posted April 25, 2007 06:07 PM              

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I don't really know how to explain this, especially since it is late here and I should be in bed already.
In another post, I "talked" about this Aquarius guy I met months ago. It is not anything romantic going on, ok?
It is just that I am confused by his behaviour.
I have always thought that friendship is very important for Aquarius people... and I also know that they are VERY independent... This young man has been telling me that he thinks we could be friends, that he could "feel" it, etc. Hmmm, I think I will try to explain the whole story tomorrow, or at least, the latest details. In any case, this is the original post, where I wrote about him: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/012900.html

Ok, the thing is that he came back to his home country and my friend (his flatmate)and I know he is ok because his girlfriend told her they both had arrived fine, but we haven't heard from him yet... I have seen him online, I have written an email to check if he was ok, happy, etc back home... but no answer.
I cannot understand how someone (in this case, him) can be/wants to be so close to people (me, my friend...), and then, suddenly, so distant, so cold... as if he didn't care a damn if we care/worry about him, etc!
My friend isn't that upset because she says she saw this coming, that people come and go, etc...
Personally, it makes me feel as if I have done something wrong
What do you think?
Good night, ladies and gentlemen!

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posted April 26, 2007 12:35 PM              

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Is this working?

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posted April 26, 2007 12:45 PM              

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Brilliant!

Helloo there...well, it obviously depends on the other planets and aspects in this mans chart...BUT...
Im a sun aquarian with the moon and mercury there also, all in the 11th house...and i can tell you, i can totally relate to the guy youre talking about. I get so misunderstood for this part of me and it makes me feel so bad. I know its a fault...So if hes anything like me...

I DO want to be friends, and connected with people. Im terribly sad when in isolation. And the things i say to people are always the truth, and i genuinely feel for people who i tell i do. BUT over and over again i find myself making friends and then forgetting about it (yes, genuinely), or circumstances make it so i cant see them ("circumstances" being to people like me some big new idea, or a sudden shift in state of mind, for example) Its everso difficult to explain...
See i have such a tricky relationship with humanity as a whole. I want to love people, love my friends, reach out to them all at once...but im such a damn freak i get rejected, that rejection knocks my confidence, sometimes i sit at home thinking id sound like a dork if i called someone...and others often abuse a desire to love so widely
But anyway im getting off-topic...my point is that aquarian love IS often scattered a little here and there, depending on the weather, their headaches, their ability to remember...BUT it is genuine. Always. If this guy said he valued you as a friend and hes like me, he values you as a friend. Its difficult to build up one single solid friendship with one single person when your mind is poking your soul in all directions, asking questions about the entire UNIVERSE, making the picture seem so BIG
But i have a feeling he cares. Maybe you could give him a call. If hes not figuring stuff out in his head, itll be well worth it

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posted April 26, 2007 01:01 PM            

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If its any consolation I also have an aquarian 'friend' who acts in exactly the same way!!! It completely baffles me..........they want to be friends, then don't bother getting in touch & seem so cold.

Don't get me wrong, I like aquarius and know lots of them, but god does this baffle me!!

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posted April 26, 2007 03:56 PM              

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Hello Dreamybecca,
I know an Aquarius man who acted just like your Aquarian friend when I first met with him. He was so warm-hearted and friendly towards me that he said we could be friends and maybe who knows! more than friends. In the second week, he told me that he was very much affected by me. I was also feeling very drawn to him, but after that confession he was lost, for two months! Despite the fact that I was being very curious about what he was doing and why he was lost all of a sudden, I acted like I wasnt worried. Even though I wanted to hear from him so badly, I stayed cool. After two months, he showed up and the first thing the he asked me was why I remained silent when he wasnt around. And I said, 'Hey, you were the one who wanted to be close to me. If you really have wanted that, you would have spend this past two months with me.' in a very friendly way, so he learned not to do that again, at least to me.

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posted April 26, 2007 04:04 PM              

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Thank you guys for your feedback.
I don't know what to think. What you have explained to me makes sense, and it is probably what's going on, but it makes me very frustrated.
He is the same person who has told me several times that I am such a good person, with great qualities, that I should have a better self-esteem, that I should value myself more (because I am SO great!...I take these things with humour, sorry), etc... he even asked me if I thought we could be friends,etc
I am in a period of my life that I don't trust people easily, and he knows it! For me, the "bonds/links" I establish with people are VERY important, and I go slowly... because I don't want to go through situations like this, because it hurts when you think you are friends with someone, and suddenly one day you realise that that person doesn't care about you at all!! and you have been a fool... that hurts... a lot.
I know he doesn't trust people easily either, although at the same time I think it is easy for him to make friends... so somehow, I don't understand his behaviour.
I am showing him I care about him, we are friends, etc... and what do I receive?!! Nothing.
As I explained to you, I already sent him an email to check if he was ok back home, but no reply so far, and honestly, if he doesn't reply, I won't "chase" him...
I guess I should "adopt" my friend's attitude: not to care, not to be upset, etc.
But anyway, it is sad. I just wanted to understand why he does what he does. Does this make sense to you?
Once more, thank you for your sincere feedback.
Take care!

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posted April 26, 2007 04:52 PM            

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Dreamybecca: I really don't have time right now to go into dealtails of the Aqua man's mind, but I will just say this do not take it personal this is how they are in the begining and sometimes in the middle and from time to time later on. If he said that he feels a certain way about you he does, but that does not mean that he is not going to be detatched and aloof. They do not act like normal ppl even when they are inlove with a girl not most of them anyway. So act like its nothing if you can and be his friend when ever he comes around. Don't wait around though have other interests and stuff.

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posted April 26, 2007 04:58 PM            

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I want to love people, love my friends, reach out to them all at once...but im such a damn freak i get rejected, that rejection knocks my confidence, sometimes i sit at home thinking id sound like a dork if i called someone...and others often abuse a desire to love so widely
But anyway im getting off-topic...my point is that aquarian love IS often scattered a little here and there, depending on the weather, their headaches, their ability to remember...BUT it is genuine. >>>>>>

Wow. Excellently said!
I am an aquarius sun, venus in aquarius, and aquarius in the 12th house.... (i dunno if i wrote that correctly?)
Basically, I do value my friendships, first and foremost. And I don't think many aquas are "out of sight, out of mind" types... but they are not the type to keep in constant contact. I will NEVER forget a friend. And I can think of so many friends from when I was little, to my current friends, and while I don't talk to them on a regular basis, I constantly am reminded of them, to the point where I still CONSIDER them my friends. I am very nostalgic, but not to the point where I will call someone up after 10 years just to say "hi, i was thinking of you" - that goes back to Aquas "fear of rejection" - or for me, it just makes me feel "weak" or "vulnerable" to have another person know that I was thinking about them.... does that make any sense? Anyway, I am a sincerely loyal person, and when I run into people from my past, it is very "natural" - no akwardness, it's very much as though no time has passed at all.
I also NEVER call people. It's pretty much a running joke with EVERYONE I know... because I never ever call people "just to talk". Occasionally, I'll send out a card or a news article/poem via snail mail. I wouldn't take his actions personally, at ALL. I'm sure he values your friendship, and DOES think about you often, and will always remain your friend, but I don't know many aquas that will keep in constant communication (remember their independent streak!)....

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posted April 26, 2007 09:38 PM              

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This is reminding me of all the people I have to call...all the friends I said over and over again I would get together with...aye! >.<

Yes, Aquarians are scattered and we can spread ourselves too thin. In my case, I honestly do love the people I say I want to get together with/be friends with, and I think of them ALL THE TIME, but it's quite overwhelming for me--LIFE that is--so I end up spending a lot of time alone because I need it. Classes are about the most socialization I can take (12th house), so I'm too exhausted to see people most of the time. :-( Even though I genuinely like them a lot. Then I feel bad because some people take it really seriously, others don't give up on me, others are busy, too. So, don't take it personally. Aquarians fill their plates really high and then realize they can't possibly eat everything! I guess we kind of excuse ourselves at that point and don't return to the table until we've digested it all!! ;-)

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posted April 26, 2007 10:10 PM            

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Noone.....

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posted April 30, 2007 04:42 PM              

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I have news... he appeared again, and I am happy to see he is alive, happy and so. But it is scary... maybe he reads this forum... I hope he doesn't, that would be soooo embarrassing! I take it with humour...although it is scary
I have talked to him a bit the last days, and he was so nice... I hardly know him, but I feel he is a special person ( I hope I am not mistaken this time, because lately, I have had some problems with intuition and people). Last night I felt a bit sad after having talked to him. I think people who surround him are lucky. They can talk to him, enjoy his company, and have the chance to get to know him better, which I guess it is not my case.
I think I am rambling... sorry.
I think I feel sad, but I don't know why.
By the way, I don't think he is bad because he is Aquarius (I say this because of other posts talking about Aquarius). He is special, I don't know if it is because he is Aquarius, or because it is him.
I just like/want to understand people's behaviour, especially when I appreciate them!
Thank you for "reading" me!

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posted April 30, 2007 07:16 PM              

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Hello thisdivarocks,
I am sorry for the late answer. First of all, I wont suggest you tactics, because I dont like being unnatural and applying tactics on men just to win their affection, because those tactics take effect for a short-time period. Besides, it is all going to be tiresome for you after some time if you are not the girl who you pretend to be. So, for now, I am assuming that you will be comfortable with how you appear to him. Okay, what I have understood so far from your posts is that Aquarius man already has strong feelings towards you. However, he has some serious issues in spotlight, and like others said before, he is focused on that subject. What I advice you about that is to be supportive of him whenever he comes and tells you about what is going on. He needs to feel secure, and see at least one woman on earth makes him feel like that. You should be that woman, the one he seeks, the one who can prove him that not all women are unreliable. You ask me how to be unpredictable; well, you should be unpredictable because things with your Aquarian will always be unexpected. Even his first confession of love will be in some time and in some where that you dont expect it to be like that. If you are a predictable person and also await him to be like that, things will continue to stress you and the process will be unbearable as time passes, and to avoid that you have to create a new frequency which is being totally independent and unexpected, yet very reliable and super honest. His antennas will quickly percieve this new and different frequency, be sure of that! For example, at that party, I would also be mysterious looking, the girl who actually gets all men's admiration, but not really interested in anyone's attention. He would see me dancing with other men, but after few minutes, I would decide to go out for some fresh air, and maybe I would disappear afterwards all of a sudden. And he would definitely ask about that and I would say, 'I dont know, maybe I was bored' in a very friendly smiling tone and change the subject. You should not be telling everything to him unless he really wants a direct answer and when he wants that real answer, shock him with how you can be so honest. Believe yourself and have full self-confidence, thisdivarocks. Lastly, please dont invite him to your new place again. You did that once and he knows it. If you be pushy or seem like pushy to him about that, he may build-up a resistance to that idea, about coming to your place. Hope everything goes fine.

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posted April 30, 2007 09:28 PM            

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Hey Dreamybecca,

I'm dating an aquarian asc/sun pisces moon man and if you have any questions then I would be more than happy to hear them.

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posted May 01, 2007 05:31 PM              

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I don't know, what Slayer suggests seems like too much thinking and game playing to me. It might work, but another way to go is to just be yourself and tell the Aquarian how you feel. I think a mature person especially an Aquarius who is probably smart and could see through games or "acting" anyway would appreciate that and respond positively. In my experience phoney-ness is a major turn-off for Aquarians.

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posted May 01, 2007 05:54 PM            

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thedivarocks: Yes please be yourself all the time. IF he wants to play games then let him do so but you remain stable and mature. Go about your everyday life the things that you need to do or things that you do on a everyday basis. All that zig zag stuff don't do that. The best thing you can do is get into your own life that is mystery enough. It has to be real. Show some independence that is what attracts these guys they love women that have their own agenda..And yes don't ask him to come your place and dont try and trick him or anything like that into coming to your place, he will when he is ready. I had to learn this the hard way but Aqua men do what they want when they want regardless of anything else..

Oh yeah honesty is great with them..They can read you so you have to be for real..

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posted May 01, 2007 07:36 PM              

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Mama Mia

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posted May 02, 2007 05:12 AM              

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Good morning guys!
Thank you for your comments! I think the reason why I am sad is because the last days this young man and I have been talking (chatting) a bit almost everyday, and that creates a "bond/link" between the two of us, and makes me trust him, etc. I guess we are building a friendship, but I know that soon he may disappear again for a while and I know that I will feel like crap, and "ghosts" from the past will appear again. People always come to me to tell me their problems, to get comfort, to have a shoulder to cry on, they make you believe you are friends, etc but then, one day you realise you were totally mistaken about them because they tell you you are not friends, it was only in your mind.
It is very confusing for me. Friendship and friends are very important for me.
So I guess I am starting to feel a little bit scary with this boy, because he is becoming a friend, a special person for me, and I know I will miss him when he disappear (for a while, or forever!).
In case you are curious, he is Aquarius Sun, Libra Moon, Capricorn Venus, Taurus Mars... I don't know the ascendant or the houses because I don't know his exact birth time. Any comments?!

Regarding thedivarocks' situation, I think playing mind games is not a good thing, not because your man is Aquarius, just because he is a person. Mind games aren't nice, because it is a way to manipulate, and people usually aren't stupid. Maybe you don't realise at the beginning, but sooner or later, everybody realises when someone is "playing" with you, pretending things, etc, and it is not nice, it is disappointing. Any kind of relationship, in my humble opinion, should be "built" on honesty, trust, etc.

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posted May 02, 2007 07:50 AM            

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Morning Gals,

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posted May 02, 2007 08:06 AM              

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No, no, no...I didn't mean to offend you, thisdivarocks!
I didn't mean you were planning to play games on this man! It was just a piece of advice, because sometime I have been the "victim" of some mind games, and believe me, it was not nice
Sorry if I offended you, it was not my intention.
I am also trying to figure out this other Aquarius young man's behaviour... it is confusing, even if we are not romantically involved. I just don't want to be a fool again. Sorry, I am a complex person
I am starting to think that I may be a bit scared of rejection... you know, I feel as if we were in kindergarden again, you know, when one child goes and asks another one "Do you want to be my friend?!"
Yes, I want to be his friend, but I guess I may be scared he may not be serious about it, even if he was the first one to ask that same question to me! May he be scared of rejection as well?!

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posted May 02, 2007 08:10 AM            

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he has venus in capricorn...fear of rejection is probably his middle name.

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posted May 02, 2007 09:54 AM              

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Adrienne,
I dont think you read my post carefully. I advice you to read it once again before you tell me what I suggest thisdivarocks is too much thinking and game playing. Reading first three sentences will be enough to see that you are wrong. Phoniness? watch out your words when blaming someone with that. I didnt like your attitude and I hope you will realize your fault. Because what you are saying is parallel to what I am saying.

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posted May 02, 2007 09:46 PM              

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Slayer,

You did start out saying that you detest games.
Then you proceeded to offer advice on how to play various games.
I'm not sure how you reconcile this.

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posted May 02, 2007 10:23 PM            

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Hello Everyone

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posted May 03, 2007 10:01 AM              

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HSC,
What are those various games? To advice her to be supportive, honest, reliable and independent? You percieve that as mind games? HSC, read my post once again with pure intention. I am sure you will see that I am not guiding her to be someone she is not. And in that party version I wrote, I explained how I would behave in her situation. While getting every men's attention, I would be probably bored if the one I am interested was not with me during the party, and I would leave there. Calling someone you dont know 'phoney' is a rude attitude. It is not nice! And I would expect from such a wise and fair man to recognize first this ugly statement, and not taking a part in that wrong behaviour. I hope I am not wrong about you, HSC.

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posted May 03, 2007 03:09 PM              

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Please, do not argue

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