posted December 30, 2005 04:43 AM              

1- what turns on a cancer?
Ans- Simplicity,Responsibility,Maturity and Honesty.(Is it too outdated?)COMPLIMENTS & COMMITTMENT. Anything which shows that you are making them feel secure.

2-what do they look for in a girl to final settle down with her?
Ans- Trustworthy and a girl whom they can be proud to take home and introduce to their mothers I mean family.

3-what actions turn them off?
Ans- When they do not get what they have invested it can be effort or emotion from their part; wishy-washy for committment.

4-how is it possible to make a cancerian man forgive you?
Ans - I guess that's a difficult task but I would say Sincerity. Small gestures wouldn't go unnoticed.

I am sure there would be more answers coming up.

posted December 30, 2005 09:41 AM              

What is HE supposed to think????

What do YOU want? Examine the reasons you turned him down...and if they still hold true, do not play the Gemini game of cat and mouse with his feelings again.

IF you want him, use your VERBAL communication skills and explain to him where you are with regards to your thoughts and feelings for him. I doubt he wants to extend his feelings again to you if HE believes you do not think he is worth being your partner.

Think on this...remember Venus is retrograde until the first week of February. Read up on this subject within the thread that is available here at LindaLand.

Good Luck deciding what you want!!

posted December 30, 2005 03:03 PM              

all these things made me feel gemini is not really my sun sign...then i went further into studying my moon sign, rising sign and soo on discovered my venus was in cancer and rising in virgo..this made me understand everything about why i am so diffrent from all other geminis....ever since i am a big fan of Linda Goodmans work..espically her big book on love relationship ..its amazing!!

posted December 30, 2005 04:12 PM              

I have never been able to resist a woman who has the courage to approach me and profess her interest in me.....A Huge Turn On!

You should go to him in person (his home or somewhere he is comfortable) and just tell him how you feel, not what you think but how you FEEL.

Now Go Get Him!

posted December 30, 2005 04:44 PM              

Yes mine was soulful but the respect wasn't there and he could punish forever. Having an ex with cancer on the ascendant, it's very hard to deal with the punishment aspect of this sign and for him it continued for years.

Maybe it's best to pursue your cancer intellectually rather than emotionally-let him know you are willing to talk, change, open up doors as friends-because he doesn't have to get emotionally involved. Playing on his feelings may spark a reversal, if he is not trusting.

In my opinion you are better off being friends first, as it will lead to better things later. Start by being interested in his life, what is wrong with it, listen and don't rush him. Tell him you will call, and do, send cards on holidays, be punctual, do not forget him. Care about his family, and always ask if there is something wrong and listen with sympathy because there always is something he doesn't want to tell others.

posted December 30, 2005 04:55 PM              

1- what turns on a cancer? stability, home, someone he can take home to mom. (awww, shucks!)

2-what do they look for in a girl to final settle down with her? see above.

3-what actions turn them off? instability, insincerity

4-how is it possible to make a cancerian man forgive you? give him time, we cancers can be very stubborn and hold a grudge awhile. Try to get him back into your life as a friend, it sounds as if trust may be an issue for him regarding the situation.

posted December 31, 2005 11:04 AM              

1.What " do's and dont's" u suggest when living with a male cancer sun, taurus moon ,venus leo in particular?

2. what gestures/qualities in a spouse would appeal and make crabs happy?

3. Does venus in leo placement make a person cold & detached (as another thread here at LL says so?

4. Which would make a best fit spouse for such a sun, moon , venus

Double trouble gemini ! i think u shud do something so sweetly soliticous for him, gift him a lot of handmade touching presents and express ur

posted December 31, 2005 01:54 PM              

the first thing that u got to do is , give me a day to come back and answer ok !

and yeah welcome to this wonderful forum , i am sure u will get to know a lot of very compassionate and inteliigent people .enjoy!

posted January 01, 2006 03:09 AM              

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Gemini sun, Cancer rising, mercury in Gemini, moon in Taurus *29, venus in Taurus, mars in Libra

posted January 01, 2006 06:23 AM              

do's and dont's with us ,
always be positive , try to be the jovial kind ,dignified ,should know how to carry herself and lastly must respond to our emotions ,once attached .

dont's : dont pass idotic comments , dont ever make us feel that we are unwanted ( we dont understand that kind of detached emotion ) no mindgames ( its always better tio be bluntly honest rather than using lies to be practical )

and physically , if u can maintain yourself ,thats always a bonus . though i am more of a personality person rather than a face or beauty person .face ,weight etc. dont really matter to me .

does venus in leo placement makwe me detached ?

yes it does !
but u got to understand the two phases .

people feel i am a detached ,cunning person untill they really know .

ithink this placement has one of the most confusing effect . my leo and taurus makes me go for the girl ,combine this with cancer's diplomacy and emotional talk . it normally has very good impressions on women but the problem starts when the cancer 's shyness stops me from going the last mile . thus confusing all the women .

posted January 01, 2006 06:38 AM              

infact the newest crush is a cancer too .

but water-water realtions are said to be difficult , though in my case , i have had great compatability with them .

i think gemini women are interesting too but i am not sure if i could handle thier flighty nature .

btw, whats your sign ?

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1- what turns on a cancer?
2-what do they look for in a girl to final settle down with her?
3-what actions turn them off?
4-how is it possible to make a cancerian man forgive you?

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GEMINI: i think fb has already answered it quite well ( she seems to know us quite well ,her cancer moon helps )

as for the last question , i think cancers forgive but they dont forget . so the only trick is , apologize and dont ever repeat the mistake . not giving him a chance to go back to his shell . if u can do that , all is ok .

to tell u something , cancer and gems have strong attraction although they are complete opposite people .
one of the example would be your ability to forgive and forget , it seems so refreshing to us . so go and talk to him . communication is the key!

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I love cancer men.

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thats why we love u , mg!

posted January 02, 2006 12:04 PM              

gemini : you know what ,the situation that you are in is one of the toughest to get into with a cancer .

first thing first , how did you refuse him ? was that in a harsh way ? do u feel it bruised his ego ? and was that aqua that u left him for was in any way batter than him or does he think he was better bet than him ?i am assuming all the above and trying to answer keeping this in mind ?

if you want him back , you sure got to have the eye contact ( i think gem eyes are always interesting , and cancers always fall in love with the eyes of the women firstly, then comes the smile ) eye contact is very important , thats the only thing that give him the courage to overcome the fear of rejection .
next, dont really expect him to make a first move , if anything can trick him into doing that , it can be your eyes and smile or better just your eyes . no mind games plzzzzzz , i dont think it will work .
ok, if u are thinking of something , can i know about it , what's the gem' innovation ?

if he is insulting , dont make any moves . simply let him know that you are paying attention through your eyes .

thinking it over and over , i can only think of the eye conatct working , pass a smile after some days , not immideatly .

one more important thing, always try to get a place where you people are alone , i dont think cancers are comfortable in a public places especially in showing anykind of affection . i dont think , he would open up publicly , it has to be very private ,thats for sure .

infact, i have been into this kind of situation ,infact she was the only women that i have openly asked but then later on due to my shyness ,there came a period of confusion and she stopped eye contact , for her it was simple chase game but for me it was the end . i never went back .

and i have been in love twice but never ever said those three words , weird huh ...
but then thats the way it is with us . we both simply knew ! even the newest cancer is on the same wavelngth . no words but i know of her attention

one of the traits of cancer is , they have to be very sure of emotions of thier partner or even friend , thats the basic psychology working here too . your eye contact can assure him . got the logic!

lastly , just pay attention to him . it doesn't take much for cancer to fall in love , take my words for it .
in your case, it his bruised ego but i am a gem can easily make up for that . nothing overt , make him realise that you care , its tough ,i know but isn't impossible !

posted January 02, 2006 04:20 PM              

I am going to write my story in 2 parts,

this is how my story goes..(its a bit long but i have to let u know the details)

PART 1.(the begining)
The very first time i met mr.c (cancer guy)was at his work place(he works for a telecommunication company)i had come to settle a few misunderstandings in my phone bills.i approached his department n as soon as our eyes met we both completely froze!!..it was the first time i ever understood the term 'love at first sight'..he couldnt take his eyes off me nor could i...i had to break the stare (cause it was making me nervous)i walked towards one of his collegues, mr.c left the customers he was attending n pushed his collegue aside so that he could attend me.
i could see how very intersted he was(so was i)
my first impression of him was
physicaly- handsome, active, actractive,well groomed.
mentally- intellegient,funny,confident,polite,respectful,caring, a true gentelman.
my phone bill problem was a complicated one n required me to make a few more visits (wow..what more could i have asked 4!)
i made more visits n found him completely ignoring me,not attending me or he wouldnt be around (this made me feel he is not interested anymore)his behaviour disheartened me n i lost hope of any further progress..untill on one of my visits he wasnt anywhere around..i left his office n to my surprise he was waiting 4 me at the bus stop,he acted cool but asked me a lot of questions (personal n general)showing he was very intersted..but didnt ask 4 my number!
after that i made a few visits but never found him at work..this made me very impatient n worried abt him...i was desprate to know what was wrong..after a few days i went back to see him, as soon as i saw him i couldnt control my emotions..i pointed questionts left n right..
me- 'where were u?..r u ok? what happened to u? i never saw u n i thaught u must b really sick? i was so worried...r u ok?
mr.c - yes i was a bit sick..
me - what happened?
mr.c - just the normal flu
me - but u didnt come to work all these days..u must have been really very sick!...how r u feeling now?...did u go to the doctor?...did u take any pills?
mr.c - yes i was very sick, i took some pills, i am much better now.
me - thats good ..i was just so worried abt u.

mr.c didnt say a word after that,he keept silent, i felt stupid cause i was really hoping he would show some interest this time..but he just behaved cool, so i said bye n left.
i thaught its just me who is intereted n i should just 4get him.
but as days went by i realized it was impossible to 4get mr.c, i was going crazy, couldnt sleep,could eat.. i was 100% in love!
After 1 month i decided to go back regarding some new bills and show no intrest to mr.c (i just wanted to c his face)
when mr.c saw me he was all smiles and gave me a giant wave to say hi..i waved back.
thats all that happened!
i was sooo mad ,he didnt do anything..when i was leaving i told him 'i wasnt coming back as i was leaving the city 4 good, it was my last visit, it was the last time i was seeing him'..he still didnt react!.i feelt so frustrated..my last words to him were 'maybe i will never see u again'..
to this he cooly reacted 'we may c eachother again..who knows?...take care,bye.
i was completely shattered ..i could hear my heart break into a million pieces...
it made me realize he never was interested it was just a fatal attraction kind of a thing!

the problem here is that i didnt want to play hard to get because here was someone who i really wanted.
i am a very reserved type of a person and here i had left all my ego,pride or whatever to run after him all this while and made up the courage to talk to him as otherwise i am really shy.
i cried the way back home..my heart was really broken.

the next morning b4 leaving the city i got a call from his company abt some documents that i had forgotten in a hurry (dreaming abt mr.c made me 4get everything!)
i didnt want to go back to his office..but i had to.
i collected all my papers n wanted 2 leave b4 mr.c saw me...but he did c me n asked me 2 wait at the bus stop because he wanted to talk to me.
impatiently i waited..he came in a hurry and said he didnt hav time to talk n he offered his number so that v could talk on the phone.. suddenly..his manager called him so he had to rush back.
i was in a doudtful state of mind.
1- why didnt he react when i told him i was leaving for good?
2- did he sense how desprate i was and offered his number..(who can say no to a free ride!)
3-if i wouldnt have shown up at this point..we would never had a chance to talk and he knew it!so y did he just let me go....
HE WASNT INTRESTED ..my mind said..

but any ways i called him as soon as i reached home... his first words on hearing my voice were ' i cant believe u have called me ..i feel i am in seventh heaven'

TO BE CONTINUED...
the rest of the story will b continued in part 2....
till then pls reply .. what went wrong and where?

posted January 04, 2006 10:31 AM              

So far all I see is two shy people who seem to like eachother but no true action has been taken.

Cancers are HORRIBLE at making the first move. When I was younger I know I caused much confusion and pain for a number of girls. If you want him (and he is available) you will have to get him.

posted January 06, 2006 05:10 AM              

we were very happy to have finally got a hold of eachother, v spent many hours talking..v shared and expressed the same feelings abt eachother.
he couldnt take his mind off me and confessed many times that he was crazy abt me and so did i..
he praised me on my caring ways and sometimes joked abt it , replying 'ok mommy'
sometimes he would tell me that he would be very lucky to have a gf like me but he never asked me!(i was waiting for him to ask me! afcourse i wanted to b his gf)

i praised his gentleness and his soft way of talking to me, as if he carefully selected beautiful and soft sentences..i never thought any man could me so sensitive, soft spoken, so gentle in all his ways but yet so strong.
to me he was just like a prince charming in the fairy tales i read when i was a kid.

everything was going great
untill one day while he was talking to me on the phone and he got another call on his cell...it was his friend, he told me to hold the line,he covered the reciever of the phone so that i couldnt hear him but i over head him talking ..
he was having a conversation with his fiend abt meeting up at some place.
after talking 2 his friend 4 a long time he said..
he said : oh,i am on the other line, i will call u back.
his friend:.....
he said: its a girl,remember that girl who came to the office..(refering to me)
his friend:....
he said: no, no shes nothing, shes just like that.. u know!

i was shocked!..i couldnt believe my ears.
i didnt say a word because the next day we had planned out our very first date. i thought it was better to confront him face to face.
however i didnt feel like meeting him after what i had heard, so i called it off!
He was so upset, he almost cried .i know he had planned out a lot for our very first date.., so keeping this in mind i decided to go.
On the big day...
as soon as i meet him i found him so exicited just like a 13 year old boy going out to watch his favourite movie!
he was acting so loony soo crazy that i started to panic!!
there was no way in the world that i could ask him abt his conversation..
i felt so helpless and started questioning myself, 'what if he just wants to use me', 'what if he is just playing?'..after all it was me who was running after him in the first palce!
what if he really isnt intrested and wants to just flirt with me?
o boy, i was confused as ever and to add to my confusion he started to get a bit physical..to which i moved back and replied 'whats wrong with u'???!!
at this point i decided to leave as i felt i had got the answers to all my questions.
on the way back, he held my hand and asked me 'will u be my girlfriend'?
(what a wrong time!!)
i wanted to say yes..this was the momment i was waiting for..and finally he has asked me ... but when i thought abt his conversation with his friend i had totally lost my mind and gave him a big N O !!

i called him that night and gave him a piece of my mind...i said that i wasnt intrested and v were better off as friends...he tried to explain things and offered to change himself in any way to suit me..but i was just stuck in a rut...no..no..no..i dont want to b ur girlfreind!
i was so confused, on one hand he insults me in front of his freind saying 'shes nothing; and on the other hand he is acting so very crazy for me ..he will do anything to get me..
i seriously needed help.. i ignored his calls for 2 days cause i needed time to think things over and over again...he stoped calling me and v noth didnt call eachother for 8 days.
i decided calling him and found no reply..i keept calling him for 4 days but got no answer...i called his work place and they said he never showed up or even answered their calls.

he never answered my calls but when ever he saw me anywhere he couldnt stop looking at me!...
finally after a year 1 day i made up the courage to call him again.. and yes he answered,
but he was really really rude and insulted me.. insutled me abt everything.. the way i talk, my voice, my lifestyle, my hobbies, my job.....it was unbearable ..but i knew he was hurt and it was his way of getting back at me.
he asked me if i had a bf...i said no, i asked him abt his gf ..he said he doesnt hav 1.
but thats all ...he backed off again..but again its been 2 years and when ever v bump into each other he keeps staring..
it was so annoying...i went up to him once and told him not to do that again..and if there was anything he wanted to say ...just say it!!..and stop playing these stupid hide n seek games!!
he just keept quite and thats the end of it...