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posted October 02, 2008 11:52 AM         

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Excellent links, astroleolady - thank you :-)

So true about me and my life...

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posted October 02, 2008 11:53 AM         

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Have you try to look at it from the different perspective... may be the "old flame" appeared in your life to help you to liberate yourself from stale relationship. I have read that some people need security net in order to leave. It's just too scary and even impossible to imagine going off to nowhere with no one. But when you think of a new love, of support that you will receive from it - all of sudden it's not so bad. And really, nothing is wrong with that. You just have to figure out what is the main objective here.

When I was getting divorced I thought that I fell in love with someone. Nothing tangible came out of it but later on I realised that these dreams really pushed me to do something that I wanted very badly but was afraid of - leave my husband.

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posted October 02, 2008 11:09 PM         

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Maria,

I think that the advice you are seeking with regards to your situation is beyond what any of us could provide on a message board without getting into more details that are rather too intimate to be posting here. None of us (that I'm aware of) is an educated psychologist or psychiatrist who is trained in counselling. I would like to suggest that you seek one of these people out to obtain some advice and to dig deeper into your situation. It's very sad that you are feeling so trapped in your marriage, yet unable to attempt to change your situation or leave it. Maybe they could provide some assistance to you. All the best.

Lana,

You are very welcome for the links.

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posted October 03, 2008 03:56 AM         

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Yes, of course I wouldn't rely only on your advice to decide what to do in this situation.
It was more on "why is it happening", than "what I should do"

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Maria, here is a thread (not exactly the same situation as yours) that presents some food for thought that may be of help to you. http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum10/HTML/003207.html

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thank you, yes, I feel a lot like this lady...

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posted October 03, 2008 07:17 PM         

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maria, all i can say is what seems intolerable now, as well as what seems magnetic, is likely due to your uranus opposition. some people react to it by trashing their lives, and some restructure their lives to express themselves better within that. what you will do is your decision but i would NOT count on the permanence of any relationship that crops up right now! it COULD last, it COULD be the real thing, but while you're still in the middle of it you won't know.

and its just as true of women as men, the lover they leave their partner for becomes a new partner - and frequently resembles the old to an amazing degree. so whatever you do, you should probably be concentrating on where you want to go with YOUR life, and see who fits into that... good luck!

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