posted September 06, 2007 12:34 AM         

He has had a long line of stressful jobs, and it wears at him today. He can share some real tearjerkers. I don't want to go into it because it's not important and I doubt he'd appreciate my sharing his biz.

Anyway, I do get concerned. I repeatedly have dreams of saving him, or trying to, from horrible things trying to kill him. It stresses me that he puts up with so much. He DOES have good things in his life, don't get me wrong, but he's not happy with what he's doing now (and it's dangerous), and even his hobbies come under assault by those near and dear to him, thus giving him no way to vent (except secretly, which adds to the stress).

I've seen bad times, too, and I've changed my life around. I've known people who are much older who have also changed their life, sometimes even going back to school and starting a new career. Thus, I think a smart guy like him should also be able to do so. I make many suggestions to help him, show him links, tell him where to find books in the library, how to get loans (see I REALLY like him to look all this stuff up for him) and the like.

And every time, he brushes me off. He also retreats from me for awhile. Not only do I feel bad that he's continuing to be miserable, but I'm wondering: does he think I'm talking down to him? Does he feel that my being 24 (he has a son just a couple of years younger than me) means I have no call to give advice to him (though I list people his own age making changes)? Could it be he's been burned so badly that he just thinks he's cursed in this regard? Does he feel guilty for my feeling bad for him?

Most of all, I'm wondering if I should just say I'm sorry to hear how things are going. Maybe he's just accepted it and I should just listen and sympathize and not offer any advice. Some people, I've learned, LOVE to be miserable and/or feel sorry for themselves, though I don't think this is true of him (if it is, he hides it well).

I've asked him for his b-day info. Unfortunately, he's not sure where he was born, nor does he know the time. All I have is this:

July 11, 1955.

Out of that, the ONLY thing I can get is that his Sun is Cancer and his moon is Aries. This matches him pretty well, IMO. Here, from Astrodienst:

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You were born with the Sun in Cancer and the Moon in Aries. Cancer indicates that you are imaginative, receptive, fanciful, and possessive. Internally, you are somewhat reserved and shy. You are very easy-going and easily make friends with other people. You are extremely sensitive to psychological injury, and your reaction is to withdraw. You are susceptible to short-term pressure but tenacious on matters of principle. Sun in Cancer gives a tendency to floods of emotion. Outwardly, you appear slightly different from your real nature. People view you as an enthusiastic and impulsive, restless person. You are always changing your opinions and adopting new attitudes. In work and in love you always try to be the initiator or at least the leader. Although you are a passionate person and easily drawn into love affairs, virginity and family ties remain important concepts for you.

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I can fit this to him pretty easily.

Any other insights into someone born on this day? And any tricks that an astrologer knows on how to find out the time and place of his birth? (He lost his birth certificate...I'm not sure I could talk him into the expense of paying for another one. It's even conceivable that he's trying to keep me from "knowing too much" about him but figures I can find out his b-day anyway so he gave me that much to satisfy me.) And any advice on how to relate to him?

If anyone wants to know, I was born October 21, 1982 in Houston, Texas. I forget the time, but my ascendant was Leo.

posted September 06, 2007 04:49 AM         

My brother is also a Cancer with an Aries moon. It seems he is of the sort that shares deeply with just a few priveleged friends. Yes, when he shares and receives advice... He too, seems to become stand off ish. I beleive that he just needs time to absorb what it is he's hearing before taking action.
I try to remember that women talk through their problems, where as men tend to act on them. This does not necessarily hold true for these Cancer men though.
"July 11, 1955" knowing what time and where he was born could really help alot in consideration to his chart houses, etc. He's being quiet on this however?

As we do know he's born July 11, 1955 we can look to an ephemeris:

Mercury is in Gemini
Venus is in Cancer
Mars is in Cancer and changes to Leo
Jupitar is in Leo
Saturn is in Scorpio
Uranus is in Cancer
Neptune is in Libra
Pluto is in Leo
North Node is in Sagittarius
South Node is in Gemini

Perhaps this will help you some?
Hang in there too...

Now based on your information, "Ascendant is in Leo" you would have been born around 2:15 Texas time...if you choose to explore yourself further here are your stats:

Sun is in Libra
Moon is in Sagittarius
Mercury is in Libra
Venus is in Libra
Mars is in Sagittarius
Jupitar is in Scorpio
Saturn is in Libra
Uranus is in Sagittarius
Neptune is in Sagittarius
Pluto is in Libra
Chiron is in Taurus [Rx] meaning retrograde
North Node / True Node is in Cancer
South Node is in Capricorn
Descendant is Aquarius
Midheaven (or)MC is Taurus
Nadir (or)IC is Scorpio

posted September 09, 2007 03:21 PM         

friendinspirit;
what is an ephemirus? oops ephemeris?
where can i find one?
how much do they cost?

posted September 09, 2007 03:39 PM         

An Ephemeris is a chart showing the positions of each planet at noon GMT (also known as UT) for every day of the year.

Free Ephemeris for 6000 years here:
www.astro.com

posted September 09, 2007 04:34 PM         

these pdf charts are very cool dating all the way back to 1400! very informative.
i love new tools.

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ps i learned how to use those dang smiley things too!

posted September 09, 2007 07:08 PM         

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ps i learned how to use those dang smiley things too!

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