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Got Gemini?
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posted September 01, 2007 02:51 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Got Gemini?     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
How do people with Venus in Cappy show their love in a relationship?

(Aqua sun, Cancer Moon, Aqua Merc, Cappy Venus, Scorpio Asc and mars)

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posted September 01, 2007 03:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for GrlyGirl20     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey I don't have a cappy venus but I do have a cap moon, and as far as I've seen with anyone who is influenced with cap is that they have a tendency to be much more grounded and down to earth. They for sure appreciate people who are in control of their emotions. I know for me verbal expressions of love are very hard for me to say so I tend to show my care by being available or through affection (that could be my venus in taurus speaking). But I know that I am very affected by rejection.

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posted September 01, 2007 07:07 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wow!! I'M aqua sun, cancer moon and cappy venus!!! Are you the aqua, or are you asking about someone else??

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They're 'economical' with it.

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posted September 01, 2007 07:45 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
economically? what prejudice is that? As for me, fine I'll admit I'd want to be rich. Money gives you loads of opportunities, but... I would NEVER be in a relationship with someone I didn't love... It'd be nice to fall in love with a rich person, but hey -if I don't I'll get rich by myself. No worrieees. The size of someone's wallet has NOTHING to do with love. Now, that's my oppinion.

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posted September 01, 2007 10:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Got Gemini?     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Wow!! I'M aqua sun, cancer moon and cappy venus!!! Are you the aqua, or are you asking about someone else??

Someone else.

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posted September 01, 2007 12:09 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
RainbowDay, you misunderstood marsconjunctmercury's post. He/she didn't mean to say they love money more than anything else, but that they're not showy of their affection.

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I have venus in Capricorn..
I show love. Even openly. I didn't use to - but that was, I think, because of my Scorpio moon more than my venus. I didn't know how to..

The love of my life is a poor man, with ambition. He has debts. He has a past. He lives at home with his mother.
I own my own house, which in my country, is unusual for a single mother. I own a car. Again expensive in my country. My parents are dead.

But I don't care. At all. About the differences. And truth be told: he's a much more giving person than I am. His focus is on the group - mine naturally tends to be on the individual. And that would be me! I'm improving with motherhood, but there is a selfish streak in me.

At the end of the day, money is just money. Nice to have, but it will never replace love. And I'd rather be happy and love/be loved, than rich.

Having said that: I*LL NEVER GIVE UP MY HOUSE. I love the security of owning my own home. And I'm not real keen of co-owning - too risky..
And I really do have pretty expensive tastes. I can't help it - I just prefer luxury items.. Quality is the best investment, right?

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posted September 02, 2007 01:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for jane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Much will depend on the person's Venus aspects & the chart as a whole, but I'd say the common denominator with Venus in Cap is that they're sincere & prefer monogamous, long-term relationships. They're also cautious about entering into a new relationship, but if they are beginning one with you, rest assured that they already care very much about you. I guess you could say that Venus in Caps show their love in a relationship by being in the relationship!

Most Venus in Caps value romantic relationships that have substance to them. We're not looking for flings, friends with benefits, casual dating...we want a connection that is genuine & will last. Since we know we want something deep while most people want someting lighter, we're very cautious about showing our interest until we're pretty certain that the other person wants the same type of relationship we do. So, while many people start seeing someone because of an initial attraction & then develop feelings for the other person during the course of the relationship, many Venus in Caps have developed deep feelings for the other person before they even are interested in starting the romantic relationship. That's what I meant by a Venus in Cap showing her feelings by being in the relationship. She wouldn't have started it if she didn't care about you very much already.

Once in the relationship, I think the rest of a person's chart & her Venus aspects will shape how she shows her love. I have Venus trine Jupiter & Mars, so love goes hand in hand with playfulness and physical affection. The person you asked about may have his/her Venus harmoniously aspecting (sextile) Mars and his asc. This would make the person's loving nature comfortably linked with physical expression.

Venus in Cap will show her love by being dependable. This placement will bring a subtlety &, as mcm said, economy to the person's romantic nature. But I also think that a relationship with a Venus in Cap becomes more romantic the longer it lasts. You know how they say that people with a strong Cap influence seem to become younger with age, that they start out serious & loosen up over time? I think most Venus in Caps enjoy romance but like it to be genuine, the gestures should be made b/c the feelings are real & already exist. This is different from too much romance at the beginning, which to Venus in Caps may seem phony.

Oh, and we like gifts. Giving & getting. But, like everything else, not too much too soon or it seems superficial or like there's an ulterior motive to us. When I'm really into someone (I'm like this with my friends too), I like to give gifts, usually something that has a special meaning for us or something I made.

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posted September 02, 2007 04:51 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for annaf     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Jane, I couldnt possibly agree more with every single word you've just said!!!

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posted September 04, 2007 02:22 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for jane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
anna: don't you have a venus-saturn opp dw in synastry with someone? i thought that was hard enough, but with the venus in cap... ((((anna))))
what's your sun sign?

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posted September 04, 2007 07:23 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Robbie Williams has a Cappy Venus.

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posted September 04, 2007 10:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for annaf     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Jane,

yes, you remembered right!! Not only a venus opp. saturn double whammy in synastry,....but also a venus opp. saturn in the composite AAANNNDDD (drum roll....) not only my venus is in capricorn, but his venus as well....and to give all of this a really nice finish....he has his natal capricorn venus opposite his natal saturn, with saturn in the 5th house. I'm also a tough cookie with my capricorn sun in my 7th house opposite saturn in my 1st....(he's an aquarius sun). Oh, it's a disaster area!! whine..But seriously, I'm starting to lose heart. I've never ever been so attracted to anyone in my life, but i've also never ever experienced so much insecurity, desperation and total paralysis with anyone. Today, it's actually exactly one year since I've met him and in this year it feels like absolutely nothing has moved forward. A couple of months ago I was sure, yes, he also must feel something, now I couldnt be more doubtful whether we'll even be in touch again. Oops, sorry, ok, I'll step on the breaks now, I must sound like a broken record...

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posted September 04, 2007 12:16 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Jane wrote:

>>>Most Venus in Caps value romantic relationships that have substance to them. We're not looking for flings, friends with benefits, casual dating...we want a connection that is genuine & will last. Since we know we want something deep while most people want someting lighter, we're very cautious about showing our interest until we're pretty certain that the other person wants the same type of relationship we do. So, while many people start seeing someone because of an initial attraction & then develop feelings for the other person during the course of the relationship, many Venus in Caps have developed deep feelings for the other person before they even are interested in starting the romantic relationship. That's what I meant by a Venus in Cap showing her feelings by being in the relationship. She wouldn't have started it if she didn't care about you very much already.<<<

Right on, Jane!! I have venus in cap and would say that romantic relationships with venus in cap are almost entirely based on the possibility of a serious future where there is a deep, shared connectedness. It was always a challenge to maintain motivation for anything I knew would be short term. Venus in capricorn is about a this-worldly love that is loyal and very inwardly felt as opposed to overly demonstrated and emotional displays. While venus in cap def loosens up over time, I think the economy aspect and not being into PDAs will be a hallmark throughout (depending on other aspects obviously).

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posted September 05, 2007 02:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MysticMelody     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Cap moon and AC here

What Jane said.

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posted September 05, 2007 05:37 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for jane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
anna - A year? C'mon, that's nothing for a venus in cap. Seriously, i feel your pain. I think venus in cap enhances our lives in many ways, but at times it can really work against us. The exreme cautiousness, pessimism, & fear of rejection can bring paralysis. Sometimes you've just gotta say "f*** it" (& just f*** him ).

I went through something similar myself. Before getting involved with my fiance, I feared that his feelings for me weren't as deep as mine were for him. Or that even if they were, he wouldn't want a long-term relationship with me. That after a couple of months (or days! ), he'd have his fill. So finally i just thought how rare it was (in my experience) to find someone who attracted me in every way, and for that attraction to endure. I decided that even if the relationship lasted a brief time, I was going to appreciate all that it could be. And I knew that avoiding the relationship wasn't going to help me get over him, b/c once i fall, I fall deep & for a long time. So I might as well get some enjoyment, even if it didn't last. It took a long time for me to get to the point where I was able to surrender & accept whatever would come, months where I kept going back & forth on whether to pursue something with him. Anyway, I'm sharing this just to let you know that I understand how you feel right now. There's always a risk in pursuing what we want, but I think something we venus in caps forget is that we can handle it.

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posted September 05, 2007 05:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for jane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Bucketrider -
"It was always a challenge to maintain motivation for anything I knew would be short term."
Perfectly put! Exactly the same for me, but it's also hard for me to even become motivated, not just maintain it. So many, many times in my life I've experienced it where I'm attracted to someone, I like a lot of things about him, but there's something about him or the way we relate that let's me know that a relationship definitely wouldn't last, & knowing that, I'd lose interest, not just in starting the relationship, but my attraction for him would diminish. He'd go in the "friend" column. I know that in a relationship like that, I'd feel like I'm just going through the motions, playing a part. Venus in Cap can be almost too realistic about love relationships, & it's hard for us to surrender to romanticism when we know it's not a "real" connection, with a "real connection" being one that we would want to last a long time.

"love that is loyal and very inwardly felt as opposed to overly demonstrated and emotional displays."
So true. This is what helps me relate to people with a strong Cap influence, or other signs that aren't as expressive. We all seem to be on the same page that a quiet, subtle expression reveals as much, or more, than an exuberant one.
I agree about the cap influence re: pda. But like you said, other aspects come into play. My Moon in Leo can sometimes be very warm & gooey, even in public (not too often in public, thank god )...at those times, my Venus in Cap looks away in mixed amusement & disgust.

MM - What beautiful Cap placements you have. My Venus is enchanted.

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posted September 05, 2007 09:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Astra     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Doesn't Britney Spears have venus in cap?

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posted September 06, 2007 06:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for jane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
astra - Yes. The only famous person I know of with that placement who I like (much) less is Dick Cheney. But there are some good famous Venus in Caps too...
Brad Pitt, JFK Jr., Christian Bale, Bobby Kennedy, William Blake, Rainer Maria Rilke, David Lynch, Bjork, James Dean, Beethoven, Kristen Kreuk, Anthony Hopkins, Alicia Keyes, Paul Newman, Owen Wilson, Ben Stiller, James Spader, Diane Keaton, Jennifer Beals, Diane Lane, Chomsky, Andy Kaufman, Elvis...
& of course many more. But Dick Cheney & Britney Spears really bring the list down.

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posted March 08, 2017 08:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for StelliumH6     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have been seeing my Goat Guy for 2 years. He continues to say comments such as, "It weighs on my mind that things have not evolved in the way you wanted." I have told him many times that I am happy with us and do not pressure him for more. He loves me, shows he cares about me by doing sweet things, and is affectionate in our private time together. The other night I asked him, "What do you think I want more of?" He brushed off the question and did not answer. Instead, later on he said, " What do you really want?" Why do you think he consistently brings up the same topic after I have clearly expressed my thoughts and feelings to him?

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posted March 09, 2017 03:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
^ Interesting.

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posted March 09, 2017 08:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for StelliumH6     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Dear Randall,
It is frustrating and tiring. He says I think too much - as does he ... What does your Capricorn male radar say?

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posted March 10, 2017 02:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think he wonders if he's good enough for you in particular or worthy of love in general. Show him he is. Don't tell him. Show him.

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posted March 10, 2017 04:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for StelliumH6     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wow, Randall! Your idea would not have entered my mind - that he thinks he is not good enough for me. Now that I ponder this more closely, he has made suggestions of this. My thoughts go to that I am not what he wants in a loving, life partner. I just thought it was me, not him at all.

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posted March 12, 2017 12:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
A different perspective can always help.

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