posted March 29, 2013 10:06 PM            

The most touching, down-to-earth, amazing funeral I ever attended was at a Quaker meeting house. I will have to join the Quaker church in time for them to allow this.

I don't want to be cremated, I want to be buried in a pine box on my property, which my children will inherit. They can put wildflowers there if they want.

How about you?

posted March 29, 2013 10:22 PM            

I want to my close loved ones to split my cremated remains so that each may scatter them someplace they've always wanted to go but have never been.

posted March 29, 2013 10:58 PM            

Is my Leo rising too obvious right now...

I want people to celebrate having known me.

posted March 29, 2013 11:09 PM            

I love gems and I'd love to be one someday. Glad you feel it too

posted March 29, 2013 11:13 PM            

Well *hug* I'm sure you will make lots more friends as you go through life!

posted March 30, 2013 12:49 AM            

I guess my friends and family would just think of something they'd think I'd like and do it.

posted March 30, 2013 02:02 AM            

at this point there have been many deaths of former friends (comes when you get older), and other acquaintances have moved away, or drifted wide apart.

Faith, you are VERY intuitive! must be our psyche-sun synastry.... your topics are usually good timing for special things in my life! (just wanted you to know that!)

(today is an anniversary of an acquaintance i held dear in my heart. he played a role in 'validating' me in a surprising way, one day, in front of his group of friends. i never thought he paid that much notice of me. then a few months later, he died. home head accident. cruel attitudes by local medical folk in e.r. here... probably why he insited on leaving that place. he went home, went to bed, and died in his sleep-- his natal Pluto was on his Ascendant, 12th. powerful and a genius talent! quite unique, and sooo kind. magnanimous-hearted friend to all... made a secret difference in my life.

too embarassing for my children to have a mom who lives in poverty. for them, i have been a colossal 'failure'-- an ugly terrible disappointment...

i came to HAVE to accept this about my life. has taken layers of years, and is very very very hard at times when the yearnings come back. it's my deep nature to nurture and care. 'home' is an essential core-true "need" for me. it's been denied, ripped away for whatever karmic reasons...

i recognize that Earth is not my real home... acts like teflon to my desires. i am here for whatever purpose the Soul has. can be sooo sad from time to time, but then i recognize the time to recollect myself and come to center once again.

i have no funeral plans, NOR do i have any plans for leaving the earth sooner than i have to... invested too much time and endured too much pain to quit now.
been like a hermit, with an insecure open opportunity right now to reach out over the internet waves...

because i 'already' KNOW and realize this, i can 'accept' my fate-- doesn't mean i want it to be that way, but it's "how" it is!... it just repeats, and repeats. 'parting' is NOT sweet sorrow at all... so at the 'end' of this life, it may just wind up being between me and God. let the birds eat my flesh, and the rest of my body decay over time laying on top of earth...facing the sky. dirt. earth.

i try now to be a blessing to as many souls as i can effectively be... always trying to do 'one last thing', in case that last thing would BE the last thing i do...

(music) Sissel - "Dido's Lament" (from Dido & AEnaas, HenryPurcell) [art](3:03) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tr1a8A_i9aY

posted March 30, 2013 04:40 AM            

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
Kerosene, you won I take into consideration giving my body to a medical school so I can understand your idea. If you were serious.

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Yeah I know in india some farsi's put their dead in pits like colosseums to feed them to vultures.
I thought that was strangely beautiful even thou everyone else was disgusted.

posted March 30, 2013 10:56 AM            

After my organs are donated, of course.

posted March 30, 2013 03:22 PM            

I wouldn't try to break laws in the scattering of remains, because that is a tricky business enough... realistically, the US (and Canada, as well, I believe) does not allow remains to be exposed in any manner, off of an authorized study site, (anthropology/sciences), and locally there is too much red tape for scattering. The most common method to scatter remains seems to be to carry them into international waters, and I have no liking for being scattered across the ocean as fish food... figure I'd get there eventually as worm food anyway. lol People who dump ashes without the approval of the local, federal - governments are considered criminals. Stupid as that is... But, unlike my own father, I don't want to go out by putting my child in hot waters with the law. >.<; Transporting remains in any form is difficult, I know this for fact after my father's death... the trouble of dealing with his ashes fell to me. But, my uncle made several mistakes and the portion of his ashes that have been given to me were put into a sealed casing... ensuring that I cannot easily scatter them anywhere, which was against his will and last wishes. I do not know if they have scattered anything from his remains, or even if they have them... The whole business fell apart under my uncle's mismanagement.

I cannot donate anything because of my disease, so won't be doing that either, sadly.

My grandmother and I use to discuss even these grim matters when I was a child over and over. My uncle and I are in charge of her will and estate distribution. We both would like to have a funeral that celebrates our death - but, we view it as a reunion. When she passes she reunites with my grandfather, (and her son and brothers and parents). She wants music and laughter, and we'll all be damned if we don't give her it! jkjk!

She hates funerals, so do I... we hate the tears and the sobbing, and never understood the sorrowful aspects about honouring the parted. When fear and pain are gone for that person, we should be happy for them, not sorry for ourselves... Nanna and I always agreed on this.

I think she will probably want to be incinerated now, but she didn't initially.

I don't want to be incinerated, but I do want the same arrangements otherwise.

After my eldest maternal uncle passed away, he was buried in the cemetery that crosses into his property. The family has arrangements to have our grandfather's ashes buried there as well, since my uncle fell sick and everyone couldn't be there in the short time before he fell ill, we never did scatter our grandfather's remains into the ocean. And, the majority of us did't want to to begin with. So his ashes will be placed in the earth beside those of my uncle. My mother has a dual urn for her remains to be buried there with my stepfather's in one plot, I think my grandmother will do the same with her own and my grandfather's (once they're put into the urn). I would like to be buried there as well, if possible. Then, that land will be like our designated family plot(?). ^^

The only two certainties I have with my passing will be that it will not fall to my son to handle everything, and that I will not (NOT) be buried in Canada. If it means getting cremated to make border crossing less expansive and tricky, so be it. But, my remains will be sent home, no matter what.

My brother and I are in charge of my mother's arrangements as well...

By then, I'll have had enough practice in dealing with these matters at least, so I believe... *try to see the up side*

(besides no matter what happens we're all gonna meet up at the great big campground in the sky, those lots are far more important than the earthly ones!) ^^

oh - one more thing - important to my mother and I - We don't care if they're family... they're not getting in if they are wearing jeans. T___T slacks aren't that damn expensive. ^^; (other than that... Nanna and I vote for balloons, music, silly hats, streamers, and confetti - besides... all that happiness keeps "bad spirits" away -from loved ones- in some old superstitions, if memory serves correct!) haha

oh and obviously I don't care about the box... lol When I was very young and didn't understand that there were laws prohibiting it - I wanted to be buried in the earth, nude, wrapped in single, white, linen sheet, and to have a lovely birch transplanted there as the lone marker... but that's fantastic - and not realistic... XD The point is, to me, that the remains are returned to the earth... so whatever box they are put in, doesn't matter to me, never did. I considered mummification as well, from all that Egyptology - but, it is opposed to the reverence of the nobles who were mummified, and not being noble blood, I think that's a bit of both disrespectful of those people, and too fabulous and far too unnecessary/troublesome for common people of today.

SEE - I can be practical and Capricornian! lol --- it just has to come down to death... hahahaha

<3 Faith, love the Quaker funerals too! <3
(don't think my lot/kin could remain very quiet for long - but, the reverence and humility of a Quaker funeral is very appealing!)

posted March 30, 2013 06:14 PM            

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Originally posted by Kerosene:
Yeah I know in india some farsi's put their dead in pits like colosseums to feed them to vultures.
I thought that was strangely beautiful even thou everyone else was disgusted.

I think cremation is really a waste of good fertilizer and coffins are a waste of $$$

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posted March 30, 2013 10:22 PM            

I will be burried in Napanee, Indiana beside my mom, who is still alive and my grandpa, still alive too and my grandma deceased.

It is alovely little cemetary right, smack, dab in the middle of an Amish community.

I want no tears, no sorrow.

I want celebarion of my life and I want each attendee to speak of what they have learned from me and my life.

I dont want a fancy casket, a pine box would be fine too!

I want alot of candles at the ceremony and I want to be burried with soft pillows of all kinds of textures.

I want bluebonnets imported from Texas and wild roses.

I want to wear a gypsy dress.

posted March 30, 2013 10:24 PM            

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Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
Do not want anyone in the funeral industry to make money off of me and my family.
The hell with the funeral industry.

I have no idea how to arrange it;
but would like my remains set in some safe place and load it with explosives and then my remains would be teeny tiny bits for the wildlife to consume and or just vanish into the environment.
Corpse just fed to wild animals would be cool too, left in a tree, known as a "sky burial".
A pyre on a beach would be cool too.
Basically as cheaply as possible and no in the ground nonsense pickled in a hermetically sealed case, so ewwwww ugh.

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Lexx, the Mexicans bury their own on their ranches...they have their own Catholic ceremonies....I think that is very beautiful.

O, and the younger generations dig the graves.

posted March 30, 2013 10:55 PM            

I think (hope) my earthly body would be the last thing on my mind. But I remember reading years ago about burials in which they left the body in the woods for birds and other animals to eat. That appeals to me. I like that idea. My flesh becomes food for other living creatures. or just settles back into the earth natrually...

I think I'd be so relieved to finally shed this stifiling bodily "coat" form, that I would not really care and would prefer it go in a way that was kindest to earth, if anything.

Put me deep in the woods somewhere, please! And leave me alone. Let nature do what it will.

No ceremony, rituals or hooplah for me, thank you. I'd actually prefer to be burned (creamated) and then you can take me to the dump or whatever. At that point, I doubt I'd give a **** . It really wouldnt matter. I was not that important, in the grand scheme. Just dump me of wherever is convienient. It won't matter to me at that point.

.....lemme try to find an article i read recently, that would maybe make people give second thoughts to how their bodies are disposed of....

Green Funeral Options Widen With New Body Disposal Technologies
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/09/13/green-funerals-options_n_1880096.html

not my cup of tea, but something that came up on a radio show i was listening to recently....