posted March 01, 2022 02:41 PM            

Soul Mates / by Rita Rogers

Chapter 2

Recognizing Your Soul Mate

... One of the first signs of falling in love with a person is being unable to get them out of your mind. Once your soul mate has ‘got to you’ in this way, whether you are out with friends, getting on with your job, or shopping, your mind keeps going back to this person again and again. No matter how hard you try to concentrate on other things in your life you cannot help yourself thinking about them.
Similarly, when you are separated, not a day can pass without you thinking of them. You find yourself wondering what they are doing, what they are thinking, whether they are thinking of you, too. If you are soul mates you can guarantee that they will be.
It is quite normal when you meet your soul mate to feel as though you have known them all your life, even though you may have known them for no longer than half an hour! This is because you have this spiritual bond, because you are kindred spirits. You see, however different you are on the outside, deep down you are compatible and similar.

... For people who really do believe that they have known their soul mate before it is possible that you have met in another life. It could be that you have lived a previous life, in which case you will have been with your soul mate before. But for the majority of us the fact that we have been paired as souls before our births creates this feeling of knowing and belonging. The link that we have as individuals makes us feel that we are at one when we do eventually meet and get together.
Because the bond we have with our soul mate is so strong, because we feel we know them already and because of the mutual understanding we have for each other relationships between soul mates can happen almost overnight. The getting to know you process is much shorter than it would be in any other relationship because there is so much between you already.
The connection that you are making is a very spiritual one so the more practical questions we would normally ask a person, such as where did you go to school, where are you from and so forth, lose their significance. You have already found your common ground. There are so many things that make you click, so many different levels on which you relate that the things you would normally discuss with a prospective lover seem irrelevant to your situation. With your soul mate you don’t have to search for things in common because they already exist. You are not basing your relationship on mutual friends, common pursuits or shared experiences because you do not need to. You feel you belong with them, and that is enough.

posted March 09, 2022 04:51 PM            

Chapter 2

Recognizing Your Soul Mate

... The problem that many people suffer from in relationships is that they think they are in love when they aren’t. Sometimes we want love so much that we convince ourselves that we are truly in love with a person. We imagine that the person who we are seeing is right for us. We attribute qualities to them they do not have. We put them on a pedestal, believe that they are perfect and spend the rest of the relationship convincing our friends, families and ourselves that this is the case.
But remember you cannot make someone your soul mate if they are not. Soul mates aren’t things we can create, we cannot decide that the person we like at the moment is going to be our soul mate. They either are your soul mate, or they aren’t! You cannot force it. If you are with someone you like, and who likes you, but together you lack the chemistry I have described in this chapter, then my advice is to move on and wait. That person is not right for you. You will find true love eventually, and when it does come your way, it will have been worth waiting for.
When we fall for people, when we feel passionate about them or are infatuated by them, we may feel that we found our soul mate. The emotions we go through at the beginning of any affair can be very similar to those we feel for our soul mate when we first meet them. You may be giddy, joyful and ecstatic. You may feel as though you have a bond, that you never wish to be parted from them. In the first stages of a love affair you may feel all these things, but the real test is whether they last or not. You see, the love between soul mates is always like this. It doesn’t fade or tire. You never get bored of your soul mate or wish they were something that they are not.
A lot of young people I meet become very concerned with finding their soul mate, because they are keen to get married. Marriage is a great thing if it works out. And it is quite possible to have a perfectly happy and satisfactory marriage with someone who is not your soul mate, but with whom there is mutual love and respect. However, you have more chance of having a successful and happy marriage if you wait for your soul mate. I would advise anyone in this position to hang back. Getting married is not the important thing. It is far better to wait for the right man or woman than to rush ahead and marry the wrong person just for the sake of it.

posted March 15, 2022 05:19 PM            

Chapter 3

Finding the One, Finding Yourself

... When it comes to finding your soul mate you do have to make a bit of an effort. You cannot expect your spirit guides to do all the work for you. By living your life you create opportunities to meet your true love. Think of you and your soul mate’s lives as parallel lines. You could go through your life living parallel existences, never having any contact with your soul mate until you die. What you want is for those lines, your lives, to intersect so that you can meet. By living your life to the full you can create those intersections. By choosing to do something one day that you might not do normally, by agreeing to go somewhere, you might end at one of these predestined intersections and there they are.
I cannot begin to tell you how many people have found their soul mate by changing their plans at the last moment or by doing something out of character. They talk of it being a fluke, a chance encounter. I put it down to being in the right place at the right time. Destiny has created that time and that place-it is up to you to get yourself there. People say to me, ‘Well how will I know?’ The answer is you won’t, but if you follow your instincts, in your heart it will happen.

... People often say when love doesn’t work out, ‘It was not meant to be.’ I think that there is a great deal of truth in this. You are meant to be with a person who loves you as much as you love them. The fact that a relationship breaks down is part of fate. You have to leave that relationship so that you are free to find your soul mate. Remember that sometimes to appreciate real joy in life we have to have known pain.
As I have said before there is no optimum age to find your soul mate. If you have not found your soul mate yet-take heart. Over the years I have met many people who didn’t find their soul mate until they were much, much older, but when they did find them they all told me that it was worth the wait!
True love can come to us at any stage. There are some of us who just aren’t ready for love when we are young. Just as some people are late developers, some of us are late when it comes to love and marriage. Nevertheless, just because love comes to us later on, that does not mean that it is any less intense or fulfilling than if we had found it when we were twenty-five. September relationships can be very rewarding. After all, a person who finds their soul mate after middle age has a lot to bring to the relationship. An older person is often more self-assured, content, fulfilled; they have probably done all the things they wanted and needed to in life already, so they can be much easier to settle down with.
Of course, finding love when you are old can be hard because we then have fewer opportunities to meet people. We get out less, we think perhaps that we should be spending our time and our money on our families. We think that it wouldn’t be right for us to start gallivanting around town at our age. We think we should stick to the rocking chair and slippers rather than make fools of ourselves.
But in my mind there is no retirement age when it comes to love. True love is about the soul and your soul is ageless. Of course we may not be as sprightly as we were when we originally went courting, but that should not stop us. Love knows no bounds. So your bones may be a bit creaky, you can’t leave the house without your glasses and you can travel for free on the buses, but deep down you are just the same as you were when you were twenty-three. Your soul mate will love you for your soul regardless of your age. We all need love, and if you haven’t found it yet, keep looking.