posted July 06, 2005 02:56 AM
i'm going through this exact thing with my best friend. now when we hang out she is really mean all the time, thinks she's queen of the universe, etc. my self esteem is like ZERO since i've been hanging out with her and she's also been cutting me off from my other friends, not on purpose just because she doesn't like any of them. she's a leo going through moon conjunct pluto. maybe your friend's moon in scorpio is similar to this. she just is supremely self centered and makes me feel like i'm some kind of ******* for trying to be open minded and liking open minded people. i can't deal with it anymore. negative energy is completely real, you are completely right. "cutting" is possibly the perfect word to describe how it feels. maybe you have a strongly placed neptune like me that makes you notice these things more, i don't know. whenever i bring it up to her she calls me oversensitive. turns out i'm not crazy though because i've explained the issues i've been having to other people and they completely get it. i don't know, maybe it's a leo-pluto combination: being really self centered and dark and twisted and cruel. the leo thing means that instead of just being a plutonic person, and intense, they also assume they are always right and that the fact that they are emotionally extreme and hate everyone and everything is everyone else's fault. for just being the way they are.
i'm a libra with lots of libra and aquarian influences, and sag, and i'm all about being open minded /trying to get along, and it's getting hard for me to deal with someone who can't stand ANYTHING...including me if i do something she doesn't like. basically you aren't imagining things, i've met lots of people who talk about people with negative versus positive energy.
OH. one more thing. i'm not sure where his sun is in leo, but pluto might be trining it right now. when that happens it makes the person have an effect on the people around them whether or not they are trying very hard to. basically it gives them power and a voice so people somehow give them more respect. they usually aren't aware of this power which is why they end up abusing it and coming off as really cruel and cutting or whatever. the power thing can be good for them, but also bad for everyone else if they are an immature self centered person.
i can't even tell you what i've been through myself, emotionally, it's pretty difficult. very very stressful. anyway. so yeah. i'm sorry to hear you're going through that, but i relate and wanted to let you know it's not just in your head, sometimes people can be really negative and hard to deal with!
funny i feel just the way you do, that she makes me feel the way my dad does (like crap, basically, about an inch tall and worthless as a person.) unfortunately i don't have any really good advice to you for how to deal with this. i personally have no idea what to do, i've tried explaining this and she just gets mad and can't take at ALL what she dishes out...and then gets mad if i get upset when she criticizes ME, saying i'm oversensitive. my dad ALWAYS uses that line. my dad's a complete bully, maybe i should notice the same pattern, i just never expected it from my friend. no clue what to do, sadly, i've grown up with emotionally abusive jerks all around me so i'm almost accustomed to it as a way of life...i should probably not be her friend anymore but it's really hard for me to do that. yeah. well i wish you good luck at any rate, haha if you figure out some advice i'd love to hear it.
Lindaland
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