posted November 01, 2007 10:25 AM              

youre right im going to justify it anyway i can cause i want to. you cant help the way you feel..either people move you or they dont, and the fact most people dont(move me) makes me want to follow that feeling when i find it.

posted November 01, 2007 11:41 AM            

He is attracted to Mercury (Gemini on the DC), but probably overall more attracted to air (Gemini DC plus Venus in Libra). You've got both being a Virgo with Aquarius rising. He's got zero water, so he doesn't connect in with emotion well. This helps him maintain his detached stance, which your Aquarian nature might be tapping in to.

posted November 01, 2007 04:16 PM              

And it is also a very sad state of affairs to have to explain why infidelity is baaaad juju pure & simple. In other words if you screw around with a married man (or woman), you got karma, baby. One would think that the concept of fidelity would be self evident by now, both in our day & age, but also by the time one is old enough to hump it.

I don't know the original poster from Eve, and I don't know whether she is really that naive and gullible, suffering from excruciatingly low self esteem, just plain delusional, a die hard narcissist, or all of the above. But if I had to pick judging from her posts in this thread, I'd go for someone lacking any kind of self esteem whatsoever combined with delusions of grandeur if she really thinks some married man is going to want to sleep with her "for love" because their charts say so. Seriously, think about that, how completely INSANE that sounds. No woman (and here I mean grown woman, not an adolescent trapped in never never land), no woman with even one modicum of dignity and self respect would entertain a thought like that to begin with, much less allow herself to be put into a situation like that in real life. And besides, does she really think this guy is going to want any more to do with her once he gets a hint of her line of thought? Once he gets to know her a little, given her posts, it'll be interesting to see how "unavailable" he'll suddenly become.

And given her line of reasoning, she'll come back with something akin to "He's not really like that. He's special. You just don't understand. It's just that his wife doesn't want to sleep with him anymore. etc etc etc.", all of which reinforces the sense of the adolescent lacking in self esteem combined with that nasty streak of narcissism. Because deep down since he's soooo special, betcha she's thinking that if she can get him to go to bed with her, or maybe even get him to leave his wife for her (because after all they're soulmates, right?), why that would make HER even MORE special, which reinforces all those delusions of grandeur combined with that convenient way of avoiding intimacy.

I've avoided bringing astrology into this so far, because this is one of those situations where it's really not that necessary. My advice to the original poster would be to forego whatever God's gift to the human race's chart says and seek professional help to work on her own issues involving intimacy and self respect. You can have the single most gorgeous synastry with Charles Manson but that doesn't make him your soul mate, and no other relationship is going to work until those issues within the self are resolved.

posted November 01, 2007 05:39 PM              

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What am I doing wrong?

Okay, I’m tired of beating around the bush. I’m a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I’m articulate and classy. I’m not from New York . I’m looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don’t think I’m overreaching at all.

Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could you send me some tips? I dated a business man who makes average around 200 - 250. But that’s where I seem to hit a roadblock. 250,000 won’t get me to central park west. I know a woman in my yoga class who was married to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she’s not as pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I get to her level?

Here are my questions specifically:

- Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars, restaurants, gyms

-What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won’t hurt my feelings

-Is there an age range I should be targeting (I’m 25)?

- Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper east side so plain? I’ve seen really ‘plain jane’ boring types who have nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I’ve seen drop dead gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What’s the story there?

- Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows - lawyer, investment banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they hang out? Where do the hedge fund guys hang out?

- How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for MARRIAGE ONLY

Please hold your insults - I’m putting myself out there in an honest way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I’m being up front about it. I wouldn’t be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn’t able to match them - in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping a nice home and hearth.

THE ANSWER

Dear Pers-431649184:

I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament.

Firstly, I’m not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits your bill; that is I make more than $500K per year. That said here’s how I see it.

Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a crappy business deal. Here’s why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. Fine, simple. But here’s the rub, your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity…in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won’t be getting any more beautiful!

So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates! Let me explain, you’re 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35 stick a fork in you!

So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy and hold…hence the rub…marriage. It doesn’t make good business sense to “buy you” (which is what you’re asking) so I’d rather lease. In case you think I’m being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It’s as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.

Separately, I was taught early in my career about efficient markets. So, I wonder why a girl as “articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful” as you has been unable to find your sugar daddy. I find it hard to believe that if you are as gorgeous as you say you are that the $500K hasn’t found you, if not only for a tryout.

By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then we wouldn’t need to have this difficult conversation.

With all that said, I must say you’re going about it the right way. Classic “pump and dump.”