posted June 26, 2003 09:58 AM              

I love him deeply but just don't understand him. One day I believe he loves me, the next day, I wonder if he even likes me! Sometimes I feel that I can reach him and other times it's like he builds a wall around himself which I can't penetrate. Why? I know there must be an explanation for this. Are we not compatable, should I not be with him?

posted June 26, 2003 11:48 AM              

Thanks for responding so quickly. I'll e-mail you straight away.

posted June 26, 2003 11:15 PM              

Oh, didn't you know, with Gems you get the two-for-one deal? Only problem is, you usually could do without the 2nd one.

That's the nature of Gemini.
Guess who I am? Guess what I like today? Guess who I hate today?
Just when you think you got me figured out, the season's already changing.

Gem and Sag share the opposition aspect with each other, which is notoriously attracting and repelling all at once.
(an easy state for a Gem for sure, so personally I think this particular opposition is the least difficult, although still challanging)

It's a "you're amazing, but I just don't 'get' you" kind of relationship.

posted June 27, 2003 11:14 AM              

Thanks for responding. You know, what you said is so true. Just when I think I've worked him out and we're making progress, he goes and changes again

I just don't know whether I'm coming or going with him. Are there any tricks of the trade that I should be aware of in order to overcome his ever changing mood?

posted June 27, 2003 12:45 PM              

<Ok, on this spot there used to be a beautiful chart picture, envelope shaped.>

Funnily, he sounds like me! Could be annoying indeed!

posted June 27, 2003 03:11 PM              

I don't have time to look at charts these days. I do want to add my two cents, well may be it's a quarter's worth

My boyfriend is a Gemini Rising. What you described sounds a bit like my beaux. He has his cycles and he knows them. Every Gemini I've encountered admits they go through mood cycles and can't always help themselves. At least they are kind enough to tell us

It really depends on how much you trust him, and know that he will be the same man in a few hours, or days, or weeks. But the same guy. Geminis, for the most part, do not transform, they just change hats because the temperament works out for whatever they are thinking about.

Have fun and enjoy it. Life will never be boring and frustrating, if you love him as the whole person that he is.

Be content knowing, if you don't like the mood . . . wait a few hours and it will change. I can't say that for anyone else!

posted June 27, 2003 03:59 PM              

Thanks for your input. I can relate to all that you've said. What you say about cycles is so true and it's also true that after a day or a week or so he reverts back to normal (if you can call him normal) The difficulty I have with this though, is that I just start to adapt to his new way of being (I suppose that's my Sagittarius trait coming through)and then he reverts back, so I have to adapt again...It's a nightmare, I never know where I am with him. I suppose most people would jump ship, I can't though because I see it as a challenge and I don't want to be beaten by it...If you see what I mean

Kinda mad don't you think?

posted June 27, 2003 04:31 PM              

You have a Capricorn Moon like me. No wonder you are asking these questions.

May I ask if you do this too? . . .

Analyzing people to find out if they are mentally and/or emotionally unstable and make a decision whether or not to stay or leave?

posted June 27, 2003 04:49 PM            

The Sun on the Mid-Heaven signifies a very public person, someone who likes the limelight and wants others to notice him or her. They shine on stage, or rise in a business, act as a leader among their friends, or go their own way with confidence and panache. As a child, especially if the Sun has many squares to it, such a person may be a trouble-maker in the classroom. On the other hand, if this person has trines and sextiles to the Sun, he or she may be the most popular person or President of the class. They will stand up for their beliefs and will speak their truth publically.

Does this sound like him?
Sue

posted June 27, 2003 10:36 PM              

I tend to agree with what others here have said. Speaking as a Gem myself, I would say that the change-of-mood is neither planned nor intended to hurt others. Gemini is very sensitive to begin with...and if Mercury is also in Gemini as your BF's is (mine too)...the mind can get overactive and overwhelmed with all the thoughts constantly spinning around in it. My opinion only, but I think when you combine the innate sensitivity with the overactive mind...you're going to get moodiness...at least that's the case with me, lol.

Like others have said, try to relax and enjoy him. They say opposite signs each have traits the other lacks but needs, so maybe if you could both keep a willingness to learn attitude, you could help oneanother to a better understanding of each other (?). And yes...never boring!

A question: would you say you and he have good communication? I believe keeping the lines of communication open is important in all relationships, but doubly so (pardon the pun) with Gems...if they feel you are their friend, they are more likely to open up, and of course that could help you to understand him better.

Now...having said that...there are times when you'd probably be better off NOT trying to understand him, lol. When he gets moody, like someone else here said, just leave him be and trust that the mood will pass and he'll return to his old sweet self shortly.

Hope that helps a little.

Smiley icon most accurately to describe Gemini???>>>>>>>>>>>>>

posted June 28, 2003 08:22 AM              

Yes that's exactly what I'm like....I also seem to be drawn to mentally/emotionally unstable types. Or those that have some kind of problem. I tend to see this type as a challenge and try to sort out their problems or rescue them in some way.

posted June 28, 2003 08:30 AM              

Yes it is "show time" with him but what I mean by that is he loves to be in the limelight/center of attention. This is when he really shines. He actually works as a painter and decorator but he's not happy with that. I don't think he's found his true vocation in life yet....Not for the want of trying though, from the age of 16 till now - he's 28, he has had approx. 130 jobs and that's no lie!!!

In school he was the joker and was very disruptive to the class...but at the same time was extremely intelligent and was way ahead of everyone else.

posted June 28, 2003 08:42 AM              

He's definately a good communicator and when he gets going you can't get a word 'in edgeways'

As for his ever changing moods....I really think there's a lot of turmoil within him, it's as if he feels incomplete...this is only my assumption but that's the impression I get. It's as if he's searching for something to make him whole...I feel he's searching in all the wrong places though...he's drawn to drink and drugs, has an addictive personality. He can be so happy, lively, and sometimes affectionate and then suddenly withdrawn, depressed, quiet and wants to be alone...I never know where I am with him

posted June 28, 2003 08:57 AM              

Thanks for your input. I agree, I don't believe his moods are planned or intended to hurt...and when he's made aware that he has inflicted pain in some way, he's suprised and sorry. I think he has a very sensitive side, but this is a trait that he trys to hide. You're dead right as well about the overactive mind as well!

I do enjoy him..very much so and I think you're right when you say I should try and relax with him when his moods arise and I do try but sometimes it's hard for me to do because I'm not a moody person. Yes there traits which we both lack, that are compensated by the traits that the other has and I do believe this is why we are still together.

In answer to your question about good communication between us....yes I think there is but at the same time there are occasions when he really opens up to me and I can see the sensitivity within him...then there are other times when he shuts me out and won't reveal a thing...I've tried to analyse this and think it must be because he thinks that if he opens up to me and reveals too much it will disempower him in some way and I might take him over...Don't know if this makes sense to you but I know what I'm trying to say, it's just really difficult to put into words.