posted June 15, 2005 03:47 AM         

I'm supposed to meet her this weekend, and I've been looking forward to it. She, however, has been getting a little distant. I asked her about it tonight, and she's nervous that I won't be attracted to her, and that it will wreck what we have.

I've seen some pictures, but they're not totally recent, and it's difficult to guage what I'll think. I mean I feel like all I need is a good face, and a body that's not obese (overweight is fine, just not huge). She looks like she's overweight, but it's hard to tell how much.

I really feel like I just want to force myself to be attracted to her, because she's so cool. I can't help wonder about whether I will be, though, because she seems like she may not be confident now.

posted June 15, 2005 04:40 AM         

One funny thing though. I only recently found out my bf's mum, Gemini is dating a guy born in late december lol (I'm guessing he's Capricorn..small chance he's sag but I doubt it) AND funny thing is he was also in the navy.. Isn't that weird? lol

posted June 15, 2005 06:42 AM         

I kinda feel like Geminis are a HUGE discovery in my life right now. Such an interesting, and seemingly underestimated group. Their wit and diversity of knowledge is awesome.

Personally, I think that with three air signs (four including my ascendant) and three fire signs in my chart, this might be a good move, but then I could just be rationalizing.

posted June 15, 2005 09:43 AM         

I would suggest meeting in a place where both of you are comfortable and can be relaxed and casual. And for you, I would suggest going in looking for some face to face interaction and not instant chemistry ... trust me, sometimes the most lasting and important relationships are found out of gradually blooming friendship.

She might not look like a covergirl, but she is the same person you have had a lot of fun times with and before you form any opinions, give her a chance to really open up.

Above all, take it slow and try to live in the moment rather than trying to live up to a romantic idyll you had in mind.

posted June 15, 2005 04:26 PM         

And good luck!

posted June 15, 2005 07:55 PM         

I was also worried about how I would respond to him in person. Our conversations were wonderful and lasted for hours. I wondered if we met in person if we would be able to pick up on that energy.

posted June 16, 2005 12:06 AM         

I am a gem with a cancer rising also...If you can remember.

Nothing you say will make her feel better. She has to meet you first. Then the nervous feelings should fade. I know your gemini rising will help alot. Maybe you both can talk eachother to death a bit.

That always makes me feel better.

posted June 16, 2005 12:45 AM         

Spent quite a bit of time in Pleasanton the past few summers with kids running & soccer tournies.

Anyways, I say...you've made a connection, remember looks are only skin deep....look her in the eyes to sooth her nervousness...and remember looks can change.
Noreen

posted June 16, 2005 01:31 AM         

I'm only one ocean and a few pieces of land away lol

When I'm nervous and I'm with someone who's very calm, it makes me a lot calmer (I'm not a gemini though) But I think if you keep calm and relaxed it'll make her feel a lot more relaxed as well.

The paper bag joke sounds like the sag in you talking lol..I think it might be a bit blunt for her.

I'm sure it'll go fine..only a few more days to go lol are you excited?

Good Luck

posted June 16, 2005 04:28 AM         

Yeah, I think it'll be ok. Part of the problem for me is that I'm not able to plan too well, as she's in a rural area, and there doesn't seem to be a whole lot to do there. We'll probably eat and see a movie. I kinda wish we were going to be closer to my place, because there are more options here and I'm familiar with the terrain.

I think my Capricornian calm will be there as usual even though I'll be excited. I do always have a bit of nervous energy as well, but hopefully that won't come out in any weird way. (It normally comes out as me playing imaginary instruments. My french teacher used to call the, "The Tapper.")

Yeah, I'll probably leave the paper bag gag out, or if I do use it I'll totally tone it down. Like if I go to get my guitar out of the trunk (at the end of the date) maybe pull out the paper bag and say, "I guess I won't need this," and see if she catches it.

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TP,

That would be awesome if we talked each other to death. If a person gets me really talking then there's something pretty special there generally. When we first met we'd talk for hours effortlessly.

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posted June 16, 2005 02:31 PM         

written transiting / aspect / natal

short term ...

sun square moon
mars square sun

longer term

Lillith trine Neptune
JUPITER sextile VENUS
Saturn trine Mars
Uranus square Venus
Neptune sextile Mercury
Pluto sextile Uranus (generational)

if y'feel slightly edgy about yer date .. don't worry about it
just a short mars transit .. methinks the Jup/Venus transit
will smooth everything out .. just have a good time .. i think you will

posted June 17, 2005 06:21 AM         

She said a lot of interesting things tonight. Very sensible things. Mostly about going into it with the right mindset. Not expecting the world, but rather just approaching it as friends to start, because any other thought will lead to bad things if the outcome is disappointing at all. She emphasized her focus on needing at least the friendship to remain in tact, which made me think about all those 11th house placements.

posted June 17, 2005 06:33 PM         

You sound like a lovely guy, your friend is lucky to have you in her life.

posted June 17, 2005 06:49 PM         

I wish you good luck! Even if you don't find her attractive, still try to have an awesome time out of it . I'm sure your earthy sun will make her feel comfortable especially if she's nervous (and you too!). The way you revised the bag joke might help diffuse the nervous tension.