posted December 18, 2007 12:33 PM         

A lot of people say I should have kids before its too late ...meaning before Im 30..(im in my 20s, and i find it very strange I have been told this)

they say if you dont have kids now, it probably wont ever happen. Im really sort of blown away.

People never think what if something goes wrong, and they arent born healthy...are you in the position financially and mentally to handle that chance?

Do you have a house? a secure job? college education?

NOBODY THINKS OF THESE THINGS, i dont know why.

I really dont think anyone should have kids if they cant accept the fact, that theres a slight chance your picture imagined idea of your baby doesnt come out right.

Its all too scary.

posted December 18, 2007 12:45 PM         

or you can choose to trust in the process life, and all the splendor that it has to offer.

our culture promotes that fear -- people cowering in fear are more easily controlled and manipulated. it overrides the truth in our hearts and minds.

learn to trust and celebrate yourself, and the amazing capacity you were born with to navigate your life, with support from the universe. you are capable of so much more than society would allow you to believe.

it's true. there is much profit to be made from our fear and neurosis. if you refuse this fear overtaking you, and allow the positive energy of the universe to flow into your being, you will be amazed at the beauty that awaits you in this life.

posted December 18, 2007 02:09 PM         

If you are emotionally and financially ready to bring a child into this world, some arbritary Do Or Die threshold like 30 is meaningless. It's not "too late."
I had a healthy son at 42!!
Yes you have to be emotionally and spiritually prepared for your child to not be "perfect" -- but so does any younger mother..... birth defects can occur with mothers of ANY age group. The odds are in your favor that you will NOT have a child with birth defects.

posted December 18, 2007 02:38 PM         

Though some women may find pregnancy and being a mother to be the most splendid thing in the entire world, that doesnt mean it will be that way for everyone. I think somewhere deep down you know if it is "right" for you. And as I'm sure you know, you dont need to have a child to make your life complete.

I love children and am almost thirty and in no rush to have them. I doubt I ever will. Maybe it's not meant to be a part of our lives this time around. And that is not a "bad thing" at all.

Your fear could be a message. Since it evokes such a strong emotion in you, you should listen and pay close attention to it. Not just get over it and get pregnant because that is what has been happening since the beginning of time and others have found it to be the greatest experience of their lives. Not every woman needs to have a baby. There is still alot of beauty to be found, had, made in this world without one.

posted December 18, 2007 03:14 PM         

if in your heart the thought of the universe creating through you in the form of small life seems something wonderful, listen, regardless of what others say you "should" or "should not" do, and all their controlling logic.

the universe supports your choices, when chosen in alignment with your heart.

don't let fear of societal pressures and dictates manipulate you either way.

posted December 18, 2007 09:22 PM         

I know quite a few women who had their children in their 40's. Not that you have to also, but give yourself options.

Listen to what your voice inside is telling you and honor that. I feel it's being very smart to wait and have one's career, finances and personal growing in order so you can focus completely on your wee one.

posted December 18, 2007 10:01 PM         

Its not, and your fears are valid. Its your life, and I see nothing wrong with the freedom to make whatever choice resonates with you.

I will not be having children- not now, not ever. Maybe there is a parallel reality in which I have a family, but I know in this life its not happening!

posted December 18, 2007 10:24 PM         

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A lot of people say I should have kids before its too late ...meaning before Im 30..(im in my 20s, and i find it very strange I have been told this)

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Perhaps you could let those well intentioned but rude people that they should get busy having your share then.

Nothing wrong with not having kids. It's better not to have them at all, then to have them and become resentful because you didn't really want them, or weren't ready etc.

Do what your instincts tell you and you'll be fine.

Hugs,
GG

posted December 20, 2007 01:26 AM         

Like really scared.