posted January 22, 2006 11:58 PM            

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North Node in Cancer and the 4th house

Attributes to develop – work in these areas can help uncover hidden gifts and talents:
Noticing and validating feelings
Empathy
Nurturing and supporting others
Building one’s own foundation and security
Honest disclosure of feelings and insecurities
Humility
Accepting others’ foibles and fluctuating moods without judgment
Staying centered in one’s own feelings

Tendencies to leave behind – working to reduce the influence of these tendencies can help make life easier and more enjoyable:
Needing to control everything and everyone
Compulsion to take charge without fully understanding the situation
Ignoring the process; being too focused on the goal
Feeling completely responsible for everything
Hiding feelings and fears in intimate relationships
Doing things to gain respect or admiration from others
Taking care of others’ feelings and neglecting one’s own
Doing what is “socially accepable” rather than what is totally honest
Thinking that things have to be difficult in order to be important

The Achilles’ heel Cancer North Node people need to be aware of is their need for control (“If only I can make them get their lives together, then I can relax and be vulnerable”). But the truth is that they can never control situations – or other people – enough to feel that it’s safe to be themselves. When they try to take charge of situations in other people’s lives without being invited, they are inappropriately usurping others’ responsibilities.

The trap they need to avoid is an unending search for acknowledgment (“if only others will recognize my contribution in a respectful way, I can begin to feel good about myself”). But it’s a bottomless pit: others can never give enough recognition for them to feel satisfied. Only when they acknowledge within themselves the importance of the contributions they make (through nurturing others in a supportive way) will they begin to feel fulfilled.

The bottom line is that they will never have enough authority to feel that it’s safe to be vulnerable. At some point they must take a chance and let others know the truth of who they are and how they feel: their insecurities, fears of rejection and abandonment, and feelings of inadequacy. The irony is that when they risk letting others see who they truly are, they finally gain real safety – because in revealing their feelings they’ve taken charge of themselves on a deeper level.

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posted January 30, 2006 11:56 PM              

I really do ignore my feelings on my social interactions and with my work. My attitude is mainly "Just get the work done, no matter if i hate it or if its killing me.. just do it!"

posted January 31, 2006 12:02 AM              

Since i have this placement im a supposed to get rid of my control issues all together? Just the capricorn/cancer node control issue? If so how am i supposed to distinguish between the two of them?

posted January 31, 2006 07:36 AM              

North Node and ascendant in cancer

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Gemini sun, Cancer rising, mercury in Gemini, moon in Taurus *29, venus in Taurus, mars in Libra

posted February 26, 2008 12:51 AM            

tendencies to let go of

seeing oneself through others eyes
debilitating selflessness
being mr or mrs nice
obsessive attachment to external harmony
"*** for tat" mentality

need for justice and fairness is a bottomless pit
a trap is an unending search for an ideal, commited partnership
the feeling of completeness is only found individually
theyll never gain enough approval from others to have the permission to be themselves
they must take a risk and pursue the activites that are meaningful to them
once they go in their own direction, the right people will come into their lives

aries really want to experience harmony, fairness, and support with the partner they love
they need to be their own partner first
by getting to know themselves they begin to do the thing that bring them joy
when they treat themselves fairly they achieve the sense of balance and justice they seek

they are leaders, pioneers
they have the gift of seeing from the others point of view

in past lives, they made others bigger and stronger because they infused all their energy in supporting others
a lot of "householder" lifetimes
in the process they developed tremendous awareness and sensitivity
they also have ulterior motives: if their partner did well, so did they.

if Bill meets a Aries nnode and says "hello jim!" then jim is blown over! he feels overwhlemed by the amount of energy. the natives have a weak sense of identity and are affected by others moods and ideas

these folks need a lot of time alone to get to know themselves. they need a specific time of each day when they can talk to themselves. their first challenge is to find out who they are.

they have a tremendous amount of love stored up from past lives. they came into this incarnation feeling loved by others. they percieve who others really are and celebrate that truth. in that state they feel totally high because they are fully appreciating and celebrating the glory and strength of the other person. the challenge is to see the same beauty in themselves.

if others violate their space they become angry. if they are trying to give when they feel drained then this is a superficial harmony.