posted October 20, 2006 11:11 AM         

Why do guys just want me for my looks (and nothing else), and why do I only seem to attract guys who want an FWB, rather than someone who would actually appreciate seeing me at least twice a week? I can't help being good-looking - but they fail to appreciate that I do actually have feelings!

What am I doing wrong?

posted October 20, 2006 12:12 PM         

Also beauty is only skin deep. There are a million goodlooking women walking around. I don't think being so good looking has anything to really do with a man totally staying. Yes that is what attracts most but not totally what keeps them.

You sound like me about 15 years ago I was and still am very attractive to the opposite sex and kept men around me all the time but seemed to be having the same problem that you are having.

posted October 20, 2006 12:41 PM         

Seriously though, for a lot of blokes, the heat is off once they have you in the sack....

I would make them wait as long as ye can!!!!!

That is REALLY hard when you are passionate too....but I honestly think if I was single again, I wouldnt be so eager to give myself to a guy, so quickly!!

Good luck sweetie...

posted October 20, 2006 01:23 PM         

Here's the logic:

1.Any guy worth his salt who likes you for you will stick around forever, and won't care if you ever have sex with him.

2. Any guy not worth his salt will get bored and move on after he realizes you're not gonna sleep with him right away. These men I like to call slutwhores.

posted October 20, 2006 01:24 PM         

It's a cliche but true... they'll be after you as soon as you stop going after them

posted October 20, 2006 03:49 PM         

"""So all you have to do is not give into their pressure. Be a diva about it, say "nuh uh no way honey" and wave ur hand in the air"""

posted October 20, 2006 04:36 PM         

Sue, you remember that, right? Scorpio brothel...lol

posted October 20, 2006 07:25 PM         

the answer to that could maybe be found in your astrology chart .. as in .. what do the guys think they see .. or what might you be subconciously projecting .. .. where or in what sort of social enviroment do you meet these guys .. ... i can appreciate what your saying as i've come across that as a guy .. as in realising the lass just wanted me for the physical sex .. which is a bit of a turnoff for moi .. ... ... or .. ... .. is it a case of the motivation being sexual physical pleasure and resulting in dissapoinment due to one thing or another .. i mean there are things in that department that can have folk avoiding each other when it comes to shagging .. if the sexual experience was akin to watching wet paint dry would there be motivation for wanting more ? .. i shall avoid a list of sexual turnoffs for now .. .. is alchohol involved here ?? i mean are they p****d as newts by the time it comes to that precious moment .. are you somewhat drunk when you go to it ??

** What am I doing wrong? ** .. saying Yes to the wrong type maybe ?? ..
from the point of realy knowing what your doing in the sack .. apart from experience .. this aint such a bad starting point .. it's a book called " Sexual Energy Ecstasy by David and Ellen Ramsdale" .. Bantam New Age Books ... .. if the query is why do you attract guys who just want a shag and nowt more .. then have a good look at how you might come accross to them when meeting up initialy .. .. what age group are the guys generaly ???? .. are they the type to read the back pages of the sunday tabloids ?? .. i mean generaly speaking what sort of guys are they ???

if it's an emotional relationship plus good sex your looking for .. then choose the guys carefully and make sure they know what you want or don't want beforehand .. make them wait .. don't say 'yes yes yes' at a moments notice .. spend time to find out exactly what their motivations for getting to know you are .. .. the path to a mans heart is not always via what lays between his legs .. although much of the media output would have one thinking so ...

posted October 20, 2006 11:02 PM         

quote:

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Be a diva about it, say "nuh uh no way honey" and wave ur hand in the air.

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posted October 21, 2006 12:14 AM         

Here's your new song, beautiful:

Don't Tell Me

"You held my hand
and walked me home,
I know
Why you gave me that kiss
It was something like this
and made me go ooh ooh

You wiped my tears,
got rid of all my fears
Why did you have to go?

Guess it wasn't enough
to take up some of my love
Guys are so hard to trust

Did I not tell you
that I'm not like that girl,
the one who

gives it all away, yeah..

Did you think that I was gonna give it up to you,
this time?
Did you think that it was somethin' I was gonna do
and cry?
Don't try to tell me what to do
Don't try to tell me what to say
You're better off that way, yeah

Don't think that your charm
And the fact that your arm
is now around my neck
Will get you in my pants,
I'll have to kick your ass
And make you never forget

I'm gonna ask you to stop
Thought I liked you a lot
But I'm really upset (really upset)
Get out of my head,
get off of my bed

Yeah, that's what I said

Did I not I tell you
that I'm not like that girl,

the one who throws it all away

Did you think that I was gonna give it up to you,
this time?
Did you think that it was somethin' I was gonna do
and cry?
Don't try to tell me what to do
Don't try to tell me what to say
You're better off that way, yeah

This guilt trip that you put me on
Won't mess me up,
I've done no wrong
Any thoughts of you and me
have gone away

Did you think that I was gonna give it up to you,
this time?
Did you think that it was somethin' I was gonna do
and cry?
Don't try to tell me what to do
Don't try to tell me what to say
You're better off that way, yeah

you're better off that way

I'm better off alone anyway"

posted October 21, 2006 10:44 AM           

quote:

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'if you want my body then make love to my mind'

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LOVE THIS QUOTE!!! Nothing is hotter than someone who can mentally stimulate me....

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"WHATEVER the soul longs for, WILL be attained by the spirit"

"Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation"

posted October 21, 2006 11:28 AM         

I love that quote too.....

No wonder phone sex is on the up...

posted October 21, 2006 12:23 PM         

HD, I agree, it is more likely what is being projected subconsciouly through the body language that might be the problem. Men have built in radar for things like that.

Make it harder for the guys. Men are like water, they always take the path of least resistance. They go for what is easy for them on the most part but when it comes to a serious, real relationship I think that men like a challenge.

Looks get the attention of men but it won't hold them. It takes more substance to hold their attention.

posted October 21, 2006 02:42 PM         

4.6 megs .. / stereo / 160 bit rate .. "if you want my body" http://www.happydragon.pwp.blueyonder.co.uk/jkbx/lovemymind.mp3

4.7megs / stereo / 160 bit rate .. http://www.happydragon.pwp.blueyonder.co.uk/jkbx/makelove.mp3

Hanne Boel .. Born 31st August 1957 in Bagsværd, Copenhagen, Denmark http://www.hanneboel.dk/uk/biography/

enjoy ..

Mirandee
re: * I agree, it is more likely what is being projected subconsciouly *
.. mmmmm .. methinks they are picking up on transits .. as in the transits are effecting X's emotions .. and they will be projected onto the observer .. par for the course .. i'm only saying that as recently i was sent an interp of my nodes placement .. and unfortunately it was spot on .. was a real eye opener as it contained something that i realy dislike abut myself .. but know to be true .. and i know i project it sometime even though i wish i wouldn't ..

posted October 21, 2006 06:23 PM         

Need love is like when you want something so badly, and you can't live without it, but once you get it, you don't want it anymore. Like a thirsty man wants water, but once he gets what he needs to quence his thirst, he's not going to keep drinking it just because.

Gift love is when you're perfectly happy, and walking along in a meadow and you happen to come across something extaordinary, like a field with a great fragrance. It just made the happiness that you already had just that much better, and you never even felt like you needed it, it was just a plus to what you already had.

posted October 29, 2006 09:16 AM         

Interesting what is mentioned about the body language, I do look rather Piscean and ethereal due to a preponderance of Pisces in my chart...sort of water-nymph type but, ahem, *sexy* as well...I must say I dress with intent, which is perhaps slightly confusing for guys...I do have a desire to seduce, though I want them to want all of me - if this makes sense. I also do have a desire to please men and create something of a dream for them - although in a sense I want something back, so it's not exactly one-sided.

posted October 29, 2006 09:49 AM         

Enjoy....!!

And remember always keep a little bit hidden....

posted October 30, 2006 07:07 AM         

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...one ceases to become of any importance to them whatsoever?
Why do guys just want me for my looks (and nothing else), and why do I only seem to attract guys who want an FWB, rather than someone who would actually appreciate seeing me at least twice a week? I can't help being good-looking - but they fail to appreciate that I do actually have feelings!
What am I doing wrong?
Help appreciated (esp. from guys).

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UK guys are idiots anyway - I once got asked if I was a Russian/Latvian whatever wh*re …and how much…when I was in Manchester

And in London, I get asked where I’m from - thinking because I look foreign…I must be some easy b*tch

posted November 04, 2006 02:26 AM         

quote:

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Need love is like when you want something so badly, and you can't live without it, but once you get it, you don't want it anymore. Like a thirsty man wants water, but once he gets what he needs to quence his thirst, he's not going to keep drinking it just because.

Gift love is when you're perfectly happy, and walking along in a meadow and you happen to come across something extaordinary, like a field with a great fragrance. It just made the happiness that you already had just that much better, and you never even felt like you needed it, it was just a plus to what you already had.

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