posted August 01, 2005 12:02 AM              

I knew one with virgo in the 7th and he went without sex for years but when we lived together was crazy for it, and masturbated all the time, (gemini) something about domestic life?

posted August 12, 2005 01:08 PM              

Remember how we talked about the "chase" between Venus & Pluto in one's Natal? You were the one who brought that to my attention since I've practiced celibacy frequently in my life, and I've got Venus & Pluto in Virgo (in the 4th to boot). So that their was almost a cyclical "stalemate" occuring with me.

LILYGIRL -

Does this Pluto in Virgo person also have Venus in Virgo like me? Natasha explained it much better.

posted August 12, 2005 01:14 PM            

I have Pluto in Virgo conjuncting my Ascendant in the 1st house (I also have Saturn in Taurus in the 8th).

For me, I can go long periods without sex, even though I am a sexual person. It takes the right person to bring it out of me - or more specifically, the right relationship.

When I am involved with someone that I am crazy about, I am very physical - it is as though the relationship opens up a well of physical desire. I can also be easily repulsed if the person does things that I find to be gross or crude (Saturn in the 8th). It can put me right back into that celebate state of mind.

At the same time, if a partner uses sex against me and holds it over my head - I get angry and resentful. I have been in that situation before where a partner dictated when we would have sex or if he was at all perturbed at me he would cut me off. He did it on purpose as a control measure, not because he couldn't perform. It led to me having great feelings of distrust and resentment toward him- leading to our eventual break up.

LOL..I almost sound like a dude huh?

posted August 12, 2005 04:46 PM            

Years and years ago.. more years.. so long ago... when I was without a steady partner, I'd have friends who'd help me out.. if you know what I mean. I guess it would be a mutual help.

posted August 12, 2005 04:51 PM            

I also have Mercury conjunct Eros in Pisces.

Romance is always on my mind, action in that department is not though...

posted August 12, 2005 04:52 PM              

I live in my head and my fantasies are alive and well but that's it. Pluto aspects:

Pluto 29 degrees Virgo (8th) square Venus 0.5 degrees Cancer (5th).

Pluto 29 degrees Virgo (8th) square Mercury 27 degrees Gemini (5th).

Pluto 29 degrees Virgo (8th) square Jupiter 5 degrees Capricorn (12th).

My hubby is similarly not fussed either. His Pluto is in Virgo in the 6th house. He expends all his energy at work (Mars in 10th) and comes home shattered so likes to use the 'too tired' excuse.

We're still very happy though.

posted August 12, 2005 07:59 PM            

Pixie has a great point. It has to be "in" you and something you feel comfortable with.

Even though I can go long periods without sex, I still WANT it... it is something that is inside of me and very important. I just have the ability to direct my energy on other things.. I do find though, that as I get older, sex is more important to me and it has to be great sex. I am also becoming a bit more....umm....adventurous you might say in that I am not as worried about some taboos as I was when I was younger.

Pluto on the Asc seems to do two things 1) make a person overly sexual and give the urge to want to merge as much as possible and 2) have amazing self-control NOT to have sex.. throw in that nutty Saturn in the 8th and hopefully I have found a balance.

LOL..

Pixie.. as always you are my idol.... in my past I had a few ex-bf's that seemed to help me out...LOL... instead of trying someone new (and having to go through the whole getting to know that thing) I would recycle... LMAO.. bad Archer

posted August 12, 2005 08:03 PM              

Sorry I forgot to answer your question. No I think it's Leo Venus?. I have to check. Cap moon or rising.

posted August 12, 2005 09:09 PM              

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"....while experiencing year's long periods where they have no partner and seemingly no desire to have one. I chalk it up to a weird Virgo thing..."

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My ex cappy has virgo in the 8th house. I can agree on this one.

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Gemini sun, Cancer rising, mercury in Gemini, moon in Taurus, venus in Taurus, mars in Libra

"You must live in the infinite blackness that exists when I close my eyes. I see you when I fall asleep, I see you when I dream."

posted August 13, 2005 12:46 AM              

I also have Pl in virgo in 8th (conj Ur) squaring Venus, merc, mars and sun (gem) and opposing Moon (pisces). I can also go for yrs w/o although I am very sexual and always have been.
No matter how much I want it, I have stronger interests that interfer - Not wanting flings, not wanting someone to take advantage of me or risk a desease.

posted August 13, 2005 01:28 PM              

I've read somewhere long ago that if Scorpio's don't have sex relatively regularly, they can actually become physically sick. When I read that it was something I could relate to, but only after I was mature enough to even start having sex.

It interested me as well because I have my Mercury, Mars & Neptune in Scorpio. A healthy mind has to pick between either going with the sex, or going without. How do I balance my Virgo & 6th House issues with my Scorpio energies you ask?

Well, as it turns out, when I practice celebacy, I'm able to channel the "urge" into a spiritually rich life, via the unconscious and transformative Scorpio tendencies.

When I'm into the sex, my Virgo in the 4th tendencies are to start building a nest. This has made it MANDATORY that sex be meaningful in some way, even if it means just having fun - I'll dive in head first into whatever the essence of the sex stands for at the moment ...

So if it's just for fun, I'll let the freak out. If it's for love, I'm nurturing to the max. If it's for companionship, I'm able to create a bit of space and freedom. Whatever the essence is, I become very focused that way. As long as I have a partner willing to explore as well, I'm happy. I don't like "ruts" or "boring sex" because it makes me feel like I HAVE to hold back my 100% focus.