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Miasangel
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posted March 10, 2023 05:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Miasangel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi guys! I'm new to this forum so I hope everything looks correct. Here is our synastry and composite

https://imgur.com/gallery/BBaxnnw

I'm just curious to know what in our chart is making him feel this way and why I don't feel the same. I think he's adorable and sexual attraction is strong for both of us but that's where it ends for me. I care about him a lot but I'm not "in love" However, I do get jealous whenever he mentions other girls ?? I keep a strong poker face though so he doesn't know (he's mentioned before how it feels like I don't care about him) but it's just my pride! Anyway, sorry for the rant. I just want some clarity here lol.

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posted March 10, 2023 10:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Welcome! Remove the "s" after http for the link to work.

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posted March 10, 2023 10:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Miasangel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oops sorry!
http://imgur.com/gallery/BBaxnnw

Should work now, thanks.

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posted March 11, 2023 01:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Librapurr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It would be easier if you specify who is who in charts.

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Miasangel
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posted March 11, 2023 02:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Miasangel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Librapurr:
It would be easier if you specify who is who in charts.

I am blue on the inside and he’s red on the outside.

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vansio
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posted March 11, 2023 03:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for vansio     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
it’s „this way“ because you and him are still teenagers. the prefrontol cortex of the brain finishes it’s development / matures (adult) at 25 years old

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posted March 11, 2023 07:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Miasangel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by vansio:
it’s „this way“ because you and him are still teenagers. the prefrontol cortex of the brain finishes it’s development / matures (adult) at 25 years old

Yes you’re right but I was hoping there may be something found in the synastry itself to explain what’s going on.

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girlwiththerainysoul
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posted March 13, 2023 08:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for girlwiththerainysoul     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
While the terminology of being in love might be different from person to person, based on the feelings you mentioned he arouses in you, seems like you’re also in love with him but don’t know it yet! Lol typical of Aquarius

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posted March 13, 2023 10:21 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for vansio     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
http://www.amazon.com/Young-Women-Only-About-Think/dp/1590526503

this book can explain whats going on (insight). its available for $1.50 in the Used section

wish you the best

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posted March 13, 2023 01:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Miasangel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:
While the terminology of being in love might be different from person to person, based on the feelings you mentioned he arouses in you, seems like you’re also in love with him but don’t know it yet! Lol typical of Aquarius

No, I’m a Gemini and he is a Capricorn. I don’t know honestly I think he’s too boring for me at times but he is a good friend to me outside of the sexual and flirty stuff. You may be right though, maybe I’m just in denial 😂 I guess I’ll see how it plays out. Thank you for the response!

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posted March 13, 2023 01:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Miasangel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by vansio:
http://www.amazon.com/Young-Women-Only-About-Think/dp/1590526503

this book can explain whats going on (insight). its available for $1.50 in the Used section

wish you the best


Thank you Vansio! I’ll make sure to check it out

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posted March 13, 2023 04:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for girlwiththerainysoul     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Miasangel:

No, I’m a Gemini and he is a Capricorn. I don’t know honestly I think he’s too boring for me at times but he is a good friend to me outside of the sexual and flirty stuff. You may be right though, maybe I’m just in denial 😂 I guess I’ll see how it plays out. Thank you for the response!

I know you're the Gemini as you mentioned above, but as you can see your moon is in Aquarius. If you're a female you should also know that women tend to express their moon sun more than their sun sign.

You're very welcome!

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posted March 13, 2023 05:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Miasangel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:
I know you're the Gemini as you mentioned above, but as you can see your moon is in Aquarius. If you're a female you should also know that women tend to express their moon sun more than their sun sign.

You're very welcome!



Oh wow that’s interesting. I didn’t know that actually. Do you know what planet males tend to express?

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posted March 13, 2023 08:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Miasangel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Is there anyone else out there who can help me out a bit? I’m going to drop our birth charts (both times are accurate) and maybe that will help if anyone needs it.

This is mine http://imgur.com/gallery/ReDTlep

This is his http://imgur.com/gallery/kTsRtTX

PLS STOP BEING SHY !!!

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posted March 13, 2023 08:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for StoneMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well here are some highlights:

your ASC ruler sextile his ASC ruler
your DSC ruler trine his DSC ruler
Your moons are trine

His Venus squares your NN- so I think this gives intense feelings but it remains to be seen how it will play out.

In composite, moon Pluto in the first is intense but then it squares mars and that same mars is right on the Venus mercury mp... so I think this is heating things up.

I will say, respectfully, that I agree this is extra intense due to your ages. This is a lot of energy for wisened adults who have had some life experience to harden them. It's possible this is love, but it's also possible this is very challenging energy to maintain for the long haul. And honestly it could be both of those factors. My advice, unsolicited, is to allow lots of time for feelings to develop, express themselves, and for you to grow. Go slow, take time, enjoy the moment, but realize this may not be a forever thing.

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posted March 13, 2023 09:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Miasangel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by StoneMoon:
Well here are some highlights:

your ASC ruler sextile his ASC ruler
your DSC ruler trine his DSC ruler
Your moons are trine

His Venus squares your NN- so I think this gives intense feelings but it remains to be seen how it will play out.

In composite, moon Pluto in the first is intense but then it squares mars and that same mars is right on the Venus mercury mp... so I think this is heating things up.

I will say, respectfully, that I agree this is extra intense due to your ages. This is a lot of energy for wisened adults who have had some life experience to harden them. It's possible this is love, but it's also possible this is very challenging energy to maintain for the long haul. And honestly it could be both of those factors. My advice, unsolicited, is to allow lots of time for feelings to develop, express themselves, and for you to grow. Go slow, take time, enjoy the moment, but realize this may not be a forever thing.


Thank you StoneMoon for your analysis, I will take in your advice as we’ve only been close for 1 1/2 years, so it’s still quite early.

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posted March 14, 2023 02:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for implosions     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
His Venus/Uranus on your Uranus could do it.

He'll already have a thing for the sudden impact of a crush or connection, and its doubled by sitting on your Uranus. This is likely what's fueling the other aspects as well- Uranus contacts feel so exciting and new, so it's likely to fuel a lot.
Especially for him having it natally.

It wouldn't be enough alone, but the similar age range helps as well.

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posted March 14, 2023 02:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for StoneMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well if you have been close that long...

how does he handle anger? Is he impatient? Is he temperamental?

how does he handle disagreements or conflict between the two of you?

does he mention other girls intentionally?

These are things I would consider, specific to your charts and what I saw both individually and in composite.

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posted March 14, 2023 03:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Miasangel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by implosions:
His Venus/Uranus on your Uranus could do it.

He'll already have a thing for the sudden impact of a crush or connection, and its doubled by sitting on your Uranus. This is likely what's fueling the other aspects as well- Uranus contacts feel so exciting and new, so it's likely to fuel a lot.
Especially for him having it natally.

It wouldn't be enough alone, but the similar age range helps as well.


Thank you implosions! As you said he has venus-uranus natally and I’ve read that these people are prone to sudden attraction and then repulsion shortly afterwards. Hopefully I don’t experience any abrupt ending Also, do you think the conjunction being in his first house and being in my 5th holds any significance?

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posted March 14, 2023 03:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Miasangel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by implosions:
His Venus/Uranus on your Uranus could do it.

He'll already have a thing for the sudden impact of a crush or connection, and its doubled by sitting on your Uranus. This is likely what's fueling the other aspects as well- Uranus contacts feel so exciting and new, so it's likely to fuel a lot.
Especially for him having it natally.

It wouldn't be enough alone, but the similar age range helps as well.


Thank you implosions! As you said he has venus-uranus natally and I’ve read that these people are prone to sudden attraction and then repulsion shortly afterwards. Hopefully I don’t experience any abrupt ending Also, do you think the conjunction being in his first house and being in my 5th holds any significance?

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posted March 14, 2023 03:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Miasangel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by StoneMoon:
Well if you have been close that long...

how does he handle anger? Is he impatient? Is he temperamental?

how does he handle disagreements or conflict between the two of you?

does he mention other girls intentionally?

These are things I would consider, specific to your charts and what I saw both individually and in composite.


Omg yes! Sometimes he will mention other girls on purpose and try and get a reaction out of me but it makes me not want to give him one even more 😂 He is a bit temperamental, he gets annoyed easily when I play around too much. We used to argue a bit in the beginning (mostly because of me) but afterwards he would always come back and apologize and if he wasn’t in the wrong he’d come back and try and understand where I was coming from. Doesn’t really have issues with expressing his emotions and being vulnerable, also doesn’t struggle with taking accountability. It’s been a very very long time since we’ve last argued though so things have been smooth sailing.

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posted March 14, 2023 03:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for girlwiththerainysoul     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Miasangel: [/b]Oh wow that’s interesting. I didn’t know that actually. Do you know what planet males tend to express? [/B]

typically their sun, mars and jupiter the most. As well as any other planet that may be conjunct to these.

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posted March 14, 2023 05:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Miasangel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi guys! I think I figured it out. On time passages I saw that there’s a venus-pluto double whammy but they’re in minor aspects.

My venus in sesquiquadrate with his pluto at 0.7 degrees
His venus in quintile with my pluto at 1.6 degrees

I don’t know if these hold any MAJOR significance but I’m aware that venus-pluto aspects are intense. So possibly these aspects + the others mentioned mixing together is what’s causing it.

Thank you guys for all your responses and help <3

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posted April 01, 2023 01:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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