posted April 29, 2006 07:18 AM              

Here is my chart information. Those who are in the know please help with advice.

13th September 1966. Gloucester, England, UK. 7:23pm

I have 'sexual encounters' in one form or another everyday. My body can not contain the emotion or the 'lust' that is within me. Sometimes I fail to function but the energy is still present and won't go away until i've had an Org*sm. I have female friends, usually Scorps or Virgos, that 'accomodate' my passion, but still it is not enough. WHY IS THIS? Do I need help?

Can astrology explain this? Or do I need a sex theropist?

posted April 29, 2006 08:56 AM              

I'd say it's a Pluto situation. You have an intense chart no doubt..and lot of stuff in Virgo.. Sun/Moon/Mercury/Venus/Uranus/Pluto ALL in Virgo.. Your Sun/Mercury/Pluto and Uranus are all pretty closely conjunct by degree.. Your Moon and Venus are also closely conjunct by degree. Your Mars is a singleton, only fire in Leo *square* Neptune (on your South Node) none other. Not mentioning the Saturn/Chiron conjunction in Pisces ON you Ascendant opposite all this sun/pluto/uranus/merc stuff.

Basically your ego, the very core of your personality (sun) and your thoughts (mercury) are very closely mashed with both pluto and uranus.. Pluto is an intense obsessive planet and definitely renowned for all things sexual.. Uranus is an experimental wacky planet also renowned for experimental sex..or any unusual experiences. Now this would all be fine and good if it wasn't for the opposition to Saturn on your ascendant which probably makes you feel guilty. You seem to want your self image.. the way ppl see you to be the opposite of this. Your self image is Saturn/Pisces/Chiron all the way. So I guess, as it goes with all oppositions you have to accept both parts of yourself eventually.. both the “proper”/goodie goodie saturnian *image*.. and your strongly sexual side, and come up with some sort of balance between the two. I wouldn’t be surprised if you’ve alternated between times in your life when you stopped having sex completely and times when you over did it and had sex constantly.. that’s the problem with oppositions.. people tend to choose one side or the other and alternate.. when the answer is always in the middle.

Your Moon/Venus conjunction makes you comfortable with your emotions. This is a great aspect to have because unlike many people you actually know exactly what you want romantically and your emotional needs and aesthetic tastes are in perfect harmony.

posted April 29, 2006 10:38 AM              

Lauren said:

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Your Moon/Venus conjunction makes you comfortable with your emotions. This is a great aspect to have because unlike many people you actually know exactly what you want romantically and your emotional needs and aesthetic tastes are in perfect harmony.

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The other thing about your Moon (home, also emotions) conjunct (energy is combined with) Venus (relationships) is that it is unaspected. This indicates that emotional relationship energy does not "connect in" with the chart. So it may be challenging to "feel" related to others. This may lead you to overdoing your "emotional relationships" as an attempt to "feel" this energy. The challenge is to know that you DO have feelings in your relationships but that they may not be easily "seeable". So have faith that you DO have emotional feelings in relationships and accept these emotional relationships where they occur.

Emotionally relating,

Tim

posted April 29, 2006 11:30 AM              

Shop... for me it's the 'meshing' of souls. I enjoy the physical contact of woman. the softness, can't get enough of it! Loosing myself in the embrace! Especially with beautiful woman, as my taste in woman is very refined.

It's not just about intercourse. I stated that I have 'encounters' of one sort or another. I did not mean intercourse per se. Although, come to think of it, three times today, on cam, with an audience of 20 or more! is that experimental, modern and outrageous enough for Sun conjunct Pluto and Uranus?

Lauran... thank you so much, great help...

You said "Pluto is an intense obsessive planet and definitely renowned for all things sexual.. Uranus is an experimental wacky planet also renowned for experimental sex..or any unusual experiences."

Would the above revelation be indicative of such behaviour.

Moreover, you said "Now this would all be fine and good if it wasn't for the opposition to Saturn on your ascendant which probably makes you feel guilty."

You've hit the nail on the head. I think this is the core of my problem: GUILT!

I feel very guilty about my sexual encounters. It's a private, secretive part of my life. I share it here because I feel I am able to reveal aspect of my life which I would not share openly with friends and neighbours or close collegues. Simply, to try and get some answers.

The opposition is very strong too. I have, because of guilt, abstained from sexual activity to 'clean' myself up. But it never works or goes away. It's always there, I can't shake it off. The problem is, if I 'let go', surrender to my desires, they just accelerate, get more intense and need more satisfaction. If I bottle them up, they intensify within me. I can't win!

I also think my Pisces rising does not help. I often choose the easy route and give in to lust, even when I don't want sex, but a friend does, I will 'accomodate' her needs. It's not very romantic, but I'm not talking about romance here.

I do feel that I need to come to terms with my sexuality, and be more open about it. Then I may accept myself and reach that balance between a healthy 'normal' sex life and the extreams I go to in search of that mystical union.

With all the oppositions in my chart I am a very intense person. I do attract Scorps (especially Scorps with Libra Rising), Virgos and some Aquas (usually with Scorpio Rising). I've been with two Arians, but they don't last long. No staying power. I seem to hurt the Aquas though. My first girlfriend was an Aqua. And I'm now struggling with a relationship with an Aqua.

I know my MARS in LEO gives me a BIG EGO. And yes, I do have a big ego. I think this manifests itself as a confident spirit. But, it's in my 6th house so I've always related this to my work. I'm very proud of the work I do. I work very hard. But this is off set by the fact that when I'm not working I'm indulging is sexual activity of one sort or another. I just feel I need to stop!!

I was told by an astrologer that in a past life I was a 'Mystic of the Black Arts' and my penance now is to be purified by the Virgo essence. I guess i should avoid these areas then, instead of 'go back' into them!! Or else my Karma will not be appeased.

I looked at the link you gave. It's final statement was "... a Mars singleton in an individual chart can be the mark of a very energetic and productive life. It can also point to devastating character flaws as in the cases of the Marquis de Sade and Nixon. Mars is a very powerful force in the psychology, and we have to look to its aspects and sign placement to determine how positively or negatively it will likely function. However, on the mundane level, it seems to work at the lowest or most destructive level almost all of the time."

great, not much to look forward to there then!!

Node... most charts put my Sun, Mercury, Pluto & Uranus in the 7th House. Yes, I do have a heavy 6th house too. This is manifested in the fact that I work very long hours, usually, 8am until 8pm teaching Music and on weekends performing with my Band. If anyone is interested, here is the website of my company and business: www.calfshire.com.

You said "Virgos are highly sexual. Not the vestal virgins they appear to be. With Water on the 12th and rising, combined with 8th house Scorpio AND a Leo Mars I would imagine your desires are quite...explosive."

Sheesh, tell me about it!

Gem-Sag... Thanks for your insight.

Kat... yeah, I'm a professional musician and teacher of Music. There is a part of me that feels 'i've not quite made my mark yet'. This could be a very important part of my life to redress. Take a look at my website: www.calfshire.com Tell me what you think!

Tim... clear as always. Thanks mate. Is a conjunction NOT an aspect then?

I have been told by some people, especially, a Scorp I know, she said 'I try to hard'. If I just 'be me, relax', just let it happen, then things would be better. The problem I've found with that, is when I let go, more woman seem to 'sit next to me' and we just end up having sex and nothing else seems to materialise. I then get the feeling of being 'used', I then become a conquest when in fact what I really want is a relationship.

This then makes me more confused!!!

Anyhow, I'll update later.

Once again, thanks for your SUPPORT. MUCH APPRECIATED

posted April 29, 2006 03:28 PM              

With my fifth house full of scorpio planets I in my single days was rather, shall we say, adventerous. Don't get me wrong, I still am in my marital relationship, but as a single lady I was wild. I admit mine was to do with attention and, what I thought was, love. I would engage in sexual acts in the back of taxi's if I knew the driver could see.

I now know I was simply starved of attention through my childhood and teens so with the emphasis on my fifth house and scorpio I 'got' this attention through sexuality and being glamourous and enticing.

Now I have the full attention of a loyal mate I feel more fulfilled, having children also gives me this, but for many years I craved attention and my overt sexuality and willingness to give and experiment got me this.

Tell us more Beowulf, the good old pervert in me is fascinated!!!!!!!

PS - I have jupiter, venus, sun, mercury and neptune in fifth house so you may pity my need for attention!

posted April 29, 2006 09:54 PM              

... but some days, it really DOES seem like an interesting topic. After reading his year of birth, I got my answer ... let's see ... how to put this ... like in the heyday when it was the coolest most shocking thing in the world to see a man streak through a football game. Streak meaning, the dude is naked. He was a streaker ...

posted April 30, 2006 02:30 AM              

You asked:

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Is a conjunction NOT an aspect then...

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I am not talking about UNaspected, but LEAST aspected. A conjunction is an aspect, but the Moon (home, also emotions) is ONLY conjunct Venus (relationships) and Venus is ONLY conjunct the Moon. This isolates the Moon and Venus from the other energies in the chart (which is typical of a least aspected planet(s) ). I mention this because the challenge you describe seems to be of having emotional satisfaction in relationships, suggested by the comment, "My body can not contain the emotion...that is within me."

Relating,

posted April 30, 2006 07:05 AM              

Thinking about this, I feel you are right. I can't seem to find 'emotional satifaction' within the relationships I have. Somehow, they just aren't what i want. Or indeed, what I expect. I do have ideas about what i want, or should I say, need, but it just can't seem to be met. Thus, I feel contantly frustrated, which leads to anger and disapointment. Maybe my expectations are too high. I want everything to be perfect, but it just isn't so. And yet, I can't seem to accept anything less. I'm sure this is the result of having so much Virgo influence in my chart. My standards are simply too high.

Moreover, the fantasy is not like the reality: the Pisces/Virgo opposition. And that brings disillusionment. Thus I engage in acts of sexual fantasy to reach those highs. But I've found that even then, I'm not satisfied! However, I know of hundreds of thousands of people, online, who engage in such activity, so i'm not alone!!

I think I need to analyse my 'perfect relationship' and then question it's validity. Figger out what i want and see if it can be realised. Or if it is just fantasy.

Once again thanks for all your help. This is something I really need to get to grips with so i can move on.

posted April 30, 2006 07:10 AM              

I knew a Scorp would understand. Thanks for that. I'd love to give explicit details of my activities but i think it would be unwise to go any further in a public forum.

I just needed to air it, to see what help i could get, and how I can deal with this energy at is like a consuming fire within me.

Maybe some other time.

posted April 30, 2006 07:14 AM              

Yes I agree. I need to BALANCE my sexual activities.

Can you let me know how, please!

posted April 30, 2006 02:56 PM              

"Help me. I'm a horn dog."

Ok, I'll help you.

posted April 30, 2006 05:24 PM              

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I am nonjudmental, as I dont think that sex addiction has much to do with your astrological sign, but more to do with psycological problems with your childhood and your hormone levels. It my not be psycological at all, and perhaps just hormonal. I suggest that you see a physician and get some bloodwork done and counceling. I have known a couple of men who had this problem and believe me it's not astrolgical in origin.

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Ex: I have a Sun/Neptune/Saturn t-square.
Some people may look at that and say,
"Wow - never, ever flirt with addictive substances or behaviors - that aspect gives you a high likelihood of addiction," or
"So...your dad was an alchoholic or addict of some kind?" and they'd be right.
That aspect does a pretty good job of summing up a large part of my picture with my father (a verbally abusive alchoholic) and some resulting (or innate, if you'd like to look at this genetically) tendencies that I can choose to either work with or indulge.

posted April 30, 2006 06:43 PM              

I agree here - sex is not really an issue, no more than food, alcohol, anything that originally made your body feel certain way which you found pleasant. Our body is a tricky instrument. It gets in a habit very easily and then demands more and more... It doesn't matter if you are having sex or stuffing banana up your nose. Of course, as long as you are happy and it doesn't affect anyone else in some negative way - great! But eventually the moment comes when you really don't want to do it - eat this bag of chips, light this cigarette. If your mind wins - once again, great! But if your body wins in spite of your will power, intelligence and common sense - it's a problem. Every time you repeat whatever action in question might be you feed the habit and it gets stronger. It's like an itch - the more you scratch the harder is to keep your hands off the itchy spot. But then, of course, if you don't stop eventually your entire body will become one raw open wound.