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Topic: Too sensitive to be a good parent?
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ListensToTrees
Moderator Posts: 3235
From: Infinity
Registered: Jul 2005
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posted February 29, 2008 12:03 PM
 
 I'm just deleting because I have a shy nature underneath, believe it or not.  Thanks for all your support, guys.  IP: Logged |
robyn.c
Knowflake Posts: 54
From: england
Registered: Dec 2007
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posted February 29, 2008 01:16 PM
i felt i could cry when i read your post, i identify with it. i cry a lot too. i think most mums feel guilt, that they are not good enough for one reason and another (who can ever be good enough for our children?) i have felt like sending my daughter to her fathers cos im a **** parent loads of times, luckily, he tells me im a great mum and keep on! i expect your ex has faults too, but while hes pointing out yours they dont need addressing. God tied those children to you. dont give up!IP: Logged |
ListensToTrees
Moderator Posts: 3235
From: Infinity
Registered: Jul 2005
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posted February 29, 2008 01:21 PM
Thanks for understanding. I'm glad I'm not alone.I think perhaps, he might be more critical than the average person, a perfectionist. He doesn't fuss or worry like I do, but then that might not always be a good thing either. I think he hates "fussy" women. Thanks for understanding. IP: Logged |
angel_of_hope
Moderator Posts: 1286
From: Palmer, AK
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted February 29, 2008 02:02 PM
LTT! You are not an awful parent because you are sensitive to your children's feelings. Don't let him tell you that, better yet, don't believe what he tells you. You know yourself your a good Mother. You being sensitive to their feelings allows you to be there in ways for them that he never will be. My parents shut off emotions with me (and my sister) they were just there, but not there teaching us, not loving us in ways we both needed ... It's taken me YEARS to find myself and be able to describe the way I feel to others, I'm still learning. I don't know WHAT I feel. If I cried it was the typical "what are you crying for now!?!?" ... it was a bad thing, to them. Most the time I didn't know why I was crying. They never tried to understand me ... and I'd give anything to have a parent be able to understand and be sympathetic to my feelings. As for wanting someone in your life who makes you feel good about yourself .. you do, thats you! You said so yourself, you're able to pick yourself back up and think positively ... only for him to come round and shut you down. Why do you allow that to happen? Why do you allow him to tell you WHO/WHAT you are? You also have your boys, who love you for being you IP: Logged |
ListensToTrees
Moderator Posts: 3235
From: Infinity
Registered: Jul 2005
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posted February 29, 2008 03:14 PM
Thank you, angel Of hope. Wow.
I just found this on another thread:
http://www.inspirationpeak.com/cgi-bin/poetry.cgi?record=143
Daily Acceptance Prayer
Author Unknown I accept myself completely.
I accept my strengths and my weaknesses,
my gifts and my shortcomings,
my good points and my faults. I accept myself completely as a human being.
I accept that I am here to learn and grow, and
I accept that I am learning and growing.
I accept the personality I've developed, and
I accept my power to heal and change. I accept myself without condition or reservation.
I accept that the core of my being is goodness and
that my essence is love, and
I accept that I sometimes forget that. I accept myself completely, and in this acceptance
I find an ever-deepening inner strength.
From this place of strength, I accept my life fully and
I open to the lessons it offers me today. I accept that within my mind are both fear and love, and
I accept my power to choose which I will experience as real.
I recognize that I experience only the results of my own choices. I accept the times that I choose fear
as part of my learning and healing process, and
I accept that I have the potential and power
in any moment to choose love instead. I accept mistakes as a part of growth,
so I am always willing to forgive myself and
give myself another chance. I accept that my life is the expression of my thought, and
I commit myself to aligning my thoughts
more and more each day with the Thought of Love.
I accept that I am an expression of this Love.
Love's hands and voice and heart on earth. I accept my own life as a blessing and a gift.
My heart is open to receive, and I am deeply grateful.
May I always share the gifts that I receive
fully, freely, and with joy. IP: Logged |
angel_of_hope
Moderator Posts: 1286
From: Palmer, AK
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted February 29, 2008 04:13 PM
That's beautiful LTT!! It'd be a nice read as a re-minder each morning! Think I'll print it and hang it on my Vanity at home to see each morning. IP: Logged |
ListensToTrees
Moderator Posts: 3235
From: Infinity
Registered: Jul 2005
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posted February 29, 2008 04:17 PM
I found it on an old thread, MM gave me the link but I hadn't had a chance to look at it until now. 26T found it. Good timing, eh?  IP: Logged |
PixieDust
Knowflake Posts: 152
From: Nahcotta, WA
Registered: Apr 2005
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posted February 29, 2008 04:34 PM
LTT - so sorry you are feeling this way. Our children are apart of us, so we feel what they feel, when they are sad so are we and when they are happy so are we. It's very hard to keep those emotions in check even as they get older and make their way thru life. Mine is almost 26 and I'm still not used to letting go! Don't let anyone say or make you feel like this! You are a wonderful parent! There are many children out there who parents don't care at all! Hang in there!
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Randall
Webmaster Posts: 24905
From: Columbus, GA USA
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted March 01, 2008 09:22 AM
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"There is no use trying," said Alice; "one can't believe impossible things." "I dare say you haven't had much practice," said the Queen. "When I was your age, I always did it for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast." Lewis Carroll IP: Logged |
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