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Topic: The b*tchin' thread
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proxieme
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posted November 05, 2003 04:41 PM
*looks at above*
*completely and totally relates to all of it*AMEN! IP: Logged |
lioneye68
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posted November 07, 2003 11:53 AM
Help!! My a-hole neighbor is making my life he11!! Last night, my neice was in the basement, trying to put together a desk she bought, you know, one of those inexpensive modular kinds that come in a box?? Well, she was having some trouble getting the screws to go in, so I suggested tapping a pilot hole first with a small nail, which she was doing, and it was working quite well, until, all of a sudden, the a-hole next door began pounding on the living room wall! So, fine...I told them (my niece and daughter) to quit until tomorrow, because it was about 10:15, and *apparently* he goes to bed at 10, (even though the pounding was coming from the living room).So, they gave it up, and were not making any more noise. Then, about 15 minutes later, after they had quit trying to put the desk together, ie no more noise, he starts pounding on my front door. We didn't answer. He pounds some more, even harder and louder. We still didn't answer. He starts "whaling" on the damn door like a freek from he11, so my daughter answered it. He wanted to speak to me. I said "I'm busy" (I was upstairs on the phone)She told him that I was busy, and he says "I don't care". So I make him wait for about 3 minutes, then I come to the door, and he's standing there (in his housecoat) and he goes "How long are we going to keep playing these games?!". And I go, "They were trying to put a desk together. I told them to stop" He goes "How long are we going to keep this up for? It's after 10:00!!" I go "The noise bylaw doesn't take effect until 11:00" (all the while, I'm speaking very calmly, because that's just my style. I don't get worked up easily, plus I certainly didn't want to escalate the situation) He glances at his watch, then goes "So we're going to keep playing these games then, are we? Ok, that's fine" Said in a "Ok, you asked for it" kind of tone. Then, I couldn't sleep last night, because I'm stressed out now! What the heck is he planning on doing next?? Why doesn't the guy move to a house if he can't tolerate normal living noises from his neighbors? It's not like we're having wild parties, with barking dogs everywhere and screaming matches or something...we just do regular stuff that people do in their homes!  AAAAHHHKK!!! I think he's just trying to make himself feel like a big man or something!!! He's making me feel intimidated and stressed out in my own home!  I can't control every noise everybody makes, for God sake! I think I now know why the unit I'm in was vacant in the first place. IP: Logged |
Aphrodite
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posted November 07, 2003 12:05 PM
lioneye tell him to stay away from you, your kid, and your house, or you'll call the police!!! give him a warning, and if he does it again, call the police!!! if the guy really has an issue that has not been resolved with you face to face, he should be talking to the manager (if this is a rental), NOT YOU. you are doing nothing wrong and do not tolerate this man! please do not have anyone from your household open the door or talk to him. just worried  best, amy IP: Logged |
Twin Lady
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posted November 07, 2003 12:21 PM
lioneye, I agree.  This guy sounds like a troublemaker. It might be a good idea to speak to the manager about him; explain what happened and ask him/her to have a word with your "neighbor". If this person continues to harass you, I wouldn't hesitate to call the police! Good luck; please keep us posted. And don't open the door to him again! Take care. IP: Logged |
Harpyr
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posted November 07, 2003 04:23 PM
I am in total agreeance with these two fine ladies. This guy sounds like he's got some wierd power or anger issues. jeez, if he comes and wails on your door again I would call those mounties and have them deal with this freak.
Definetly don't open the door when he's doing that..I'm worried too for you.IP: Logged |
lioneye68
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posted November 07, 2003 05:34 PM
Thanks you guys. Everytime I re-read my post I get stressed out all over again....but, something good has come of it!My sweetie has announced that we should start looking for a place to move to together, when my lease is up in Feb.   He's also worried about this loser, and others out there like him.  IP: Logged |
proxieme
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posted November 07, 2003 05:43 PM
Yeah, LE, he sounds scary beyond belief - and I'd imagine that you would have definite grounds for calling the police if he started banging on your door like that again.
If he tries again, let him keep at it. Call 911 (or the equiv up there) and let them listen to what he's doing - attempted breaking an entering, anyone?IP: Logged |
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Registered: Nov 2003
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posted November 08, 2003 01:45 AM
lioneye. whether u like it or not---LEOS ARE LOUD! a heck loud. i have a leo mom. and as they talk and ven shout a lot they have thier ears ignore the fact that they are actually being loud. sometimes i wonder how they copuld manage. so maybe u should really look forward to know if ur being loud. i have been livivng with 6 leos so far and i know what the heck it is to bear their "its not at all loud. i can barley hear!".
lol
btw, double sag here.------------------
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Harpyr
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posted November 08, 2003 11:15 AM
That's great, lioneye!
The other thing I was thinking was you could invite your sweetie over for the night and finish putting together that shelf then. When your aggro neighbor comes bangin again you could see how he reacts to a man opening the door!IP: Logged |
Aphrodite
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posted November 10, 2003 02:09 PM
to continue in spirit . . .i just hope and pray i find someone who will want to be happy with me and find my quirky uranian peregrine ways adorable. i am a lovable and open sweetheart having a trying time with dating. i keep hitting my head on brick walls and am running out of band aids. help! 
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lioneye68
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posted November 12, 2003 02:14 PM
Hearing ya loud and clear on that, Aph.  There's just not enough quality single individuals, (male or female) in the world today... That's why, if you find one, you grab on and hold on to them for life!!  IP: Logged |
proxieme
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posted November 12, 2003 04:18 PM
My completely un-resolveable rant of the day:Gah, I'm scared over so much lately.
I'm scared
- about being very pregnant.
- about giving birth.
- about being a Mom (!!!).
- that Jase will have changed a huge amount the next time that I see him.
- that Jase won't know how to react to my
new pregnant self.
- that Jason and I won't be able to reestablish *cough* intimacy after the last months of pregnancy, birth re-coup, and being new parents.
- that I'll never get the things done in my life that I wanted to get done.
- that Jase will never get the things done in his life that he wanted to get done.
- that one or the other or both of us will both feel trapped. *breathes*
Yeah, OK - I'm mostly afraid that Jase'll change too much, that I'll have changed too much, that we'll feel like strangers, that...s**t, everything. And these fears are probably normal, but the thing is that I can't discuss them with, even vent them to, Jase - he's in training right now & stressed out an enormous amount in his own right. He doesn't need anything else to stress him out or make him worry.
*tries not to curl up into a ball* IP: Logged |
Oxychick
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posted November 12, 2003 04:25 PM
Hey Corri,I know you don;t want to feel like you're adding to his stress, but believe me, it sounds like you have been sharing everything with each other. Tell him your fears-otherwise you will create walls. Your fears may also be his fears, and as such, it may alleviate some of the stress by sharing them. Does that make sense? (<----convoluted Mercury in Aquarius over here) A lot of strong relationships tend to go sour when people stop communicating. Just my onion.  IP: Logged |
trillian
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Registered: Mar 2003
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posted November 12, 2003 04:33 PM
I have to echo Oxy's onion, even knowing your Jason doesn't care much for onions. You two seem to have such great open communication...don't let it go. I'm no expert on relationships, but letting that sort of stuff simmer inside of yourself can't possibly be good for you or your relationship. Corri, I know things are rough for you right now, but good things await. I know it.
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lioneye68
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posted November 12, 2003 04:46 PM
even if every single one of those things came true, you would still be you and life would go on. Corri, you'll never be alone, and lacking love in your life.Go ahead and fear the worst... then suck it up and forge ahead anyway. What choice do you have? You're visiting the pregnant lady's "emotional fun-house" right now, arent' you. Stay away from those distortion mirrors, Prox...things can feel more scary than they are in reality.
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proxieme
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posted November 12, 2003 05:30 PM
Thanks ya'll.
Yeah, I'm just having pregnancy ickies and then feeling down b/c I can't talk through with them w/ Jase as they happen. There's also a bit of mourning for the me that's passing away thrown in there - but, hey, the rebirth that'll come with this birth'll probably be better in 10,000 ways, anyhow.He really is going through so much in BCT right now, though. He might get a chance to call on Thursday (one of his nicer drills heard that I'm going to the doctor then and may find out the sex of the child); I'll ask him then if he thinks that he'd be able to handle a pretty down letter from me and go from there. Bah, I'm feeling a little better now, though - do you know that song, "In the Summertime" or something along those lines sung by some group? Yeah, that one.
OK, so I'm not so great at names; but it's really good & it was playing on the radio while I was driving into work a few minutes ago.
Really.
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Harpyr
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posted November 12, 2003 06:05 PM
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There's also a bit of mourning for the me that's passing away thrown in there - but, hey, the rebirth that'll come with this birth'll probably be better in 10,000 ways, anyhow.
True, the rebirth of onesELF can be incredibly fruitful but I think it's really important to acknowledge the part of you that is going the way of the past. REally allowing yourself to mourn that part and not just pushing those emotions down is important. I did alot of mourning for that youthful part of myself and I think that helped divert the post-partum depression that plagues so many women. Granted I still experienced it somewhat but it wasn't as bad as others get it. I think there's some excercises or rituals in a book of mine that may help, I'll go dredge them up and share them if you like.. IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
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posted November 12, 2003 07:24 PM
Proxieme~I'm scared - about being very pregnant.
*That IS scary! Your body does things more like science fiction than real life... But it is the most interesting, rewarding thing you will ever do... just think, Your life housing another's life. It is so magical mysterious and primal, it IS scary. Good point about the re-birth too! - about giving birth.
* Everyone has different experiences with this. Both my children were different experiences, not alike at all, in terms of their birth. But even though it is indescribable, it is such a feeling of power and connectedness, you are so enlightened already, you will ( at least AFTER) probably liken it to the most spiritual experience of your life. - about being a Mom (!!!).
* You will be an awesome mom. After all, this baby chose you and Jason for a reason, right? Just realize you are allowed to make mistakes, and you will be fine. - that Jase will have changed a huge amount the next time that I see him.
* You will be too busy loving each other's renewed presence for that to be a factor! New experiences will only reinforce and enrich your union. - that Jase won't know how to react to my
new pregnant self.
He will enjoy your gorgeous belly, and if your thighs get a bit rounder, it's okay, as you need that for breastfeeding, and it goes away.... your body knows what it's doing. - that Jason and I won't be able to reestablish *cough* intimacy after the last months of pregnancy, birth re-coup, and being new parents.
*At least for me, the last few months of pregnancy were great for orgasms.... sure, it was funny, and positions had to be creative, but all the increased bloodflow gave me some of the best times of my life.  Birth recoup..... you'll be too busy for that to be an issue, and it'll re-establish itself.... maybe even in new expressions. Don't worry about marathon sessions, every relationship evolves, you WILL get it back. - that I'll never get the things done in my life that I wanted to get done.
*You can and will do all you want. You have more motivation now than ever. Somedays you just may have to wear a baby sling to do it, or hire a babysitter. - that Jase will never get the things done in his life that he wanted to get done.
*Ditto.You love him and support him, he loves your baby and yoursELF....'nuff said! - that one or the other or both of us will both feel trapped.
*Maybe, one day, you will go through that. Just deal with that when it happens, be open and honest. Everything moves and changes, but if you embrace the amazing moments, the future is lived during them...... you know? *breathes*
Yeah, OK - I'm mostly afraid that Jase'll change too much, that I'll have changed too much, that we'll feel like strangers, that...s**t, everything *You rock...... I love that you are such a strong chick, and still you have the issues that everyone faces. Be afraid, be very afraid.... It reminds you what you love most in life. I just wanted to respond to each one of your points, and let you know they are valid and real, but tomorrow is a new day, and maybe they will feel less harsh then too. Good luck...
You had so much positive response, and your own comments were great. I know you will be perfect!
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lioneye68
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posted November 16, 2003 11:52 PM
Speaking of that, did I mention that the night before i went into labor, my teenage neighbors were having an all night rock till you drop party? I got about 4 hours of sleep that night (or morning actually), then woke up in labor at about 10:00am. May 13th 1990 (mother's day)By 10:00pm I was a mommy.Yeah, so my a-hole neighbor called the cops on my daughter and her freind on Friday night. They were giggling and yelping and just being roudy 13 year olds, at about 11:00, and he called the cops. I wasn't home to come and rag on, so he called the cops... who were apparently very nice and almost apologetic to the girls. But they did warn them that excessive noice could result in a fine, so they should keep that in mind.
God, I hate my neighbor. I wonder how he'd feel about having MY neighbors who have 4 kids between 10 and 15 years old! He wants to hear a loud neighbor! Sheesh! The guy has to realize he lives in a townhouse...there's going to be noise from the neighbors sometimes. It's the 1st noise he's heard from us for over 2 weeks, 2 teeny boppers giggling and being silly. Geez, I need to get back into a house. My kid is not cut out for townhouse or apartment living. Neither is that dickhead next door actually.
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pixelpixie
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posted November 17, 2003 01:52 PM
GEEEEZ!! Good luck with that doofus, Lioneye. He sounds like a real prize. At least you have it in perspective. He probably hates his life and takes it out on undeserving people all around him who he can 'bully' and have some 'authority' with. Just keep your sense of humour about it, and know you are doing nothing wrong, it's him. If you feel threatened, you too can go ahead and phone the police, as he seems to enjoy doing, only, you have a better reason, harassment!IP: Logged |
ozonefiller
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posted November 17, 2003 02:23 PM
Maybe he is trying to get with you LIONEYE,how does he look,does he ware those nasty T-shirts with holes in them with brown stains under his arms?Does he need a hair transplant harvested from his back,shoulders and arms? How's his diet,does his breakfast come in cans that say Anheuser-Busch on them? IP: Logged |
lioneye68
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posted November 17, 2003 03:11 PM
Thanks, Pixle...You always have something encouraging to counter our "bi*ching" with...you're awesome in this thread. Actually, you're just awesome. Ozone well, not exactly...but he's is a muscle-bound army looking type of guy. Shaved head, no neck, rides his bike everywhere even though we have snow and ice on the ground already, and looks a little like Boris Carloff as Drakula. EEK! He's a scary looking dude. But his voice is really mousey and soft and wimpish. Weird. IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
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posted November 17, 2003 05:06 PM
Thank you! Keep the b!tching coming though......
One day, I'll want to share a big gripe too! IP: Logged |
proxieme
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posted November 17, 2003 10:13 PM
Geez, too bad ya'll don't have brick between your units - you could napalm his house or something.IP: Logged |
proxieme
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posted November 17, 2003 10:40 PM
P.S. - Lioneye: Do you mean bike like, "Ding, ding, I'm off of my training wheels," or bike like, "Vroom, vroom, I'll make you think that you're going to hit me on the highway because I rarely if ever follow traffic guidelines,"?IP: Logged | |
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