to the curb already. This is your sign. If you were ever wondering what to do, I’m here to tell you do it already. There’s not actually any love in your relationship with him. It’s clear to see in the charts. This was clearly a comfort/convenience relationship and that’s probably the only reason you haven’t let go yet. Just break up with him already, the pain doesn’t last forever. Don’t be afraid.

The second guy (new guy) you have a much better composite. It’s not great, but it’s okay. The Pluto/mars hard aspects are gonna be a bit difficult, but they are in a closed pattern which helps. Lots of passion between you guys. Just be careful about power struggles, manipulation and conflicts.
The Synastry is much better too. This new guy actually really likes you if not loves you. I guarantee he is probably going to fall in love with you if he hasn’t already, really good activation going on here.
He’s more your type too, he’s very loyal and stable. Doesn’t look like the cheating type at all.

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Luna, I love how you elaborated on this synastry. I do not mean to interfere, but I'd love if you could help me since I am in a very similar place as the girl who wrote this post.
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum35/HTML/010991.html

posted May 03, 2021 02:33 PM            

Saturn conjuncting the 5H house can also indicate barriers in been able to be together, this been blocked somehow. Moon is also ruled by venus in aquarius, I think with the high intensity of pluto on venus and moon and the aquarius influence connected to the tsquare and the northnode I see intense emotions between you two but also instability, not feeling secure in the relationship and saturn on the 5th blocking this romance and northnode in the 12th keeping this relationship clandestine and from turning into something official.

Enjoy it while it lasts but unfortunately this can't end well if he doesn't know you are involved with someone and living with them. It will shake the trust between you and can lead to the relationship ending abruptly.

posted May 03, 2021 03:21 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
With the guy you are having an affair with, in the composite you have northnode in the 12th house which indicates IMO you two are destined to have a clandestine affair and your relationship may never become official, you add that the ruler of your northnode is in aquarius which can indicate an on and off relationship or a friends with benefits arrangement (NN in libra in the 12th house ruled by Venus in Aquarius).

Saturn conjuncting the 5H house can also indicate barriers in been able to be together, this been blocked somehow. Moon is also ruled by venus in aquarius, I think with the high intensity of pluto on venus and moon and the aquarius influence connected to the tsquare and the northnode I see intense emotions between you two but also instability, not feeling secure in the relationship and saturn on the 5th blocking this romance and northnode in the 12th keeping this relationship clandestine and from turning into something official.

Enjoy it while it lasts but unfortunately this can't end well if he doesn't know you are involved with someone and living with them. It will shake the trust between you and can lead to the relationship ending abruptly.

I think you will end up ending things with B but things with D will end too at some point. You can then start over with someone new and build things in solid foundations. There is a chance you will chose to forgive B and stay together if you have children together, that moon ruling the 5th and falling in the 5th as part of a kite with saturn and pluto and northnode in libra in the 8th shows a binding deep lasting bond potentially capable of working through issues of infidelity specially if you have kids together but he would need to stop drinking completely, so an ultimatum may be in the works and settle this for you.

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posted May 03, 2021 05:13 PM            

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Originally posted by Astrogirlie:

- Thank you so much for your insight on this. My bf of 8 years and I , we do have a 4 year old together. So this is one of the major reasons as to why I think very very hard about leaving him. This is why I also put up with everything he has done to me. I can see he is trying very hard to be a better man to me. The man im having an affair with, he really likes me, I stopped talking to him over the course of this weekend and he went CRAZY, blowing my phone up, went as far as showing up at my mothers home asking for me. Im too caring, I ended up calling him back and giving him an excuse as to why I dissapeared for the weekend, (told him i lost my phone) , he said he was just happy to hear from me and that he loves me.... Im going to let things play out I guess, see what happens. But again thank you so much for this, appreciate your time that you put into looking at the charts! Youre accuracy is crazy good!

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You are welcome sweetheart, I truly wish you the best

Some man truly respond to ultimatums with drinking and completely give it up when they realize they can lose it all and some unfortunately don't have the will power and eventually do lose it all.

Not surprised D blew up your phone with that tsquare involving pluto, emotions run high so is very all or nothing type of energy. Your boyfriend with saturn and pluto in the composite kite makes it so saturn helps ground the intensity of pluto making it easier to work with that pluto energy day to day which helps things last, the bond is still deep but not in your face, is more like still waters run deep type of bond, with the tsquare lover with pluto venus and moon it will feel more like a tsunami and so the relationship is more fragile bc emotions run high, is hard to feel that type of intensity day to day as it feels great but wears you out, saturn helps with resilience in relationships.

posted May 04, 2021 01:08 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
You are welcome sweetheart, I truly wish you the best

Some man truly respond to ultimatums with drinking and completely give it up when they realize they can lose it all and some unfortunately don't have the will power and eventually do lose it all.

Not surprised D blew up your phone with that tsquare involving pluto, emotions run high so is very all or nothing type of energy. Your boyfriend with saturn and pluto in the composite kite makes it so saturn helps ground the intensity of pluto making it easier to work with that pluto energy day to day which helps things last, the bond is still deep but not in your face, is more like still waters run deep type of bond, with the tsquare lover with pluto venus and moon it will feel more like a tsunami and so the relationship is more fragile bc emotions run high, is hard to feel that type of intensity day to day as it feels great but wears you out, saturn helps with resilience in relationships.

But yes boyfriend needs to step it up or he will lose you, glad he is trying and you are welcome .

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_ Youre amazing!! Thank you for your best wishes. Positive vibes and lot's of admiration from my part going your way!!

posted May 04, 2021 06:58 PM            

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Originally posted by Astrogirlie:

_ Youre amazing!! Thank you for your best wishes. Positive vibes and lot's of admiration from my part going your way!!

*UPDATE* my boyfriend found out about the guy I was having an affair with, (he went through my phone while I took out the trash).. Made me call him and break things off with ( D ), INFRONT of him. I didn't admit to the type of bond I had with (D) , just told him he was just someone I was talking to but nothing "serious"... but my boyfriend is willing to make it work, after hours of talking, we want to work it through. (D) is out of the picture now, changed my phone # and hope I can make something work out with my boyfriend for the sake of our family.

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He is fighting for you.

Sometimes couple's counseling can help.

posted May 04, 2021 11:11 PM            

Hypatia you’re so toxic encouraging her to be with someone who has the audacity to cheat on her on VALENTINE’S DAY. That’s repulsive, and you don’t and shouldn’t come back from that. Their charts are also terrible from an astrological perspective. 💀
Plus he’s an alcoholic. The relationship sounds so toxic.
She even admitted her new guy is amazing, loves her (and I seen it in the charts before she said he told her he did and I believe him, it’s obvious) and you’re encouraging her to go beck to her loser ex who treated her like trash rather than the guy who actually loves her. He sounds controlling too (going thru her phone and made her end things with him in front of him etc.) ph but he can cheat on Valentine’s Day 🙄💀.
You should be ashamed of yourself and should not be giving any relationship advice if you think that’s ok.

posted May 04, 2021 11:53 PM            

I am not telling her what to do, I went over the different options she has without judgement. Most people need to feel they tried to fix their relationship before they completely walk away from it so they can feel at peace with their decision. Why are you so invested in her going one way or another? This is why so many women avoid asking their friends for advice on relationships. She doesn't need either of us to tell her what to do, she needs someone to help her process how she feels and explore her options without judgement and she then needs to do whatever feels right to her.

I wouldn't judge her for leaving him or for trying to work things out a final time, this is her life and I get its complicated.

Honestly this feels like the drama triangle, you see him as the villan, her as the victim and you want to rescue her. I don't see her as a victim, she is a strong woman and will figure out what is best for her and no their composite is not awful and I don't like drama triangles so I stop here.