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fieryscales
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posted February 05, 2008 03:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for fieryscales     Edit/Delete Message
Would it be considered normal for someone, who pratices sex, NOT to have any sexual fantasies?

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yourfriendinspirit
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posted February 05, 2008 03:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for yourfriendinspirit     Edit/Delete Message
This article will best answer the question for you.
[PDF]
The Normality of Sexual Fantasies
It is a compilation of much research and shows the reason why people fantasize...

excerpt example:
Sexual fantasies are free from
outside criticism, embarrassment, and/or scrutiny.
They allow one to escape from their repressive sexual
desires and allows for experiences to be had through
imagery rather than through taboo societal actions.

This you can conclude is not a necessary act provided you are not effected by these things.
+outside criticism,
+embarrassment, and/or scrutiny.
+repressive sexual desires

Therefore it would in fact be normal to not fantasize if these conditions are met.
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Here is another, albeit EXTREME example of sexual fantasy:

In my country is is not normal or excepted behavior to fanticize or act out sexual tendencies with animals.

However...
Zoophilia is permitted in a few countries, such as Sweden, Denmark and the Netherlands, although ordinary animal treatment laws apply. In other countries, such as Germany and Russia, zoosexuality is legal, but zoosexual pornography is illegal.
source; wiki

Elsewhere in the world, it is a prudent assumption that it is illegal or at the least against social custom.

So a person whom has practices these acts in say Demark may not ever fantacise about them they are normal act to him/her. Then they move to the United States or elsewhere and this is not accepted behavior...
It is viewed as sick and perverted.

So perhaps now being in this situation the person then fanticizes about the acts.

Because of the key words again:
+outside criticism,
+embarrassment, and/or scrutiny.
+repressive sexual desires

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"your friend in spirit"

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augentier
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posted February 05, 2008 12:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for augentier     Edit/Delete Message
By sexual fantasy do you mean sexual thoughts that one wishes to do but keeps in their head, or just general sexual thoughts (like of your partner, past partners, the hot guy/girl you saw today etc)? If the former, I don't think it's unusual that someone would not have those. The latter...I'd think that was strange.

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fieryscales
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posted February 05, 2008 02:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fieryscales     Edit/Delete Message
I meant sexual thoughts one wished to act out, but keeps to themselves.

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augentier
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posted February 05, 2008 02:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for augentier     Edit/Delete Message
I don't think it's unusual to not have those thoughts..I never thought about it this way but yourfriendinspirit's info ^ makes a lot of sense!

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blue moon
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posted February 05, 2008 06:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for blue moon     Edit/Delete Message
Considered not normal by whom?

Maybe I am jaded and cynical, but "it isn't normal to be sexually active and not have private fantasises about things you don't act upon" sounds like the polite way of some guy trying to make out his girlfriend is uptight. So he can get her do something he fantasises about in his spare time.

It is amazing the things they will come up with to get some, or maybe I really do look like Audrey Hepburn and never noticed.


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Dervish
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posted February 07, 2008 01:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dervish     Edit/Delete Message
I understand that a great many customers of phone sex lines are those in relationships but have sexual needs that aren't met. (Women are usually smarter because we buy books or look up erotica which is far, far cheaper and can be returned to again and again. )

Though not all fantasies are anywhere as good as we might imagine them to be once we get to experience it. That is, just because someone dwells on a fantasy doesn't mean he or she would feel happy or satisfied if it were to ever actually happen (and may despise the experience), because things don't always turn out the way we imagine them.

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