posted March 29, 2004 10:04 AM         

Artist: Pink
Album: Try This
Title: Last To Know

[Chorus]
Why was I the last to know
That you weren't coming to my show you coulda
Called me up to say "good luck"
You coulda called me back you stupid f***
Why was I the last to know?

[Verse 1]
First date, we ate sushi and
It went well, I was funny and
You said I was a cutie
That's the last thing I heard from you
I left the tickets at the door for you
I had to tell my mom that there was
No more room
You didn't show, that was so uncool
You coulda called me back

So i guess this means that we're
Not friends anymore, I heard
It's me you're asking for, I thought
I'd see you at the show
You said you'd go

[Chorus]

[Verse 2]
After the date, I wouldn't go
Home with you
I wouldn't put my heels in the
Air for you
You tried to get me to do things
I just won't do
Last I heard from you
Here is how I guess the story goes
You woulda came if I was a ho
F*** for parts that's just not how
I roll, move it on down the road

So I guess, we, shouldn't be
Friends anymore, sick of hearin'
That it's me you're askin' for
'Cause I thought I'd see you at the
Show, you said you'd go!

[Chorus]

You thought you know me
I guess you didn't
You thought you had me
I think you didn't
You thought you knew me
But you didn't

[Chorus (Out)]

posted March 29, 2004 11:05 PM         

You may be much wiser and much more mature than he is. Question is, do you want to wait?

Just get on with it. Just be sure the "friendship" part of that deal was not influenced by any other extraneous vibes.

I actually "won" a lot of self-respects by "losing" one of those friendships too. Except mine was 100% friendship, while he was a married punk trying to...

posted March 30, 2004 04:13 AM         

Hey I know exactly how you feel here. The Cappys that I know are all the same.
I have found that they will see you then find someone else and break up with you. Disappear suddenly and reappear into your life when that last relationship (where they said "this is the one" and dumped you) begins to fail.

A cappy woman I know said that she moved from male to male looking and searching for the right one until she found him at 51yo. She did this every three months.

However she never kept men hanging as the male cappys do to females. When I asked a male friend of mine about the reasons why he keeps his females hanging his response was because he could see a future with them but he was not ready to commit.

He also would go for all the tary women (easy targets) bed them a few times dump them and move on. If he found someone willing to make him wait he would hang onto them for 3 months or so.

Cappy men like feminine women, they dont like women working and are regarded as chauvenists.

I have also found out that Cappys like challenges ie "You could never get me back" are words that Cappy will go all out to make sure he gets you back just to prove you wrong. But they have to work for it and not have it too easy but not too hard either as they lack patience.

Failure and rejection are one thing that Cappy HATE!!! If you don't want to lose his friendship tell him he is a coward if you do tell him to F*** off. He will still react to that and try to convince you otherwise..... even if it is months later.

Oh and as for restraining orders....tried that one too (Didn't work in my case as Cappy is so law abiding he is sure to have a friend in the police force that will block it)

I know when they have had it they walk forever but I just cant give you answers to that other than lying, cheating on him etc. Oh and if you have money have something he Needs (ie: connections in the clothing business where he can get bargains) or a good job etc, you sure as hell wont lose him. He loves money and glamourous feminine women.

posted March 30, 2004 06:46 AM         

Just as opposites are also alike, Cappy & Cancer as opposites have a lot in common. Just like all the other's do. Virgo has a lot in common with Pisces. Aries & Libra, Taurus & Scorpio, Gemini & Sagitarrius, Leo & Aquarius.

Wanna snag an immature Cap or Cancer? BE his mom. Wanna feel the wrath? CHALLENGE his mother through your demeanor with him. He'll allow her to speak thru his demeanor BACK.

.gloria

posted March 30, 2004 07:11 AM         

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Just get on with it. Just be sure the "friendship" part of that deal was not influenced by any other extraneous vibes.

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posted March 30, 2004 11:43 AM         

I am always glad to see the way the next generation improves on the last.

Keep it up!

I heard a great country song-

"Don't rob a blind man
and don't hustle people you don't know..
...and don't mess around with me..
It may sound funny, honey
but I want what you took from me,
I may not get it but I will tell it like it is...
Don't hustle people you don't know..
...and don't mess around with me...

posted March 30, 2004 10:30 PM         

I have A cappy ex too. Yikes it's freaky the similarites.

He's the same way, he can see a future, "he wants a future" but he's just not ready to commit. Ahem, I'm a Gemini with a Sag Rising so I'm not exactly the type of girl to wait around for him to make up his mind.
Ya think that would discorage him. NO. We've been on and off over the past 4 years. He spent a year and a half begging me to take him back before we dated the 2nd time. Haha it took 3 years before i'd sleep with him. There's that love of a challenge thing I guess.

Ya know what? We're off again, But he still checks in once in awhile just to grovel for forgiveness. Not that he wants to get back together or if he does he's just not telling me that part. Arg...drives me crazy.

And the mother issuse...You bet he's got one of those. The only difference is that he really loves his mom. Umm "mama's boy" is the correct term. The guy is 6 foot 4, 220 pounds, tattooed, in the military, but man does he love his mom. Her word is the word of God. And he picked her over me just a few too many times for it to be "normal."

posted March 30, 2004 11:55 PM         

Then there's the youthfulness of him. It's hard for alot of men to feel secure enough to put themselves in such a vulnerable position of asking out an intelligent, beautiful, strong woman before they are atleast 25. ...Golly, I'll feel silly if he's older than that, I don't recall you ever mentioning his age now that I think about it but I get a younger impression of him from your descriptions of him. And if he is older than that then he's acting rather immature, IMO.

Anyways, I'm imagining that he was waiting for you to give him more of a "I-want-to-jump-your-bones" vibe than you likely ever did before he took the emotional risk of asking you out.

And since he didn't get that vibe off you then he is probably coming to the same conclusion that so many many other men come to- "If she doesn't want me, well then.. I have enough friends..."

posted March 31, 2004 08:46 AM         

And in regard to your querries, Harpyr, yes, he just turned 20 on New Year's Day, but he's way, way more immature than I am at 18 right now. He's even more immature than my "special Gemini guy" is at 16.5 years old.

I'd like to think of myself as a very strong and secure woman, as I've gotten alot more spine in the last year or so. Not that I wasn't self-sufficient before, but my recent experiences have pushed me even more towards growing up, in a good but occasionally jerking abrupt, and straining way.
And, ya know, I never give off that potent of a sexual overtone to someone I barely know, and who barely knows me. On the other hand, his manners and overall level of sophistication would never lend itself to an attraction, as I like my guys to be more gentlemen in their ways and language. He's quite coarse (not to be snobbish of me), and weak in ways that could never handle my rarely, but from time to time, volitile feelings of ups and downs. He's not considerate or senitmental, or even mildly predictable, and that also irks the heck out of me. I did decide that if he wasn't man enough to make an even slight follow through on something as simple as a phone number, which I gave him (and I don't ever give that out), he's never have neough initiative to keep my interest. So yes, after I heard he was single after the first and second girlfriends, and still didn't ask me out, I was disgusted, and decided I didn't want to ever give him the time of day in that way.
Thanks for your astute observations. It really made me think harder.

posted March 31, 2004 06:56 PM         

It's a major aggravation for me, not even an ego boost.

There's an Aquarius, Taurus Moon, Venus in Pisces 100% friend who keeps calling. Keeps leaving messages, last one today, "I'm not above begging. You're my friend and I want to see what you're up to." And he keeps giving me a vibe like he thinks I have a crush on him. A little too delicate.

And then an old Sag 100% friend, he cannot even wipe his own azz.

And soon to be, old Taurus, Aquarius Moon again, since I just found out he's not dead. Not only that, I haven't seen him since July 4th. OK? (haven't talked to him since around Aug 3rd).

Remember I've been celibate until just 2 weeks ago. One week after I'm finally ready to move on, old Taurus comes back from the dead, ONE WEEK AFTER I LOST MY VIRGINITY again. OK - if that's not enough to weird someone out.

posted November 04, 2005 06:46 PM         

We're currently not talking to each other (again). Who in the hell do these guys end up marrying? And do they more likely than most marry late in life?

posted November 05, 2005 08:49 AM         

The one time I dated a Capricorn seriously, he ran my life and not in a good way. When he I wasn't as touchy as he would like he found someone else-in church, setup by his Mom. So maybe that's an ideal. Under the guise of friendship he still tried to run my life, I felt a lot of repressed hostility there.

And yes feminine, submissive, liked by Mom, those are what he wanted.

Mom always wants feminine, pretty, loved by Dad and Mom, lots of money, so nice clothes, steady, reliable income and hobbies. Nothing that could compete with her but a driving need to be a partner with someone-you should say over and over again-I hate to be alone.

Sag/1st house here can't come off as that steady or feminine-

Another condition I have found with Caps especially with Venus and mercury in Cap is the strong and curious desire to be with someone who is attached-probably because it seems like more approval from a mom or dad figure-and more stability.

I used to be like this, very into men who were about to detach from a woman, because the seemed more stable-but I figured out they were even more dependent.

As for earth signs-they seem to always marry later or find themselves when they are older.

posted November 06, 2005 04:31 AM         

What if the cap male has placements like moon in libra and cancer rising ? ( Have you met anyone like this ? ) Would it be the same ? What would his ideal type of girl be ?

posted November 06, 2005 12:44 PM         

Capricorns do like to be helped in career and work functions, but again there are no assumptions.

posted November 07, 2005 11:01 AM         

Yes, be the lovely YOU, goddess

and when I said they'd be late for their
own funeral, well it's true, becuase
they'll be immortal
hehe

posted November 08, 2005 12:50 PM         

The tough part for me is getting caught up in the flattery of receiving attention. The attention feels great, and so I go for that person, but then if I realize it likely won't work for some reason then I try to end it as soon as possible so I don't extend things and magnify the hurt I might cause.

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posted November 08, 2005 01:29 PM         

My thing though.. the Cap I know has a cancer moon and I think I've shattered his ego to bits when it comes to dealing with me. And now he's just extremely defensive.. I swear I didnt do any of it on purpose, I just didnt know he was so d*amn sensitive!

I kind of want to fix it but I dont know though.. is there a way to tell if a Cap is just being polite but disinterested vs. warming back up to you? Haha probably not, but any insight would help