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Topic: Girls/Guys who are drawn to older men/women
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SLAYER
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posted December 28, 2006 11:16 AM
 
Hello people,
I've always been attracted by older men. I dont know why but the interest i have for my peers does not pass beyond one or two examples. Older men have more magnetizing effect on me. I find their sex appeal super fascinating. When i was 14, i was in love with my tennis coach platonically ( i was a licensed player those days ), and he was 35 and a married guy. He was Bulgarian, so he went back to his country when his contract was over with the club. My first date was 35 also, but i was 17 then. He did never mind the age difference. My ex-bf will be 34 this January and i'm only 22, so is there anybody who is mostly captivated by older men. Guys ! you may also share your toughts about older women. Which aspects show indications of this choice?  IP: Logged |
jupitersgirl
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posted December 28, 2006 11:26 AM
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SLAYER
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posted December 28, 2006 11:29 AM
How old is your bf Jupitergirl?
What about your dates so far?
How old were they?  IP: Logged |
Sweet Stars
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posted December 28, 2006 11:31 AM
Yummy. I love older men
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jupitersgirl
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posted December 28, 2006 11:33 AM
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SLAYER
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posted December 28, 2006 11:36 AM
Okay i guess, i'm misunderstood, i would like to hear experiences here with older men, or older women. We all love Alpacino, but having experiences with older men/women is something different.IP: Logged |
jupitersgirl
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posted December 28, 2006 11:38 AM
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SLAYER
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posted December 28, 2006 11:42 AM
Is he the one whom you asked advice for?
i saw you thread about a guy who seems distant and cold towards you.IP: Logged |
SLAYER
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posted December 28, 2006 11:45 AM
By the way my question wasnt about experiences which should stay private Jupitersgirl, i'm not expecting to hear something like that, so dont worry IP: Logged |
jupitersgirl
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posted December 28, 2006 11:47 AM
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SLAYER
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posted December 28, 2006 11:49 AM
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Gemini Nymph
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posted December 28, 2006 11:58 AM
Aquarius/Uranus aspects and placement often indiacte attractions outside of one's on age or generation. Capricorn/Saturn can indicate attractions to people older, especially people (usually men) in positions of authority, power or wealth beyond the native's own station. There are other aspects that may encourage a native to seek out an older mate, such as aspects indicating a need of financial security (earth signs and the related houses), emotional stablity (water signs and their related houses) or a parental figure (Saturn and moon, plus 4th and 10th houses). Also, 8th house planets, the 8th house ruler, or aspect to 8th house planets are the 8th house ruler provides good clues to what someone is seeking sexually, and these can indicate attraction to older people if the aspect/placements are right. It's really very relative, although Uranus/Aquarius and/or Saturn/Capricorn usually factor in somehow. I have always been attracted to older, *active* men. I'm not looking for another "daddy" - but someone who's interesting, stimulating and can be an eager companion in experiencing life. I have dated men within my age range, and found the experience extremely frustrating on all levels - intellectually, spiritually, emotionally, and sexually. I desire/need a man who has life experience, a sense of adventure, a strong sense of who he is, is educated or at least knowledgeable, is highly competant or skilled in som area, isn't emotionally imature and is confident, tactful and finessed in his sexual expression. And quite frankly, men in my generation (the "Gen X'ers") tend to lack sorely in those areas. Basically, if a guy's biggest thrills are porn and video games, I'm *seriously* not interested. I have a heavy air, heavy Uranian chart with Gem Sun and chart ruler (Mercury) in 10th. Eros is also in my 10th, conjunct my Sun. My Gem Venus aspects both 1H Libra Uranus (trine) and 9H Taurus Saturn (conjunct). I have Aqua Mars conjunct NN in 6th, and Mars is my 8th house ruler (Aries). Also, my 8th house planets, Chiron and Eris are aspected by my 1H Uranus (opposition). Pallas falls in my 8th too, which indicates a sexual attraction to men to demonstrate competancy and great skill, that tends to be older men with experience. IP: Logged |
SLAYER
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posted December 28, 2006 12:09 PM
 What would you say on my chart Gemini Nymph?
Do i have the placements you mentioned here?
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sue g
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posted December 28, 2006 12:25 PM
My husband has always been drawn to older women, even as a boy he said he fancied his pals' moms!I am just eleven years older than he, but one of his favourite actresses is a good 20 years older than him.... He is a very mature type of man, and his mother said he was always very grown up as a young one! He likes older women, I like younger men.... IP: Logged |
SLAYER
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posted December 28, 2006 12:28 PM
Lol sue g,
well, we can discuss the reverse case too.IP: Logged |
Maire31
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posted December 28, 2006 12:34 PM
I've had several such relationships...when I was 17 I dated a guy 17 years older than me, my ex-husband is 6 years younger than me, a live-in relationship with a guy 21 years older than me and most recently a live-in relationship with a guy 18 years younger than me. I go either way, lol, I'm an equal opportunity man-lover  I have Venus opp Uranus which is what I chalk it up to. I also have Saturn in Aquarius and it's singleton (air) if that applies somehow. I've never been drawn to "normal" relationships. I'm intensely drawn to unusual differences between us and typically there's been some sort of karmic tie evident in all of these "different" relationships. They're certainly passionate, intense, at times erratic and usually short-lived (not more than a 4-5 years at best. I can't ever imagine being with "one" person for decades. I admire it in other people, just could never see myself sticking with one person forever. I have Aries Sun/Merc 8th house...maybe that Aries boredom influences the Uranian need for change??? IP: Logged |
InLoveWithLife
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posted December 28, 2006 12:50 PM
hehe, if we can go the other way then methinks me shud butt in  I am attracted to younger men! younger, as in not maturity wise....they have to be mature! but somehow i find tht they r not as jaded, more enthusiastic....less concerned about 'settling down' and also less desperate  its the carefree (NOT careless) attitude really tht i find so attractive. IP: Logged |
libraschoice7
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posted December 28, 2006 01:00 PM
For some odd reason I attract men much older than my own age. Ever since I was 13 years old, older guys have always looked at me(unwanted looks). Like this time my family had a cook out and invited some friends over and I decided since it was summertime and too hot for anything else I wore a bikini top with shorts(only 15 at the time), and I remember one of my dads friends came over and he just stared at me and his eyes contantly followed me.(the man had be at least in his 40's)it made me so uncomfortable that I put on a long shirt and it was about 101 degrees out side! Old men have asked to be 'sugar daddy' to me throughout my life. I prefer men my age, but they don't seem to find me appealing, the youngest guy I have been with is about 10 years older than me(I am 29). You guys are lucky you can choose to be attracted to older or younger men. But when circumstances are forced upon you it's different.------------------
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neptune5
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posted December 28, 2006 01:15 PM
I know i'm drawn to older men, and vise versa, i guess it links back to my 5th cusp Capricorn with Saturn & true node placed in 5th. Its frustrating at times because of my age i'm usually misunderstood.------------------
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SLAYER
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posted December 28, 2006 01:22 PM
I'm attracted to older men who has a wise personality and have a high capacity of intellectual interest. I cant stand a man who thinks shallow about life. I intensely look for depth, high sensibility, someone i could learn with. I would like to have deep, strong, intense discussion with him about politics, metaphysical subjects, movies, finance, martial arts...etc. I wouldnt respect someone who does not have any single opinion on anything. He should be full-grown, well matured, lucid, logical, philosophical, steady as well as childish, imaginative enough to write stories for kids, enthusiastic, courageous, crazy in order to come with me to Tibet and learn kung-fu with me in Shaolin Temple. I usually dont like to share my problems with men, because i believe i can handle them myself easily, another part of me deeply wants him to be strong just like me and to take care of my problems. My ex-bf was always telling me how strong i am, i wanted him to be strong as i am, but he wasnt, so i quit. From time to time when i'm stuck with a problem he could be able to direct me with his life experience. I've been the canalizer of my relationships so far, this bothers me so much. I dont know if there is such a man on earth, but i still keep my hope high.IP: Logged |
SLAYER
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posted December 28, 2006 01:34 PM
Besides, older men have sexier bodies, especially who keep their bodies in well shape still after all those years.IP: Logged |
neptune5
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posted December 28, 2006 01:46 PM
I agree with SLAYER's point of view.
'your girl Neptune5
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OzMeg222
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posted December 29, 2006 08:23 AM
Well I'm the complete opposite!Younger men have always been attracted to me, I'm almost 29 so I'm not exactly old but even when I used to babysit the lads would all have crushes on me. Disturbingly I ran into one last year who was 21 and tried to hit onto me. EWWW!!! So glad the younger guys I've discovered this year I didn't know before they were men! Apparently its my venus/uranus aspect that explains my proclivity for younger guys, although it was also noted that as my moon is conjunct my retrograde saturn I'm supposed to be wiser beyond my years. Maybe its hereditary though, mum was visiting over xmas and told me my great grandmother married an italian 20 years her junior, my grandmother was only a year older than my grandfather, and my mothers last lover was 22 years younger. I've decided the scorpio pluto of that generation trines my pisces venus so maybe thats the attraction? Interesting to think about anyway. IP: Logged |
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posted December 29, 2006 08:46 AM
with me , its been both the ways infact.
i have been with woman more aged than me , i have been in a very close emotional realtion with someone who is almost ten yrs. younger to me .
and it was always platonic.
i didn't even think of it in terms of sex .
but i must say , sense of lust was way more in the case of the older one .
it was the strongest that i ever felt .
(incidentally they both are good friends and both of them were cancerians like me !)
apart from these realtions , i am normally very much comfortable with woman with around ten yrs. of age differnce . one thing that i have always found attractive in them has been the matureness .
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posted December 29, 2006 09:03 AM
(Um how do I quote? Oh well SLAYER said: I'm attracted to older men who has a wise personality and have a high capacity of intellectual interest. I cant stand a man who thinks shallow about life. I intensely look for depth, high sensibility, someone i could learn with. I would like to have deep, strong, intense discussion with him about politics, metaphysical subjects, movies, finance, martial arts...etc. I wouldnt respect someone who does not have any single opinion on anything. He should be full-grown, well matured, lucid, logical, philosophical, steady as well as childish, imaginative enough to write stories for kids, enthusiastic, courageous, crazy in order to come with me to Tibet and learn kung-fu with me in Shaolin Temple I feel the exact same way!
Im now 26, and I fancy a guy whos 47 lol
He is SO intelligent and SO deep. He knows like EVERYTHING. Also he is creative and childish and philosphical and has the most piercing eyes.
My previous experiences with older men,
when I was 14 I was in love and dating for 2 years a guy who was 35.
He was also very deep and spiritual and intelligent. The age thing was not a problem at all.
I have sun conjunct saturn and it makes me wanting to relate to serious mature people.
I like young men too ofcourse, but I feel they lack the steadiness and security Im looking for. Might be my taurus DC IP: Logged | |
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