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Topic: Bellydancers
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sinderlou
Knowflake Posts: 978
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Registered: Jan 2007
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posted August 25, 2007 10:43 AM
 
Question...........Would any of you ladies be jealous if you boyfreind was out of town and went to a restaurant to see a belly dancer? A freind of mine asked me that question this morning and I am not sure how to answer it. I have never seen a belly dancer in person. she claims is like going to see a stripper, its this true? IP: Logged |
Xodian
Moderator Posts: 1699
From: Canada
Registered: Dec 2006
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posted August 25, 2007 11:01 AM
Not a lady Lol! But I'll give this one a go: quote:
she claims is like going to see a stripper, its this true?
Not... even... close (unless the belly dancer decides to do the "dance of the seven veils." LOL!) Sure there is the erotic factor to the dance but one can say the same thing about the tango  . Now obviously it depends upon where he went and what the group he was with requested from the dancer but overall, don't feat about it. IP: Logged |
fayte.m
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posted August 25, 2007 11:11 AM
I would not be.
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hippichick
Knowflake Posts: 1981
From: The Ether
Registered: Jan 2006
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posted August 25, 2007 11:20 AM
NO!!!Bellydancers are awesome!!! Aspire to study someday myself and have seen these beautiful ladies in action!!! They are not the often drugged-out skinny, skanky "dancer" types....these ladies actually are often full figured, they are afterall "belly" dancers and have to have something to shake!!! They are common at Greek restaurants. The last one I saw was in a Greek restaurant and she was quite curvy, not slutty or skanky at all! Dressed beautiful and exotic she danced around the tables enticing women and men of all ages into her magical realm... I LOVE belly dancers!!! IP: Logged |
Bluemoon
Knowflake Posts: 4456
From: Stafford, VA USA
Registered: Feb 2005
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posted August 25, 2007 11:58 AM
 I dont think it is the same as going to see a striper. I would not be jelouse. IP: Logged |
Mirandee
Knowflake Posts: 4812
From: South of the Thumb - Taurus, Pisces, Cancer
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted August 25, 2007 12:12 PM
Belly Dancing is an art. Stripping is not. Doesn't take much talent to take your clothes off and hang on a pole. Takes talent to belly dance. I agree that it is not even close to stripping. Even in the dance of the seven veils it is only the veils that are removed. Not the clothes. I would not be jealous for that reason. But then again I would not be jealous should my husband watch a stripper. I would just think he went weird on me all of a sudden. LOL IP: Logged |
Battle of Evermore
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posted August 25, 2007 01:51 PM
No, I wouldn't be jealous. I'm kind of a jealous person, as much as I hate it, but I wouldn't mind at all. I'm not like, insane with jealousy, but when I think I have a right to be, it festers inside me. lol I even told my boyfriend it was ok to go see strippers for his birthday. He didn't go, but I wouldn't have cared if he had. The only thing I really get jealous of is when I think he's scoping out other women for something a bit more serious than paying them to see them strip. IP: Logged |
Johnny
Knowflake Posts: 2056
From: Colorado, USA
Registered: Nov 2004
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posted August 25, 2007 03:17 PM
As a professional belly-dancer, I can say that I find your comparison of our ancient and noble calling to "stripping" rather offensive!IP: Logged |
double trouble gemini
Knowflake Posts: 458
From: uae
Registered: Dec 2005
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posted August 25, 2007 05:25 PM
sorry to be the odd one here... but i would be jealous in some way..
i am a jealous person when it comes to my bf and if my bf 'specialy' went to see a belly dancer i would not like it... (too bad for my bf)IP: Logged |
sinderlou
Knowflake Posts: 978
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Registered: Jan 2007
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posted August 25, 2007 06:21 PM
Ok so we have everyone who doesn't think the belly dancer thing is a problem and one who does. I told my freind Kelly I am doing this survey on line so anymore comments on this would be great!ps-Johnny..I didn't compare belly dancing with stripping. I personally have never gone to see either so I couldn't even address that! IP: Logged |
Mirandee
Knowflake Posts: 4812
From: South of the Thumb - Taurus, Pisces, Cancer
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted August 25, 2007 06:29 PM
LOL Johnny. Would love to see you belly dance. Any guy in fact. It would be a first!  IP: Logged |
sunshine9
Knowflake Posts: 913
From: Durham, NC, USA
Registered: Feb 2005
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posted August 25, 2007 06:34 PM
I don't think it would bother me that much either, though I'd rather he watch me bellydance (I've learned!  A couple years ago, my guy did accompany some of his friends to a place where some women were practising, but we weren't together at the time, and I found that I was only mildly jealous; he only got into it later on because of me though. It's just another form of dance, a far cry from stripping or exotic dancing, and several Middle-eastern restaurants offer this now as a form of entertainment.. nothing to worry about.  *shimmying out*
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Solane Star
Knowflake Posts: 5378
From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted August 25, 2007 06:35 PM
I'm with Johnny & Miradee on that one!!!LOL!!!
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sunshine9
Knowflake Posts: 913
From: Durham, NC, USA
Registered: Feb 2005
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posted August 25, 2007 06:38 PM
Oooh, how did I miss this...
*ahem*Johnny, yes, we would have to see you bellydance, wouldn't we, before we could make a call on it?!! Just say when & where... (or better yet, post the video) Sunshine IP: Logged |
Solane Star
Knowflake Posts: 5378
From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted August 25, 2007 06:40 PM
NICE!!!!
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sunshine9
Knowflake Posts: 913
From: Durham, NC, USA
Registered: Feb 2005
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posted August 25, 2007 06:41 PM
And I do gotta add, if the bf were to be so very keen about going to watch bellydancing, it might make me jealous too. I'm with dt-gemini on that one. If he's showing undue interest in someone in particular, that's definitely a red flag.I guess it didn't bother me when my guy went, because he was just mildly curious about it at the time, and didn't seem so taken with it until I started shimmying. IP: Logged |
Isis
Knowflake Posts: 1922
From: CA
Registered: Jan 2004
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posted August 25, 2007 07:19 PM
What's wrong w/ a man appreciating the aesthetic beauty of a woman belly dancing? Would people get jealous if their bf/hubs loved to look at renaissance nudes, Rubens, Boticcellis, etc? To me, it's pretty much the same thing. The bellydancer doesn't take off her clothes...and like Mirandee pointed out, it takes training and dedication, unlike hanging on a pole in only a thong. I find it to be actually normal and healthy for a man to enjoy watching something like that. I mean really, a guy who says, "oh yeah I never look at other women, now that I've met you, any desire and appreciation I had for the female form (other than yours dear) is gone."  Yeah right. As far as men going to see strippers...that just makes me laugh. If men want to torture themselves by watching naked women who wouldn't touch them w/ a ten foot pole dance..on a pole...lol...well, it seems to me to be an extremely expensive replacement for porn. LOL IP: Logged |
Solane Star
Knowflake Posts: 5378
From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted August 25, 2007 09:12 PM
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sunshine9
Knowflake Posts: 913
From: Durham, NC, USA
Registered: Feb 2005
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posted August 25, 2007 10:55 PM
LOL, Solane! Here's another one:  Ooh, and this reminds me - one of my fave vids from Youtube has 4 guys going to a bellydance lesson: The Lost Art of Male Bellydancing Don't they have the prettiest costumes? They get ..um.. surprisingly good ..um.. yeah, that's it!! Just watch... Sunshine IP: Logged |
Battle of Evermore
Knowflake Posts: 1145
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Registered: Sep 2004
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posted August 26, 2007 06:01 PM
Wooooow.... XD Ummm.... that was an interesting video.IP: Logged |
aqua inferno
Knowflake Posts: 1106
From: hopping about Europe
Registered: Oct 2006
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posted August 27, 2007 06:03 PM
I would be blinded by jealousy, but I guess that's what too much fire does for ya  lmao johnny!!!  IP: Logged |
Dulce Luna
Knowflake Posts: 4598
From: The Asylum
Registered: Mar 2006
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posted August 27, 2007 06:52 PM
It isn't really like seeing a stripper. Like said before the difference between that and stripping is that bellydancing is actually a real art.But just like the strip club situation, if he goes WAY too often solely for the erotic aspect and it bothers your friend that much then there's definitely a problem. I know I'd have a problem if my bf went to see bellydancers every weekend. That's when I would get jealous like that.
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miss_muffet
Knowflake Posts: 832
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Registered: Mar 2004
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posted August 27, 2007 07:02 PM
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I know I'd have a problem if my bf went to see bellydancers every weekend. That's when I would get jealous like that.
I agree with Dulce Luna... going to see belly dancing (even stripping for that matter) is ok by me as long as it is not a regular thing. Once in a blue moon affair, sure. I'd love to see a male stripper too.
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sinderlou
Knowflake Posts: 978
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Registered: Jan 2007
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posted August 27, 2007 10:15 PM
I spoke to my freind about this and got more details........She said that he went to see a belly dancer once before and asked her to take classes in belly dancing which she did for 6 weeks. He even bought her belly dancing music. She is upset because she doesn't understand why he had to go see belly dancers when he has his own little belly dancer at home  IP: Logged |
Bluemoon
Knowflake Posts: 4456
From: Stafford, VA USA
Registered: Feb 2005
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posted August 29, 2007 08:53 AM
OIC, Sinder, that is why she is jelouse. He is just looking and varity is the spice of life. IP: Logged |
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