posted August 18, 2005 02:46 AM
my mother and i stay together , we have a very good wavelength .
i normally maintain all the finances myself including the traditional family
responsbilities( got three sisters)and i need to know of each penny when i deal
with money . my mum sometimes uses money (for my benefit ofcourse) without my
knowledge . now if i say single word ,the matter simply turns over to"you are
acting in the same way as my father and your father did ,all my life" .
do u know why she does what she does ?
b'cos she fears her freedom is being curtailed because this is what has
happened to her all her life even though she knows ,this is the best phase of
her life in terms of freedom ( not in terms of finance , my dad and my
grandfather are way ahead of me) the best proof of this is , with all her
choices , she chooses to stay with me.then again , there has to be a reason why she acts that way . the answer is
insecurity (think , why water(especially cancers) signs act in the way they
do(thier exxagerated emotions) , the answer is emotional insecurity) .
corelate the same situation with the situation of new age women . its the
insecurity of loosing everything that has been achieved (and is in the process )
that makes them exxagerte
as, pix said "in the rightful mind"
btw how many divorces do u think<br>happen in the rightful mind ? with both men
and women being responsible.
take a different example , an uncle of mine alaways wanted to have a daughter
but his wife never accepted it(they have a son only)that was one of the reason
, they never had compatibility , they are togetther in the unhappy marriage
for the last thirty yrs , reason being b'cos courts would'nt allow a divorce
(they always favour the women's petition here on sympathetic grounds) as my aunt
wouldn't give her assent to it . the end result , an unhappy marriage for the
last thirty yrs.
the point: exxageration of freedom and the privillges that has been provided .
thats what i call exxagertion of freedom wheter its misused by men (which they
have done for centuries , no doubt) or women.
when u talk of equality , talk for everyone .
its not about a sg, a sue or a pix or a cancerrg , its about everyone .
period.
yeah that angelina jolie logic was brilliant , that was a new way to think!i appreciate!
but if u think it over , u are actually proving my point .
why does angi adopt a child? , b'cos the mother in her craves for it .
why cancers are called mothers ?(symbolically)
b'cos they care . its thier nature but its also thier need to be needed and
thats what children do in marriages or in life , they make u feel needed pushing
u to look for more stability .
( an example , i can act rashly with my boss b'cos i know i am just passing
my time in jobs , just waiting to start on my own , do u think i would be able
to have the same attitude when my own money is involoved)
i have seen the wildest men mellow down after marriage and children and no one
knows this better than sg , the kind of wild men we have with all the security
that our society provides them .
i agree marriages and children should not have been mingled . thats a bright idea.
and dont say we dont bring children for our fulfillment . the fact is we do .
yes , its selfish but with positive connotations (heard of self enhancement ) but thats the way it is . no one has given birth to a child just to increase the alraedy six billion plus population .
plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz, that sounds too saintly and lets accept no one is a saint here
quote:
there is no such thing as exaggerating the right to freedom. it is the
most basic right and cannot be exaggerated.
now i would suggest u to read some simple journals . i was recently reading something related to gujrat massacre by a well known columnist , how she came t o realise there has to be a limit even on right tofreedom of speech , if the speech even if its a truth results in further loss of life ( like it happens in riots) that speech needs to be curtailed completly. and ihave no doubts about that .now if the freedom dooms someone's life ,it needs to criticised not justaccept it as basic right.(like my aunt's case or like ,or my mum's case where my dad's privileges ruined her freedom)
i wouldlike u to show me the sentence where i talk of male superriority .i
read , re-read and re-read . the maximum i could guess was this sentence "even
unhappy marriages survived b'cos it was completly male dominated . now , the
story is different ."
where do i say , male should be dominated even now or where do i blame the
women for the mess?let me know ?
what arguments are u talking of , i can remember only one that was "wife also
as mother one"
if u remember that why can't u remember i accept the logic that was being
given by sue and SR . and let me remind i wasn't the only one there , there were
men from all cultures not just mine .
as far as accepting the challange or controlling , is concerned , i dont even think that something like that exists . not for me , not for people like me .
starting from the prep , i always had gf (not in romantic ways) so if i had
any kind superiority complex ,this might not have been the case . even if i go
for 50:50 ratio ,there were atleast fifty percent of the girls who can be put
in the strong category . and to remeind u all , my gf(second) was cancer and
how many of u 'll agree that a cancer woman can be dominated ?
i am for equality but that has to be the same for everyone . i am not in the mood of accepting half hearted arguments .
if that qualifies me for being labelled , paternalistic , patronizing and
chauvinstic , it actually makes me feel cool .
btw, i think why dont u all find some new words ( heard these words so many
times ,feeling bored u know)
how about "BANNED" that sounds new and coooooooooool.
quote:
being strong is being like a woman , if u say you are , you are not.
P.S. : try to remember my resonse when u first told us that b...... husband of yours slapped u , that would help u understand the post in a better light.
Lindaland
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posted August 18, 2005 02:46 AM
I'm not surprised that you're surprised. I'm also not real shocked by the prediction. Cancers seem to really have a way of ending things when they want out. Perhaps it's that Cancers aren't above resorting to being mean when they feel hurt or threatened. 
posted August 18, 2005 03:53 AM
