posted January 29, 2006 07:25 PM              

Be very very careful that you aren't trying to get a hit of a high you think he can provide you but may not be there.

Very very dangerous, I urge EXTREME caution, but follow your heart. Just make sure it is secure enough to take the blow.

Believe me I know how difficult this is, read my other thread for proof.

Like I said, I know what the true path is here, but illusions (or possibilities) can distract you and you are off course before you even know it.

All my love, good luck, and hold your heart as a Mother would hold her precious child.

posted July 18, 2006 12:53 AM              

today i saw mr cancer after a long long time... and it sent shivers down my spine..
i thought i was pretty much over him, but seeing him again reminded me of the old times and brought tears to my eyes!..
i can see how happy he is in his life and how he has completely forgoten me and moved on...
good for him but sad for me..
when will i move on??......i donno..

posted July 19, 2006 12:22 AM              

Slowly open yourself to life once again,
and it just happens. Time is a mean ******* . But it's a compassionate healer as well. (mysteriously so)

I don't feel like a wealth of wisdom right now. If you find the key, let me know.

Just feeling the need to reach and give you a warm hug.

{{{ }}}

posted July 19, 2006 01:11 AM              

double trouble gemini~ ohhh my god, does my heart go out to you.

posted July 19, 2006 01:16 AM              

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"WHATEVER the soul longs for, WILL be attained by the spirit"

"Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation"

posted July 19, 2006 01:41 AM              

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My three cents to DTG:
Your mindset will attract the people around you. If you think desperately, desperate men will be attracted, not the man you seek [unless he is the most desperate ]
If you love yourself and feel good about yourself, you will attract men who will love you and feel good about you.
That is the Universla Law.

As CappyMe said, there are a minimum of 40-50 guys to choose from who are as good if not better than this bloke.

Write down what is great about this guy.
What has he contributed or will contribute to humanity that he should deserve your obssesive love?
Does he donate blood?
Does he work for the underprivileged?
Has he donated cash to important causes?
Does he teach people to empower themselves?
Can he be a world class athlete?
Can he be a pioneering scientist?
Can he raise a child to be a responsible adult?
Can he look after his spouse if she is bedridden for a week?
*WILL HE TAKE A BULLET FOR YOU?

Objectively assess the boy this way. If he is not much of the above and is just a male doll in looks/voice, then you have a choice of 400000-500000 good looking boys in Central Asia, Russia, Kashmir, Brazil and Australia. If he is some sort of sex god, then a tantra manual can make any other man into a better sex god.

Maybe he is really pathetic and is just feeding off your admiration. Step back and just love yourself more, you will get a much better deal in life.

Thirdly, life in the present is a sum total of past life impusles. If you feel this way, you may have made someone else feel this way in numerous past lives. So forgive yourself and forgive others who make you feel bad to help you burn off these karmic impulses.

Last but not the least, keep writing when you feel down, never hold things inside, they cause illnesses and unnecessary negative impulses to harm self. LOVE THY SELF!!!!!

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IQhunk, what great advice you gave....

it should be easy to let go of someone who doesnt love you back, you would think so anyway....WOULD HE DIE FOR YOU? that question is so important, because if he wouldnt, whats the point?

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"WHATEVER the soul longs for, WILL be attained by the spirit"

"Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation"

posted July 19, 2006 03:08 PM            

Oh dear, like Mama Mia first said- and I thought I had it bad!

Your poor thing- no one should ever have to feel like that! I mean, I empathise with you more because I've experienced something similar but it is far far easier to dish out advice than to actually take it.
So it would be simple for me to just say "You'll get over him one day" etc etc and even though you will, it would be rather hypercritical of me to say that as I know it's not what people want to believe or are able to.
The best and only honest advice I can give is the hardest and most upsetting to do. But I can say it because I'm trying to do it myself.
First, it's a gradual proccess. I'm still really hung up but I know I've got better. ie. Not crying every day, down to as little as once a week now!
Obviously you'lll still upset but the crappy thing you have to do is just forget. And it probably sounds like shoddy advice but it does help. Whenever something about him pops into your mind just go "I do not want to think about this!" and keep yourself occupied and busy. I don't know if you will find this useful as it seems you already have a decent social life? But hey, I do honestly feel sorry as much as a 15 year old can want to help an adult.

posted July 24, 2006 06:11 PM              

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(why doesnt that loser just come back!!)

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Dearest Double Trouble Gemini,

It has been my experience that people who we desire so intensely like that, will usually DESPERATELY try to come back to us only AFTER the experience has CHANGED us and made us a DIFFERENT person in their eyes than the person who we were before.

What that basically means is that, they will SENSE the transformation that has occurred in you, and it will act as a stimulating magnet that challenges them TO SEE if they can have the same hold over the NEW you, that they once had over the OLD you.

Simply put...perhaps the reason he hasn't come back is because you have yet to undergo the transformation that you are set to experience as a result of this relationship. At this very moment, you may still pretty much be the same person you were when the two of you last left off. Therefore, even if he were to come back to you NOW, the end result may very well be worst than the first, since as previously posted...

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(Your mindset will attract the people around you. If you think desperately, desperate men will be attracted, not the man you seek [unless he is the most desperate ]

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And with him being a "loser" and all, you certainly would want to attract someone a whole lot better than that.

My best wishes to you,

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Tanae'