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InLoveWithLife
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posted October 17, 2006 11:05 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi,

there is this cancerian guy (sorry, i knw thr r too many posts abt them already, but....) i really like. He is a good friend. I think he likes me back. But the problem is he is taking ages to make the first move. we hang out together a lot, but haven't been on a date as yet.

he is cancer sun/sagi moon/ asc scorpio
me cappy sun/gemini moon/ asc cancer

now i am wondering whether i shud take things into my hands (cappy !). i am getting very impatient (gemini moon) but am too chicken to ask him out (cancer asc).

with his scorpio asc/sagi moon, is there any hope of him asking me out sometime soon?

ILWL

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themysteryclub
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posted October 18, 2006 12:27 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ask him out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have cancer sun, sagi rising, cancer moon

Ask him out!!!!!!!!!! You never know until you try. Ask him out!!

This is, of course, just one woman's opinion. so if you don't like my opinion, then I have another that overrides it all:

FOLLOW YOUR HEART!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

good luck and peace!
TMC

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sue g
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posted October 18, 2006 11:59 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes, yes YES !!!!!

If I were single now I wouldnt have the patience to wait.....in fact I never did (Aries arising)


Good luck, enjoy the ride !!!!!!!

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Natural111
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posted October 18, 2006 12:07 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oh, so that's why I'm so impatient.
Gemini moon.

Yes, ask him out
Get it out in the open, now!
Good luck!

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lotusheartone
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posted October 18, 2006 12:47 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ggodness-mercy-sakes-alive! Do it!
Follow your Heart. ...

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Peri
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posted October 18, 2006 01:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Peri     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
ditto! follow your heart

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sue g
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posted October 18, 2006 02:24 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Welll.......(tapping fingers on desk)???


Have you done it yet?

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InLoveWithLife
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posted October 18, 2006 11:30 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
No i haven't...i mean not directly :P

well basically we talked on the phone for quite some time yday....half an hr to be precise. then sometime later, he called me again with an excuse...tht's a bit unusual for him. so i jumped on the opportunity....asked him if something tht i had said to him a few days back had hurt him. he was like 'i am very thick skinned' but sounded pleased as punch tht i cared to ask him how he feels. he sounded really emotional- his voice actually changed.

well then he happened to be cooking at tht time so i told him how we had a party a couple of days back...and i had a lot of food left over....and had thought of asking him whether he'd like to have it (for tht he wud hv come to my place...hehe) but didnt. i knw tht sounds kinda rude to invite someone to eat leftovers. he sounded all the more pleased and told me not to hesitate in the future if i hv any leftovers, and to consider him as my personal dustbin please )

so i am thinking of cooking a big meal over the weekend and oh yaah, whn i saw him today in class, he seemed a little nervous and didnt even look at me, so tht made me decide tht he wud freak out if i ask him diectly for a date rite now.

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themysteryclub
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posted October 19, 2006 12:49 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

your on the right track!

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cancerrg
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posted October 19, 2006 05:01 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Do u want any more direct signals when a egoist cancerian is ready to be your personal dustbin ?
that single word is meant to comfort you , that means you can say to him anything that you feel like ( but i would rather suggest go slow with these kind of words , you never know when he gets irritated by it , be it honest but not direspectful )
and asking him out wouldn't be bad but before that be sure he is into you cos cancer men are always very courteous to woman .
the question is how do u know this , check the way he acts with and other women ? that would point it .

and when you are sure of this cancerian , send a mail to this cancerian , i asm still waiting

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tinasparkle
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posted October 19, 2006 12:13 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
CancerRg,

With regard to "check out the way he is with other women", what if you are the only woman he socializes with? My Cancer fella has a few female colleagues but they are all married.He is new in town so all his female friends live far away and he hardly talks to them and and the only other women in his life are his sisters. I will say this though, there was a woman who lives in our neighborhood and on day she came over to deliver something I bought at her yardsale. She was totally "making time" with him and although he was polite to her, he was very reserved and didn't engage in the flirtation. The only other woman I see him with is my mom. He is very polite and respectful toward her and does things for her around the house but he is totally different with me but I jsut assumed it was a closer in age thing? You will have to forgive me, I am having a bit of a spazz because I think he might have asked me out, but I am still not sure and the "date" is tomorrow and I don't want to make an a** of myself if it isn't a date and yet don't want to give him the impression of not having a romantic interest by playing it too cool. Arghhh!

Tinasparkle

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tinasparkle
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posted October 19, 2006 12:13 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
CancerRg,

With regard to "check out the way he is with other women", what if you are the only woman he socializes with? My Cancer fella has a few female colleagues but they are all married.He is new in town so all his female friends live far away and he hardly talks to them and and the only other women in his life are his sisters. I will say this though, there was a woman who lives in our neighborhood and on day she came over to deliver something I bought at her yardsale. She was totally "making time" with him and although he was polite to her, he was very reserved and didn't engage in the flirtation. The only other woman I see him with is my mom. He is very polite and respectful toward her and does things for her around the house but he is totally different with me but I jsut assumed it was a closer in age thing? You will have to forgive me, I am having a bit of a spazz because I think he might have asked me out, but I am still not sure and the "date" is tomorrow and I don't want to make an a** of myself if it isn't a date and yet don't want to give him the impression of not having a romantic interest by playing it too cool. Arghhh!

Tinasparkle

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InLoveWithLife
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posted October 19, 2006 01:51 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ditto for me...he doesnt seem to have any female friends here. he talks to a few girls but all very polite. not the way he makes fun of me all the time : (

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InLoveWithLife
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posted October 19, 2006 02:07 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey CancerRg, did u get my mail?

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tinasparkle
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posted October 19, 2006 02:28 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think CancerRg needs to set up an emergency hotline for all of us who are trying to decipher the ways of the Cancer Male. I can;t tell you the number of times I have wanted to ask RG something directly......In fact, I have a laundry list of questions!

Tinasparkle

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InLoveWithLife
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posted October 19, 2006 03:08 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ya, i think he happens to be the only cancer male around for miles on lindaland...so he is in demand
why did God make cancerians so damn complicated ?!!!

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tinasparkle
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posted October 19, 2006 03:27 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
They may be complicated, but they are also so very wonderful. I think the little bit of initial confusion is offset by the fact that men exist who actually like to cuddle in bed. Plus, because Cancer Men seem to have no public relations skills with regard to women, at least you know that when he expresses an emotion, it's genuine.

Tinasparkle

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InLoveWithLife
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posted October 19, 2006 05:55 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Gosh its so tough to wait !! Tinasparkle, how did u do it ?

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tinasparkle
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posted October 19, 2006 06:16 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, I am still sort of waiting. Tomorrow is our first date, or at least I think it is a date.As I said in my update post of Getting to know a Cancer...HE ASKED ME OUT, we were talking about the kitsch factor of bowling (we're both kind of odd) and he said "we should go bowling" so now we are going bowling tomorrow. It should be noted that two days prior, we were having a conversation and a friend asked him if he was the kind of guy who thinks "will I like her?" or the guy who says "will she like me?" He said he was the "will she like me?" type and I took that opportunity to say that "I found many men to be that way and I tried if I liked the guy to let him know that I liked him and he had the green light because I don't chase men." We'll the next time we talked he said we should go bowling, so I think that seems like he got my point. My advice with regard to your fellow would be to let him know in subtle ways how you feel. Do things just for him, he will notice. Touch him whenever possible. It will lead somewhere. Cancers can be confusing, but they are worth it.My Cancer guy is very sweet,caring,makes me feel safe and protected. Just be patient and it will work itself out. Follow your instincts and try to let him know how you feel in a subtle way.

Tinasparkle

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InLoveWithLife
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posted October 19, 2006 07:41 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
sigh !!

i have already done all of that ! tht's the whole problem.

well, my guy wears a mask...pretends he is macho, unemotional, thick-skinned, makes fun of me....but actually is very sensitive to my moods, remembers every word i utter for God knows how long, acts caring and possesive sometimes. And now i am increasingly convinced tht he is very shy, inspite of all his confidence and swagger.

He is very sharp at picking up cues, and by now i hv given him AMPLE hints tht i like him. Take it from me tht he KNOWS i like him ! I call him every other day...if he so much as sneezes in fronta me, i ask him if he is all right. Helped him with homeworks...tried to calm him down whn he is too tense. Praised him for his so many good qualities...there have been times whn i hv sat soo close to him. and whn i hv found myself admiring (read STARING AT) his eyelashes, for example...hehe

What more can i do !! Except ask him directly , which i dont wanna do in case he freaks out. (and in case i freak out later! u see i hv a cancerian ascendant)

ILWL

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tinasparkle
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posted October 19, 2006 08:27 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oh InLoveWithLive! What is a girl to do. The teasing thing bothers me. I know that they say that Cancers tease, but this is something that my Cancer guy doesn't do. Anyway, it sounds from your post that your friend likes you. If I were you, I would find some way to directly let him know that you fancy him and yet at the same time be subtle. For example, lets say you take to touching him. A pat on the arm, a hand on the back--mild touching. Then after a few times, touch him and then withdraw.Say something like "Does that bother you, when I touch you? I really enjoy our friendship and I wouldn't want the fact that I have a little crush on you to make you uncomfortable..." Once he stops to realize that you have just told him that you like him in a very nonchalant way, he will probably tell you his feeling about the matter and if he doesn't reciprocate, you were so casual about it that it won't even matter. Of course you would go home and cry, but it would make your friendship awkward. This is only and example and my suggestion and you have to do what feels right to you.

Tinasparkle

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InLoveWithLife
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posted October 19, 2006 11:35 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey Tinasparkle !

well i do touch him casually....i mean suppose he makes fun of me...i will pretend to beat him up i think he likes it

well, i think i really need to take matters in my hand...this guy is too passive and loooves to be courted. i mean he loves it when i call him, but whenever he calls it is always with some silly lil excuse. i think he is just too shy.

i just talked to him....not much bcoz he had some stuff to do...and rite now i am just pining for him like anything....this is wht he does to me, ALL THE TIME !!

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InLoveWithLife
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posted October 20, 2006 11:30 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Question to CancerRG:

Wht happens if you go overboard with cancerians ?

Yday i called him up twice...each time he didnt pick up the phone...got scared....then he called back and told me he was with his prof. relieved. then he said he'd talk later coz he had some work to do. but at the same time seemed interested in talking. i told him nevermind, i had just called to say hello.
well then, after sometime, i felt i reeeally needed to talk to him. so i called AGAIN. told him all tht had happened to me in the past 2 days. do u think with his moon in saggi he might think tht i am being clingy?


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The Mutable Night Force
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posted October 20, 2006 03:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for The Mutable Night Force     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
YES!!!!!!!!!!!
Do it! Ask him out!
Good match!
All I have to say!

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Dulce Luna
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posted October 20, 2006 05:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dulce Luna     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well if you're the impatient type then you better ask him out! If you were waiting for him then whew! Being a stubborn a$$ cancer, you could be waiting till kingdom come.

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