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Diana
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posted March 21, 2010 07:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diana     Edit/Delete Message
I can't take it anymore!!


After next week I am not talking to him anymore. I can't stand feeling like this.

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posted March 22, 2010 01:16 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MyVirgoMask     Edit/Delete Message

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posted March 22, 2010 02:25 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message
Yep, know exactly what ya mean.

I've been going through alot of..."sometimes we outgrow people but still love them anyway" stuff. And this is for both males AND females in my life. IMHO, if interactions with them leave you feeling drained, or crappy about yourself, it's just time.

Sometimes, we just have to self-perserve.

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posted March 22, 2010 03:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diana     Edit/Delete Message
I'm currently experiencing intense feelings for someone I am friends with and it's hard to deal with. I'd rather not be feeling these things and I don't know why I am so suddenly.

I can't be with this person and it's too hard to deal with, so I need to find a way to stop the feelings. Don't know how I'll do that, but I will.


It's just a big sigh type of situation.

@ Gypsee


I know that feeling too. I feel that way about another friend of mine and I know I need to not talk to them. They suck the life out of me. I am always supposed to be there for her, but she is never there for me. She is also very critical and negative. I love her, but I don't like her at all anymore. It's hard to end it, because I feel bad.

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posted March 22, 2010 03:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MyVirgoMask     Edit/Delete Message
OMG, I am going through the SAME exact thing with a friend of mine, Diana (I mean the latter part of your post, about the other friend. She's not there for me consistently, and it's not as though I ask for much. She just goes MIA on me without warning!
She did it before, when I was in the middle of my divorce and needed to talk to someone, about 2 years ago. She's doing it again, never even returning my calls. When we do talk (haven't in about 3 months) she does nothing but bitchbitchbitch about how everyone is terrible to her, and never there. Arggh.
It's like you can't win with someone like that. Better to let them go, I guess. But it sucks

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posted March 22, 2010 10:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diana     Edit/Delete Message
mvm,

My friend doesn't go mia, she just sits there and expects me to listen to her for hours, talking about the same thing over and over again, and I do, but then when I start saying anything, she has to get off the phone or she changes the subject back to her again. I am so tired of it. People need to know that when they get like that, and have remained like that with the same issue, that it's not fair to their friends and that they need a therapist. Also, I probably wouldn't care if this was isolated, but she's been this way forever and she doesn't care about me and my life at all. It's so selfish. I am sick of doing it, when I know I shouldn't.


You're lucky she isn't returning your calls. You have the perfect opportunity to bow out and not feel at all guilty. I don't have that luxury. I will have to tell her and I feel bad.


As for the other issue, it came out of the blue, and I hope it leaves just a quickly. It's very odd. I actually feel a bit more normal again -- like it's subsiding. Of course t. venus is in my 12th house right now which is so funny, because it totally fits how I was feeling! I didn't even realize that until today.

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posted March 23, 2010 01:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message
Been there. Still there.

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posted March 23, 2010 04:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MyVirgoMask     Edit/Delete Message
Blecch. Hang in there! It's about to change!

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posted March 23, 2010 04:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Unmoved     Edit/Delete Message
Hey My Dear Lady Di

I've missed you. I don't know if its due to my MIA tendencies around here or due to the fact that you're busy scoping your friend out. I love it! Of course, you're finding attraction toward your friend a problem, but to me, it's the best situation ever. I mean, what better person to fall for than your friend? Right?

Ok, I'm not helping at all. I guess, with Uranus, the ruler of my 5th being in 1st and with the Sun and Venus being in my 11th, you should understand being Aqua and all.

As for dead beat friends. Off with the Head! In other words, cut the biaches off before they suck more life force out of ya. I did that last year and life has been so much better. These energy vampires act as if the friggen universe revolves around their "supposed" ice-cream manufacturing behinds.

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posted March 23, 2010 07:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lyra     Edit/Delete Message
HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!

I can relate, I had a g/f who used to "drain" (& who lived abroad & who my ex-boyfriend was, er, *unhealthily* interested in meeting) so I got rid of BOTH of them!!!!!!

Plus other friends that won't help themselves - it's amazing how many don't work, but ask you for money (cough, cough - of course I didn't oblige, and told them to go earn their own, or scrounge it off s/o else!). One friend actually told me I was there to "take care of" him. WT-???

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posted March 23, 2010 09:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diana     Edit/Delete Message
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I've missed you. I don't know if its due to my MIA tendencies around here or due to the fact that you're busy scoping your friend out. I love it! Of course, you're finding attraction toward your friend a problem, but to me, it's the best situation ever. I mean, what better person to fall for than your friend? Right?

Aww...I miss you too.

Getting back to your post.

Re: the bolded part. Oh my God, NO! It's not good, not at all! He is with someone and I can't go after him. I am not scoping him out. I am trying to avoid him, which is easy because thankfully, we don't talk too often. We've been platonic forever anyway, so I am not afraid of not being able to handle it, but emotionally it's too difficult. I could see him tomorrow and we'd both behave. We don't want to have an illicit thing. I know I don't. Anyway, I think maybe I am just confusing friendship affection for something more since I am not dating anyone right now.

Honestly, if he were single tomorrow, I'd be hesitant to get involved. I want to just be friends. We can be friends forever, but if we were more, we'd probably end up ruining everything. There's some country song that is about this and I can't remember what it's called for the life of me...haha, of COURSE there's a country song about this.


Randall,

friend or love interest?


Lyra,

I wouldn't care if she wasn't always unsupportive of me when I needed her. It seems all she does is take.


re money. I've had so many friends borrow money from me and never pay it back, that now I have a rule: I do not lend money to friends, because they won't pay it back and it ruins the friendship.


MVM,

Why do you think it will change?

I think about you every time I go on a tweezing frenzy, which just happened a few weeks ago. haha.


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posted March 23, 2010 11:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MyVirgoMask     Edit/Delete Message
Diana, you and I are tweezing frenzy friends forever, because I always think of you when I go on a tweezing rampage too

Why do I think the stuff will change? Because youre aware of it. And I just sense it will.
Plus I know that feeling of having feelings for a friend when I'm not dating. But I think it's going to change too because I just keep getting the feeling you're about to meet someone new and get into something long term sometime soon ...like maybe the early summer
Do you feel that way at all? I can usually 'scent out' when I'm about to enter something serious before the person even shows up. Do you do that too by any chance?

Unmoved...heyyyyyy
I want to hear about what happens with your guy!

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posted March 23, 2010 11:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diana     Edit/Delete Message
Hmm...maybe. You've been saying I am about to meet someone for a year....haha. You always say that...you must really think so. What sign do you think he'll be?!


For the rest of our lives we will think of one another when we tweeze. How weird is that?!

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posted March 24, 2010 12:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MyVirgoMask     Edit/Delete Message
"For the rest of our lives we will think of one another when we tweeze..."

That is so effing weird


Oh my gaahhhd, I've been saying this for a year? Has it been that long? LOL. I just keep thinking it. What sign will he be...hmm. I have no idea. Probably someone with shades of Pluto though.

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posted March 24, 2010 01:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diana     Edit/Delete Message
I think you started saying it last summer...? It was funny too, because then I did meet someone and was dating him in August/September, but it didn't work out.


A plutonian like me? Oh no!


I really want to know what that country song is now. I can't figure it out. It was a guy and he says that they should only think of what could've been because they'd only mess it up if they were a couple. It's exactly my rationale in this situation. Anyone know what it is? I think it is one of the popular newer country men.

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posted March 24, 2010 03:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MyVirgoMask     Edit/Delete Message
I only know older country...like Patsy Cline, Hank Williams (sr)...and the more modern stuff like Neko Case (tho she's not mainstream).

That's funny about the summer, Diana. I ended up starting my relationship w/Aqua in the summer too (but I'd sniffed out the thing like 6 months before). Still, I vaguely remember also looking at your chart and something with Pluto and going, Whoa. lol.
Just something weird about it because it seems like you're not the type to actually get involved too often or in superfluous involvements. So it's building, and building, and building.....

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posted March 24, 2010 11:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diana     Edit/Delete Message
Damn, I really want to know what song that is.

Hmm...Pluto isn't really doing anything in my chart anymore. In my progressed it was on the cusp on my DC because my AC/DC changed into cancer/cap. Maybe that's it...I know I talked about that.


I don't like many people. It takes me a long time to like someone, so I do not date like other people, because it feels unnatural to me. It takes me at least months, but maybe years to be attracted to someone. I rarely meet someone, think he's cute, and then date him. Makes having a love life pretty non-existent. I've only been initially attracted to two men in my entire life. They were both earth signs, but I can't find a common theme in their charts because I don't have TOB. They may have both had taurus moon, but I'm not sure due to the TOB issue.


I don't know if it's building.

Had the weirdest dream last night about my friend. We both were running away from one another, but at different times.

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posted March 24, 2010 01:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Unmoved     Edit/Delete Message
From the last dream you told us about (Burn Notice), your dreams are pretty prophetic.

MVM- yeah, I wanna know what happens too.

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posted March 24, 2010 03:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cpn_edgar_winner     Edit/Delete Message
sounds like maybe something brad paisley would write. i think i have heard the song. let me think.

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posted March 24, 2010 04:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diana     Edit/Delete Message
That was the BEST dream! Haha!

Cpn,

Thank you! I am going to look through his songs and see if it's him. I think it may be.

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posted March 24, 2010 04:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diana     Edit/Delete Message
I don't see it. I think I would recognize the title. Damn, this is going to bug me.


I saw anaother song of his that fits what this guy does to me (not THIS guy, but some other guy). "It never woulda worked out anyway." Except "my" guy does it because he hates me and is a psychopath.

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posted March 26, 2010 04:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diana     Edit/Delete Message
This is gonna sound weird, but I am starting to think I'm feeling this because I'm picking up on what he's thinking. We have always had telepathy -- whenever I think of him, he's thinking of me or vice versa and one of us contacts the other and says, "I've been thinking about you lately." I am starting to think this, because of that and because it happened out of the blue, but most importantly, it will go away all day, to pick up later and then quickly go away again late at night. I think he doesn't really think about it during the day because he's busy with work, so he thinks about it early evening until he goes to bed -- that's when I get relief again. So weird, I know, but it's a pattern and if it were me, why would it stop late at night -- that's when it should be strongest. I am a night owl and he goes to sleep earlyish.


He needs to stop.

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posted March 27, 2010 12:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diana     Edit/Delete Message
Well, I didn't get it today. Everything is back to normal. I'm so glad! I really think it was him thinking of me that gave me the intense feelings. I wonder what he's doing that he's not thinking of me now. Maybe he went away for the weekend with her or something. I really hope it stays this way. What a weird week.

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posted March 27, 2010 03:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Unmoved     Edit/Delete Message
It's already over! Booo!

*shakes head at the lack of drama*

But I am glad. You were really uncomfortable with it.

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posted March 27, 2010 04:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diana     Edit/Delete Message
I hope it's over. I'll see if I get it today. I really think it was him. If he's just busy it may be back.


You are right -- it did bother me a lot.

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