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wheelsofcheese Knowflake Posts: 1358 From: UK Registered: Jan 2008	posted November 11, 2008 07:56 AM And if she did what did you think? Do you sometimes wish that women would take the initiative more? What's a classy way for a woman to ask you out? And any other thoughts and opinions please. IP: Logged
fieryscales Moderator Posts: 1094 From: My own private world Registered: Jan 2008	posted November 11, 2008 02:35 PM I would say get straight to the point with him and ask him out Might hurt his ego but then maybe he will catch a wake-up call. IP: Logged
23 Knowflake Posts: 4122 From: Outside, to watch the nightfall in the rain Registered: Aug 2006	posted November 11, 2008 03:04 PM Xodian....echo echo echo where are you.... IP: Logged
blue moon Moderator Posts: 4377 From: U.K Registered: Dec 2007	posted November 11, 2008 03:44 PM Here's some male friends of mine: Mr Cancer ~ got asked out to dinner by a woman old enough to be his mother. Result? He went and had a relationship with her for quite a while. Mr Pisces ~ a woman in a bar asked him if he wanted a **** Result? He was disgusted and soon after asked if we could go somewhere else. Mr Virgo ~ his aerobics instructor asked him if he wanted to go circuit training sometime. Result? Marriage and 3 kids. Think Mr Virgo may have asked her not the other way around, but I can't remember, just goes to show if it was her it would be believable, and a good approach. An interest in common, not overpowering, but the start of something. I'll try and solicit the opinions of the Sag twins. They are always trying to outdo each other and are bound to have tales to tell. Who have I asked out? Long time ago now, but I certainly must have asked out the intensely shy Cancer who was my boyfriend as a teenager. No way would he have asked me, actually there was more than one Cancer, the shy ones like it when people get talking to them, I used to be very shy as a young child so I get it. It's not that hard to chat a bit, put them at their ease, adn ask them if they want go out and eat somewhere. Been there, ate the pizza, kissed the crab, etc. Why is it so difficult? IP: Logged
AcousticGod Knowflake Posts: 13758 From: CA, USA Registered: May 2005	posted November 11, 2008 06:34 PM quote: And if she did what did you think? Depended on the girl. With some I wasn't sure what they were after, so it wasn't stressful that they'd ask me out, nor was it generally stressful to respond, because the assumption wasn't necessarily that there was a romantic overtone in the way it was approached. Of course in the opposite event, it was probably just as difficult as it would be for a woman to deliberate quickly, and be gentle if turning them down. quote: Do you sometimes wish that women would take the initiative more? I wouldn't mind, but its not necessary. Sometimes the initiative is in the unspoken word, and its just a matter of knowing that you have a chance should you be so bold as to ask them out. quote: What's a classy way for a woman to ask you out? Know me first. I'm a lot more likely to refuse a woman I don't know or would suspect. Beyond that, I think that inserting it into what is otherwise a perfectly normal conversation is best. IP: Logged
LEXX Moderator Posts: 1739 From: Still out looking for Schr�dinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion! Registered: Jan 2008	posted November 11, 2008 07:10 PM quote: Mr Cancer ~ got asked out to dinner by a woman old enough to be his mother. Result? He went and had a relationship with her for quite a while. LOL! *So exactly what is wrong with that?* I am in that boat and my Cancerian beloved (15 years younger) and I have been together over 11 years to date. ------------------ Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain. IP: Logged
Kick It Knowflake Posts: 948 From: Leeds Registered: May 2008	posted November 11, 2008 08:02 PM Yes, it has happened. Dont think much of it in an out of the ordinary way, just think of it as normal. Yes, women should do it more. Plenty of ways and classy ways to do it, but best just to be direct. IP: Logged
Scorpionic Web Knowflake Posts: 791 From: Pennsylvania Registered: Dec 2005	posted November 12, 2008 01:40 AM It's Sagittarius nature to be promiscuously forward and must be why I've been involved with so many. But in all they've been good experiences. My ex-Sag with whom I spent almost 3 years said to me, "Want to be my boyfriend?" after our first date, and it turned into a great relationship. I rarely feel that I'm on my game, so I almost never pursue except when a girl is sending some very real signals. The urge to save face is a pathetic variety of pride. IP: Logged
cancerrg Knowflake Posts: 2815 From: Registered: Dec 2004	posted November 12, 2008 02:00 AM someone did it yesterday .actually she proposed . A lot of the time , i feel that women should take the initiative ,at the same time , i like silent and mysterious women . so , in practicality i am asking for an impossibility . I think the most classy (and may be most unpractical )way would be to let her eyes speak and make the men do all the rest . (This may sound impossible but i have known it happen ) IP: Logged
blue moon Moderator Posts: 4377 From: U.K Registered: Dec 2007	posted November 12, 2008 02:11 AM Never said there was anything wrong with it Lexx, I'm just reporting what he told me in authentic terminology. They boys were a bit slow to produce examples, they needed some encouragement. quote: think the most classy (and may be most unpractical )way would be to let her eyes speak and make the men do all the rest .(This may sound impossible but i have known it happen ) Letting it all happen naturally is the best of all, but unfortunately, it doesn't always work out so smoothly. Men are often too polite, they don't want to look forward or forceful. IP: Logged
PeaceAngel Knowflake Posts: 5555 From: Australia Registered: May 2008	posted November 12, 2008 02:21 AM bm quote: They boys were a bit slow to produce examples, they needed some encouragement. That's not unusual. Just reflects why women do need to make the first move sometimes. Personally, I prefer strong men, so I prefer to be approached. But it's not mandatory. I remember I met a policeman at a wedding one night - he was still in uniform - it was about 60 seconds into the conversation and I already had him have his handcuffs out and playing with them. Oh, and LOL - my father was standing next to me. If it was someone famous that I fancied I'd take a crack at it. Why not? How often are you going to get that opportunity? And if I crash and burn - at least I know I tried. IP: Logged
blue moon Moderator Posts: 4377 From: U.K Registered: Dec 2007	posted November 12, 2008 02:52 AM Hi, Sean, how you doing, mate? Have you got a drink in there, love? I've got something to show you. pulls out picture of European Cup. Good, eh? DISCLAIMER: This really is how I speak, not offensive to someone else English and common. IP: Logged
PeaceAngel Knowflake Posts: 5555 From: Australia Registered: May 2008	posted November 12, 2008 02:53 AM bm And that's the way to do it. IP: Logged
PeaceAngel Knowflake Posts: 5555 From: Australia Registered: May 2008	posted November 12, 2008 02:54 AM bm What's the best way to approach Colin? I suppose asking him to participate in a home movie wouldn't work? IP: Logged
blue moon Moderator Posts: 4377 From: U.K Registered: Dec 2007	posted November 12, 2008 02:57 AM Say something witty and intelligent within your first breaths. Back in a minute IP: Logged
PeaceAngel Knowflake Posts: 5555 From: Australia Registered: May 2008	posted November 12, 2008 03:01 AM quote: Say something witty and intelligent within your first breaths. Does "wanna **** ?" qualify? IP: Logged
PeaceAngel Knowflake Posts: 5555 From: Australia Registered: May 2008	posted November 12, 2008 03:04 AM bm Do you know how much mileage you can get out of that pic? I mean, for life, you can score with any Aston Villa player or fan. IP: Logged
PeaceAngel Knowflake Posts: 5555 From: Australia Registered: May 2008	posted November 12, 2008 03:05 AM It's a fairly safe assumption that Villa fans aren't too selective anyhow. You're in! IP: Logged
PeaceAngel Knowflake Posts: 5555 From: Australia Registered: May 2008	posted November 12, 2008 03:06 AM I think Colin is a Villa fan. IP: Logged
PeaceAngel Knowflake Posts: 5555 From: Australia Registered: May 2008	posted November 12, 2008 03:10 AM bm Your use of the word "love" is highly offensive. IP: Logged
23 Knowflake Posts: 4122 From: Outside, to watch the nightfall in the rain Registered: Aug 2006	posted November 12, 2008 03:37 AM I hope they're not too selective IP: Logged
blue moon Moderator Posts: 4377 From: U.K Registered: Dec 2007	posted November 12, 2008 03:41 AM "Love" seems to be highly offensive to (some) American women, it wouldn't be to a Villa fan. Or a Blades fan. They probably wouldn't notice. IP: Logged
PeaceAngel Knowflake Posts: 5555 From: Australia Registered: May 2008	posted November 12, 2008 09:06 AM bm I can't imagine that it would be offensive to too many Brits, (or people with other names too! :laughing . It's very very common in Oz too. Granted it's not very personal, but it's not offensive. IP: Logged
blue moon Moderator Posts: 4377 From: U.K Registered: Dec 2007	posted November 12, 2008 09:55 AM Well, I don't really know Sean, so until I was introduced I wouldn't really want to call him by his given name. And I'm not calling him Mr Bean. Sometimes I wonder why my parents bothered giving me a name. Generally, my mother calls me 'love' and my father calls me by a string of family names until he finds the right one. I answer to my mother's name as well as my own, it saves time. IP: Logged
Xodian Moderator Posts: 2069 From: Canada Registered: Dec 2006	posted November 12, 2008 10:47 AM quote: Xodian....echo echo echo where are you.... Lol! Out fighting evil in the guise of a victorian era V-hunter armed with a 1000 year old whip . Well, to the topic at hand, yes I have had been asked out a couple of times and my thoughts on the subject it that, no in no way does that freaks a guy out or makes him question his prowness. For me personally, I find it extremely attractive in a lady; she having enough confidence in herself to say "Yes I am beautiful, I am confident and I ahve enough faith in my inner and outer self to take a chance and see if you and I can hit it off." A classy way? Lol! Ladies just strike up a conversation with a conversation with a guy and see where it goes from there. Example: Lady sees man dropping in too many icecubes in his drink. Comes over to him: Lady: "You're killing that drink you know that?" Man: Looks kinda dazed Really? In what way? Lady: "You're watering it down. Way too many icecubes. It destroys the flavor." Man: Oh really... And am I likely to assume you were a bartender? Lady: I might be... How about we get to know each other and find out? Etc. etc. etc. See ladies? Its just that simple . IP: Logged

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