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Topic: My kiddy's behaviour
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leoelf
Knowflake Posts: 574
From: In My Head
Registered: May 2005
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posted July 02, 2005 02:11 PM
 
I need advice from some of the mom's here about what to do when you have a child who WILL NOT listen and constantly throws tanrums and will SCREAM to the top of his lungs if he doesn't get his way.
Sigh . . .I tried time out, the spank on the hand/butt, everything!
He will be three on the 7th.
It seems as if he's gotten worse.IP: Logged |
LostInStrangeWorld
Knowflake Posts: 195
From: Bristol, England
Registered: Mar 2005
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posted July 03, 2005 07:38 AM
Hi honey! I know what you mean! Gosh!It could be his age; he could be having 'the terrible twos' a bit later; it could be a number of things, too numourous to mention. 'E' numbers, for example can sometimes affect kid's behaviour. Personally, I've found that if my boy is stressed and I allow myself to get stressed, it makes it worse, sort of like 'fighting fire with fire'- same thing. The best thing is to stay calm. Sometimes just a cuddle will calm some kids. If it doesn't, then make sure there's nothing the kid can hurt him/herself with, and leave the room. What they want is attention- if they get it, then they'll learn that that's the way to get it- so don't give it! Thirdly, distraction. Distract them away from what it was they couldn't have, get them interested in something else. Kids love music. It's a great healer. As is nature and sunlight.. Hope that helps. Blessings- and good luck! LOL! We parents can all relate to you, sweetie! P.S. I just posted you a message on my long 'native' thread- please read Future_Uncertain- Good to see you! IP: Logged |
future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 2681
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted July 03, 2005 08:01 AM
Hi Leoelf!My baby is five now, but we've had a rough couple years. He's a strong-willed one, and it sounds like you've got the same thing on your hands. The only thing I can suggest is patience, persistence, and lots of love. This is a difficult time for him, too. He's learning that he is his own person and that he has to relate to others. A difficult lesson even for adults! Have you ever read Dr. Sears? I found his methods to be very helpful, and even if you don't prescribe to his techniques, he has a good understanding of the child's psyche. It's worth a look! Good luck to you!  IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 8591
From: former land of the leprechaun
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted July 03, 2005 08:52 AM
Hi Leoelf,How are you girl? Our son is 6 now and OMG he nearly drove us mad (still does at times), he used to rage, not sleep, not co-opearate at all. Hes a will of steel and at times he brought me to my knees. I think the problem is when they are small, they cant tell you what is up and so it is hard for child and parent. Theres no answer, just to be as loving and patient as you can and PRAY a lot, that always helped me. Unlike some people, I do believe it gets easier as they grow older - our little boy still challenges us most of the time, but we can reason with him now, it feels different, more easier to handle, thank God - love and luck to you Sue xx IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Knowflake Posts: 5301
From: Ontario Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted July 03, 2005 10:05 AM
My daughter is extremely challenging as well.. and we are working through it and still going through it.
You can *almost* reason with her now.. though not all the time, or in every circumstance. *But before? Fogettaboudit
I don't have advice because if I did, I'd be feeling much better about my self and my motherhood, than I am.
But sometimes it's nice to hear "You are not alone."
..........and in this case, it isn't aliens, it is our own little otherworldly creatures that we'd sacrifice our everything for...
I'm with you.....IP: Logged |
leoelf
Knowflake Posts: 574
From: In My Head
Registered: May 2005
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posted July 03, 2005 11:39 AM
I find that now I'm afraid of him LoL
But is isn't funny though! I'm afraid when I know I have to say no to him LoL.Thanks guys for your help and yes, it's great to know you aren't alone. :grins: IP: Logged |
LibraSparkle
Knowflake Posts: 6034
From: Vancouver USA
Registered: May 2004
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posted July 03, 2005 01:05 PM
Hey Sugar,If I were you, I would be sure NOT to give him any attention (negative or positive) while he's screaming. He can scream in his room. Drag his butt there if you have to. The common areas of the house are not acceptable places for having a fit. That's where I would start. Whatever you do, DON'T give into him when he has a fit to get his way. If he begins to throw a fit... the answer is DEFINITELY NO now. Sorry for ya little buddy. This was about the same age I set my kids up at the grocery store. I went in planning on leaving my cart if they had a fit... sure enough, the fit came right on schedule. We parked our cart (without a word- only the look) and we went home where they stood in time-out for misbehaving. If you consistently show him this behavior doesn't lead to anything positive, it will stop sooner than you think. If you give in ONE time, the behavior will continue on and on because he thinks you just might give in again. Fits and any other undesirable behavior have to be unacceptable ALL THE TIME. There's my 2¢. IP: Logged |
Tranquil Poet
Knowflake Posts: 1360
From: New York City
Registered: Apr 2005
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posted July 03, 2005 01:30 PM
leo elf you sohuld watch that show called the nanny.
I forgot what channel and what time. I just know its not cable. the regular channels.
They really show u some need british nanny tricks 
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leoelf
Knowflake Posts: 574
From: In My Head
Registered: May 2005
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posted July 03, 2005 02:20 PM
Great Advice 
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LibraSparkle
Knowflake Posts: 6034
From: Vancouver USA
Registered: May 2004
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posted July 03, 2005 02:43 PM
My kids love to watch those Nanny shows  . They are always blown away by the behavior of some of those kids. You can tell by their reaction it had never occured to them to behave such a way. They say it helps them to know they are very good little girls... even if it takes them three days to clean a room that should take less than an hour  . IP: Logged |
LostInStrangeWorld
Knowflake Posts: 195
From: Bristol, England
Registered: Mar 2005
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posted July 03, 2005 04:44 PM
I know what you mean by being afraid to say no, cos our little angels sure know how to make a noise!Actually those nanny shows are very popular over here- that's where I got my ideas! IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 8591
From: former land of the leprechaun
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted July 04, 2005 12:36 PM
Libra Sparkle.You made me smile when you said "good little girls" - my mother always used to say "oh you are such a good little girl our Susan" and OMG all the time I was dying to be a BAD one - he he. As I got older the "good little girl" turned into "you are a little devil", and now she just shakes her head in disbelief (mixed with a little admiration I hope)!! Love to one and all Sue  xx IP: Logged |
LibraSparkle
Knowflake Posts: 6034
From: Vancouver USA
Registered: May 2004
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posted July 04, 2005 01:15 PM
Uh Oh! Does that mean my good little girls are dying to be bad?J/K... I'm sure they'll be okay. Gosh... what kind of bad stuff will they do?! What will I shake my head in disbelief at? Hopefully it's just goofy antics. They finally got their room cleaned!  We decided it was time to initiate grounding. We gave them until 6 PM to get it done. If by 6 PM it wasn't done, they would be grounded from everything for three days. Come 6 PM the next day (today), if the room wasn't clean, we would add another three days... and so on. Not even an hour went by from the end of the conversation and the completion of the room.  Little twits. I guess we are in a new phase. Grounding seems to be what is effective now. IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 8591
From: former land of the leprechaun
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted July 06, 2005 05:24 AM
Dont worry LS, all kids (whether when they are young or older) do bad things, if they didnt they wouldnt be NORMAL (I used that word in caps cos my lovely conventional mother said to me not long ago "just be normal"). Well maybe I shouldnt say bad, just rebellion, I suppose. My 53 year old sister says of her two sons "my kids will never rebel, theyve nothing to rebel abou.................W H A T??? Behind her back her 13 year old said to me "I am trying to rebel, but am find it hard" - LOL - poor lad. I said to him, you either do it or you dont. He wants long hair and his extremely strict father keeps cutting it!!!!Kids are great arent they and the thing is parents think they teach them all they know........mmmmmm, since becoming a mother I am beginning to think it could be the other way round.......now I know what that psychic guy said to me when he told me that I wouldnt know myself till I had my son......true, very true.........Love to you and your girls xxxx IP: Logged |
Sweet Like Acid
Knowflake Posts: 55
From:
Registered: May 2005
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posted July 07, 2005 04:41 PM
He just needs more of me! Lil turkey awwww happy birthday! Only 13 years to go  IP: Logged |
leoelf
Knowflake Posts: 574
From: In My Head
Registered: May 2005
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posted July 07, 2005 08:24 PM
Hey, don't read only my threads, wtf, isn't that kind of invading????IP: Logged |
LibraSparkle
Knowflake Posts: 6034
From: Vancouver USA
Registered: May 2004
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posted July 07, 2005 08:35 PM
 Huh?IP: Logged |
Aphrodite
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From:
Registered: Feb 2002
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posted July 07, 2005 09:05 PM
Happy 5th Birthday to Leoelf's son  IP: Logged |
leoelf
Knowflake Posts: 574
From: In My Head
Registered: May 2005
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posted July 07, 2005 10:52 PM
LoL I was talking about Sweet Like Acid whom is my bestest friend in real life and in the whole wide world   She's peeping all my threads, dammit.
What if someone peeped through her threads, would she like it? IP: Logged |
leoelf
Knowflake Posts: 574
From: In My Head
Registered: May 2005
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posted July 07, 2005 10:54 PM
Thank's Aphrodite LoL, umm, He's kinda gonna be 3 though  IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Knowflake Posts: 5301
From: Ontario Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted July 08, 2005 02:17 AM
Happy birthday Leoelf's baby!!!!!!
*hey mama, show him the pretty balloons!
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sue g
Knowflake Posts: 8591
From: former land of the leprechaun
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted July 08, 2005 02:32 PM
Happy 3rd birthday to little one of Leolf Hey, what did that comment mean Sweet Like Acid, felt a bit weird to me and inappropriate, why did you do that ? IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 8591
From: former land of the leprechaun
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted July 08, 2005 02:32 PM
Happy 3rd birthday to little one of Leolf Hey, what did that comment mean Sweet Like Acid, felt a bit weird to me and inappropriate, why did you do that ? IP: Logged |
Thorshammer
Moderator Posts: 1026
From: salt lake city, utah, USA
Registered: Nov 2004
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posted July 08, 2005 02:36 PM
Three, the number of Jupiter..luck..hey whoop the boys booty!!!!!! u know the call!!!! LOL, JUst kidding..lol. IP: Logged |
leoelf
Knowflake Posts: 574
From: In My Head
Registered: May 2005
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posted July 08, 2005 07:12 PM
Sue g,
That was another inside joke Which I asked her not to because it confuses people. IP: Logged |
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