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Mama Mia
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posted October 04, 2006 10:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
I posted a thread about this virgo guy that I have been friends with for a long time. I think that he is a very nice guy and we are good friends and will remain good friends but romantically nope not for me.. He did something the other night that just won't sit well with me..


He met me at the train station Friday night to give me a jump bc my battery in my car was drained,, I left my lights on. Anyway it is raining cats and dogs and we are sitting inhis car. This older lady pulls up behind my car bc she see's that I will be moving soon. Anyway he could not move bc sshe was blocking him and me so we could not get out. She was worried that someone was going to get the spot so ws acting like she did not want to move.

We both are like what is her problem so I wave at her and say we are coming out but you are blocking us in. She still sits there not sure if she understood. So again I try and tell her he can't get out. So she finally moves and goes around him and she yells to him as she drives by idiot.

He yells back to her yo mama is a idot B*itch. Oh was I so ever turned off. I mean yes she called him a idiot first but he just blew up. I was so turned off. I have heard him call his ex-wife a B also. TO me he uses the word to freely and makes me think.


His mouth, quick temper and attitude blew it. We have been friends for awhile and I have seen things that I did not like but nothing to make me feel disgusted. What made me feel so bad especially is that she was a older lady old enough to be both our mom's.

I like Virgo's but the one thing that blow me about them is their mouths. They are quick to critize.

Nope...

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posted October 04, 2006 10:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for and     Edit/Delete Message
yikes. virgo men are strange to me, i dont really like them for love interests....the cussing would of turned me off too, especially to a older woman...respecting women/elders is so vital to me in a man....

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Mama Mia
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posted October 04, 2006 10:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
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...respecting women/elders is so vital to me in a man....

That is so important to me. Infact how yo treat ppl period is so important to me..

I am always polite to ppl even if they are ignorant a holes. I do pull back though if they are to bad. And will check a person too. But I would never curse and older person or child regardless to the situation.

And this is re: to your post. we won't be doing anything romantic and I am not going to tell him either, just gone keep things friendly as they have been...

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Jan_A
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posted October 04, 2006 10:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jan_A     Edit/Delete Message
He just wanted to give back the negative emotions from her. To my mind the answer was appropriate.

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Mama Mia
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posted October 04, 2006 10:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
NO!!!!

to my mind it was disrepectful and un called for...if he had of just called her an idiot back and left it alone I would be ok with that..

I like repectful guys that know how to handle thier temper and that don't let other ppl rock their boat..

AND he has a mother too..

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OzMeg222
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posted October 06, 2006 06:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for OzMeg222     Edit/Delete Message
I find it highly embarrassing when people do things like that. It seriously makes me cringe.

He should've just been a man and ignored it. Why let the little stuff get to you? I can't stand cursing like that, I do it in context but never around people I don't know very very well. Its something that puts me off people so I'd hate my mouth to put others off.

I totally get where you're coming from!

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Dulce Luna
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posted October 06, 2006 09:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dulce Luna     Edit/Delete Message
I'm not saying that I have the cleanest mouth on the road (hello? Mars in the 3rd house here) but I've always been iffy about men who are so quick to use the "B" word....

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Anita41
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posted October 06, 2006 11:16 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Anita41     Edit/Delete Message
Hi mama mia !

I respect your views on this, like that its important to treat older people with respect. But I have to just comment a little...
I have worked with elder people my whole life, and they can be pretty wicked and viscious
If this woman was an old woman,
that is not the point in my opinion, she is the one who in the first place insulted him and took the right to do it, even when she had already made a mistake with that car thingy.
I think the virgo man reacted normal.
I would have reacted the same way, and thats why i am talking like this I guess..

I also think that people should be treated the way they treat you,
even if someone is old, you have to relate to them on a realistic basis instead of feeling sorry for them because they are old, its all just an illusion and not that real.
I have met so many older especially women, who have insulted me and thought they could treat me like they wanted to, on work..
and I cant just back off and say "ok",
"she is old, so just ignore it",
you are just as equal as them.

Also, this virgo man could perhaps feel he was under pressure or something, emotionally or in that situation, I dont know ofcourse,
but it could add some anger to his temper.

I have aries moon and can lose it bad if I lose it, even though I have gotten alot more patient, and I know with myself that when I blow up, its so very powerful, it cant be denied at all, its not an excuse
But that doesnt make me a bad person in my opinion.
So my advice to you, dont judge this guy based on that.
Anyway mama mia, you were hooked on an aqua before right? Not sure if I remember correctly
Lately I have gotten into contact with my own ex aqua, and boy its weird.
He is so shocking and mean, and then detaches himself completely.
Seems it will never change, but oh well, thats his problem


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posted October 06, 2006 11:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message
That's why Mama Mia likes Capricorns -- no big temper tantrums or causing scenes.

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Mama Mia
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posted October 06, 2006 11:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
Anita..
Nope nothing can change my mind about this..I just feel for myself somethings you have to let roll off you. it was very, very ignorant of him to snap off the way he did. Again I just feel like he uses the B word to freely and it just makes me think that if we got into later on in the relationship that he would be very direspectful to me also. And so nope not gone stick around to see if he will or not. Atleast not romantically. We will still be friends..

Anita
Those Aqua men huhn..I remember you telling me about him.
Yes I was/am hooked on him and vise versa. It has been so hard to shake him. Its like he lives inside of me or something..

AG: You said it sweetie..At some point I am going to meet another Cappy guy that I like..

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posted October 06, 2006 07:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jazzebel     Edit/Delete Message
I am a Virgo female myself and in that same situation I`d call that idiotic woman a "biatch" at a blink of an eye, too.

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lovely*
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posted October 07, 2006 02:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lovely*     Edit/Delete Message
I would be repelled by the "Yo mama" part. Who says that anymore? Wasn't that an 80'z thang? It wasn't his temper, it wasn't a potty-mouth, it was lack of creativity that turns off.

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Aphrodite
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posted October 07, 2006 04:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aphrodite     Edit/Delete Message
Hey Mama Mia, Yeah I hear you about turn offs. Doesn't it feel good though to find out early on and that you are confident in the decision to end things? I would think so.

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The Virgin
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posted October 07, 2006 08:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for The Virgin     Edit/Delete Message
Mamma Mia, why would calling the woman an idiot be okay with you, but calling her a ***** turned you off? Both terms are disrespectful.

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posted October 07, 2006 10:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for BlueTopaz124     Edit/Delete Message
You know what's right for you Mia; good thing you saw it to know not to get involved.

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Mama Mia
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posted October 09, 2006 12:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
If he felt the need to call her a idiot back is not ok with me, but I think that I could except that better then what he said over all..

I had a chance to talk to him Saturday night about that situation. He took a step
back and realized that he was wrong. He called me at 2:45 in the morning just to tell me how wrong he was about that..

I appreciate him looking inside himslef.but whats done is done and I am turned off now. I told him that it turned me off. I think that he realized that he blew it when he did that.

We will still be friends though..

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posted October 09, 2006 01:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Neophyte     Edit/Delete Message
Thing is "b**tch" has become common parlance. People say it at the drop of a hat now. Seems everything is becoming devalued in our society these days, nothing is sacred......

Anyway it was goodthat he was self aware enough to look at his behaviour and see how unbecoming it was but suppose you met a guy who told you all the right things, never cussed in front of you, was a perfect gentleman 24/7 during courtship only to find out when you're in a relationship with him that it was all pretense and he's actually a foul mothed, deceptive sort of person. No one is going to be perfect but well hmm,,,,,you need to follow your gut instinct and a woman's intuition is gold. If it says this ain't a good thing, it ain't a good thing.

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Mama Mia
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posted October 09, 2006 01:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
First off its not the B thing that everyone is trying to talk about here. It is the respect thing, that I have a problem with. IF you cannot respect older women that is old enough to be your mother then I can't see where you will have any respect for me.

Im not looking for a perfect person for I am not perfect, but I have things that will work for me and things that won't..And a disrespectful man won't work.

And yes my intuition is gold..I have great intuition even if I ignore it, its the best..(Pisces Female) We can pick up on it all...

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sthenri
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posted October 09, 2006 03:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sthenri     Edit/Delete Message
If he made Mamma Mia feel bad then that's enough for me, he ought to be history.
He has to treat her as if she is number one.

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Neophyte
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posted October 09, 2006 05:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Neophyte     Edit/Delete Message
I'm thinking too you probably also got glimpse of the negative side of virgo. The side of a virgo that can be oblivious to the disastrous effects of their comments until it's pointed out to them. Got to admit thoough that I have come across annoying people of all ages, people who are deliberately mean and nasty and the first word that comes to my mind to describe them is either b**tch, b*st*rd or some other colourful expletive. But I usually have enough class to not say this aloud , which your boy was seriously lacking! ..

I have my moon in pisces, and much of what you say resonates with me. Does most astrological literature support the idea that with the moon in pisces the energy is also strong when it comes to psychic intuition?

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Mama Mia
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posted October 09, 2006 05:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
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Do you find that with the moon in pisces the energy is also strong when it comes to psychic intuition?

I definite agree, they are right up there with Pisces sun..

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Dulce Luna
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posted October 09, 2006 05:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dulce Luna     Edit/Delete Message
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First off its not the B thing that everyone is trying to talk about here. It is the respect thing, that I have a problem

That was kind of along the lines of what I was saying, I should've elaborated more. Thinking that someone is a b*tch and actually using the word on someone are two totally different things and I feel like any man thats so quick to use that word oh-so-often has little or no respect for women at all. But that's great that you had a talk with the virgo and set things straight with him.

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lovely*
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posted October 12, 2006 05:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lovely*     Edit/Delete Message
I was waiting for a parking spot one day at the mall. I had my turn signal on and waited patiently as this mother with three children loaded them into her van.

Behind me was this old man yelling out the window, honking, waving his hands around (you know, the angry ******* type) So I backed up as best I could and got out of his way.

I saw him a few minutes later walking in the parking lot and confronted him. I said.. "hey, what's your problem.. this lady was trying to load her kids in the car, i backed up to get out of YOUR way. He snarled at me with hate all over.. & said as he motioned swatting me away "arrrrrhhhh get out of my face lady.

I said "ok as&hole"..

He was clearly old. But this is not disrespecting the elderly and has nothing to do with how I treat my father in law, my husband or men in general. Fair is fair, if someone is being a sh&t then they deserve to know about it.

Still Mama, you must have other reasons. And you're right your intuition is gold!

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Mama Mia
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posted October 13, 2006 09:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Lovely: I understand what you are saying and I have been in situations where someone has pushed my buttons with their ignorant ways. It may have caused me to say something or act in a way that maybe I could take back..

But my whole thing about this is he was with a woman that he was trying to be with (ME) and in all honesty it was not that serious it was just a misunderstanding she came in on the end of him giving me a jump all she saw was his car in the opposite direction of traffic and just sitting there, Hell I would have thought he was a idiot too. I just think that he totally over reacted and he showed me no respect by calling her a B and he never ever thought how that would make me feel.

And the killing part is he never thought about it until I mentioned it to him. I guess he is use to dealing with women that can go with that. I am cut from a total different cloth..

Sthenri said it right he needed to put me first. So I just figure he may try and go there with me one time and before I let him take me there and ruin our friendship then I will just keep it friendly.

He blew it and he knows sit, so maybe after me talking to him and him realizing his actions next time he is with a real lady he will do things different..

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