posted August 13, 2004 03:23 AM              

My Cancer guy and I fond these posts funny lol. Anyway, Cancers may be really nice guys. He is Libra rising with the Moon in my the sign of the Archer. He is a great guy, I'm glad he's a crab. Yes, he does get moody and tends to go into his shell with my arrows of um bluntness strike. Truly, though he isn't mean. Just shy and moody.

posted April 18, 2008 02:44 AM            

Oh wait... I am Cancer Moon in 10th house... with Scorpio Rising, Mars in Scorpio too and Jupiter in Scorpio in the 1st house.

muahahaha muaahAHAHAHAHAhaha muauahahaha:

On a serioua note: being manipulative is a sign of low self-esteem; the need to manipulate others to get what you want because you can't get it yourself - due to feelings of fear. Fear of loss, fear of hurt, and and general powerlessness.

Some of us have matured to a point where we find no pleasure in hurting others. I promise.

I have a Cancer friend, a couple of them, who 'try' to be manipulative by using guilt trips etc. and I just laugh at them and tell them exactly what they are doing. Then they sulk away until they realize that their methods are not working on me. And soon they cheer up or try again, to their dismay because once again... it does not work.

posted April 18, 2008 07:47 AM              

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I WISH i was vindictive lol but i'm passive and a softy and get mad when people do the "wrong thing" for their lives.
My moods are very very unstable, i can nag and often do what other people want me to do.
I'm impulsive and afraid of "opening up".

All the male Cancerians i've met so far are very nice, kind, sociable and very very close to their moms, now.. the women are a whole different issue.

posted April 18, 2008 09:56 AM            

A particular Cancer, who I have posted about before, brought out my dark Piscean side so much I did not like myself at times, and I brought out his horrible, dark Cancer side, laced with his Scopionic, intense cruelty.

What I have noticed from "mean" Cancers is the bully effect...driven from their intense insecurity.

Unmoved said it beautifully!!!

I have learned to stay away from people whose energies do not set nicely with mine.

posted April 18, 2008 10:17 AM              

I need some insight from cancerian ladies and I was wondering if anyone can help me out here..

1) Is there by chance a cancerian lady will changed her mind after she has decided on something? Are you'll the fickle lot?

2) Do you'll come to a decision (whether you have romantic feelings with somebody) with your head or your heart?

3) Do you'll actually mean what you say? i.e. when you say "no" to us - is that because your self-defense mechanism is at work or just simply its the truth?

4) What do you make of this when a cancerian lady said this to me "thanks, why don't you ask your hot dates?" when I asked her if she was interested in watching a movie. Is that a subtle way of saying 'not interested, pls buzz off' or am I missing something in here?

I'm confused. Help?

posted April 18, 2008 05:25 PM              

1) Is there by chance a cancerian lady will changed her mind after she has decided on something? Are you'll the fickle lot? : Personally, I am fickle a lot, but there are some thing cancers are stubborn about, including what they feel/dont feel (i.e: don't care, they couldnt give a $h*t) about things. Depends on what the topic is, is it about feelings? Did someone hurt her which made her decide on something stubbornly?

2) Do you'll come to a decision (whether you have romantic feelings with somebody) with your head or your heart?: my heart...I always tell my boyfriend (a double pisces) that I do everything in our relationship with my heart...which isn't very smart, but that's what rules me when it comes to love. If I have lukewarm romantic feelings for someone, I will probably decide with my head, because my heart would not be totally into the relationship yet.

3) Do you'll actually mean what you say? i.e. when you say "no" to us - is that because your self-defense mechanism is at work or just simply its the truth?: No, we dont mean what we say. Whenever I have a fight with my boyfriend and I feel like he has hurt me, I tell him to leave me alone, let me be, etc. etc. but really, this is code for: Come here and hold me, kiss me, hug me....well,you know what I mean. Us cancers like being chased.

4) What do you make of this when a cancerian lady said this to me "thanks, why don't you ask your hot dates?" when I asked her if she was interested in watching a movie. Is that a subtle way of saying 'not interested, pls buzz off' or am I missing something in here?: This is a way of making you say that you DONT have any other hot dates, maybe she thinks that you have been seeing other people, she feels jealous and insecure.

posted April 19, 2008 03:23 AM              

Thank you so much for your detailed insight..

Well the thing is that this cancerian lady told me after 2 dates that there were no sparks even though we enjoyed each other's company. I could feel a connection with her but perhaps it was just a one way traffic.

Since then she has disappeared or shld i say go into a shell mode like what you cancerian folks will say..

Even its been about 3 months i still cannot forget her; friends say its just a crush and just forget about her and that she's playing head games with me. However she still replies to my text messages when i asked her how she is but she never did initiate any contact with me. I understand she's a very busy woman at work.

I think I may have scared her off in the beginning when i told her that i like her...

posted April 19, 2008 06:37 PM            

No, she will not change mind. She will retreat when emotionally HURT. But she will not change mind.

2) Do you'll come to a decision (whether you have romantic feelings with somebody) with your head or your heart?

It's always a decision from heart. That's why the HURT is very deep.

3) Do you'll actually mean what you say? i.e. when you say "no" to us - is that because your self-defense mechanism is at work or just simply its the truth?

They never mean what they say. It is only a self defense mechanism.

4) What do you make of this when a cancerian lady said this to me "thanks, why don't you ask your hot dates?" when I asked her if she was interested in watching a movie. Is that a subtle way of saying 'not interested, pls buzz off' or am I missing something in here?

posted April 21, 2008 05:18 AM              

Reason why I said this was because this crab lady is giving me the round-about. The latest is disappearing on me .. a week w/o a reply to a simple qns of going out for dinner. C'mon, a yes or a no reply via text is basic courtesy eh? No? Or a non-reply means she prob can't be bothered to even reply?

posted April 21, 2008 11:37 AM            

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I think Cancer moons are difficult to deal with (from my point of view) because I do not understand them but I grew up with parents that both have Moons in Cancer and I have an Aries moon (see the tension in the square already?).

I think we need to first understand where they are coming from. First of all, it has to be difficult to be on an emotional rollar coaster and ride the moons tide. Secondly, they are like emotional sponges they FEEL everything, especially when they are not being understood or liked by us more aggressive types. Last of all, they are so worried about being hurt, that they put up this shell around their tender hearts that is covered in pricker bushes and sharp claws.

So, take that emotional moon and apply it to it's interaction with the Sun. I knew a Virgo with a Cancer moon, when he felt the rollar coaster dip down, he would come out with little critical remarks and the pity party. My mom, Cancer Sun / Cancer moon just cries, spazzes and then closes herself off. Capricorn stews in their own sadness and decides to hit the road even harder. Saggie, wallows in her grief and feels no one else cares.

I admire Cancer moons, but I feel sorry for them as well. My feelings are deep,but not like theirs, not at all. LOL.

Now, do I think Cancer people are mean? Nope, just self centered (self protective). No more that Aries, Capricorn or Libra...I mean, come on Cardinal signs...leader...HELLO!!!

Just like us Saggies are more self conscious...meaning conscious of ourselves, sometimes to the exclusion of others...and so on.

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I know - this one's non-constructive and touching on nasty.

For the record, I love Cancerians - wherever the placement. And being an Aquarius moon, they should have me running for the hills! But they don't....

A good example of what you guys are talking about is my ex-mother in law. She's actually a Libra, but has a Cancer moon. Well when I was with her son, she absolutely HATED me!!! I know that cancerians are possessive, and this particular cancer moon did not want me anywhere near her little boy. She made it quite plain that she didn't like me, but in such a passive aggressive way, that it drove me loopy! I was only young at the time and didn't know what to do - it made me very sad and I saw her as a big bully. Imagine how devastated she was when her son got me pregnant!!!

Looking back though, I can see things more clearly than I could then. Did she have a point? Was she as bad as all that? Actually yes and no, respectively. You see, I wasn't a nasty person or a horrible girl, but I was wild and lost - and family problems (not at all my fault - my dad was an alcoholic), left me periodically homeless. Now there's no way on earth, any mother would want their son getting mixed up with such a troubled situation - not least a cancer moon!!! Even though I think she knew I was actually a very nice person underneath, I bought trouble and heartache to her door, you see - without even realising it. And she didn't want me around, but you know what? She took me in when I had know where to live and she kept me well fed - she looked after me when no one else would. She disapproved of me in such a maternal way!!! She was clearly unhappy with the situation, but she made sure I was alright when she didn't have too. Now I look back, I can see that suffering her barbs was the price I paid for upsetting her apple cart.

posted April 21, 2008 01:59 PM            

Wow. So true about the cancer man I'm seeing!

Everytime I've had "enough" and want to blow him off, he tries to guilt me back "why do you hate me?" "i'm scared you don't like me anymore...i miss you" or he'll be super sweet and extra attentive to me....

He really must have a 6th sense about when I'm miffed. I don't say it, I'm not out right bitchy to him, but I keep a distance.

I dunno, I just wish he wasn't so up & down... he gets so insecure that he just ends up being mean to me.

I saw him Saturday night after going out for drinks with my girlfriends...I was dressed up, very pretty, and he got all weird with me about it... like I was trying to attract other men?

Always little comments about other men trying to pick me up... so frustrating because I'm extremely loyal!

posted April 21, 2008 09:36 PM              

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