posted March 21, 2018 09:55 PM            

He is an Aquarius sun, Aries moon, Aqua mercury/Venus, Taurus mars.

I have Sun in Leo, 2nd house. Sun opposite Uranus and Jupiter in the 8th, trine Pluto in the 6th.

My bf’s Sun is the exact same as mine, including aspects and house placement, except no opposition to Jupiter. His dad is also an Aquarius. He also has a sh*tty dad.

I feel like the Sun truly does represent the father. I have noticed other people’s charts who have a well-placed (by sign or house) and well-aspected Sun, usually have good fathers.

My bf’s ex-girlfriend has a good father. He gives her the freedom and is open to listening to her. He has been with her mother since they were married, sometimes fought, but never cheated.

He is a Leo. I don’t know the rest of his chart. She, on the other hand, is an Aries sun. The only aspect her Sun makes is a sextile to Neptune. She is treated like a true princess.

I choose her in comparison because she is one of the few that have well-placed/well-aspected Suns. My bf says she’s a lot like me except she doesn’t have daddy issues. I struggle with mine. She is pretty lucky.

posted March 22, 2018 07:24 AM            

I "like" him less than i did when i was a younger, had some strong moments of dislike, he did laugh me out once or twice, but I guess it is life, he was born with his mission and me with mine

Saturn is coming to my 4th house now, I wanna see what happens

posted March 22, 2018 07:43 AM            

My Dad is a Gemini Sun, Leo Moon, Libra Asc. Leo Pluto Gen.

I used to like him and now I don’t. I finally see him for what (yes, what) he is despite my mom trying to tell me for YEARS!

He’s the type that talk big words, will help you when you need it and then come back to you and DEMAND the favor to be returned. He’s passive aggressive (Cancer Mars) and he treats my mom as if she’s a bloody servant from 1920s.

posted March 22, 2018 09:29 AM            

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Originally posted by charlie:
Cancer Sun 11H
conjunct Cancer Venus
opposite Cap Moon 5H
trine Uranus, North Node Scorpio 3H

My Dad is a Gemini Sun, Leo Moon, Libra Asc. Leo Pluto Gen.

I used to like him and now I don’t. I finally see him for what (yes, what) he is despite my mom trying to tell me for YEARS!

He’s the type that talk big words, will help you when you need it and then come back to you and DEMAND the favor to be returned. He’s passive aggressive (Cancer Mars) and he treats my mom as if she’s a bloody servant from 1920s.

He would give you a million $ and the come knocking on your door, when you least expect it, and demand it all back-you have 5 hrs to fix it.

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Were in opposite situations here. With you being the child of a Gemini father and me being the Gemini child of a Cancer father
(I will discuss in my next post).

I probably reason somewhat similarly to your father.

Its not so much that he wants it back but rather "I scratch your back you scratch my back".

Before my grandma passed away it was just me, my older cousin and my aunt looking after her.

Why? She looked after me and help me out so I will my bend my back for her.

I think your dad has a similar way of thinking.

They'll bend there back when you need it the most but expect the same loyalty and devotion in return when there in rough shape.

posted March 22, 2018 10:07 AM            

Both parents are Cancers and they both constantly make wrong assumptions of what I need and require.

They'll make things available but because they like control its not allocated correctly and turns into a waste.

Leaving me in a position of I can't complain because not everyone is lucky and appreciate it. But at the same time its mismanagement.

For example I came home from school one day and I asked whats that car parked in front?.

They said to me they bought me a car???

I'm thinking ah..great!!!....for the same amount of money they should have just gave it to me so I can do a masters instead, I had the marks.

I explain cars deprecate in value, if and only if you earn a skill or degree thats in demand it will increase your earning potential and I can buy many cars.

So then I switch to software engineering because an engineering grad will earn the same sometimes more as a person with a masters.

Then I get job offers and my parents "force" me to work in government while I rather prefer to work at Google Canada.
But because they paid my tuition, I'm forced to go along with them.

My entire experience with both Cancers is they care enough to make things available but because they always get in the way they open a Pandora's box of problems.

My dad just bought a retirement farm, being Cancer he assumed we all would like a big home in the middle of nowhere.

But he's old and can't do much of the work anymore, So he expects me to be there. So I keep running away from him in a nice way.

Which means I have to use my car more.

More car use = more maintenance and more maintenance = more $$$.

At the same I've gotten use to living downtown, taking transit or walking and meeting the people.

So I don't understand my dads logic of living in the middle of nowhere having to buy a gas guzzling truck thats expensive to maintain and insure.

But he said he wants to pass down the farm, so as much as I want to complain I really can't.

posted March 22, 2018 02:24 PM            

I have sun in virgo in the 11th house conjunct Horus square neptune ruler of my 5th house, my sun also opposes my moon in pisces.

I am my father's only biological daughter, he had doubts about asking my mother to marry him bc she was a workaholic but had a spiritual experience back when he was not that spiritual and decided to ask her to marry him as a result of this.

My dad is like a good friend who is loyal, supportive and a great listener, I feel unconditionally loved by him, accepted, understood. I feel he gave me space and let me be me. He has moon in virgo and venus in Aquarius, he is a capricorn, I feel capricorns tend to be reliable parents, since capricorns are in the axis with cancer they tend to make family a priority.

When I was 10 we immigrated to the USA, it was his idea and my mother went for it, he had a business in the Dominican Republic that he had to manage bc his father had Alzheimer's. Since the age of 10 throughout my teen years he would be half of the time at home and the other half abroad, back and forth, so his presence was inconsistent for a portion of my childhood but mostly during my teens. He is a great dad though.

posted March 22, 2018 04:51 PM            

But no. I was "a girl" ... They were willing to pay for my three brothers to go to college, or vocational school.

I DID NOT "count" because of my gender.
Girls don't need an education. It's a "waste" to educate a woman, "because she's going to wind up married and pregnant, anyway!" --what their literal slogan and excuse was.

And then----
I left home early. Worked and saved my money.
Paid for my first semester of school and expensive books, and being an 'emancipated' minor, THEN qualified me LATER, for a Grant which helped a LOT.

I worked a part-time job, as well as carrying a full 16 to 18+ (and 22 once! ~crazy girl, haha, TOO much) credits a semester.

I walked around campus though... Just feeling a kind of icky underneath "guiltiness" ALL the time!!

According to my parents, I was "taking up the space (and using the money) that a "MORE-deserving man" could have used.. "HE" would have done better, BEING "IN my seat" so HE could get a better job, in order to Provide for his hungry family???

Oh yeah. HARD to carry that weight of guilt PLUS books-- for "stealing" an opportunity from a MAN???

My SUN is 'unaspected' and in the 6th House.
Sun sesquisquares Neptune in the 10th (another father house).

I felt super-bad and was 'walked upon' as being foolish, rebellious, and selfish for wishing to go to college.

Gemmy Minds, want to Know!!! LOL

posted March 22, 2018 05:26 PM            

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Originally posted by Solar_Leo_Queen:
@DualGemV2

My mom is the exact same way as your dad. She has Cancer placements, although she is a Gemini sun. She got really mad I dropped out of university and went to hair school. She says she was gonna pay for my education as long as I go to uni. So now I’m stuck with student loans but at least I’m not doing something I’m being forced to do. Parents are a real pain.

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I'm no Jim Cramer. But hair is a non cyclical business.

I think if you develop a system were you have one customer every hour and they pay $25-50 and there done within the hour its really quick cash.

If you consider that the average doctor makes $80 an hour + all the input costs of going to medical school and still paying it off, you wouldn't be doing to bad.

Your a Leo with a Virgo mix. You'll get that loan paid off fast.

@mirage29
Interesting...Your female and you have some of my placements???. I thought you were male at least I am.

posted March 22, 2018 05:40 PM            

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Originally posted by SecretGeek:
I should add that my father wouldn't have been much without my mother. They were married for 64 years before he passed away. My mother was like a saint. Both died in my arms about 6 years apart.

I took after my father, in case you are wondering. LOL

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posted March 22, 2018 06:02 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

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posted March 22, 2018 06:20 PM            

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Originally posted by mirage29:
SecretGeek! .. How Beautiful. Made me want to cry.

DualGem.. yep! I'm your other-gender expression of similar placements here

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TY. Yeah I am pretty sure it is the mother, mostly. She was the youngest daughter of immigrants. She had white hair and blue eyes when she was young. She raised 9, then went to college. She got her Masters in Spanish at age 44-45 or so, then retired with a teacher's retirement package. She knew 6 languages fluently.

posted March 22, 2018 07:42 PM            

Sun Aspects
Sun semi-square Mars - orb of 1
Sun square Saturn - orb of 2
Sun trine Uranus - orb of 2
Sun trine Neptune - orb of 3
Sun opposite Pluto - orb of 6

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I grew up without a lot of dominant male figures in my life. There are certainly some capable men in my family, but they were not frequently around. My Capricorn father has never been able to keep a job, my brother is not much better, my dad's father died sometime before I was 15, my mom's father developed Alzheimer's and I ended up forgetting what he was like before getting it, my dad's brother was an abusive alcoholic, and anyone else lives out-of-state. Most of the people that played a major role in raising me were female. On the other hand, it's worth mentioning that while my dad doesn't work, he is still present in my life and he has done some amount of parenting even without being able to give me financial support.

My opinion of my dad is not an awful one. He isn't exactly suited for parenthood, but he could be much worse. I mostly use him as an example of how not to live my life. The main thing I like about my dad is he encourages me to form my own opinions and think for myself and not just blindly believe anything and everything he says.

This is more than a lot of parents do. I've heard a lot about parents making their children do everything they say without regard for how their behavior is affecting the child. They do not explain why their child has to do this, this, or this and they punish the child for asking questions because of them assuming them doing this is them "having an attitude." And a lot of these parents also force their children to do things with their lives they really don't want to do. It's one thing to tell a child to clean his room and another thing entirely to tell that same child he has to become a doctor or straight A's.

Both my parents get along with me. My only complaint is I feel like there were things I didn't get growing up, mostly social skills. While my childhood was fairly balanced in terms of positive and negative experiences, however, I feel like I never got to properly be a child. For the most part, it was hard to appreciate anything or enjoy my life, because I was severely depressed to the point I didn't even want to be alive a good portion of the time. My teenage years felt like they lasted a few extra years, but ultimately, those extra years were not spent on enjoying much of anything. I felt really isolated and it was hard to talk to people as a result of cognitive impairment, not to mention I was having an identity crisis so I had no idea where to start as far as making any new friends.

Anyway, I compared myself to my father a lot growing up, mainly because my depression was incredibly crippling and I could not see myself being able to work either. In fact, after a while, it felt like I would be worse than my dad, because I don't drive and I haven't had a single job. My self-esteem got much worse after my cognitive impairment issues started. Although my mom may be a saint, it's very unlikely I'll find anyone that will help me out the way my mom has helped my dad. In return for having a place to stay, my dad has to parent and stuff. Unfortunately, chances are slim I'll ever have that kind of deal with anyone.

My only saving grace may be my blocks of text. Every time I think I may not be able to succeed as a writer, all I have to do is find a random forum and start posting on it. For some reason, I can't stop making lengthy responses and this is without getting money from doing it. There are other signs I may be able to pull it off too, but my success as a writer depends on my ability to stop procrastinating. Saturn transiting my 2nd house honestly won't put up with that though. He is probably preparing a balanced breakfast of discipline pancakes and a large drink of reality for the next few years.

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Girls don't need an education. It's a "waste" to educate a woman, "because she's going to wind up married and pregnant, anyway!" --what their literal slogan and excuse was.

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posted March 22, 2018 07:57 PM            

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Originally posted by SecretGeek:
There are many variables but the best I can tell, it is up to the mother and the relationship of the mother to her father. My maternal grandfather made our great family possible. He loved her dearly.

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Well my grandparents from my father's side had a great marriage that everyone looked up to and my dad is still married to my mother and only got married once just like his own parents yet his brother who is my favorite uncle and a Sagittarius with Venus in Scorpio got married and divorced after a year and he is a player and horny as hell, loves the ladies a little too much so personality plays a big role, my dad has mars in Libra and is a Capricorn, he is simply put marriage material so were his parents who are both Capricorns (at early degrees).

posted March 22, 2018 08:31 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Well my grandparents from my father's side had a great marriage that everyone looked up to and my dad is still married to my mother and only got married once just like his own parents yet his brother who is my favorite uncle and a Sagittarius with Venus in Scorpio got married and divorced after a year and he is a player and horny as hell, loves the ladies a little too much so personality plays a big role, my dad has mars in Libra and is a Capricorn, he is simply put marriage material so were his parents who are both Capricorns (at early degrees).

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posted March 22, 2018 09:38 PM            

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Originally posted by mirage29:
..I DID NOT "count" because of my gender.
Girls don't need an education. It's a "waste" to educate a woman, "because she's going to wind up married and pregnant, anyway!" --what their literal slogan and excuse was.

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In my experience the "girls that study independently" tend to do better then the guys. They have something to prove, I'm male by the way.

Even as I'm doing my hwk for the blasted computational geometry math course thats mandatory for my degree.

I couldn't have passed the midterm if it wasn't for my female Libra TA. She has sun, venus, mercury and mars all in Libra. My mercury conjuncts her sun and vice versa.

She's way better then me at math, I told her for foundational math its better if its taught by a female because mistakes and failure is envidiable.

Females tend to be more forgiving when you make a mistake and press you to try again.

With a guy teaching you its very easy to get discouraged or intimated and then put it away.

My only gripe is 3rd wave feminist that use the excuse that all women are being taken advantage of to push there own political agenda rather then equality for all.

Other then that female teachers tend to be better in my experience.

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posted March 23, 2018 03:29 AM            

My dad is an Aries Sun/Mercury, Taurus Moon/Venus, Pisces Mars/ASC. My mom is a Capricorn Sun, Aries Moon, Mercury in Aquarius, Venus in Scorpio, Leo Mars, Cancer ASC. Both of them believe in having strong willed, independent children who are also close to their family. I was raised to believe that I could do anything I wanted if I wanted it enough and worked hard for it. (It worked for me - blue collar raising, 1st generation college graduate in spite of being a high school dropout, now have a good career in healthcare.)

Me - Virgo Sun in 7th house. Sun trine Saturn and Neptune, sextile Pluto, conjunct Mercury.

It's different with my sibling, though. He had just as many (maybe more) opportunities than I did to progress, grow, and succeed. However, he's older than me and still leaning heavily on our parents for financial support. He's very manipulative and plays on our parents emotions for money. He also has an alcohol/drug problem he refuses to get help for, and surrounds himself with dangerous people.

My sibling - Aquarius Sun in 3rd house. Sun conjunct Mercury/Venus. Sun square Pluto. Sun sextile AC. Scorpio Moon in 12th house square Jupiter.