posted September 22, 2002 01:51 PM              

Have a fun day, Proxie!

posted September 29, 2002 09:35 AM            

In addition, the Synastry confirms it.

posted September 29, 2002 02:23 PM              

I think you intuitively KNOW the answers to this dilemma. We have spoken about it to the degree of bringing it all out to the surface for a thorough evaluation.
The difference between your confusion is IDEALISM VS. REALISM.
This is your LIFE we are discussing here Corri. It is about making right, healthy choices.
There is no need to EVER romanticize an UNHEALTHY situation, period! Do NOT allow other people to influence what you already know intuitively yourself. Take some responsibility to TRUST your intuition. If you are unclear about your intuition, learn to develop it. It will be worth the extra effort, trust me. I have been in situations too, that were beginning to get unhealthy. Regardless, I had to walk away. Otherwise, why be burdened down with other people's baggage? They will eventually destroy your youthful enthusiasm. Why do that to yourself?? That to me is like a slow death.
Many people NEED me and NEED my attention and NEED my expertise with many things.
The thing to do is evaluate the situation. If someone is genuinely asking for assistance, that's okay. It's a healthy request. However, if someone is constantly asking or demanding attention and are too NEEDY to point of unhealthiness, then you must exit, PERIOD!
Again, think about what you want for yourself as well as what you want in life.
When you find the right, healthy situation with a guy your in love with who reciprocates, then and only then should you romanticize your union. Trying to lure someone with unhealthy tactics is NOT the key to happiness. It's like beating a dead horse. Rick has made it so simple for you by claiming his unworthiness to you and has even denied romance with you. Corri, LOVE yourself enough to walk away!
I personally would be upset just for the mere fact that his ego loves watching you dance like a puppet on a string that he is controlling by wanting to keep the door open with you. When will you cut those controlling strings and be your OWN woman?
Again, I am acting only as a mediator in assisting you and urging you the see through clear glasses, not the rose colored ones that deceive.

posted October 01, 2002 02:57 AM              

Of course I am concerned. You asked for assistance and I came to your aide with a loving, compassionate heart and concrete solutions to your dilemma which also included some theories for you to evaluate.
Corri, I understand your need to hold on, but is this HEALTHY?? You know the answers.
Regardless, you have made up your mind to continue your association with Rick who has caused you a lot of grief. A lot of excuses are being made on his behalf. Do you realize this? Your quote "I think that he's going through a period of genuine confusion right now (that impression having been formed b/c of several bits from last week or whole covos that we've had since that I haven't posted), as all people are wont to do. Foremost he's my friend, and I won't abandon a friend - esp when they've asked that I not and have made persistent efforts to re-establish damaged lines. Perhaps I'm being played, but if I am I wouldn't have it any other way. To close myself off to the possibility of sincerity in another's expression is more than I can bear."
Corri, these statements only reinforce what I am trying to point out to you. Can you SEE this? Let me ask you something. Do you truly HEAR what your saying, by making the statement "Perhaps I'm being played, but if I am I wouldn't have it any other way."
Do you realize that this is one of the highest forms of insecurity and SABOTAGE?
Why are you choosing that for yourself darling? You are so much GREATER than that!
Your other statement "To close myself off to the possibility of sincerity in another's expression is more than I can bear."
Hmmm... Why is it that it is MORE than you can bare? Think about this for a minute.
This feeling is associated, not with your Intellectual Center, but with your Emotional Center as well as your HIGH expectations of him Corri.
Also, the "POSSIBILITY of sincerity" doesn't sound too promising to me. It's a bit IFFY don't you think?
Corri, again, I am trying to help you sweetheart. It is pertinent that you see what you are creating for yourself. Perhaps you don't fully understand the concept of what you are creating. It seems that your involvement is also one of codependent nature. However, it is YOUR choice to participate or not, even as the facts are laid out in front of you.
Life is about CHOICES. Bottom line is: If we make Right, Conscious Choices, We Prosper. If we make Bad Choices, We Suffer the Consequences.
Only you can decide Corri, and I believe that you have made that choice.

I wish you much Love. It's been truly a pleasure to assist and enlighten...

Take Care

posted October 01, 2002 02:58 PM              

Bless your heart, you romanticize EVERYTHING! Even when it is UNHEALTHY, due to your personal YEARNING for Magica, who is obviously choosing not to be with you, if she does in fact exist at all in this lifetime or just merely aware of her unborn spirit.
I've watched you blatantly tell people to just go ahead and "Marry" someone regardless of the details of that situation which is so crucial and important. This is not a Game Sir.
Do you not realize the pain you could cause someone by telling them to go ahead and marry someone just because you want to see a Fairy Tale Theme play out? That is NOT reality my friend. It seems you want to live vicariously through the situations of other's for that fulfillment of LOVE you desperately seek with Magica. This is not fair to those people who's heart's and souls are vulnerable. You have no idea of what a woman's needs are, let alone HOW sincere this man's heart is. Corri herself deals with him on a daily basis and is still unsure as to WHAT he feels. He has denied her romantically as well as sexually and she is in love with him. BIG Problem! She asked you to STOP telling her about marriage with him because it's painful for her to hear/see.
We all would like to think that there could be a "Happily Ever After," but we all know that MOST of the time, life does not work out that way. Life is difficult with challenges and obstacles as it is. However, it is LESS difficult when good, common sense and intelligence is applied.
Let's all take off the rose-colored glasses and demand to look reality in the face!
Don't get me wrong. Life is also Beautiful. I am personally LIVING it! Even the challenges are beautiful because I can see with CLEAR eyes.
Also, I am one of the most intensely Romantic people walking the earth, yet it doesn't mean that I am BLIND to FACTS!
When someone worthy and honorable steps up to the plate and is truly READY with an open heart and mind, then and only then should anyone give credibility to that warm, tender soul who reaches out with sincere intentions. Otherwise, there is nothing to fake, and certainly nothing to build on.
If your foundation is weak, in time, it will no doubt, Collapse!

posted October 01, 2002 11:45 PM              

Self destruction is not the key!
Hold your head up HIGH and be responsible.
If you want me to play the parent role right now I will, in telling you to please be careful with your recklessness. Drinking and being out of control is not going to solve your problems. You are trying to take the easy way out by not FEELING. Feeling is important for your growth. Feel it and understand what it means. Driving at top speeds is not sensible Corri. It is dangerous. Why put yourself in that kind of danger over some guy who has even claimed his unworthiness to you? WHY are you punishing yourself? The road to self destruction is a road that leads nowhere darling. WHY are you doing it?
Perhaps you need to seek the assistance of a counselor who can help you further. There is only so much I can do personally over the Internet. I really feel for you sweetheart, and I don't know what to do for you at this moment. I can't even put my arms around you to hug you because of the distance between us. If your still awake, and should happen to read this, I'd suggest you get in bed right now and relax! Allow the intoxication to wear off.
DO NOT DRIVE!!!!

Corri, take care of yourself. Promise me that you will not take the cowards way out by hurting yourself.

Tomorrow, when you are refreshed, you may send me a note if you have any questions okay? Be well...

posted October 02, 2002 09:51 AM            

quote:

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shuddup raj.
he.does.not.love.me.

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is lie.