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Topic: Checkmate- he got me to do the unthinkable
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scorpioasc34
Newflake Posts: 20
From: Las Vegas, CA
Registered: May 2013
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posted June 03, 2013 09:45 PM
  
Greetings everyone, please be sensitive and no judgmental attitudes. I already hurt and feel like the biggest fool on planet earth. I'm so career focused that I really don't have anyone to talk to about this. i know this isn't an advice column to vent my problems. J contacted me last week, his intentions were great initially. He wanted to see me, in which I obviously declined. He asked for inappropriate pictures of me. Initially, I declined thought he was crazy. I sent him some fake pictures just to get him to leave me alone, of course he knew they were fakes. He kept bringing up the past and good times we shared. Made me miss him; made me feel good. He promised me a lot things; so i ended up sending 1 real picture. After he got the picture I never heard from him again. I'm trying to figure out what his intentions are: is it just sex he wants, is he confused, do he misses me or do he just want to hurt me. If anyone is available and have the time. I would love if someone could pull a few cards. I would like the question focused primarily on J's intentions with me. I had a reading done that says there is potential for romance, that he can be fickle and that he plays at love. I know he has feelings for me, but why on earth did he feel the need to trick me out of a picture. Not to mention, my fiancé snuck into my phone found out that I had secretly been in contact with J. He even found out that I sent J a picture. Honestly, I feel like my life is falling apart. IP: Logged |
curiouswoman
Knowflake Posts: 998
From: on earth
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted June 04, 2013 12:35 AM
he is playing mind gamesIP: Logged |
scorpioasc34
Newflake Posts: 20
From: Las Vegas, CA
Registered: May 2013
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posted June 04, 2013 05:05 AM
@ curiouswoman Thank you for your honest. What confuses me is there is no need for him to play these mind games with me. No need for him to lie either. I don't understand why he couldn't have just been honest from the get go IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
Knowflake Posts: 2232
From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted June 04, 2013 05:14 AM
I don't see that as mind games. A game,for sure. Not mind games.He wanted you to send him a picture,he got it. That's it. IP: Logged |
Haplesschild*
Knowflake Posts: 851
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Registered: Nov 2012
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posted June 04, 2013 06:08 AM
He wants sex, and would probably have tried to get you into bed if he saw you in person.You made a bad decision, best not to ever talk to him again. Fiance must be feeling really gutted right now =(. IP: Logged |
EmpressMendez
Knowflake Posts: 3521
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Registered: May 2012
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posted June 04, 2013 06:13 AM
scorpioasc34, I don't understand how many times you will come back with a new name. It's clear by your 10,000 other posts that J has no interest in you -- we already told you with the readings we gladly provided for you, but you keep insisting and returning with more new names. The man is married, but you sent him nude photos?I don't understand how you bypassed the ip ban either. IP: Logged |
scorpioasc34
Newflake Posts: 20
From: Las Vegas, CA
Registered: May 2013
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posted June 04, 2013 06:25 AM
@ everyone Thank you for your honest opinions, he contacted me a couple of minutes ago. He apologized. i don't trust him and this is definitley a lesson learned. He's not married Empress. And yes, I sent an inappropriate picture. I have only had 1 reading since joining LL. IP: Logged |
EmpressMendez
Knowflake Posts: 3521
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Registered: May 2012
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posted June 04, 2013 06:36 AM
Lol, yes keep lying to yourself and making more new names. This won't change anything. Good luckIP: Logged |
Jessica2407
Knowflake Posts: 2232
From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted June 04, 2013 10:12 AM
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Originally posted by scorpioasc34:
@ everyone Thank you for your honest opinions, he contacted me a couple of minutes ago. He apologized. i don't trust him and this is definitley a lesson learned. He's not married Empress. And yes, I sent an inappropriate picture. I have only had 1 reading since joining LL.
Do you want my honest opinion? If I was a guy, I wouldn't trust YOU.
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happyaskings
Knowflake Posts: 277
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Registered: Dec 2012
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posted June 04, 2013 11:49 AM
Eh a naked photo isn't really that big of a deal...at least to me. He's just one of those creeps that is persistent until they get what they want.But you have a fiance so it is kind of a big deal. It doesn't matter if you and J have "romantic potential" or not, your main concern should not be with what this losers intentions are...it should be what is going to happen with the bond you and your husband share. You choose to be a part of these games, but your fiance isn't even a player in them and he's still going to come out damaged. IP: Logged |
scorpioasc34
Newflake Posts: 20
From: Las Vegas, CA
Registered: May 2013
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posted June 04, 2013 12:41 PM
@ Jessica Thanks for your honesty. I'm not a guy and I don't trust myself. @ happy endings I told J off, I cursed him out good. I don't understand the hold we have on each other. We get involved on other relationships and somehow he still manages to pop in and out of my life. Every time he comes back, I let him right back in, but I'm done this time around. It's not like we haven't been intimate with each other in the past, that's why I couldn't understand his need to lie to get a nude photo, it's not like I'm the calling him, he contacts me out the blue whenever it seems like I'm doing good, here he comes. IP: Logged |
Haplesschild*
Knowflake Posts: 851
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Registered: Nov 2012
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posted June 04, 2013 03:29 PM
He doesn't have a gun pointed at your head though. You can step away from the situation. Trust me, I've been through the whole persistent ex thing-you block them, change your number and stay silent. They lose interest in the need for attention eventually. IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
Knowflake Posts: 6690
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Registered: Jul 2011
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posted June 04, 2013 03:40 PM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IDfl450cffk 1:39-1:50 Somehow reminded me of that. I find it important to remember that we actually DO have a choice. Even if we say we are being pulled towards something or someone, it still has to do with a choice or a feeling INSIDE of us. Noone externally can make us do that (unless they are using violence), if there is not some kind of resonance to that inside of us. So honestly, if I were in your position, I would wonder why I sent the picture, why I always pick up the phone (metaphorically speaking), when he calls, why I let myself get pulled back.
Why am I doing this behind my boyfriend`s back? Why am I risking hurting him and also risking the whole relationship?
Why isn`t love - to my boyfriend- enough?
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Sven555
Knowflake Posts: 101
From: UK
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted June 05, 2013 04:51 AM
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Sven555
Knowflake Posts: 101
From: UK
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted June 05, 2013 06:00 AM
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Originally posted by scorpioasc34:
Greetings everyone, please be sensitive and no judgmental attitudes. I already hurt and feel like the biggest fool on planet earth. I'm so career focused that I really don't have anyone to talk to about this. i know this isn't an advice column to vent my problems. J contacted me last week, his intentions were great initially. He wanted to see me, in which I obviously declined. He asked for inappropriate pictures of me. Initially, I declined thought he was crazy. I sent him some fake pictures just to get him to leave me alone, of course he knew they were fakes. He kept bringing up the past and good times we shared. Made me miss him; made me feel good. He promised me a lot things; so i ended up sending 1 real picture. After he got the picture I never heard from him again. I'm trying to figure out what his intentions are: is it just sex he wants, is he confused, do he misses me or do he just want to hurt me. If anyone is available and have the time. I would love if someone could pull a few cards. I would like the question focused primarily on J's intentions with me. I had a reading done that says there is potential for romance, that he can be fickle and that he plays at love. I know he has feelings for me, but why on earth did he feel the need to trick me out of a picture. Not to mention, my fiancé snuck into my phone found out that I had secretly been in contact with J. He even found out that I sent J a picture. Honestly, I feel like my life is falling apart.
He either still loves you/has a thing for you, or he just wants an ego boost. I agree with curiouswoman and Jessica, he's playing some sort of 'game' and not a nice one  My ex girlfriend tried the exact same thing with me (picture of my privates). She even pretended to be drunk and asked me (how sad!) but due to the way i was, i assumed the worse; i thought she was going to exploit the picture of me, if i sent it to her. So nono. In your case, he probably is having a bad relationship period, so he thinks "Oh i'll text her, because i'll know she'll respond and see what happens" He just wants it to make himself have 1 up on you. Obviously, you did send him a picture; so i guess that's a lesson learnt, but i doubt that apology from him was sincere, he's landed the jackpot.
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Jessica2407
Knowflake Posts: 2232
From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted June 05, 2013 06:04 AM
Why would someone want to have a picture of your privates? Gross. IP: Logged |
scorpioasc34
Newflake Posts: 20
From: Las Vegas, CA
Registered: May 2013
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posted June 05, 2013 06:10 AM
@ Ceridwen You're right! I'm the one keep letting him back into my life. My life is falling apart, last night my fiancé moved out of our apartment we share together . @ 7 I definitley feel played like he got one up on me. I feel like the biggest fool. My engagement has been called off and J is somewhere enjoying his life. What appreciate the most is all of the honest responses. I took a lot for me to post this. I'm hurt, I just want to climb under a rock and hide. J's brother told me, he doesn't know why J did it, it didn't make sense to him. J is a very attractive guy, he could have any woman. Why does he feel the need to hurt me? I hate myself IP: Logged |
scorpioasc34
Newflake Posts: 20
From: Las Vegas, CA
Registered: May 2013
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posted June 05, 2013 06:14 AM
He can't possible love me when he intentionally plotted, lied to get the picture. @ Jessica I don't even know why he wanted the picture anyway. That's the scary part. Like I said him and I use to date, so we have been intimate with each other in the past. Why ask for a picture, when you have had the real thing before. I'm seriously starting to think he's playing to use them pictures somehow. IP: Logged |
EmpressMendez
Knowflake Posts: 3521
From:
Registered: May 2012
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posted June 05, 2013 06:25 AM
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum11/HTML/006823.html
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum11/HTML/006831.html
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum11/HTML/006403.html Not sure why everyone is feeding this person who is a pathological liar. She's an attention-seeking person, and will lie to get pity from anyone. I'm sure she sent the picture herself, and now feels rejected that he didn't respond the way she wanted him to. Here she actually talks to herself with her names pretending to be two different people: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum11/HTML/006960.html IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
Knowflake Posts: 2232
From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted June 05, 2013 06:26 AM
^^ Listen,whatever happened has already happened now. No use crying over spilt milk. I'm sorry to hear that your engagement has been called off but I think putting myself in the shoes of your fiance,it's understandable. I think deep down, you weren't ready to commit yourself to one man. Now, you have to focus on yourself rather than the motives of your ex.IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
Knowflake Posts: 2232
From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted June 05, 2013 06:28 AM
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Originally posted by EmpressMendez:
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum11/HTML/006823.html
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum11/HTML/006831.html
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum11/HTML/006403.html [b]Not sure why everyone is feeding this person who is a pathological liar. She's an attention-seeking person, and will lie to get pity from anyone. I'm sure she sent the picture herself, and now feels rejected that he didn't respond the way she wanted him to. Here she actually talks to herself with her names pretending to be two different people.
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum11/HTML/006960.html [/B]
wow. seriously? they are all the same person??
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EmpressMendez
Knowflake Posts: 3521
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Registered: May 2012
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posted June 05, 2013 06:30 AM
Yes, and she's back. Not sure how she bypassed the ip ban & why she continues lying. Talking about the same man & making up 1000 different versions of the same tired story. quote:
Originally posted by Jessica2407:
wow. seriously? they are all the same person??
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Jessica2407
Knowflake Posts: 2232
From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted June 05, 2013 06:31 AM
Some people really need to get themselves a life!Okay,am done with this thread. IP: Logged |
scorpioasc34
Newflake Posts: 20
From: Las Vegas, CA
Registered: May 2013
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posted June 05, 2013 06:52 AM
@ Empress I feel bad enough already. Please stop! This is my first time on LL. Why would I feel rejected when he's the one asking for the picture? Like I said to everyone, I appreciate all the responses. @ Jess You're right no use in crying over spilled milk, like my title to this topic "checkmate" he got me good. IP: Logged |
Sven555
Knowflake Posts: 101
From: UK
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted June 05, 2013 07:05 AM
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Originally posted by EmpressMendez:
Yes, and she's back. Not sure how she bypassed the ip ban & why she continues lying. Talking about the same man & making up 1000 different versions of the same tired story.
Wow, that was some great spotting Empress. You're right about her.
I read one of the posts and it appears true. "People need answers" - So my first rule of logic is to answer my own questions!  IP: Logged |
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