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MAGUS of MUSIC
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posted December 07, 2005 09:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MAGUS of MUSIC     Edit/Delete Message
-first things first,, lets try and keep this from becoming a big debate please-

I used to only value and treasure the notion of a relationship with total honesty and monogamy....

In recent years,, I cant help but see its standard and expectation in our society as a gift too only a few,, and a curse to so many others.

Astrology has been able to explain how and why many have a harder time with only one lover or "play freind" then others... [Scorpio Venus's, and Aqua Mars's for only one example]

Was astrology even necesary too explain htis ?

Is it not natural and simple truth that just cause oyu meet one person who can make you happy,, that there are going to be plenty more that oyu come acrost in life that will do the same,, just with a different chemistry..?

Why still come acrost other severe and potent soul connections when we promiss our selves to one other,, if we arent ment to share love, and lusty passions with them as well ?

When this happens,, most of us begin question if we are with "the rite one" , and start considering wehter or not too leave this love all together..

Why does it have to be that black or white Im asking my self and the unverse lately. ? What if its only our societls standards and religous rules forcing one decision or the other- therefor geting in the way of our next adventure and lesson of love ?

was mankind realy intentended for everyone too keep only one in their heart, and passions ?

I cant for the life of me,,see it like that anymore...

Even when Ive tried too..

Seems to me now- that expectation of TOTAL MONOGAMY is only ruining our already existing relationships, and seting up the fall of our next at the same time.

In the least,, relationships without such rules,, sound alot more honest and truthfull too me now adays.. No more me or her hideing half our thoughts, feeling so compelled to keep secrets, and deal with the guilt and potential for self loath.

Have I gone mad, or are some of us naturaly ment to have more then one lover and pleasurer at a time,,for everyone involvds benefit ?..

Sure even for me , feelings of jelousy would come into play at times,,, but is this not one of my mortal vices Im ment to face head on, and just deal with , instead of deny, and run away from ? A few moments of feeling jelous rage, and inspiring it in my lover- certainly seems better then trying to hold another back in her lifes lessons of progresion, only to have it all fall to the ground in pieces eventualy anyway .

Your thoughts, and most sincere feelings on this will be apreciated either way.

From the bottom of my sometimes troubled heart,

Magus

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Isolaede
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posted December 07, 2005 09:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Isolaede     Edit/Delete Message
Magus:

I’ve had my share of friends that tried “open relationships.” The rules of this set up work like this: You and your partner are free to sleep with others, you just have to TALK to your significant other first. You have to have their approval before going ahead and making a move on the object of your desire. Additionally, if at any point your partner becomes uncomfortable with your relations with some other person they have the right to tell you to call it off.

These rules when followed allow couples to survive an “open relationship” with some success, but I have to warn you I’ve witnessed some pretty disastrous endings for most of these kinds of relationships. In almost every case one partner was all gung ho about the idea of having an open relationship and the other partner was trying but was somewhat on the fence. In almost every case the partner that wasn’t as drawn to it (generally the woman) ended up taking a lover that filled her need for commitment and the original marriage relationship fell apart. I think there’s only so much stress a relationship can take before one or both partners grow tired of it. The highs and lows and ups and downs of jealousy wear away at the very foundation of a relationship until neither parties have any real ground to stand on.

Truthfully, I’m not sure if everyone is wired for monogamy. It certainly doesn’t seem that way, yet the idealistic part of me would like to think that somewhere deep inside most people yearn for stability. We want someone around we can trust for the long haul – whether that be a friend or a lover. I think most people yearn for someone to share life with. I’m DEFFINITELY a one man woman. But it has to be the right man. I tend to think if my eye is inclined to wander then I must not be with the right guy.

If you are unhappy, and your partner is open to the idea, you might consider trying an open relationship, but do so cautiously and with full knowledge that in a year or five your relationship choices might tear you apart as it’s done to others in the past.

Good luck!

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MAGUS of MUSIC
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posted December 07, 2005 10:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MAGUS of MUSIC     Edit/Delete Message
Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts Isolaede..

In all honesty,, its not even my heart that fuly desires a relationship like this..

Its more my observations of my past loves, and the relationships of others Ive been watching around me...


I have the dillema,, of never, and I do meen NEVER,, being able to relate too, or have love with depth for "the good girl" or the more monogamosly prone kinda Woman...[even more the one more discilplined and ALWAYS loyal woman I loved,, had a potnetial for "cheeting on me " she her self wasnt yet aware of in her more virgin phase of life] And I dont meen the dishonest lieing usual sortaSluts that just dont care aobut anyone but them selves...

I always fall , or am compelled towards the sort that just naturaly find it very hard to always be satisfied by only one man. Anbd yet genuinly, sincerly, and more pationatly then the Betty Crocker sorta Lady - love me, too their hearts and souls depths.

I duno for sure..

Monogamy isnt working for me and many others,, and you are dead rite about the problems that have occured for most who have tried something differnet with thier significant others.

Maybe Im just trying to hard to find a way to keep from geting hurt in the futer, and from me hurting the one I care about most ??...

or

Could I still be onto something real and worth delving into ??

Anyone else have a clue or experience to share out there ?

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posted December 07, 2005 11:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Planet_Soul     Edit/Delete Message
There was a period in my life when I couldn't imagine sleeping w someone, unless I loved him with all my heart and soul. Then, I decided to experiment a little and was juggling two lovers at once off and on for a few months. One an Aquarius, I really loved in the soul connection way but we just didn't click that way. The other was a Capricorn I had a relationship with that didn't work out, but that part of it was super. The best of both worlds, I thought at first. I learned a harsh lesson, sex even good sex isn't everything. I couldn't take the situation anymore, and told the Aqua what was going on. I badly wounded the one I really loved, and to this day I have some guilt over it. Maybe if you are completly honest about it then it might be ok for some people. As for me, despite my passionate drive I am too sensitive to ever go there again. It was too emotionally draining and the consequences were not worth it for me.

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posted December 08, 2005 01:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message
My chart tends to indicate multiple loves. I'm not certain I'm fully comfortable with that, though (maybe because of my Capricorn Sun). An interesting interpretation of my Gemini Rising says that my love will try to mold me (and my basically scattered interests and passions) into a cohesive ("marketable" comes to mind) whole. My resisting that is what may cause me to have a rather extensive period of figuring out my own love life, which is a little sad considering the three planets I have in the 7th.

Here again is a contradiction. The 7th dealing with relationships, and the sign I have in the 7th being Sagittarius. It's not that Sag doesn't work in relationships, but that it wants freedom in relationships.

I think that ultimately I'll eventually find some stability in my relationships. I'm too jealous to truly do an open relationship, plus I like the closeness of being with one person.

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pixelpixie
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posted December 08, 2005 02:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pixelpixie     Edit/Delete Message
I generally sabotage closeness before the hate starts.
I have very erratic planets in my fourth.(Sun/Mars/Uranus) + North node for the lesson learning.. all in Scorpio.
I have a conjunction between the planets of love and illusion. Venus and Neptune.. OH! And it's in my fifth, in Sag.

In general.. I am a friggin' love junkie. It might be true, but it will end. Maybe one day it won't.. or I wont make it end when it gets too comfortable.
I do mean well....

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posted December 08, 2005 05:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Cardinalgal     Edit/Delete Message
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I'm too jealous to truly do an open relationship, plus I like the closeness of being with one person.

Exactly what I feel like too AG. And I have a Scorpio Venus which would seem to indicate the opposite, but I suppose my Libra Sun and Cappy Moon are to answer for the romantic stability I crave.

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posted December 08, 2005 10:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lialei     Edit/Delete Message
struggling with it.
Can't deny it must be one of my life's greatest lessons.

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miss_muffet
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posted December 08, 2005 12:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for miss_muffet     Edit/Delete Message
This could just be my Scorpio Asc talking, but here it goes...

Monogamy comes naturally and easily when you are truly, deeply, and madly in love with the other person (sorry for sounding like a song).

It just simply is because you want to spend all your waking moment with the one person that others seem to be so pale in comparisson. You find yourself always thinking about the one person no matter what you do and noone other than that person can satisfy your needs and desire.

When you are only partially in love, your heart yearns to satisfy a part of it that is incomplete.

A person turning outside of a relationship for sexual/emotional satisfaction is a very strong indication (at least to me) that there is something is wrong in the current relationship... and it is time to move on.

Miss Muffet

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Lialei
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posted December 08, 2005 12:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lialei     Edit/Delete Message
ok...going to try to be brave and open with this here...


I’ve been on both sides of this as it was happening simultaneously,
My husband , after discovering a relationship with another man, went on a blind, stubborn fury. If I drove anywhere, he checked the car’s odometer. He screened my phone calls. He made furious scenes just if I wanted to hang out with my girlfriends. He took the computer cables from me. He tried to prevent me from even going to visit with my own Mother, because he was so paranoid she would turn me against him. He even stalked me occasionally at work…watching me from afar to see if I would talk to other men.
And this was all from an emotional affair! I was never even physically unfaithful.

Just…this other man I connected with so deeply on so many levels. Creatively, spiritually, intellectually, philosophically…all the ways I felt so empty of in my marriage.
And yet…while all of this turmoil was happening, and during my ‘affair’, I felt overwhelmed with jealousy and possiveness for this other man. So much so, so many times I almost drove him away time and again…yet he always returned, so understanding it broke my heart and made me Love him all the more I could understand all of his needs for Freedom, for I desired the same things for myself in my marriage. And was enduring all of the blasts of jealousy from my husband at the same time. I struggled so hard to suppress my feelings, so not to lose him….but time and again, I would eventually explode, for suppressing so long.

So, I could understand my husband’s feelings. I felt huge empathy for what he was feeling and going through. Words he had said years before echoed in my mind….”you’re going to leave me someday for a Poet”. I knew he was no poet nor mystic when I married him….I knew it was unjust and unfair of me to turn around and expect him to be more than what he was. So, I stayed for a long time, enduring the punishment. Hoping in my Heart truly that he would in time forgive me, for I did Love him. L

But, things kept getting worse in time. I felt like I was living a Dead existence. I felt like a prisoner and his anger only grew worse in time, no matter how I tried to heal with patience and understanding.

He verbally abused me often, calling me the most awful names that crushed me Heart. I couldn’t understand how after being together for so long, he could think such awful things about me for just one human misgiving. I empathized with him, but I wouldn‘t give in to his urgings to kneel before him, begging for forgiveness. So, this caused more resentment from him. He began saying completely inappropriate things in front of our children…about how Mommy was going to go see her boyfriend, every time I would go to leave the house for the most innocent reasons. I just couldn’t take it anymore. I knew if I stayed, that he would never ever forgive me and would only punish me forever and the kids were seeing too much and this wasn‘t a healthy environment for them to have to be in. I had no hope of ever being Free to be myself or follow my own Truth or Heart. To stay would be giving up my entire SELF because of his fears.

So, I did leave. And now, I’m questioning all the fallacies and hypocrisies and expectations of relationships. I’m wondering if it is even ever possible or desireable for a man and woman to be tied to the conventions of monogamy. And yet….the Neptunian dream of the Fair Knight I can’t overcome. The One who only treats his Lady with dignity and honor and chivalry. “Nice men” who ask me out terrify me, because I fear they’ll expect too much from me and never understand me. The other men whom I’m attracted to who I know wouldn’t be faithful scare me too, because I fear I couldn’t endure the torture of knowing they must be with other women as well as me. It’s too much for me to have to deal with those intense and destructive emotions so soon. ( and yet, I can’t deny they are coming into my life so soon to make me have to face this lesson). The wounds are still so fresh and I haven’t yet healed.
So, my first instinct in either case is to RUN< RUN< RUN…right away.

I’m thinking I’m most likely destined to live a life alone and never know the Love and Intimacy my Heart so yearns for.

I feel like I’m stuck in the middle, not able to cross over either way.

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posted December 08, 2005 12:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Isolaede     Edit/Delete Message
Magus:

I'm so sorry you've had so much pain in love. I can't even IMAGINE how you could endure a relationship with women cheating on you. To me, their actions seem to indicate that they did NOT love truly love you. They gave you their commitment, then they betrayed your trust. Their actions seem selfish to me, and it's hard to truly love someone when you are so completely focused on yourself, you know? I imagine there is something profoundly hurt somewhere inside of you, something that has a hard time trusting that any person could love you and be loyal to you forever. In light of that I understand why you’d want to try a more relaxed relationship – it might protect you from hurt. I certainly see nothing wrong with your experimenting with an open relationship. If you can find a girl willing to try, you could see if it works for you. Try it out – see if you like it. You’ll have a lot of fun I’m sure, but I don’t think in the end it will save you from hurt. I wonder if you might be more successful taking some time to reassess what you want from the women you date? Really take a look at your past patterns and the kind of women you were attracted to, and analyze what went wrong. Then change things accordingly. Break the pattern! There are exciting, fun truly dynamic women out there that are also incredibly loyal. You just have to look for them.

*big hugs* Hang in there, Magus. Remember that you are young (no matter how old you are) with years left in life. You have plenty of time to try things, experiment, and figure out what makes you happy.

- Isolaede

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posted December 08, 2005 01:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stargazer     Edit/Delete Message
Isolaede.... your words are so eloquent....

Lialei... Tears came to my eyes.... as i am in the same situation... i am where you were at the end of paragraph 5.

I have never felt so stuck in all my life.... i feel completely rutted in...i find it extremely hard to sort out... as all my emotions are bottled up inside...
This has been going on for almost 2 years and i am drained from it...frozen and my Neptune placements have me feeling all the lower vibrations of its most difficult yet most powerful spot in my chart
I fear a breakdown is on the horizion.

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pixelpixie
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posted December 08, 2005 01:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pixelpixie     Edit/Delete Message
Lialei, another indication that I deeply and truly understand.
Thank you for sharing.
You can't hide that light.... I have no worries for your future, anyone as in touch with themselves as well as the motivations of others is not destined to live with a hopeless heart.. I know yours is full of hope, and that this is one more road toward healing.
I'm healing with you, believe me.

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posted December 08, 2005 02:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Azalaksh     Edit/Delete Message
Magus ~

I agree with Isolaede that monogamy doesn’t work for everyone, and although I also have a yearning for stability with someone who will be there tomorrow and the tomorrow after that, I still don’t yet know if it would suit me if I found it (Aqua on my Descendent). That yearning seems to come from an unconscious source, perhaps it’s the societal programming surfacing.

I’ve had short-term partnerships (5 or less years) all my adult life, and thus I’ve practiced serial monogamy. From my perspective, I think that it would take two very special and advanced/mature individuals to survive an open relationship. We’re still a long way from a “Water Brothers” scenario. And with the new type of Puritanism that seems to be sweeping this country, I don’t think many people are going to be open to an open relationship, but that’s my two-cents worth, and perhaps I don’t give people enough credit…..

Lialei & Stargazer ~

My heart hurts for the struggles you went thru/are going thru. I believe the lessons we are presented with here on Schoolroom Earth are meant to sculpt our deepest core, and as such cause the deepest pain.....

‘Zala

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MAGUS of MUSIC
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posted December 08, 2005 10:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MAGUS of MUSIC     Edit/Delete Message
WOW,,,

so much said,,and felt here...

What comes next I ponder...

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MAGUS of MUSIC
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posted December 08, 2005 10:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MAGUS of MUSIC     Edit/Delete Message
lets start with,,,,

We will go backwards, and start with a response for Azalaksh-

Serial monogamy,,, a greeat way too put it, what so many are doing these days..

For me,, that cant work either unfortinatly,, when I am actualy touched deeply enough,, the spot in my heart for my older loves doesnt go away. And I more often then not run back into htem,, if not just to remind each other of what we loved and hated about one another- in all the verbal, and physical ways... So for me,, the ones in my heart, have my love all at once in many ways, and Im growing tired of what seems like insincerity too have them consecutivly, instead of all at the same time.

you are very dead on about a new puritism that seems to be plaguing this nation.. And that alot of Woman arent caring for my most honest of proposals [one almost spit on me when I sigested this, had to get outa the way quik- Suppose she wanted me to just lie to her as the other guys ? Seems many find lies to be real romance now a days].

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MAGUS of MUSIC
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posted December 08, 2005 10:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MAGUS of MUSIC     Edit/Delete Message
Stargazer-

The rock and a hard place you seeem to be stuck in now,,, a situation I have vowed to never lock another Woman I care about into ever again, not even for a day an a half.

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MAGUS of MUSIC
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posted December 08, 2005 10:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MAGUS of MUSIC     Edit/Delete Message
Isolaede,,,

Certainly not your fault,, but thank you very much for your sympathys my freind.

YES,, that is much of how I have felt,,and what I keep hidden in my heart, and the farthest corners of my mind.

At one point,, regarding one particular fiance former,, I did feel and think for sure that it was as simple as she did not truly love me one bit...

So I went into the only plain of existnece to talk with her where we would be able to see our true intents, without wanting to stab or hurt oneanother- dreamworld.. Much was acomplished there for sure.

So when my mind doubted our dreamland conversatins validity,, I went to try and atleast reestablish atleast a freindhsip with her at an oportune moment [the slime she left me for was a little indisposed for a few months],,,,

The result of that,, was not only me knowing my own body would betray my heart and minds intents if given half a chance,,,

but also that never in this life time will she even begin to concieve half of what there realy is too me, and that indeed- she did, and still has much love for me,,,, even if she isnt able to stay in a state of "in love with me"..

She may have been guilty of trying to change the subject alot, and trying to hide the truth, but atleast as far as she knew at the times- she was sincere, and did not lie to me when expresing her love for me.. She was only guilty of being clueless.

thank you again for your honesty and time Isolaede. It is very apreciated.

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MAGUS of MUSIC
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posted December 08, 2005 10:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MAGUS of MUSIC     Edit/Delete Message
My amasing and beautifull Lialei-

I see you understand imensly where I am at now.,,

Would you try looking this new stlye of a relationship head on , without running your self after a few years of not continualy wondering what to try next ?

For me,, its time for me to get outa the middle, and I almost dont care wich way I cross over, as long as Im not standing still anymore.

You also brought up a good point I thiink I overlooked when I mad ehtis thread last night-

ones children... Is monogomy only hurting them, and holding them back as well when things have runaground in their parrents relationship, and one or both arent willing to cooperate, and try something new ?

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posted December 08, 2005 10:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MAGUS of MUSIC     Edit/Delete Message
miss muffet-

As I read this,, your point came acrost to me very clearly,,

and rite as I was thinking shes rite,,,

I remembered that so many relationships start off with both involved not being able to get enough of one another, and always wanting to spend every waking- and sleeping moment with oneanother...

Then either one or both have these biding passions and feelings fade away in time.. For some it may take only a month for the disillusionment to set in,, others a year or two,, and a very few it may even last as long as a decade or more...

In the end,, we know what happens . Wether we where originaly partialy, or wholey in love at the start of the devine dance.

And as Lia brought up- I dont see thats its always the sex part that they are turning outside of the relationship to find.

Either way,,, your time and sharing is most helpfull, and apreicated as well.

thank you

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posted December 08, 2005 10:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MAGUS of MUSIC     Edit/Delete Message
Preety Pixel Pixie-

Not sure if it meens much from me to you,,

but I can beleive you have always been a well meaning and sincere Woman to the ones you care about in your life...

Even if your heart hasnt let you keep things as simple and stable as you would have idealy liked them to be.

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posted December 08, 2005 10:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MAGUS of MUSIC     Edit/Delete Message
and too you PLanet Soul,,

The way Im considering the terms I will setle for in my next relationship,,,,

Isnt necesarily the "one for the emotional fullfillment, and the other for my bodys cravings" scenaro..

Sure,, I will taste , and indulge in the meat placed before me- especialy if shes literaly asking for me to "violate" her body and soul in any way I can fathom.. but thats not exactly fullfilling for my lust, or my love.

Ive been thinking more along the lines,, that I tend to not meet one "soul connection" at a time- but many I know to be my familiars all at once.. May go as much as 2 years without meeting anyone new of signiifcance,, then - BAM 10 or more new "old freinds" in my life all the sudden,, and sometimes almost all of these new signiificant aquantences can be of a good chemisty for sexc, love, or both..

Im tired of being expected to pick only one. Especialy when there has to be a reason for them all here at once... And I dont like my jelousys trying to hold any of them back from geitng to learn lessons from their "soul loves" either,, just becase I dont like the idea of not having all their atentions, all the time.

I can have both sexual fireworks, and emotional love for the same woman, and another one or two [maybe 3?] all at the same time.

AndI know Im not the only person like this.

For those who can be completly content with only one lover,,, especialy for ever, or atleast most of their lifespan.. that is beautifull, and what part of me still wants.. I respect, and wish I was the same kinda chap... but to deciave myself that I can have my love this way any longer,, would be lieing and decieving my self for sure.

again ,,thank you.

all of you thank you

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posted December 08, 2005 11:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MAGUS of MUSIC     Edit/Delete Message
also Isolaede,,

another thing is,, about this -

"" I wonder if you might be more successful taking some time to reassess what you want from the women you date? Really take a look at your past patterns and the kind of women you were attracted to, and analyze what went wrong. Then change things accordingly. Break the pattern! There are exciting, fun truly dynamic women out there that are also incredibly loyal. You just have to look for them. ""

almost as if my heart and nature want to make it all the more difficult for my self,,

Yes there are some woman like htis out there,,, and especialy the loyal and fun parts of them I love,,,

but beyond freindship... hahhaha[this is realy crazy now !]- Im now sure of this in my self after over 3 years of looking at my past, and inside me self-

that if I dont see atleast a little bit of a selfish and demanding side in a Woman,,, its almost like I become half disenchanted rite there... I hate selfishness of all of humanitys vices.. Realy realy hate it...Yet,, if I cant see a certain proness in a Woman for geting a little too demanding and greedy sometimes,,, its as if I start to have contempt for her after a while.. Even disgusted if I see all angel, even in a Lady who is worlds of fun and adventure for me... I even start to resent her after a while for not atleast partialy demanding more then she deserves !

I know there is much for me to learn about my self in being aware of this.. Beyond that purpose,,, Im realy not sure if Im that off my head for this,,, or just something I need too keep better in mind about my self in the futer...

Ficken ohne ende...

What say you now my freinds ??

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posted December 09, 2005 05:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for nannyfish     Edit/Delete Message
Maybe the lack of monogamous feelings comes ultimately from a lack of true self-understanding and love? How is it possible to just love one person when the one person who matters the most OURSELF one cannot truly love?

Monogamy is all about forgiveness and empathy and compromise. If we cannot give these things to ourselves, how can we truly give them to others?

[/soapbox] In this age of perfection have we forgotten that none of us is perfect? We are all just trying to make our way through this life and, frankly, it is bloody hard to do sometimes. It's really hard to imagine that there is one soul who completes us...when all we might really need is to feel complete within ourselves--warts and all. [/end rant]

I wouldn't want to join a club that would have me as a member ~ Woody Allen

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Wow, Lialei that sounds so much like my life five years ago..... I got emotionally involved with the Aqua while still technically married. You know what though? Regret nothing. It will get much, much better than you can ever imagine. Even if I didn't end up staying w the Aqua 9since I sabotaged it) I am very, very glad it happened. It was the shock of icy water I craved to wake up from a hypnotic nightmare. It urged me to look inside, gather my strength and walk away. It was by far the best decision I have made in my whoel life, maybe in my entire soul life. The metamorphis of my years of solitude are what have shaped me into seeking inner peace and become a person the younger me would be proud of, and the older me will be glad to look back at. Thank you for sharing

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