posted January 21, 2008 12:05 AM              

My moon is in my SO's 12th house. It's conjunct his ASC, but technically it falls in his 12th. (His ASC is 9 Gem 50 and my moon is 9 Gem 16.) Also, we both have moon and saturn conjunct natally, and our natal conjunctions are conjuct in synastry and composite. (I hope that makes sense! lol)

I can REALLY relate to alot of what has been said. As the moon person, I have such tender feelings for him. I feel I would sooner cut off my right arm than hurt him in any way. But I don't feel like I'm walking on egg shells...it's not forced, it just comes naturally.

And yes...I do think I can feel what he's feeling. We are miles away, and we're talking online, and yet I can FEEL him. I think maybe this made him a bit uncomfortable at first (and maybe still does sometimes), but I think that ultimately it's been a good thing. I think I calm him down a bit when he's upset. (That may have to do with the saturn thing, too.)

The other thing that I find funny is the things people have mentioned about being "tactful" and "not rude". Normally, I can and DO swear like a sailor. And yet, when I am talking with him, I just don't. It's not that I think he would have a problem with this. In fact, I mentioned it to him and he said he doesn't want me to use a filter with him. But as I explained to him: when I'm with him, I FEEL sweet, and so I AM sweet. In fact, I sometimes have to "force" myself to tell him to f@ck off! lmao (But only teasingly, of course. he he)

Don't know if that helped at all.

EDIT: I just noticed your username, DainBramaged, and I have to give you props for the way-cool awesome 80's comedy reference! "Football am my life. I love football. You, too, can be playing football on the football field...with a football!" (Bob Nelson, I believe.)

posted January 21, 2008 12:53 AM              

yeah!! i totally understand where you are both coming from as well. especially what you said about feeling so sweetly toward him and giving your right arm so he wouldn't feel hurt. it IS such a tender, compassionate, sweet feeling. and the tippy toes thing, i can see. i feel like that sort of goes hand in hand with that. it's like we are ultra sensitive to their feelings to the point where their feelings are in a way, ours, or something!

in my situation we aren't together but we have talked a lot and want to be together, but because i'm in a pluto-venus transit i was getting really intense and neither of us is ready so i decided we should cut off communication, and he currently does not have the internet either so we aren't talking. but the last month or so i was VERY emotionally expressive with him and since i don't know him that well it was hard to understand his feelings since he seemed really uncomfortable about it, THOUGH he would always confirm wanting to be with me and having feelings for me, and remind me that he hates talking about feelings!! so i think for him i sort of threw open the door to his emotional cellar or something and he is maybe confused or freaked out.. OR is deeply touched. i'm not sure which!! since when we were together he seemed as relieved and overjoyed to have such a strong emotional bond and seemed to really enjoy the emotional awareness we share.

but yeah, i think it's definitely confusing for the moon person, and maybe the 12th person would feel relief and a sense of being cared for and understood in ways others people generally don't, such as with you, dain.. and i can also see how it could be confusing or scary for the 12th house person if those aspects of self are quite hidden.

posted January 21, 2008 04:02 AM              

can u give me an honest opinion on marraige compatibility and duration for these two charts

posted January 21, 2008 01:56 PM            

Well, from what I saw in your composite chart, it seems to me that you are very attracted to each other, and you find each other very interesting, and you find it very easy to love and be accepting of one another. You are very drawn to each other...you find your union to be passionate!!

Love and emotion are very strong in this relationship. Even a casual relationship will become loving.

People around you will be aware of the way you feel about each other, and this fact will improve your relationships with others. You also both share idealism in the relationship, and it is not one prone to deception, either.

This is all very very good.
However, you may find that during some time in your relationship, one of you may try to dominate the other, or will feel held back by the other somehow. To me it seems that there is great indication that you will face these problems of competitiveness, but that you CAN overcome them. It is a choice. I think you can overcome it because according to your chart, you love each other and are very attracted to each other, but you're going to have to work hard to not try to control or dominate the other partner.

you have: Saturn opposite uranus
"Saturn Opposition Uranus

The opposition of composite Saturn and Uranus can be quite difficult for a relationship. It implies a state of tension arising from the fact that one of you feels that the other puts a complete clamp on his or her style, while the restrictive partner experiences the first one as a disruptive force. Add to this your great difficulty in communicating with each other, so that pressures are not released, and you have an explosive situation.

This problem causes many such relationships to end suddenly and without warning. It is clearly a situation in which the only solution is to learn to let off steam gradually. Talk frequently about what is going on between you and try to be as honest as possible. Your principal aim should be to state the truth accurately, not to score points over each other. "

Not only is this a source of tension, but Mars is a great disruptor here..

Look at all of this in the composite chart...

"Sun Square Mars

Composite Sun square composite Mars is a difficult aspect for almost any relationship. Such great energies are generated that it is difficult to channel them constructively. Usually these energies surface as intense ego competition, disputes, disagreements, and other forms of hostility.

The trick is to channel this energy outward instead of allowing it to operate within the relationship. If you are physically very active together or if you work very hard for a common goal, you may be able to bring this aspect under positive control.

This aspect favors situations in which intense competition between you is useful rather than disruptive. In such a case, all the energy is used, not wasted in useless conflict and disagreement."

You also have Sun Square Moon which is another source of lots of energy generated. Mercury square uranus is also not good for stability or feeling of calmness while being together, but it depends on how calm you really want the relationship to be.

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Mercury Square Mars

Mercury square Mars can be quite difficult in a composite chart unless you both are willing to make a concerted effort to overcome its effects. By itself, this aspect can indicate a great deal of verbal arguments and fighting between you. You may even reach the point of fighting purely for the sake of fighting, rather than for some real issue.

The effect of this aspect is not real incompatibility between you, but it does make you too sensitive to each other's irritating qualities, so that you overreact. Save the energy for a real dispute and then let it all out.

In general, this aspect in a chart indicates that if the relationship does not have a solid basis, there will be considerable difficulties. But if there is a real bond between you, you must learn to control your energies a bit, especially in what you say to each other."

It seems to me that there is a real bond. You just have to learn to control your energies a bit, like they said.

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Venus Square Mars

Venus square Mars in a composite chart has potential for both good and bad. In a sexual relationship it can make physical love-making better and more satisfying than usual. It often makes people feel irresistibly attracted to each other. The problem this combination presents is that sex can easily become a device for one person to dominate the other.

In other relationships, the main challenge of this aspect is that you will find it hard to strike a balance between your individual egos and your desire to relate to each other. Competitiveness may sometimes interfere with cooperation.

It is possible that one of you will assume a dominant Mars role, while the other assumes a more passive Venus role. This is perfectly all right if both of you are satisfied with the situation, but be sure that you really are. It would be better for each of you to alternate the dominant and passive roles.

Mars Square Ascendant

The square of composite Mars and Ascendant can be very difficult. It signifies that the pursuit of egoistic goals is likely to come between the two of you.

You may argue constantly about seemingly trivial matters, which actually represent deeper psychological pressures that you are not expressing to each other. These pressures are very likely to be expressed as disagreements about your home together (if you have one) or about your overall objectives in life.

The main point is what the two of you are doing together. There may be perfectly valid reasons for this relationship, and being together may be a very good experience for both of you. However, you must ask the question anyway, because the naturally competitive energies of Mars may make you think you are completely incompatible, even if you actually have a deep need to be together. This relationship calls for a great deal of self- awareness."

This following aspect and your venus aspects in the composite point that you seem to have the available resources to calm down a little with each other, if you try hard enough. Jupiter in the 7th also helps!

Mars Sextile Jupiter

Mars sextile Jupiter in the composite chart is a good indication that your ego-drives are harmoniously related within the relationship. That is, each of you can do what you want and be what you want without getting in the way of your relationship.

The symbolism of the Mars-Jupiter combination is fortunate action. You work well together, think well together, and have the happy facility of wanting the same things at the same time or of seeking objectives that you can pursue together. And all these activities cement your relationship. If you are friends, this aspect will help you to be good friends. If you are lovers, you will also be friends, which is quite unusual in a love affair.

This aspect confers a rare quality of optimism on a relationship. You expect things to work, and that expectation somehow makes it happen. This aspect can be instrumental in making a relationship successful, regardless of its purpose"

Another thing is that you have sun square uranus in the composite chart, so that means that this relationship will be the cause of many surprises for both of you.....All it means is "suprises" ok?
Also, you have moon square uranus in the composite, so that it will probably be difficult for you to see each other every time you want to see each other. You will probably meet with disruptions that don't let you see each other steadily...but this can be overcome with enough dedication. Probably you both like change so much, or get bored a little easily, so you don't like to see each other everyday, or one of you may want to, but the other may be unavailable. But, again, this can be overcome.

Let's see what Vedic Astrology has to say:

This is from http://askganesha.com/services/free_horoscope/kundli-milan.asp

Points 1/1
The boy and the girl both comes under Kshatriya Varan. Both will have the very good understanding as well as perfect tuning with each other. They will also co-operate at each and every step to promote the general status of the home environment. They both will also have stamina and energy to look after the domestic affairs with full of zeal and enthusiasm. Their labour and hard work will enable them to provide a fine set up as far as homely affairs are concerned. A good combination in all respects is indicated.

Points: 2/2
The boy and the girl both belongs to Chatushpad vashya. There will be a very good understanding between both of them. They can co-operate effectively in work and study and in matters related to diet, dress and personal hygiene. Their mutual interests on worldly affairs will also matched. The both will have a fair demand of each other on certain occasions. They will be able to communicate with each other about their feelings and emotional responses and this should improve their compatibility even further.

Points: 3/3
The Tara of boy and girl matches with each other. They are reasonably compatible. Both have the same warm and stable nature. An idealistic and conscientious couple who will seek and value each other's opinions. At times both will stimulate each other towards creative self-expression. Their family life will remain quite harmonious and in the midst of difficulties, they will encourage each other not to loose heart and face the awkward situations boldly.

Points: 1/4
The boy's yoni is Gaj and the girl comes under Vanar yoni. This is a good combination as far as yoni compatibility is concerned. They will get on well with each other. There sense of timing and organization in domestic affairs will be fantastic. Financially, this union is going to be very lucky. The boy will help girl to be more intelligent and practical in her approach. The girl in turn help the boy to be more precise in his actions. Physically, both will be quite satisfactory with each other.

Points: 5/5
The boy's rasi lord is Mars and the girl comes under Jupiter's lordship. This is a good combination for constructive, practical co-operation in the family and domestic affairs. They will be effective in talking practical action to help those less fortunate than themselves, this can relate to religious, charitable or educational institutions. Generally, these natives will encourage each other's efforts at physical, spiritual or personal self-improvements. The girl can help to channel the energy of the boy into constructive actions. The boy will help the other to put educational, philosophical or religious goals into action.

Points: 6/6
The boy and the girl both comes under Manushya gan. This combination indicates mutual intellectual interests and the ability to resolve problems through clear thinking and understanding. The natives can co-operate effectively in the fields such as science, writing, teaching, business, medicine, communication media and other pursuits requiring intellectual ability. They can help each other achieve goals and objective through stimulating each other's mental processes and conveying useful information. The natives tend to bring out each other's inventive and resourceful qualities.

Points: 0/8
The boy and the girl both comes under Madhya nadi. This is not a good combination as far as nadi compatibility is concerned. There could be a danger of ill-health to one or both of the natives. They will find it difficult to adjust with each other's moods and feelings. At times, both parties may feel, that they are poles apart as far as common thinking is concerned. An element of distrust may also prevailed in their relationships.

Thanks to 0 points scored in Antya Nadi, it seems that Veid Astrology Matchmaking also seems to point that you stimulate each other, are complementary to each other, have much in common, and find it easy to cooperate, but that the relationship could still be in danger of ending suddenly because of difficulty adjusting to each other's moods. However, I still don't think that you would want to end it with each other.

According to Astroadvice.com's Love Thermometer report right here: http://astroadv ice.com/love/Synastry/LoveThermometer.asp?iFut=1000193815223015460,gtmpurok0&fn=&Hse=PLACIDUSHOUSE&Bm=11&Bd=17&By=1966&Bh=04&Bn=23&AP=A&Bt=Y&un=
You have a 99% rating, and that is an excellent result for PASSION and willingness to COMPROMISE. You should read what the thermometer had to say, I consider it pretty important.

This is Astrotouch.com's interpretation:
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Astrocompatibility: 90 %

This is an excellent result. There is so much harmonious connections in your mutual chart, that the potential for understanding to last is extremely high. With little effort you can start and maintain an ideal relationship.
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So in other words..there you have it . Looks like you will find it easy to get along. You may have to deal with troubles about your competitiveness intially, but you will be able to resolve it because you get along so well together!

Take care. You can go to compatiblerelationships.com to check your "soulmate" rating. It also tells you how easily you will find it to make up after arguments. So if u want, try it.

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EDITED: leenagidwani, I wanted to add that for the Askganesha Matchmaking report I posted up there, I did not know if you were male or female, but I did put you as the male, so if you are female and not male, you could go to that site and do the report again with you as the female. Currently, your qualities and placements are being described as if you were a boy.

Source: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AkP8395Mm4ymLK_V2_MCrzI AAAAA;_ylv=3?qid=20080113084343AA9HZV1

posted January 21, 2008 08:34 PM              

What's your impression? What could be the (karmic) "purpose" of this relationship? What's the "flavor" that you get from this chart? Thanks in advance for your thoughts!

MAJOR PLANETARY ASPECTS:

SUN square Point of FORTUNE

MOON sextile SATURN
MOON square NEPTUNE
MOON trine CUPIDO
MOON sextile NN
MOON trine ASC

MERCURY opposite EROS
MERCURY trine CERES
MERCURY square Black Moon LILITH

VENUS conjunct MARS
VENUS opposite JUNO
VENUS sextile Black Moon LILITH

MARS sextile Black Moon LILITH

JUPITER square NEPTUNE
JUPITER opposite PALLAS
JUPITER sextile ASC

SATURN opposite CUPIDO
SATURN conjunct CERES

URANUS sextile NEPTUNE

CHIRON trine MC
CHIRON trine VESTA

NN conjunct DSC/7th house cusp
NN conjunct SATURN

JUNO trine NEPTUNE
JUNO opposite PLUTO
CERES opposite CUPIDO
VESTA conjunct MC
VESTA sextile Psyche

VERTEX conjunct Point of FORTUNE
VERTEX sextile EROS

BOB's Name Asteroid conjunct IC
BOB's Name sextile CHIRON
BOB's Name square DSC/7th house cusp
BOB's Name square AMOR
BOB's Name trine PSYCHE
BOB's Name trine Anteros

TARA's Name sextile VENUS
TARA's Name sextile MARS
TARA's Name square SUN
TARA's Name square VESTA
TARA's Name square EROS
TARA's Name opposite VERTEX
TARA's Name opposite Part of FORTUNE

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posted January 22, 2008 04:56 AM              

I am not good at comp charts nor do I know much about them

posted January 22, 2008 03:41 PM            

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Graha Maitri: The boy's rasi lord is the Sun and the girl comes under Venus lordship. This is not a very good combination as far as grah maitry compatibility is concerned. The girl can feel dominated and over powered by the boy's ego and power drive and the boy may feel that the girl is lazy and self- indulgent or else overly sensitive. The natives can disagree about handling finances or encourage each other's tendencies to make unwise expenditures. Some times, they bring out each other's laziness and the domestic qualities.

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LOL! Well I have an egotistical side, I am not gonna deny that but her being overpowered by it?! As if! She reciprocates the same level of ego (if not more at times.)

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Tara: The Tara of boy and girl matches on average basis with each other. This combination indicates that one will be more sensible and calm to understand the psychic personality of other person while, other may err to live up to the mark. This basic difference of nature may cause some hustles at times. In the midst of adverse situations, other person may feel jittery, wherever, one will be the picture of confidence on the whole, this is a good combination, still overall compatibility has to be there.

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Never. We both have high expectations of each other that's for sure but never have we both felt that we have yet to reach a higher mark to which the other has dictated. Nah-uh.

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Vashya: The boy's vashya is Chatushpad, while the girl comes under Manav vashya. This combination indicates the possibility of an insincere or somewhat hypocritical relationship between two people. The natives can ponder to each other's weaknesses and self-indulgent tendencies. The boy may be as a stubborn person on certain occasions which might initiate the humble girl. She may also find it difficult to adjust herself completely with him.

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Again a big LOL! We both have already decided that our relaitonship will have the freedom aspect that most couples deny each other and I gotta tell ya, we both have come to a conclusion that once you give your partner the freedom they need, they usually don't even wanna look elsewhere for love (ironic ain't it?) So another minus there.

quote:

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Varna: The boy's Varan is Kshatriya, while the girl belongs to Shudra Varan. The boy will be kind-hearted and sincere towards his family affairs. He has a way to give the shape of things. In turn, she will be hard working and labourious lady. She will take keen interest in domestic affairs. The boy will appreciate her concern and at times, guide her practically. A good combination, if all other gunas are matched well.

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posted January 22, 2008 05:21 PM              

Thank you so much fr your detailed reading...does help a lot and I hope we manage to stay together.

posted January 22, 2008 10:07 PM              

hi! i said i would take a look at your composite.. i am a bit busy tonight and like i said not great with composites (not an exaggeration!) so i will tell you what i see and take it with a grain..

it seems like there is a very caring energy between you two.. and that there is a very good opportunity for healing to take place, and to talk about things that are maybe difficult to talk about normally. i think within this framework there is a potential for hurt feelings or moodiness as well. it looks like there is a strong connection and maybe some sexual obsession between you..

there is also the possibility of decpetion or not seeing eachother clearly.. OR the possiblity of anchoring yourselves spiritually within the union. i also see that you are proud of your love and you bring eachother confidence and joy.

posted January 22, 2008 10:21 PM            

I really really wish to know how you got the interpretations though. Like, you know, caring energy...where from? Please say, I am sooo interested! Omg heart cakes, that was amazing. lol. We ARE confident and proud about our love...I wonder where you got that one from, too. I totally feel that healing thing, too. OMG I just love it LOL. But please please please, tell me how you got the interpretatinos. I love you lol.

THANK YOU !

posted January 22, 2008 10:29 PM              

P.S. We have some really good synastry aspects! Hopefully that helps??? *keeping fingers crossed*

EDIT: Sorry! I forgot to add the vertex and other stuff at the bottom on Astro, so I'm posting the chart again, with that stuff.

posted January 22, 2008 10:55 PM            

You know what, though, I think that matchmaking interp. from http://askganesha.com is screwed up, though. I looked it up on THREE other veidc sites which did the exact same thing..using the exact same system..and this site got different results than all tHREE of them..which got the same result..except for in one thing. (Yeah, I m still trying to figure that one out lol..)

So ANYWAY.. I suggest you use indastro.com with that said, 's vedic matchmaking analysis, it is very much the same thing, only thing is that askganesha explains what each step means precisely. However, like I said before, I don't think their calculations are correct. PErhaps you could try again with indastro's service and say here if your results are any different . Good luck!

posted January 23, 2008 01:13 AM              

Gotta get in a full day of catching up tomrrow!!!

posted January 23, 2008 01:32 AM            

I feel that my natal chart reflects:

posted January 23, 2008 12:04 PM            

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Dear Xodian, I find it light-heartedly FUNNY that you say such things in reply to the vedic matchmaking analysis.

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Oh by all means there is method in my madness . The problem with all the interpertation sites that I have seen thus far still use a "traditional" standard to give an interpertation on charts but the problem with that is, that stadard varies from culture to culture. Thus I usually get a kick out of reading some of the interpertations these sites put up .

posted January 23, 2008 05:12 PM              

Glaucus - I think it's awesome that you've found your other half! I'm curious about which specific things in your chart you think reflect your relationship...you mentioned a little bit about the Uranus aspects. (I noticed that you have a few house placements and aspects similar to my composite.)