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blue moon
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posted September 29, 2008 05:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for blue moon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Plenty of things upset me on an instinctive level, I find them sad, depressing, distressing. The death of someone I love, the suffering of children, there are many of them, most of which would make everyone on Lindaland feel a similar way.

But what about that specific feeling, the feeling of being wounded, hurt? It's very personal, it's instinctive. Being human it has happened to me more than once. But not that often.

Some specific things, the ones I thought of in the space of time it took me to shower and wash my hair:

* Spite directed towards someone I love

* Character assassination delivered calmly (spoken in anger I wouldn't take as much notice)

* Rejection

On my chart the Moon is in Libra, unafflicted. It is overpowered by a Conjunction to Pluto, the chart ruler. It's in the 10th house. It is also Trine Saturn and Sextile Jupiter/Neptune. I am Scorpio rising, but have a planetary water void on my chart.

I'd be interested to hear what people come up with as their first thoughts.

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posted September 29, 2008 05:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for 23     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Rejection is a killer. Example, I watched Thin Red Line on Saturday and when the soldier on duty in Solomon Islands (in very familiar Australian landscape ) was written to his wife saying that she sought a divorce because she fell in love with a navy captain but that she would forever remember their marriage it killed me watching that, it felt like being punched in the nose and gut at the same time.

Also when Pitt left Aniston for Jolie deeply upset me for some reason. My partner's attitude was that Jolie is a goddess and is better than Aniston. I felt terribly bad for Aniston, to be a wife and be rejected or appeared to be publicly was terrible.

I suppose another thing that never fails to distress me is how mean people can be, how people can bully. We've already discussed that. People who are so fanatical that they aren't willing to consider the other side or selfishness I guess.

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posted September 29, 2008 06:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for koiflower     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Rejection is a killer

You're right. Rejection is powerful enough to crush lives.

I was going to come on and just say "Moon in Sagittarius - when people don't laugh at my corny jokes"

But seeing the rejection comment has stirred up some feelings. My Moon square Saturn - difficult relationship with my mother. She is emotionally distant and unavailable. I look back over my life and see what a hurt little child I was at times.

But that's enough of the 'poor me' syndrome - had enough of that for this year - lol

Yeah - when no-one laughs at my corny jokes, OR if I crack a joke and they correct me and I have to say "Oh, that was a joke - I'm not really that stupid"

I guess that's why I never chose stand-up comedy as a career option!!

Working with children is great. They laugh at my corny lines !!

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jane
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posted September 29, 2008 07:29 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for jane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oh, now this emotion I can relate to more.

--Resentment. It really hurts me when so called "loved ones" aren't supportive. When they see someone as a rival or symbol against which they determine their own worth, instead of as a friend equally deserving of happiness and success.

--When someone in authority who I really like treats me impersonally. I guess that falls in the rejection category, but jeesh, could it be a more obvious parent surrogate.

--People who have given up. When they don't believe in themselves and accept far less than they deserve.

--Loneliness. This kills me! Seeing people who don't have any loved ones, either because they're old and everyone passed away or because they never knew how to form close relationships.

--People who lack compassion for someone in their care. Like a neglectful parent toward a child, a lazy nurse toward a patient, an insensitive teacher toward a student. When it would take the person in charge only a few minutes of interest in the other person's welfare to help them, but they don't because they just don't care.

--ASPCA commercials.

--How life can be mean. Stuff that's no one's fault, but just happens, like unrequited love or bad health.

(Everyone would probably include those last 4 on their list, so I'm not sure if they're valid for this list.)

Moon in Leo. 10th house. Trine Neptune and Sun. Sextile Pluto. Square Uranus and Mercury.

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plutoprincess
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posted September 29, 2008 07:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for plutoprincess     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Scorpio moon :
1. Unfaithfulness
2. Rejection
3. Deception/Lies

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swirl-kitt
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posted September 29, 2008 10:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for swirl-kitt     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Rejection wouldn't count as a differentiating factor though because it's proven to be one of the 2-3 things any human fears the most since we were cavemen and women. In those days rejection meant having to hunt and survive on your own in the wild of course, which probably meant your death.

Being accepted is like a basic need coming from those days, like finding food and shelter.

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venusmars
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posted September 29, 2008 11:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for venusmars     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Things that hurt me

1.Being ignored
2.Being fooled
3.Rejection
4.Being hurt with purpose

moon in saggie in the 4th,well aspected with venus mars sun and uranus.

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Lucia23
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posted September 29, 2008 12:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lucia23     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It's a good point that rejection hurts EVERYONE, but different kinds of rejection hurt different types of people worse. For instance, when someone doesn't want me romantically, think I'm beautiful and want to spend time with me, I feel brutally rejected and deeply hurt. When someone doesn't want to spend time with me as a platonic friend, I just think, "Their loss," and don't take it too personally. My Libra/ Gem Moon/Leo Venus ex is the very opposite. Social life is so important to him and he is much more hurt by being rejected from a social group or "scene" than by a love interest.

Things that hurt me (Cancer moon):
-Rejection
-Guilt/ shame, as in feeling like I did the wrong thing or hurt someone by not showing them enough love or gratitude
-Being ignored
-Having people seem to think I'm mediocre, or seem not to place great importance on me at all (I'd rather be disliked than overlooked)

I'm especially oversensitive about my looks and get hurt most easily about them.

Oh, and injustice. I feel terribly, personally hurt when life's not fair...especially to good people or people who need compassion...or to other animals.
And human cruelty.

I read about this, but wasn't there: A woman on a bridge near my city was about to commit suicide. There was lots of traffic, and people started yelling from their cars, "Just jump." And she did jump. The fact that people did that hurts me and breaks my heart every time I think about it.

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posted September 29, 2008 12:26 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Here's another Sag-Moon - I subscribe to most of what has been said before - especially by KOIFLOWER: very good point, that thing with the "misinterpreted jokes" ... I know what you're talkin' about! ;-)

I don't go for the "rejection"-part so much ... I am pretty quick with accepting this, because I know from my heart (from my "feelings"/freewheeling Moon) that no one can be "forced" to like, appreciate or even love someone else.

Which leads us to another point ... The older I get the more I seem to see through "emotional blackmailing"-techniques ... and the less I can stand them. I refuse such tactics completely. I expect from other people (as well as from myself) that they clearly say what they want and mean etc... just "alluding" something, maybe applying tears as a means for "convincing" someone ... it gets on my nerves. Yeah - I am allergic against anything "manipulative" and "emotionally (passive) aggressive", against any falsehood and pretence as well.

***edit: another idea: I see myself hurt when I am ... "ridiculed" .. when people laugh about me or don't take me for serious. I suffered from that very much, while I was a youngster! Worked on it quite hard - and worked on my outer shell, in order to always appear as a capable, mature person that provokes "respect" in other people. I don't feel "ridiculed" so easily these days anymore - but it was a great hurt, whenever I perceived it in my younger years. Maybe this is less a Moon-factor than rather the Scorpionic/Plutonian aspect of my personality, though... ***

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posted September 29, 2008 12:35 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sag moon here, 2nd house

From most hurtful to least (but still hurtful!):
-Being ignored
-Someone losing interest/attraction to me
-Rejection
-People not getting my sense of humor
-Remarks about my appearance
-Pointing out my insecurities

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Mercury:: Sagittarius
Venus::Scorpio
Mars::Pisces

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swirl-kitt
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posted September 29, 2008 01:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for swirl-kitt     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Btw, I'm an Aries moon and boredom hurts my feelings

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blue moon
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posted September 29, 2008 01:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for blue moon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
EDIT: WARNING ~ unpleasant story in this post animal lovers will find distressing ~

The bridge story, now that makes me annoyed. How can people be so irresponsible and hard-hearted?

Cruelty has the capacity to really upset me, so I am with you on that one. Animals as well as people. I read a story in the local paper that still churns my stomach ~ a dog whose paws got chopped off, then the people who did it watched laughing as they threw him in the river and watched him drown. I still feel upset about that, it must be about 30 years ago that happened.

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blue moon
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posted September 29, 2008 01:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for blue moon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ah, Aries Moon, I know it well. There's two of them in my family, and believe me, it takes a lot of Libran Moon patience to put up with their bleating about trivial things hurting their feelings. But that's just two people in one eccentric family. It doesn't make for a case study for one Moon sign. I'm stuck for an example. I'll put one up if I think of one. It will boredom look like a serious answer. One moved the other one's plants or something.

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Yin
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posted September 29, 2008 02:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Gee, blue moon, what a nice visual that gave me.

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posted September 29, 2008 02:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Unmoved     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm hurt by the same things that anger me. I find anger much easier to feel, that is, my place of anger is more accessible to me. But, If I feel anything that doesn't please me, it starts by hurting me and then it develops to anger, irritation or frustration. I hurt because I identify with a lot of things and because there's personally a thin line between being hurt and feeling pity, I usually don't dwell on hurting by trying to use that energy to do something about being hurt, to act upon it then to just feel it. With that said, it hurts me more to witness another's pain than mine. Rejection hurts I suppose but I'm too accustomed to it -or I have a bitter sweet relationship with it because rejection is such an important motivating element for me. Rejection has been a huge inspiration for me and its ability to hurt me is so brief that it's hard to notice. Therefore, how I experience pain is evidence of how deeply I feel it because it can cripple me if I give it a chance.

that all sounds like a contradiction but it isn't really.

my moon is in Cancer, conj Midheaven, square Merc, Saturn, Pluto. It's trine mars.

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posted September 29, 2008 03:10 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My moon is in Cancer. Trine Pluto.

I HATE having my moon in cancer, I get hurt VERY easily, because my cancer moon make me SENSATIVE.

Even when people make harmless jokes, for example if I do something dumb and if someone would say something like, "DON'T BE STUPID", i get hurt by it. But the thing is, I don't really show I'm bugged by it- MOST OF THE TIME.

Not only that but my moon trine pluto makes women jelous of me...so yeah, not the greatest.

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Lucia23
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posted September 29, 2008 04:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lucia23     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I hate having a Cancer Moon too, Marila.

(It's in the 7th house, conjunct Saturn, trine Jupiter, square Pluto and opposed to my ascendent.) I am soo oversensitive and feel hurt very deeply. With my Leo pride, a doubly whammy.

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My moon is in scorpio and I am very sensitive. I get my feelings hurt very easily. I also get insecure easily. I feel like I need reassurance a bit. I hate these things about me.

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posted September 29, 2008 06:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for 23     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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EDIT: WARNING ~ unpleasant story in this post animal lovers will find distressing ~

Ugh, wish I never read that

I think animal cruelty would upset any normal human being regardless of their sign. That was absolutely disguisting.

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posted September 29, 2008 06:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for kfn327     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Moon in Pisces. Everything.

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posted September 29, 2008 06:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for enchantress299     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Another Aries Moon... And as far as I know I don't get hurt by trivial things, but I do become irritated by them.

The biggest thing that hurts me is:
1) When someone close to me uses something secret or personal they know about me as a weapon, especially unprovoked (which has happened, usually out of jealousy or envy).

It's one thing when a complete stranger comes up to me and makes a crack at the way I look/personality/whatever. It's a completely different thing when someone I know well and respect does the same thing, because I'm a very loyal person and I would never intentionally try to knock a friend down, ESPECIALLY if things were going very well for them.

I've had this recently happen to me, and I'm debating on whether or not to keep this person as a friend, because it happened, not once but twice.

Then there's the usual laundry list of I get hurt when:

2) I feel overlooked or under appreciated (which unfortunately happens to this Virgo Sun a lot).
3) Being lied to or fooled (which, with my rather naive trusting Aries Moon happens more often than I'd like).
4) Rejection by those close to me.
5) And yes, I'd agree with whoever said boredom.

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posted September 29, 2008 07:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Deliverance     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Pisces Moon 3rd

People who are not my blood can not personally upset me - I do feel upset for people in the following situations.

- Being rejected doesn't upset me at all - I seldom open up enough to anyone for them to reject me anyway, I like my space too much. Seeing my loved ones rejected is another matter!

- It hurts me when someone I care about does something insensitive towards me.

- It upsets me when I see someone who has been hurt by another person (not for relationship issues)- its that look of pain in the eyes that gets me,

- Children & animals who have lost their spark & playfulness is a very painful thing to see.

- Unintentionally hurting another person is a hard one as I hate upsetting people.

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posted September 29, 2008 07:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lovegoblin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
moon in scorpio-
injustice hurts my feelings and that can encompass a great number of things, but the root of what bothers me is injustice.

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posted September 29, 2008 08:18 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Aquarius Moon here:
Being betrayed in any way hurts me deadly!
Lying to my face, same thing but that hurts me.

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posted September 29, 2008 09:39 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
my moon is in Gemini and it has Opposition to Sun, Saturn, and Uranus so i have no idea how to answer this question.

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