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posted December 16, 2008 02:56 PM         

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well the "big boy" comment probably didn't help cos you lowered yourself to his level and gave the power back to him lol

best to expect nothing from men and then they can't disappoint you

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posted December 16, 2008 02:59 PM         

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I never called him a big baby I said that to myself..But if I want to call him a big baby I will and I mean that..Most of these men need to grow the hell up in the first place..And I have no expectations on him, but I expect to be treated a certain way and if I am not going to be treated the way I deserve to be treated then yes he can bite the dust..

Also this is not about power for me I am not into all of that..We are 40 year old adults he and I lets talk about it and resolve it..Some ppl are caught up on power I guess..No one has any power over me and I don't care to have any power over anyone..

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posted December 16, 2008 03:01 PM         

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ok, sorry l misunderstood.

Well maybe you need to look at why you are attracting guys who disrespect you then? If it's a pattern that is

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posted December 16, 2008 03:05 PM         

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WHEN did I say he disrespected me..I never said that..He has never disrespected me..NO MAN disrespects me..I don't even give off the vibe that it can happen..This is being twisted into something that its not..I said he was acting like a spoiled brat and somehow disrespecting me came about..You won't here me on here talking about some man disrespected me..And if one should try you won't hear me talking about remaining friends with him thats for sure..

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posted December 16, 2008 03:10 PM         

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lara, she just don't put up with any crap, nor partake in game playing. Mama is a strong woman, not mean, strong. to find a one in a million man, you sometimes have to wade through frogs asshold deep.

people should not mistake kindness for weakness.

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posted December 16, 2008 03:12 PM         

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posted December 16, 2008 03:21 PM         

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I don't even think he is mistaken my kindness for a weakness here..This is more so about a man that is use to getting any woman he wants when he wants and how he wants and he has not been able to do that with me..Yes he is fine,charming and all that but so..He is gonna work to get me and I have done nothing but made that point to him..He's a dam Taurus and he is use to doing things a certain way fixed at doing things..And he has to step out of that comfort zone if he wants me..I like him and I can compromise, I won't be kissing his ass and all that..If he wants me he is going to do some of the leg work..And going in the corner and pouting like a 5 year old is not going to work..He's lucky I like him cause I would have been walked away..So we shall see..

Thanks for all the good stuff that was given I appreciate it and I now have a better understanding of perhaps a Taurus man's outlook..

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posted December 16, 2008 03:24 PM         

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he is either immature or he thinks you are playing games with him maybe?

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posted December 16, 2008 03:24 PM         

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well i'm a mighty strong woman too and i'm sure l read that Mama Mia wrote "but I expect to be treated a certain way and if I am not going to be treated the way I deserve to be treated" which kinda is disrespectful but i'll leave you to your hard-ass approach cos l can see it's getting you everywhere fast LOL

If you have to wade through frogs ******* deep then the problem lies with the princess not the frog! To find a one in a million man you have to be a one in a million woman at all times - so shoot me down.

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posted December 16, 2008 03:26 PM         

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I don't even think he is mistaken my kindness for a weakness here..This is more so about a man that is use to getting any woman he wants when he wants and how he wants and he has not been able to do that with me..Yes he is fine,charming and all that but so..He is gonna work to get me and I have done nothing but made that point to him..He's a dam Taurus and he is use to doing things a certain way fixed at doing things..And he has to step out of that comfort zone if he wants me..I like him and I can compromise, I won't be kissing his ass and all that..If he wants me he is going to do some of the leg work..And going in the corner and pouting like a 5 year old is not going to work..He's lucky I like him cause I would have been walked away..So we shall see..

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so ignore him and walk!
What EXACTLY is it you like about him and WHAT EXACTLY doe he do for you? BTW are you Leo, Scorpio or Aquarius yourself?

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posted December 16, 2008 03:27 PM         

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"l read that Mama Mia wrote "but I expect to be treated a certain way"

And how did that come out to me saying that he disrespects me..Perhaps that meant I expect to be number one in his life, treated like a queen blah,blah,,Does not say disrespect at all..

"so ignore him and walk!"

If and when I decide that, thats what I want to do I will do that, but until I SAY this is it here is where I will be..As far as he knows I have walked away..
And as far as me explaining what it is I like about him has nothing to do with my original question..No body is gonna like everything about a person..And further more if my thread bothers you and you have nothing more constructive to add to this then don't..Because obviously your not understanding me and seeing what you want to see..Thankyou..

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posted December 16, 2008 03:31 PM         

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well, i just know in my experience It took me a long time to meet the one for me. Many wanted to be with me, but I had an ideal in mind. so, I wouldn't really say I have a hard ass approach, I just know what I want. People don't come with signs that say, drinking problem, ex wife issues, kids are total brats, you find that out in time. anyway, I have my prince and my 2 carat diamond. waiting for the right one was the right thing for me to do. settling not an option, you only get one life, and I don't want to be tied to the wrong person ever again. don't be so hard on mamma mia or myself lara, you certainly have had your ups and downs too. we shouldn't judge.

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posted December 16, 2008 03:31 PM         

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ok forget it... i don't wanna become your latest victim lol

HE DIDN'T DISRESPECT you... ok? geez

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posted December 16, 2008 03:33 PM         

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mama got on me awhile back for issues I was facing myself about jealousy (strictly my issue) thats how I know she is not about games and really down toearth. anyway, sorry i stopped by.

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posted December 16, 2008 03:33 PM         

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lara, who are you talking to? me or mamma mia?

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posted December 16, 2008 03:36 PM         

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no offense Sunshine, i didn't mean you at all

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posted December 16, 2008 03:39 PM         

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I guess everyone has tough days. If he is worth it, they will get past it. time will tell. wish you all the luck mamma.

silent treatment is just a fighting style,everyone has thier ownstyle of dealing with issues, some head on, some not so much. my s.o. does the silent treatment thing, I wish he would just yell and be done, because it hurts not to be friends for even one night. it hurts my heart. rather fight it out. but everybody is different.

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posted December 16, 2008 03:40 PM         

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Sunshine, Don't worry about it..I am who I am..And yes I am a bad ass in more then one way..I know my worth and any man that wants me is gonna know it too..This was about the silent treatment nothing more..Somehow it got turned around into something that is so off base..I have not invested anything in this that I can't get back..So there for if and when the time comes for me to move way past this I can..

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posted December 16, 2008 03:43 PM         

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sorry you are having a bad day.

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posted December 16, 2008 03:45 PM         

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Im not having a bad day, trust me..When I have bad days, I don't even post on here..Im all good..

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posted December 16, 2008 03:57 PM         

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Older male Tauruses who aren't attached tend to be players, so it's easy to see where one might have a set pattern of moves he uses to get together with women. It sounds like Mama Mia sees that in him; that he expects his normal tactics to have a reliable outcome that he's gotten many times before. He knows his BS can be called out, and that could very well be what happened here.

Like a normal Taurus, though he won't burn any bridges, but he will withdraw. Could be permanent, or he could give it another go if something looks promising. He won't subject himself to undue amounts of humiliation, though, so this game won't likely last very long.

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posted December 16, 2008 04:05 PM         

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Thankyou AG, you put it out there..

"He won't subject himself to undue amounts of humiliation, though, so this game won't likely last very long."

Thats right..He is either going to **** or get off the pot..Men do what women allow them to do..And every once in awhile a woman comes along who does not fall for that crap and then he has no idea how to handle things from that point on..He has some time to figure it out..But it won't be a long time..

Love AG you know that right...Cappy men always brining the wisdom..:-)

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posted December 16, 2008 04:09 PM         

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we all know that to be fair, but there comes a time when we no longer attract that **** cos we diffuse the part of us that brings these types into firing line! lol

This is all l was trying to point out to you

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posted December 16, 2008 04:16 PM         

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Well we all come into each others life for a reason a season or a life time..And the way I see it the lesson is his..He is not teaching me anything..Trust me he's learning alot..AND we are capable of attracting all things its who we allow in our personal space that matters..He is not in my personal space as of yet..And if he gets a chance to get there then it means he has learned his lesson..And that is being pointed out to you...Does not matter what I attract I am no fool and I have plenty of knowledge..

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posted December 16, 2008 04:20 PM         

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well it helped me to make a list of everything I wanted in a a partner, every detail. If it is our best interest and our perfect timing, the universal law of attraction will manifest that list into reality. 100 percent of the time.

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