posted July 03, 2021 09:59 AM            

For those who have had such relationships, can you pls share your experience?

posted July 03, 2021 02:38 PM            

I know how it feels like when someone gets too close too fast but when you said he was obsessed, do you mean he became controlling, clingy or stalking you etc? How long were you together btw?

I’ve not experienced a 8H relationship. It was my friend’s composite with her boyfriend which she asked me to read. Neither have 8H planets natally. They also got very close very fast but I wonder how strong their emotional bond is because there’s this vibe she’s giving me which I can’t quite explain.

posted July 07, 2021 05:29 PM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
Hi Laylay
Thanks for sharing your experiences!

I know how it feels like when someone gets too close too fast but when you said he was obsessed, do you mean he became controlling, clingy or stalking you etc? How long were you together btw?

I’ve not experienced a 8H relationship. It was my friend’s composite with her boyfriend which she asked me to read. Neither have 8H planets natally. They also got very close very fast but I wonder how strong their emotional bond is because there’s this vibe she’s giving me which I can’t quite explain.

Why is 8H the house of separations? I didn’t know about this. Did your marriage have similar issues?

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posted July 09, 2021 12:20 AM            

My friend got together with this guy very suddenly. Sexual contact happened very quickly too and was very intense but it didn’t sustain. They still seemed close though, always hanging out together, but I’m not sure if they’re together out of some kind of self-gratification or real love. She was nursing a heartbreak when they met. They didn’t show any interest in each other then suddenly “wham!” they’re together and he started lounging around her house every other day. He knows right from the start they won’t get around to marriage due to their huge age gap and his mom is an obstacle. She used to always think marriage with her exes but with this guy she says she doesn’t care about it as long as they can continue to see each other. I’m not sure if she’s speaking from her heart or in denial.

Then there are other things in their chart which shows that this may be more of a sexual connection than an emotional one. Their Sun & Mars in 8H are conjunct Jupiter (which looks great by aspect) but dampened by an opposite to Neptune. I read that Mars in 8H opposite Neptune (and if they both have strong natal Neptune which they do) indicates a relationship born out of self-gratification than anything else, each trying to satisfy some fantasies. Friends suspect he’s with her for her financial independence which means lesser burden on his end. He has admitted to dating older women for their financial strength vs younger gals. They also have Venus/Chiron in 8H opposite Uranus.

posted July 11, 2021 02:44 AM            

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Originally posted by Eternal Energy:
You wonder if it's bad... I would rather say it's before the 8 House connection and after. The person who is afraid to surrender to this energy is usually the one who cannot go back to how he used to be, to the life he used to have. And this causes him a lot of frustration and a lot of torment. He cannot be at peace, until he feels that connection again. A meeting, a phone call, a message, a touching, a kissing, anything...

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posted July 11, 2021 04:25 AM            

I think 8H is also a very dark house where deep psychological issues can be disguised with having true feelings, e.g. I love you so much I wanna be with you all the time is actually to fulfil some psychological insecurity within me… and I will use you until I don’t need you anymore. My friend has composite Mars in 8H opposite Neptune. I read that this can indicate strong sexual fantasy rather than true emotional connection, especially with Neptune involved.

posted July 25, 2021 01:16 PM            

8th House connections can run the whole gamut from the darkest of the dark, to high levels of Light. And it can swing from one extreme to another, though not in a fast, back and forth Uranian way, but in a slow building up, volcanic transformative or devolution way.

But Eternal Energy is correct in that the two will never be quite the same after. 8th House leaves its marks, for better or worse. Ultimately, you get to decide whether it is for better or worse, no matter what happened or didn't happen.

posted July 29, 2021 01:53 AM            

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Originally posted by GalacticCoreExplosionV2:
These symbols are not static and one size fits all, they are relative and conditional, especially to the attunement of the individuals individually and to the combination of those unique energies that form a greater whole (aka a relationship).

8th House connections can run the whole gamut from the darkest of the dark, to high levels of Light. And it can swing from one extreme to another, though not in a fast, back and forth Uranian way, but in a slow building up, volcanic transformative or devolution way.

But Eternal Energy is correct in that the two will never be quite the same after. 8th House leaves its marks, for better or worse. Ultimately, you get to decide whether it is for better or worse, no matter what happened or didn't happen.

It is hard to put the Water houses, especially the 8th and 12th into words and concrete terms and definitions. That's why we are often left with vague, nebulous, generalized words like "intense, transformative, etc" Because ultimately, it has a lot to do with a combination of emotions, feelings, and deep internal, unconscious processes (even if catalyzed by outside variables) i.e. very right brain type attunements that resist and are very different from, left brain, linear logical analysis. You have to understand them more on a feeling and intuitive level to even start to get a grasp and understanding of them.

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Thanks, GCE. This is the answer I was looking for... and to further explore "what" actually happened that make astrologers say: "few people stay in a 8H relationship". All they say is that it's 'transformative' and 'intense' and I agree these can be good or bad... but because few people stay in it I deduced it must have gradually gone bad? How?

posted July 29, 2021 10:54 AM            

But this doesn't have to, and doesn't always, happen.

8th House shares something with Pluto, in that both are AMPLIFIERS. They take whatever is there and really amp it up.

Both also deal a lot with the shadow i.e. the repressed/suppressed parts of self that we are largely, if not completely, unconscious to. These parts get shoved down into the unconscious because they are too uncomfortable to the ego and self to face. So you can see where these two in concert, could lead to definite challenges and strife in a relationship.