posted September 21, 2005 08:15 PM         

They say, at school, that the kids should spend no more than 20 minutes on a homework. If only! When Josh and I sit down with his homework, we're still there an hour later - because of his handwriting. It just doesn't come naturally to him at all. And we've spent the whole Summer break going through handwriting books. I'm wondering if he's dyslexic but my mum thinks he is just a slow starter and will catch up.

The worst thing they made the kids do, last year, was write a project on any topic to be at least five pages. This at the age of six. I was horrified! Josh can barely write a sentence let alone a five-page project. One cosy chat with his teacher later and we had permission for him to type his project on the computer. Phew! So, he handed in his five-page project on his fave subject 'Aircraft' nice and on time. All his own work. He's good with the computer.

He gets to do sand writing at school to practice forming letters with his finger in sand as it's easier than holding a pencil. We have a big chubby one for him at home. It's an uphill struggle but we're getting there.

Touch

posted September 21, 2005 11:37 PM         

sue g.....your advice was awesome. I called the school and have an appointment on the 4th of Oct. Just to have a friendly chat, of course.

I agree with what you said about some taking longer to get started. My Auntie's youngest boy always struggled in school, even in Kindergarten. Barely made it through high school. Guess what he is a doctor now! He just had to get out of the confines, and do what he wanted! Auntie was like your mom, just do your best, and she always believed in him!

posted September 22, 2005 03:44 AM         

I am delighted to hear that.......will wish you good luck....am sure you will come from the and will be listened to...

If ever I can help in any way girl, please dont hesitate to ask, would be a pleasure

LOve to you and yours

posted September 22, 2005 03:48 AM         

I think its so importnat to communicate with teachers. Touch...you are proof of tht girl....good for you, well done, your son will benefit from your courage...

Our words will get thro and eventually the system will change for the better

God bless us all

posted September 22, 2005 01:20 PM         

Okay I studied this years ago and now I met a woman who is working with our son.....she uses colour and toning (sounds vibrating to the chakras to move energy along)....she is based in England, but I could ask her to maybe point you in the right direction...where do you live, if you dont mind me asking.......

You were on my mind this morning....I was thinking how I could help, so the main message for ME was to help our son,I have to carry on with my healing process too.......I have gotten a a strong sense of my identity during the last year or so....mixing with good people and really opening up to myself...I feel my inner power manifesting....please forgive me if I speak out of turn girl,,,,,but do you sometimes go thro shifts in your identitiy....do you know what i mean....I was like this before. I used to listen to too many others instead of myself.....I dont know really, but I think it ties in with the mother thing. The child sees the mother STRONG and then their healing path becomes easier.....just a thought girl....please ask away about anything if you think I could help....anything at all....would be honoured to help.

Love

posted September 23, 2005 03:31 AM         

I am gonna try and find out the website address for the woman who is does the healing work, and get back to you when I can....

LOve Sue

posted September 23, 2005 08:36 AM         

ILove, you're welcome! Good luck!

Sue, I love to hear about your parenting experiences. You are such a magical person. Your son and your husband are so lucky to have you.

LibraSparkle... Girl... You are uber-mom! I agree with what you said about being parents instead of friends (I'm not talking about nice balances like Sue has achieved.) My son's father insists that he is going to be Jesse's best friend, and he crosses the line between adult and five year-old child and my son is suffering for it. He goes there every other weekend and every time he comes back it takes about a whole day before Jesse relearns to watch his mouth with me and be respectful.

I get him at six on those Sunday nights and his bedtime is eight. Just last weekend my boyfriend and I rented a movie so the three of us could sit and watch the movie together, just to reconnect, no pressure. From the time I picked my son up he was rude and disprespectful.

I let him watch the movie, but I made him watch it alone. I simply said, "I don't spend my time with people who don't respect me, so I'm choosing not to be around you while you watch the movie."

It certainly upset him, but I think he learned more from that than if I had only taken the movie away.

It's tough to be the "bad cop" sometimes, but by bedtime he was ready to make ammends.

posted September 23, 2005 08:46 AM         

.....it is at times a bloody nightmare isnt it? LOL !!!

I am so insistent on good manners and respect......maybe I put too much emphasis at times on it, I dont know.....but from what his teacher says, hopefully our son is learning well.

At the moment I am trying to teach him to tidy up after himself....I explained I am his mother, not his slave LOL.....he really does try....and sometimes says "I am sorry mum for making you work so hard".......the love is shining out of him......he is very respectful of others. The other day when he was doing his homework he burst out crying and said "I hate you for making me do this"......and I said "I know you dont really, coz I used to say that to my Mummy'......"oh mum, I am so sorry" he replied..........aaahhhh I feel he is gonna be a very nice man and one of my "dearest friends". I always did love SCorpios he he he !!!

God bless all who walk down the path of parenting.........

posted September 23, 2005 08:48 AM         

Thanks girl for your kind words....I too feel your family are very lucky to have you too.....

posted September 24, 2005 08:27 AM         

The lady who is treating our son gave a lecture a few weeks ago and one of her first comments was "if mothers do not find and use their creativity, they can eventually become ill".......she looked straight at me when she was saying it. No word of a lie girl, if I didnt sing, play my instrument and get out from time to time, I would have gone MAD......in one sense, my spirit is freer now than ever, I, thro the struggles KNOW who i really am......I think this will come with you too, especially towards your 40th year!

I thnik its so important for women to have a bit of their own space when they can......to have fun. maybe you could pray very specifically for what you need........focus......ask.....as tho it has happened...try it girl....it works for me.

I have found an email address, the lady who I speak of, I think is based here.....if not....I know there is the past life therapist Ive worked with there. So the woman you are after is called Jennifer Waters (she works specifically with kids)......the email address is hopecentre.hebdenbridge@connectfree.co.uk. If you ask her for recommendations in Florida, she may be able to help.

Good luck......let me know how you get on. I am sure in the states there would be an abundance of therapists who do this type of work.......its just a matter of getting the right one.

With your little Scorpio boy, I know you dont need telling this, give him lots of love, tell him he is loved, as Plutos children we need that....tell him how wonderful he is, and how proud you are of him,......a lot if you can......I tell my son how I can see him shining.......... cos he does........very brightly

God bless

Love to you

Sue G xxxx;love:xxxx