posted October 08, 2002 02:10 AM              

Thanks for sharing...
I hope your feeling better. Trust that a better road is ahead, waiting for you to discover.

posted October 10, 2002 01:02 AM              

I personally think that you deserve MUCH more than what Rick is offering you. I don't believe he is your "only" and "best" option.... how sad that would be! Maybe if there were some drastic changes, but really now, come on....

Raj, I think that statement is a bit irresponsible, but perhaps I am interpreting it wrong?? I feel that even if you have found potential in their charts, it doesn't necessarily mean it has to happen. You could have a perfect chart with someone somewhere in the world, but if you never meet them, does that mean you are out of luck because they were your only road and option? No. There are others, most assuredly.

I feel that people have karmic relationships at various points in their life with certain people and there are many levels of soulmates as well. It is up to the individual when they choose to engage or disengage. Obviously in Corri's situation, she is at a higher level of enlightenment than Rick is, so if they are connected spiritually, she will probably have to wait (maybe til next lifetime or later in this one) for him to "catch up", so to speak. If they are in fact twin flames, they will inevitably end up together anyway, so it doesn't matter.

One of my firmer beliefs is that besides balancing karma, physical life is a place to experience joy, fun and happiness. There are enough ways to experience tears and sadness... why bring it on yourself by engaging with another who does not share your ideal of life and love??

Just some thoughts....

posted October 10, 2002 10:18 AM              

i've a pisces sister who went through major heartbreak because she was with the person for about 4 years. cried a lot. lost weight. she's back to 'size' now. bounced back to wacky normal life pretty amazing. so i shake my head and wonder...did that past really happen???

posted October 14, 2002 02:22 AM              

Thanks for the warm sentiment.
You are a wise one for weighing the options in determining your own conclusion. Good Girl!

Sorry your post got terminated when your computer crashed. That has happened to me several times during Mercury Rx. I suppose we are still experiencing some after effects.
Part of your question was "How to get over the feeling of loss?"
There is no simple way to do it Corri. The only way, is to let it take it's course. I have been there, believe me, and I am VERY aware of your feelings.
I know that most people think Libra's are detached, but the truth for me is that I am a very intense, passionate person. I feel with my entire being, and when I love, it is a very deep love, so I understand your dilemma. Trust that there will be other's in your life who will be more healthier for you to depend on when you need a friend to hold you when your down or when life is challenging. Trust that Corri. You are a sweet, lovable woman. I know that as a fact, by the posts you've written.
There is nothing wrong with feeling those emotions and crying. Crying is healthy.
It cleanses your soul and releases the pressure of sadness.
I've had moments of wanting to cry, but couldn't. I know that it is much more healthy to cry and let it out, so when I want to let out a good cry, I take a scenic drive and put on Streisand. She gets me going in no time flat!
Another great song for when your feeling blue and need to feel a little compassion is "Everybody Hurts" by R.E.M. Great song. His voice is amazing!!

posted October 14, 2002 03:19 AM              

I'ma here!

I am out of town right now, but I just wanted to write a little something to ya...

Hmmm, you pose a very good question- HOW do you get over being in love??

Well, as I can only offer you the short version due to time constraint, I'll start by saying that it's hard. *duh*. But there are a few tricks

The best way to do it is to use that same love to let him go. It has been my impression of your situation that he truly isn't in tune with the same level of awareness of peace, enlightenment and love as you are. Your path and his are at a crossroads, and you (being the more aware one) may need to demonstrate pure and unconditional love by just letting go.... so he can grow. In doing so, just know that it may not be forever, (or it may) but that fact should not enter the equation anyway. What you will be doing, in essence, is completely relieving yourself of the mission of "him".... no strings attatched, and with immense love and *honest* well- wishes toward him and whatever his future may bring. You don't need to tell him this or make one last speech about this to him... you just have to do it without needing any acknowledgement about it. It should be *your* decision for *you*, with nothing needing to be got in return. (Just occured to me that I hope this makes sense... )

I have done this before. I have dealt with several broken hearts and break ups where I was a wreck and WAY too emotional, but the very last time I experienced a painful break-up I decided to handle it differently - in the way I just mentioned- because I really wanted to not just know the path of peace and spirituality, I wanted to be it. It made a tremendous difference in my life and patterns, and the best part was that I got over it in time in a much more real way than trying to supress it all. It was hard and teary, I won't lie (Of course then after 6 months, he came running back... they always do, but that's another story! LOL... But the good part was that my love was an example for this person and he transformed his own life *for real* without me and it was SO MUCH more gratifying!)

Anyway, my point is that it's not easy, but should be done with purity of intentions. You need to keep your dreams and growth going. You have the choice and the power to improve the quality of your relationships, and should use it! I can't think of anything more to verbalize at the moment, maybe you can feel me on it all though...

After all is said and done, there is another little "trick" (I guess you could call it that) to getting over love sickness, and that is to place all the imagery and "what-ifs" and oh-but-wasn't-he-sweet-when's TO THE SIDE. You must *really* believe that anything you can drum up about how great it all was is NOT representative of the experience as a whole and should be placed either in a novel or wastebasket until you are out of the woods and have returned to your clarity. hehe.... but I am serious. Especially you being a Pisces, actually no, BECAUSE you are Pisces you should take care to do this. Aquarius shadings or not, Neptune will drown you!

This may seem like a hard task, but if you get into the groove of it, it won't be that difficult. Whenever one of these thoughts or feelings start to creep up on you, let it flow past you and replace it with something having to do with you or your dreams or ambitions. I mean at the firt sign!!! And I don't mean the old-fashioned idea of *keeping yourself busy*-- I'm talking about doing it cuz you realize it is a conscious decision based on knowing what you want in your life. KNOW the reason (Rick), just don't induldge in the thought. (Now, does that make sense?? I can't tell... I'm tired)

Anyway, this was the short version... imagine how complicated I could make it sound for you if I gave you the long one! hehe

Take care and I will keep in touch

posted October 14, 2002 04:16 AM              

You make PERFECT sense! No one could have said it better!
The last relationship I had that dissolved, was dealt with in the exact same manner you describe.
It was much more fulfilling to be able to let go with genuine love instead of animosity. Better karmically too.
The lessons are about being spiritually responsible and taking care of yourself by leaning on your spiritual values and trusting that things will work out with the best of intentions.

posted October 15, 2002 11:38 PM              

Corri: Ya there girlie??

posted October 16, 2002 04:32 AM              

My response is ANYTIME to both of you.

posted October 16, 2002 10:42 AM            

There is a psychological quiz in romance. What would you feel when you see a couple for eg in a beach or a park? Most people would get irritated, some would be fascinated. Those who are irritated usually carry within them a lot of inhibitions, the other group are freer and live with greater happiness.

posted October 17, 2002 05:32 PM              

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He is talking to nobody.

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That is fine, I think. If it's true, he'll eventually grow out of this deception. Corri deserves a truthful man... not one who would lie over seeing someone else.